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EW NEWBIE
Latest post on 26 January 2015 - 11:38

I have found EW very helpful since moving to Dubai and know that there are many lovely and helpful ladies on here, who truly give from their heart and care about helping others . However lately the bickering on every post is becoming unbearable.
To all the EW specialist who take it upon them selves to make it difficult for people who are genuinly seeking information and help. Why can't you all be sensitive once in a while? Many people come here in dire need of help or for someone to just say something positive to them. Some take it upon themselves to turn other people's post into a session with a shrink or life coach, or an argument takes over the original question because two or three know it all have decide to do battle. for God's sake !!!!. I know everyone has an opinion but wisdom is not about deciding to tell someone you know nothing about how to run their lives. sometimes show compassion to those who ask rather than trying to put them down. I have seen responses that are unbelievable and sometimes borders on bullying. EW is place to share and help not a place for bullies. Do you stop and think how that comment telling someone who is having relationship problems about all the bad choices you think they made will do to that person? no I guess not. We have to be more that just invisible ladies who take every opportunity to drag each other down. I know that I may be torn apart by the same people but hey! someone has to say it .

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EW MASTER
Latest post on 26 January 2015 - 18:28
Daza hit the nail on the head - that's why people log on. That's what keeps it lively. To be fair pixxydixxy - you don't know why people log on. I don't think you would find many people here who really do just log in to be a b*tch. There have been times when people have had a go at something I've said - most times I've been able to say to myself "fair point - I didn't think about it like that". Other times, I know I just have a genuine difference of opinion with another poster - that's life. Agree. It helps if one doesn't have a chip on one's shoulder, and is not defensive, you can take away a lot from posters who have the cajones to say what they really think. There are posts here and there where I feel the comments are uncalled for, but I also see a lot of people overreacting and taking things personally. Everyone can't have the forum the way they want. You might not like another poster's tone, but you may also find that very same poster will share information that can be very helpful and useful to you.
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EW NEWBIE
Latest post on 26 January 2015 - 17:59
You are a hypocrite - pure and simple. And you are what Izzy?
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EW NEWBIE
Latest post on 26 January 2015 - 17:56
It's funny, I was just thinking the other day how much nicer it is on here now compared to a few months ago. Whilst I am never a fan of out and out nastiness and picking on people, the debates on here are what keeps things interesting and keeps people logging in and posting. I know I wouldn't bother looking in just to answer people's questions on where to find hot sauce and the best place to shop. Daza, yes I do understand that people debate about things on here and my post is just to draw attention to those who log on just so they can say something nasty or pick on others just for the fun of it. Like Cheeky Monkey, I've been here a number of years and newbies like yourself regularly come on to tell us off for not playing nice.. Well, I find that accusation unfair and simply not true...To be honest, I think a passive aggressive thread like this is no better than the comments you complain of !! As with real life, if there are people or opinions you don't like, simply ignore them..much better for the blood pressure !! lol. There is nothing passive aggressive about this thread and this thread is not meant to accuse but to ask people to just be kind sometimes. I think though that if newbies keep coming here and telling the old hands off then there must be some truth to what they say also just like you said if someone post something you don't agree with let it be if you can't then share your views but it does not need to become a war of word. In all honesty if you start a thread telling people how they should behave on a forum, I am sure you can imagine it will become a war of word. Because what you're doing is telling off a bunch of adult women for being naughty. Such is life; You are going to come across people you like and people you dont like, just as in RL. Maybe take a step back and ask yourself how much value a forum can really add to your life, it's just a forum. You're not dealing with RL friendships here.
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EW EXPERT
Latest post on 26 January 2015 - 17:33
It's funny, I was just thinking the other day how much nicer it is on here now compared to a few months ago. Whilst I am never a fan of out and out nastiness and picking on people, the debates on here are what keeps things interesting and keeps people logging in and posting. I know I wouldn't bother looking in just to answer people's questions on where to find hot sauce and the best place to shop. Daza, yes I do understand that people debate about things on here and my post is just to draw attention to those who log on just so they can say something nasty or pick on others just for the fun of it. Daza hit the nail on the head - that's why people log on. That's what keeps it lively. To be fair pixxydixxy - you don't know why people log on. I don't think you would find many people here who really do just log in to be a b*tch. There have been times when people have had a go at something I've said - most times I've been able to say to myself "fair point - I didn't think about it like that". Other times, I know I just have a genuine difference of opinion with another poster - that's life.. [b'>I don't I know why people log on[/b'>, and I do feel that this is a great forum, taking what you said it does happen and people take things out of context sometimes but on other occasions people do say hurtful things . Yes you do - they log on [i'> just so they can say something nasty or pick on others just for the fun of it [/i'>
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EW NEWBIE
Latest post on 26 January 2015 - 17:31
It's funny, I was just thinking the other day how much nicer it is on here now compared to a few months ago. Whilst I am never a fan of out and out nastiness and picking on people, the debates on here are what keeps things interesting and keeps people logging in and posting. I know I wouldn't bother looking in just to answer people's questions on where to find hot sauce and the best place to shop. Daza, yes I do understand that people debate about things on here and my post is just to draw attention to those who log on just so they can say something nasty or pick on others just for the fun of it. Like Cheeky Monkey, I've been here a number of years and newbies like yourself regularly come on to tell us off for not playing nice.. Well, I find that accusation unfair and simply not true...To be honest, I think a passive aggressive thread like this is no better than the comments you complain of !! As with real life, if there are people or opinions you don't like, simply ignore them..much better for the blood pressure !! lol. There is nothing passive aggressive about this thread and this thread is not meant to accuse but to ask people to just be kind sometimes. I think though that if newbies keep coming here and telling the old hands off then there must be some truth to what they say also just like you said if someone post something you don't agree with let it be if you can't then share your views but it does not need to become a war of word.
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EW NEWBIE
Latest post on 26 January 2015 - 17:15
It's funny, I was just thinking the other day how much nicer it is on here now compared to a few months ago. Whilst I am never a fan of out and out nastiness and picking on people, the debates on here are what keeps things interesting and keeps people logging in and posting. I know I wouldn't bother looking in just to answer people's questions on where to find hot sauce and the best place to shop. Daza, yes I do understand that people debate about things on here and my post is just to draw attention to those who log on just so they can say something nasty or pick on others just for the fun of it. Daza hit the nail on the head - that's why people log on. That's what keeps it lively. To be fair pixxydixxy - you don't know why people log on. I don't think you would find many people here who really do just log in to be a b*tch. There have been times when people have had a go at something I've said - most times I've been able to say to myself "fair point - I didn't think about it like that". Other times, I know I just have a genuine difference of opinion with another poster - that's life.. I don't I know why people log on, and I do feel that this is a great forum, taking what you said it does happen and people take things out of context sometimes but on other occasions people do say hurtful things .
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EW OLDHAND
Latest post on 26 January 2015 - 17:10
There are bullies on EW, just like there are in real life. EW is pretty much a reflection of real life anywhere. There are people from all walks of life, all circumstances, who post for all sorts of reasons. Frustration, loneliness, fun, boredom, information. It is not nice when certain posters are picked on on a regular basis- yet the people who do it are clever enough to veil it in a way that makes it difficult to call them out on. Of course we all know the poster who gets red thumbed for everything and anything, it really is so nonsensical and hopefully the poster in question can see past that to keep posting. People can disagree with someone without having playground bullying tendencies. But then it wouldn't be real life, would it. The best thing to do PixxyDixxy is just ignore them [strike'>and hope they move away soon[/strike'>.
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EW MASTER
Latest post on 26 January 2015 - 16:32
Pixxydixxy, just to add, we all have different levels of what is acceptable plus intent and tone don't always convey well on here. I've posted replies which I haven't meant to be offensive at all and genuinely thought I was being helpful and had someone take offence. I've also gotten on my high horse about postings only for it to transpire that I totally misinterpreted what had been said/meant.
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EW EXPERT
Latest post on 26 January 2015 - 15:20
It's funny, I was just thinking the other day how much nicer it is on here now compared to a few months ago. Whilst I am never a fan of out and out nastiness and picking on people, the debates on here are what keeps things interesting and keeps people logging in and posting. I know I wouldn't bother looking in just to answer people's questions on where to find hot sauce and the best place to shop. Daza, yes I do understand that people debate about things on here and my post is just to draw attention to those who log on just so they can say something nasty or pick on others just for the fun of it. Like Cheeky Monkey, I've been here a number of years and newbies like yourself regularly come on to tell us off for not playing nice.. Well, I find that accusation unfair and simply not true...To be honest, I think a passive aggressive thread like this is no better than the comments you complain of !! As with real life, if there are people or opinions you don't like, simply ignore them..much better for the blood pressure !! lol
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EW NEWBIE
Latest post on 26 January 2015 - 14:52
Not everyone is a nice person. In real life if you cannot deal with someone you avoid them, on a forum you scroll past their posts :) With the anonymity people also do tend to be more outspoken. The controversial topics keep people logging in to read, which in turn increases traffic to the site, keeping advertisers happy, and keeping the forum alive for us.
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EW EXPLORER
Latest post on 26 January 2015 - 14:44
It's funny, I was just thinking the other day how much nicer it is on here now compared to a few months ago. Whilst I am never a fan of out and out nastiness and picking on people, the debates on here are what keeps things interesting and keeps people logging in and posting. I know I wouldn't bother looking in just to answer people's questions on where to find hot sauce and the best place to shop. Daza, yes I do understand that people debate about things on here and my post is just to draw attention to those who log on just so they can say something nasty or pick on others just for the fun of it. Daza hit the nail on the head - that's why people log on. That's what keeps it lively. To be fair pixxydixxy - you don't know why people log on. I don't think you would find many people here who really do just log in to be a b*tch. There have been times when people have had a go at something I've said - most times I've been able to say to myself "fair point - I didn't think about it like that". Other times, I know I just have a genuine difference of opinion with another poster - that's life.
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EW MASTER
Latest post on 26 January 2015 - 14:41
You are a hypocrite - pure and simple.
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EW NEWBIE
Latest post on 26 January 2015 - 14:37
really? so if we disagree with what you write we are a bully? if we think that you have made bad choices we should say nothing except "there, tehre dear"... What nonsense.[/quote This is how I choose to respond to you Izzy .When people give me an attitude, I don't have to give it back to them in their own coin. Perhaps they deserve it, but I remember that their attitude defines them and my reaction defines me. edited by pixxydixxy on 26/01/2015 <em>edited by pixxydixxy on 26/01/2015</em>
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EW NEWBIE
Latest post on 26 January 2015 - 14:31
It's funny, I was just thinking the other day how much nicer it is on here now compared to a few months ago. Whilst I am never a fan of out and out nastiness and picking on people, the debates on here are what keeps things interesting and keeps people logging in and posting. I know I wouldn't bother looking in just to answer people's questions on where to find hot sauce and the best place to shop. Daza, yes I do understand that people debate about things on here and my post is just to draw attention to those who log on just so they can say something nasty or pick on others just for the fun of it.
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EW NEWBIE
Latest post on 26 January 2015 - 14:19
..............."Looks around for EW specialists".................. ....................."Checks day of week, nope not Thursday yet"............ ..........*Nope can't be bothered to add any more than the EW Specialists all ready have*.... bye: EW Specialist... Sounds like something you need to do a fair bit of training for. Would this be achieved with 5 stars?
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EW NEWBIE
Latest post on 26 January 2015 - 14:16
When you choose to share personal information, ask for advice, and then get upset because you're not getting the response you want, it's better to go and speak to your friends and family. EW is a mix of many different backgrounds and opinions and hey, can't please everyone. Some women are in a position they can be in very serious legal trouble, be it marriage, pregnancy (and lack of marriage certificate) hiring maids illegally etc, and need to be told, clearly and upfront, what's going on and what they need to do about it. This is a country with (not always clear) strict rulings, and when women have been here long enough to know what these laws/rules are, they will tell you. So if a woman gets pregnant out of wedlock by a married guy (hypothetically) then a pat on the back is not really the way to go.
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EW MASTER
Latest post on 26 January 2015 - 14:16
It's funny, I was just thinking the other day how much nicer it is on here now compared to a few months ago. Whilst I am never a fan of out and out nastiness and picking on people, the debates on here are what keeps things interesting and keeps people logging in and posting. I know I wouldn't bother looking in just to answer people's questions on where to find hot sauce and the best place to shop.
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EW GURU
Latest post on 26 January 2015 - 14:03
I originally joined in 2003 (under a different user name) and trust me, if you think it's mean now, you wouldn't have stood a chance back then! At one point a few years ago members were going through new names after bannings like water... :lol: (not me I hasten to add). I am a big believer that any internet forum is not for the faint hearted or easily offended. On the whole, I would say EW ladies are a helpful, good bunch but they don't suffer fools....
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EW NEWBIE
Latest post on 26 January 2015 - 13:25
All this is nothing new I have lived here for 6 years, and the bickering on here is nothing new
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EW MASTER
Latest post on 26 January 2015 - 12:30
On the contrary, a lot of women have come to this forum seeking help for all sorts of issues and EW users have helped and supported them. I think that there is much more positiveness than negativity on this forum....
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EW MASTER
Latest post on 26 January 2015 - 12:22
that's actually quite nice origins..... some of our sayings are quite horrific when you look at them... It's no skin off my nose is one that springs to mind ;)
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EW EXPLORER
Latest post on 26 January 2015 - 12:22
While in general I very much agree with giving honest and forthright advice...I do feel there are one or two on here who are rude for the sake of being rude and delight in the anonymity of the internet. I'm not always sure that saying "it's the internet" makes it right personally. Then again since it is indeed "the internet" and one knows that people do delight in being rude then perhaps as an earlier poster said this isn't the place. I think perhaps that's a shame. Then again if one can ignore those who shout loudest there are people on here who really do offer their best I think without the gleeful little daggers and they are worth seeking out. I also think, thankfully, they are in the majority.
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EW MASTER
Latest post on 26 January 2015 - 12:21
Thank you dear lolakitty - will sleep peacefully in my bed tonight :)
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EW EXPERT
Latest post on 26 January 2015 - 12:19
I agree that it depends on what the original post is about. If you've chosen to air your dirty laundry in public, then you have to be open to the honest opinions that people might have about it. Complete and useless trivia moment; To talk to other people or in front of other people about personal things that should be kept private. You can also say “wash your dirty linen in public” and in America they use “air your dirty laundry/linen in public”. This expression was translated and amended from a French proverb: “Il faut laver son linge sale en famille” ("we should wash our dirty linen in private"). Napoleon quoted this in 1815 when he returned from the island of Elba after escaping. It was first used in English in 1867 by Anthony Trollope in The Last Chronicle of Barset.
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EW EXPERT
Latest post on 26 January 2015 - 12:14
..............."Looks around for EW specialists".................. ....................."Checks day of week, nope not Thursday yet"............ ..........*Nope can't be bothered to add any more than the EW Specialists all ready have*.... bye:
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EW EXPERT
Latest post on 26 January 2015 - 12:13
I agree that it depends on what the original post is about. If you've chosen to air your dirty laundry in public, then you have to be open to the honest opinions that people might have about it.
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EW EXPERT
Latest post on 26 January 2015 - 12:05
It depends on the nature of the post. If you're asking for directions, then you probably won't get much in the way of 'debate'. However, if you post about a relationship, or are asking for advice, then - [b'>you know the nature of this forum[/b'>, if you don't want to hear what people have to say - don't post! If you genuinely want the advice of women who have a vast array of experience then this is the place to come. If you want a pat on the back or a counselling session - you can call a friend, or pay for the professional advice by the hour. Clearly the OP doesn't and that's the problem !! Sorry if you feel some posters are too blunt, unfortunately that's the way of forums, especially this one..I don't believe anyone is rude or unkind here just honest and sometimes maybe that's not what an OP wants to hear..
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EW EXPLORER
Latest post on 26 January 2015 - 12:01
It depends on the nature of the post. If you're asking for directions, then you probably won't get much in the way of 'debate'. However, if you post about a relationship, or are asking for advice, then - you know the nature of this forum, if you don't want to hear what people have to say - don't post! If you genuinely want the advice of women who have a vast array of experience then this is the place to come. If you want a pat on the back or a counselling session - you can call a friend, or pay for the professional advice by the hour.
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EW MASTER
Latest post on 26 January 2015 - 11:46
really? so if we disagree with what you write we are a bully? if we think that you have made bad choices we should say nothing except "there, tehre dear"... What nonsense.
 
 

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