Redwood Montessori Nursery Corner: Montessori tips for the parents Part I-Respect
“Children are human beings to whom respect is due, superior to us by reason of their innocence and of the greater possibilities of their future.”
― Maria Montessori
If you are a parent who enrolled your child at a Montessori Nursery after an extensive research of locating a perfect program for your precious one, you might want to check out some tips that the teachers use in the classroom to make your effort worthwhile in and out of the nursery. Following is a simple guideline on how to take baby steps in raising your child the Montessori way at home.
To begin with, there is no such thing as a quick-fix or shortcut in raising a child. It takes time and effort but it is totally worth it as your time spent in listening and asking the right questions to your child will shape his/her worldviews and values that will last their lifetime.
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I am pretty sure that we as adults have heard and said a phrase ‘Show your respect’ countless times as we grew up. There’s something about the tone and the context in which the phrase was spoken that left most of us feel
negative about the nature of showing respect. Most of the times, we were demanded to show respect from the get-go and have not experienced how genuine respect looks like or feels like. When it comes to showing respect to your own child, things can be a little more challenging and tricky.
• Our children don’t get bought into lip services but pick up on visuals as well as auditory cues to decide on our true intentions. When talking to your little ones, kneel one of your knees to lower your body as you establish a solid eye contact with your child. Lowering your body to your child eye level speaks louder than yelling from somewhere up there. It is a gesture indicating you are ready to listen which is bottom line respect.
• Try to give your children heads up about the changes in their routine and acknowledge their feelings when they disagree with you. Fight the temptation of saying no’s and dont's when you don’t understand your child’s tantrum.
Acknowledge and agree with their frustration and sadness by naming the feelings for them. Children don’t have the vocabularies to communicate their feelings and needs, therefore, adults need to describe the state in which the child is experiencing certain emotions. For example, when a child is running away from the dinner table during meal time, manage to hold his/her hands and make eye contact. Describe what you see, ‘I see that you don’t want to eat your dinner’ or ‘I see that you want to play when it is dinner time’.
• Make your statements as plain as possible and avoid being judgemental. Remember children are very keen to the tone of voice and your facial expression than the actual meaning of your words. When your children realize that their feelings are heard and their needs are recognized, the foundation for mutual respect is established.
Prolonged baby talk with your child delays proper communication skills to be settled therefore always talk in a normal tone with clearly articulated voice. Wait for your child’s response either verbal or non-verbal after each question
or statement you make because taking turns in communication is an essential social skill to be mastered even before children learn to speak.
Remember the simple cliché sill works dealing with your little ones, ‘Put yourselves in their shoes’ and see the world from 60 inches high. Last but not the least, ‘Show your children respect and treat them as you would like to be treated’.
Jennifer Jiyon Kim
Redwood Montessori Nursery
Redwood Montessori Nursery
P.O. Box 145078
Abu Dhabi, UAE
Khalifa City A
Tel: 02 55 64 611
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