completely desperate in Dubai
I have postponing to write this post since a few months but I need some help so here it goes. My husband and me have been living in Dubai for the last 7 years and from those 7 years we had it fine, he was working his own company with ups and downs and so was I. When my son was born, he was quite sick and I became a stay at home mom without help. I stayed home for a little over a year and once he was healthy enough to go to nursery I started looking for a regular job. Running the company I had was a 20 hour a day job (which I loved before) but I just did not have the energy and time to do that now with a small baby. I found a job and was working till the hours starting to get more and more crazy. I left home at 8am and came home 9pm and barely saw my son. After a few months of this and no understanding of my bosses for my situation I quit. My husband was working on a project with a new start-up he had with 4 other guys, so we decided I would join his team and help them out as their budgets for hiring qualified staff were quite low. I agreed to work for a third of the salary I was getting previously because 1) i wanted to help the guys and 2) I thought it would give me flexibility to spend more time with my son. I fell pregnant soon after that, which was a miracle as I was pronounced infertile not that long ago so we were extremely happy. The project my husband (and his partners) was working on didn't do well and lets just say he lost all our money. ALL OF IT! While I was working there I kept warning him, kept telling him not to trust certain individuals (2 of his partners) and he kept telling me I was negative, regretted me being part of the team as now I saw what was really happening. From a professional perspective I tried to steer marketing and PR in a certain way but the 5 partners changed course every single day and couldn't agree on anything. They preferred to fight over things then to outsource a decision to a professional with experience on the matter. They fought so much a lot of the staff actually left. Budgets kept being tight as they didn't succeed in pulling in a sponsor for their project and as a matter of fact I never received one dirham for all the months I was working there. Back to the point of this post. My husband lost ALL of our money, even the money we were saving for a house, he "invested" it all after his biggest sponsor backed out last minute. He took all our money without me knowing it. This happened in april, by then I was 5 months pregnant. When the project stopped I had been working for them for several months for free PLUS my husband lost all our money. I tried and tried to find another job but when I showed up looking pregnant as I did it was impossible to land a job. My husband had made so many debts in his personal name and had bounced checks so this meant the little money I still had I was paying off his suppliers to keep him out of jail. He actually landed in jail on several accounts and by then I was almost 9 months pregnant. I gave birth 3 months ago and our financial situation has not improved. We didn't even have money to register our baby's birth or process a passport for her till last week. Meanwhile, I have been looking for a job again and I get rejected constantly, under or over qualified I have no clue. What I do know is I would do ANYTHING to try and save our situation and make it all better, even if I have to work an admin job. Going back home is barely an option as husband and me come from 2 different countries and we never build up a nest in any of these countries. We were saving to buy a house in my country and he spent everything so that means there is no way of returning now. My parents are very old and my dad is disabled so I can't just go there and try to build up my life with 2 noisy little kids running around while I look for houses and try to get my stuff in order. My relationship wasn't very good to start with but now its completely down the drain, I can't forgive him for putting his family in such danger, for not listening to me when I warned him and for not being able to get himself back on track now. He is pushing me to work while he knows I am looking very hard but I don't seem to find anything right now. Meanwhile trying to put up a smiling face for the kids, having to lend money from my friends to be able to pay the rent, I am about to fall into millions of little pieces.
<em>edited by KenzaB on 05/12/2013</em>
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