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4 year old Mental Hangup

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EW NEWBIE
Latest post on 23 May 2015 - 19:40

My DD seems to have developed this mental hang up. She is 4.5, and has sensitive nature. She ate too many heavy things a week back or so and vomited. Since then she constantly complains she is feeling like vomiting. Her food intake has decreased. I first thought she was using this excuse to get away from eating things she does not like but now she does this even with the food she likes. Especially come evening (when that's episode happened) she starts getting tears in her eyes and becomes really tense that she will vomit. We have tried to reason with her, distract her while eating, but nothing works. Anyone has any advice, I am really becoming worried now.

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EW NEWBIE
Latest post on 27 May 2015 - 07:28
Thanks Fazzled. By sensitive nature I meant she gets emotionally distressed and scared easily. That is the reason I felt it was psychological issue. She just vomitted once and was not sick before that, no phlegm issues either. But yesterday evening she was better. Whatever it was is better now. I think my staying calm rubbed on to her or maybe if it was a bug it was cured, alhumdullilah... :) My daughter, now 10, but has always been sensitive like your daughter since very small. Still now she can be very worried and stressed easily. As Daza said, you have to be calm and relaxed, so that she can feel that nothing is wrong with her and she will relax too. It's harder when they get bigger... When everybody were talking about Ebola, my daughter came home from school one day and went straight to the shower, scrubbed herself almost skinless, dressed in layers and was really worried that she could have gotten Ebola, that she actually got a fever and was sick all night. It takes time when the are bigger to convince and reassure them, specially when they get info from outside (school and friends) Good luck :) OMG Samoura 1 ... Just yesterday a similar episode happened with my DD... I used to reinforce not wasting water and she used to listen... But now her teacher had told them that if we waste water 'everyone will die' ?.. I am sure she was making a point... But my DD being my DD has taken it to heart... I opened the tap yesterday to fill up a tub of water for washing and she completely freaked out... At first I couldn't help but laugh... But she was so distressed, first she herself went in and close the tap and when I opened it again she just started crying her heart out... Between all the ruckus I tried to explain that mama is not wasting water she is using it... But she kept saying that everyone will die... I really had to calm her down and explain several times... But she still didn't seem convinced Man I convinced myself yesterday that she will become better as she'll grow up... But from what you say that might not happen... She is so careful in everything... I am sad she can't enjoy childhood like we did... I was afraid of nothing as a child, even ghosts were exciting...! I just hope as an adult she gains confidence...
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EW NEWBIE
Latest post on 27 May 2015 - 00:37
Thanks Fazzled. By sensitive nature I meant she gets emotionally distressed and scared easily. That is the reason I felt it was psychological issue. She just vomitted once and was not sick before that, no phlegm issues either. But yesterday evening she was better. Whatever it was is better now. I think my staying calm rubbed on to her or maybe if it was a bug it was cured, alhumdullilah... :) My daughter, now 10, but has always been sensitive like your daughter since very small. Still now she can be very worried and stressed easily. As Daza said, you have to be calm and relaxed, so that she can feel that nothing is wrong with her and she will relax too. It's harder when they get bigger... When everybody were talking about Ebola, my daughter came home from school one day and went straight to the shower, scrubbed herself almost skinless, dressed in layers and was really worried that she could have gotten Ebola, that she actually got a fever and was sick all night. It takes time when the are bigger to convince and reassure them, specially when they get info from outside (school and friends) Good luck :)
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EW NEWBIE
Latest post on 25 May 2015 - 08:30
Thanks Fazzled. By sensitive nature I meant she gets emotionally distressed and scared easily. That is the reason I felt it was psychological issue. She just vomitted once and was not sick before that, no phlegm issues either. But yesterday evening she was better. Whatever it was is better now. I think my staying calm rubbed on to her or maybe if it was a bug it was cured, alhumdullilah... :)
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EW NEWBIE
Latest post on 24 May 2015 - 09:41
If it's only been going on for a week or so perhaps she has a stomach bug and genuinely feels unwell. Sometimes bugs do carry on for a while. If my son has a cold or post-nasal drip the phlegm can go down to his stomach and make him vomit and then he often complains of a sensitive stomach on a few successive nights at bedtime. Personally I'd go to the doctor just to check it out and see whether it's an anxiety issue or a physical one. I'm not sure what you mean when you mention her sensitive nature, but might that include food allergies or sensory issues? Children with sensory issues sometimes struggle with particular food textures and the feel of things in their mouth. Hope she's soon back to normal.
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EW NEWBIE
Latest post on 24 May 2015 - 07:11
I've had this happen with all of my children to some degree after a bout of vomiting. She'll be picking up on your worry so even though it's hard try to stop stressing about it. I would present food to her as normal making sure to sit with her and eat with her also (if you aren't already). Don't press her to eat and don't make a big deal out of it, just mention how much you are enjoying it and stay relaxed. If she doesn't eat don't make a fuss, just try again the same way next mealtime. If she's lost a lot of weight or seems listless or unwell in any other way I'd take her to the doctor for a check up. Hope she is back to normal soon :) Thanks Daza ... It was a relief to read your reply... I will do as you suggested... I was kinda getting frustrated by her attitude and had started convincing her more vehemently ... Now will be as normal as possible She is not weak or listless cause although food intake has decreased its not like she is not eating... And anyway it's been just a week... But definitely I will take her to the doc in case I see signs of malnutrition ...
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EW EXPLORER
Latest post on 23 May 2015 - 19:54
Perhaps if it doesn't stop soon you could see a paediatrician as you may do best with a qualified specialist's advice on what may be a health matter.
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EW MASTER
Latest post on 23 May 2015 - 19:52
I've had this happen with all of my children to some degree after a bout of vomiting. She'll be picking up on your worry so even though it's hard try to stop stressing about it. I would present food to her as normal making sure to sit with her and eat with her also (if you aren't already). Don't press her to eat and don't make a big deal out of it, just mention how much you are enjoying it and stay relaxed. If she doesn't eat don't make a fuss, just try again the same way next mealtime. If she's lost a lot of weight or seems listless or unwell in any other way I'd take her to the doctor for a check up. Hope she is back to normal soon :)
 
 

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