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Psychologist recommendations? Very long winded post… sorry!

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EW NEWBIE
Latest post on 02 April 2014 - 19:52

Hi,

After six years and many doctors later, I have been diagnosed with and I quote "panic attacks???".
The question marks on my doctors referral are a little worrying!

I have been suffering with what I though were dizzy spells although it feels a bit more as if I'm about to fall forwards, face first into the floor. I also have times when I'm out and about that I feel like I'm walking on a trampoline.

I have had an MRI, saw an ENT doctor, Internal Medicine doctor, had everything checked out by a gyn doctor as I even began to believe it may be symptoms of menopause and even a neurologist. I haven't myself been to these doctors of my own accord, only on recommendation, I am not a person who likes the attention or anything like that, I hate being ill and only go to seek help when I feel like I have an infection , regular health check ups etc.

I have good days etc and get on with things as you do but these 'episodes' have always been there. Sometimes you just have to get on with it regardless. I have 3 children and a husband who constantly travels and at times works in other countries. This is nothing new.. my husband has worked away for years, so I am used to being on my own with the kids and it hadn't been an issue up until a few years back. We have been married for 24 years and he has travelled all that time, we have lived in Canada, Abu Dhabi and here in Dubai for ten years now and I have coped pretty damn well, even though I say so myself.

I am now 47 years old, my kids are 10, 12 and 19, the oldest now at university. I do feel at times like a single Mum, I have been raising the kids by myself for 6 - 10 weeks at a time on my own. My husband does his best when he is home, but I am the primary parent. Maybe, the stress has taken it's toll, when I have been engaged in just being Mum. I have help, part time, so no long hours of doing ironing , cleaning floors etc but I have always insisted that I am the person that wakes them, feed them, puts them to bed and be their Mum. My maid cleans, that is all. I have no financial worries and had a good social life and I have the most amazing friends, although not all know of my 'circumstances'.

In all, I know, I have it pretty good compared to some. I cannot think of why I have panic attacks or if that is what I have?

So, I went to the doctors, for another reason but just thought while I was there to ask about the 'dizziness'.Once more , I told yet another doctor about the symptoms and he thinks I am having panic attacks. I really don't know what to think but I guess everything else hasn't worked or produced a solution so may as well give this a go.

I have re- read and re-edited this post so much! I am exhausted and hope that anyone who reads it does not think that I am a raving lunatic, but just hoping that someone can give me a recommendation to someone that has a clue?!!

I would appreciate if the person is Western and no offense to anyone intended. I have tried in vain to talk to doctors who will literately not give me the time of day because my symptoms do not fit in to their type of medicine and tell me to try elsewhere but have no idea where.

I do appreciate anyone who took the time to read this. I am not looking for sympathy, I am so over that! If anyone has any information or advice, that would be helpful.

TIA

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EW EXPLORER
Latest post on 09 September 2014 - 09:08
Hi Micdoc, I struggle with dizziness and nausea and have also done a battery of tests including MRI etc. I recommend that you go and see ENT Dr John McEwan, and then possibly he will refer you to the Advanced Hearing & Balance Centre on Al Wasl Rd, for a complete set of tests for the inner ear to look for nystagmus (involuntary eye movements) and other symptoms - which as Genie mentioned below, would detect such diseases as Labryinthis, Meniere's disease etc. I have been trying to be diagnosed for at least 3 years now... with not much success. The best they can determine is that I must have had a viral infection which sensitized my inner ear making it extremely sensitive to quick movement in front of my eyes, turning my head quickly, perception even, which all makes me feel sick. I did have nystagmus which has now disappeared (along at least with my dizziness), but my nausea remains. I have recently been advised by a specialist in France to have vestibular physiotherapy, to retrain the brain-eyes-feet connection, but unfortunately, I have not yet found this service in Dubai. My sister-in-law experienced a similar thing to you quite a few years back, and she seeked help of a vestibular physiotherapist and she is totally fine now. Took her 6 weeks! The first ENT's I saw here, brushed me aside. Dr McEwan (Graduated in AUS) was fabulous, and genuinely concerned to help. You may have something completely different, or have already gone down this path, but hopefully it is a new lead for you. I wish you all the best :)
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EW GURU
Latest post on 08 September 2014 - 10:11
I find doctors here all to quick too put things down to panic attacks. I have a problem with fainting which I have had since I was 7 years old. Although infrequent now it still occasionally happens, usually when I am ill but there are other causes as well ( well investigated and documented over the years) . I mentioned that I had fainted when a doctor was asking me about symptoms of a very high temperature I had - she told me straight away that it must have been a panic attack before I had the chance to tell her that this was a life long thing with me ( first - and last - time to see that dr). Have you been tested for labyrinthitis - it causes the symptoms that you describe and can last for a very long time. <em>edited by Genie on 08/09/2014</em>
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EW NEWBIE
Latest post on 08 September 2014 - 09:55
Has anyone mentioned Ataxia to you? Sounds like what my Mum had - she now takes medication and symptoms have gone
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EW EXPLORER
Latest post on 08 September 2014 - 09:29
One of the little known things about stress and anxiety is that it can cause symptoms related to balance. It can even cause symptoms similar to blocked ears (like feeling under water). There symptoms are not uncommon but little commented on outside of the sphere of medicine. For you to have sudden sensations of vertigo is not at all uncommon in patients suffering chronic stress. Equally chronic stress is often commonly not "felt" as stress by the patient. It might well be that what you are suffering is not a classical "panic attack" but a closely related, and indeed overlapping, syndrome that is related to long term stress. The "Ear Issues" affect balance and lead to the feeling of spinning and disorientation. They are often but not always accompanied by back or neck pain. Massage of head/neck/scalp can help immensely but is a medium to long term solution. Equally looking into other areas of relaxation and stress relief (exercise being the best). From a Doctor I know well...
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EW NEWBIE
Latest post on 08 September 2014 - 09:23
Not sure if your still looking for a gr8 psychologist I would recommend Dr. George Kaliaden on 0506524285 if this number does not work, just google his name and u will see other contact numbers. Regards Izabel <em>edited by Izzy27 on 08/09/2014</em>
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EW NEWBIE
Latest post on 03 April 2014 - 11:37
Micdoc, You must be very strong to have kept going , don't doubt yourself as too many others including professionals in medicine will. I may be in a position to point you in a right direction. If you wish Call me on zero five zero six four zero three five one three Kind regards Hi, After six years and many doctors later, I have been diagnosed with and I quote "panic attacks???". The question marks on my doctors referral are a little worrying! I have been suffering with what I though were dizzy spells although it feels a bit more as if I'm about to fall forwards, face first into the floor. I also have times when I'm out and about that I feel like I'm walking on a trampoline. I have had an MRI, saw an ENT doctor, Internal Medicine doctor, had everything checked out by a gyn doctor as I even began to believe it may be symptoms of menopause and even a neurologist. I haven't myself been to these doctors of my own accord, only on recommendation, I am not a person who likes the attention or anything like that, I hate being ill and only go to seek help when I feel like I have an infection , regular health check ups etc. I have good days etc and get on with things as you do but these 'episodes' have always been there. Sometimes you just have to get on with it regardless. I have 3 children and a husband who constantly travels and at times works in other countries. This is nothing new.. my husband has worked away for years, so I am used to being on my own with the kids and it hadn't been an issue up until a few years back. We have been married for 24 years and he has travelled all that time, we have lived in Canada, Abu Dhabi and here in Dubai for ten years now and I have coped pretty damn well, even though I say so myself. I am now 47 years old, my kids are 10, 12 and 19, the oldest now at university. I do feel at times like a single Mum, I have been raising the kids by myself for 6 - 10 weeks at a time on my own. My husband does his best when he is home, but I am the primary parent. Maybe, the stress has taken it's toll, when I have been engaged in just being Mum. I have help, part time, so no long hours of doing ironing , cleaning floors etc but I have always insisted that I am the person that wakes them, feed them, puts them to bed and be their Mum. My maid cleans, that is all. I have no financial worries and had a good social life and I have the most amazing friends, although not all know of my 'circumstances'. In all, I know, I have it pretty good compared to some. I cannot think of why I have panic attacks or if that is what I have? So, I went to the doctors, for another reason but just thought while I was there to ask about the 'dizziness'.Once more , I told yet another doctor about the symptoms and he thinks I am having panic attacks. I really don't know what to think but I guess everything else hasn't worked or produced a solution so may as well give this a go. I have re- read and re-edited this post so much! I am exhausted and hope that anyone who reads it does not think that I am a raving lunatic, but just hoping that someone can give me a recommendation to someone that has a clue?!! I would appreciate if the person is Western and no offense to anyone intended. I have tried in vain to talk to doctors who will literately not give me the time of day because my symptoms do not fit in to their type of medicine and tell me to try elsewhere but have no idea where. I do appreciate anyone who took the time to read this. I am not looking for sympathy, I am so over that! If anyone has any information or advice, that would be helpful. TIA <em>edited by McB on 03/04/2014</em>
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EW NEWBIE
Latest post on 03 April 2014 - 11:11
An interesting and helpful book to read which helped me with similar feelings:The Female Brain By Louann Brizendine available online. Best wishes.
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EW EXPLORER
Latest post on 03 April 2014 - 11:03
http://www.anxietycentre.com/anxiety-symptoms/dizziness.shtml Have a look at the link OP. I would also go and see a doctor when you go home for the summer.
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EW EXPERT
Latest post on 03 April 2014 - 10:55
micdoc, do these sound like your symptoms [url=http://www.anxietycentre.com/anxiety-symptoms/dizziness.shtml'>link[/url'> Anxiety is very common in peri-menopause. What about these lot. [url=http://www.gncdubai.com/clinic/clinic-info/'>link[/url'> Sorry I can't give them a recommendation, but someone on here mentioned that she'd used them for counselling. edited by Alismum on 02/04/2014 With due respect i don't think there is a symptom on that site that does not link to anxiety , it's not really a medical site.
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EW EXPERT
Latest post on 03 April 2014 - 10:52
It was only a very short time ago that many medical illnesses that could not be explained were diagnosed as mental illness. Sometimes the easy option is to just refer to a shrink rather than investigate further. Anxiety and panic attacks can cover nearly any symptom you could think of. I really would recommend you book in to see dr Saima , she has diagnosed so many illnesses others have missed .
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EW EXPERT
Latest post on 03 April 2014 - 10:45
Wow reading your post it seems to me you are doing a great job but I wonder if you have been telling yourself that.!!I know how you feel and its often very hard.For myself I have found meditation a great tool to quiet the mind especially if it involves self compassion.You can download the apps and practise daily.I enjoy taking brisk walks and noticing all the wonderful sights around as I walk.I also found it helpful to share how I felt with my husband.Be kind to yourself. What?
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EW NEWBIE
Latest post on 03 April 2014 - 09:49
Wow reading your post it seems to me you are doing a great job but I wonder if you have been telling yourself that.!!I know how you feel and its often very hard.For myself I have found meditation a great tool to quiet the mind especially if it involves self compassion.You can download the apps and practise daily.I enjoy taking brisk walks and noticing all the wonderful sights around as I walk.I also found it helpful to share how I felt with my husband.Be kind to yourself.
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EW NEWBIE
Latest post on 03 April 2014 - 08:02
Sorry, I do not know of any psychologist I would refer, however my mother was having similar symtoms - anxiety and dizziness. She's over 60 and lives in Abu Dhabi. She recently found that she had an enlarged parathyroid gland (tiny glands attached to the thyroid gland). One of hers was enlarged to 16x normal size. She's now had it removed and she's feeling much better. Have your tests included a check of your thyroid?
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EW EXPERT
Latest post on 03 April 2014 - 06:18
Have you considered Vertigo or Ménière’s disease? http://www.nhs.uk/conditions/Menieres-disease/Pages/Introduction.aspx My first thought too was Menieres. Feel better soon OP!
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EW OLDHAND
Latest post on 02 April 2014 - 22:38
micdoc, do these sound like your symptoms [url=http://www.anxietycentre.com/anxiety-symptoms/dizziness.shtml'>link[/url'> Anxiety is very common in peri-menopause. What about these lot. [url=http://www.gncdubai.com/clinic/clinic-info/'>link[/url'> Sorry I can't give them a recommendation, but someone on here mentioned that she'd used them for counselling. <em>edited by Alismum on 02/04/2014</em>
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EW EXPERT
Latest post on 02 April 2014 - 21:34
Have you thought of going home and getting tests done ? I had all mine re done at home.....once again not having a go at doctors here but the results were in some cases vastly different to those I got in DXB. <em>edited by Nomad on 02/04/2014</em>
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EW NEWBIE
Latest post on 02 April 2014 - 21:14
Lolacat, I had heard great things about Dr Smilie, and went to see her about 4 years ago. Every test she did on me came out normal and she even requested an ultra sound. No results and have been since to a another Gyn/obn. Thank you for the advice though!
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EW NEWBIE
Latest post on 02 April 2014 - 21:06
Last time I went to the Gynae, which was about 2 years ago, I was given a clean bill of health, so to speak. Her words were and I quote " you are great, if you wanted to divorce your husband and start a family again, you could". Her words, not mine and I have no desire whatsoever of starting a new family! Will go down that root again, as at 47, I am very aware of peri menopausal. I did try that route also at the time, but nothing. I have been in Dubai for 11 years and the problem is that at times you can find a really great doctor, but like every industry out here, things and people move on. Would be great to find a doctor who will stay in the same place and get to know a patient.
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EW EXPERT
Latest post on 02 April 2014 - 20:50
Do you think you are having panic attacks? Have you considered Vertigo or Ménière’s disease? http://www.nhs.uk/conditions/Menieres-disease/Pages/Introduction.aspx Why not book in to see a really good British GP? These are my top GPS's Carol Smiley is about to start at Healthbay, as well as one of the best GP's I have ever known Dr. Saima Sheikh in Motor city. http://poly.medicentres.ae/doctors.html
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EW EXPERT
Latest post on 02 April 2014 - 20:11
What did the Gynae say about your hormones ? I had many of the symptoms you are describing and also felt at times that despite having so much to be grateful for I was so very miserable. Since being on hormone therapy my quality of life has improved greatly ....before anyone jumps on me,not diagnosing you with hormone issues ......but your are getting to an age when it should be looked into. It is also very important to start giving back to yourself ,nurturing yourself and taking time for yourself . Know that you are not alone and. I am sure you will get many replies with useful info. Hugs across the miles XXX
 
 

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