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Help me make life more lively and interesting

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EW NEWBIE
Latest post on 24 August 2015 - 12:44

Hi ladies

I'm quite bored of my life. Although I am very thankful of all that I have. 2 kids, one going to school, one at home with me, a husband who loves me. But I am bored of my life.
The biggest reason for this is that I live with my mother in law and everything in the house us owned by her. Her presence and the fact that I spend my time making thay house a better home depresses me as it is.
Then on the top of that due to her rules and priorities, my week starts ends with cleaning toilets. I don't really go anywhere other than one shopping centre. But I don't buy anything as I'm have financial problems after leaving my job to look after my baby.
My husband does not take us any where, no outing no vacation, no dine out because my mother in law and sister in law want to go with us everywhere and want my husband to pay for them too. So he has decided to avoid the whole situation by not going anywhere. He says he can't afford that much. My sister in law also h's the habit of making herself the centre of everything, so for that reason we also get put off.
If I go out to meet freinds too often, my mother in law starts showing me attitude.
Day in day out, nothing to look forward in my life, other than taking my daughter to swimming and tuition.
Please help me sort my brain. All of this is feeling too over whelming to me. My family who does nt live in this country are tired of listening to my depression. What do I do? How do I get a grip?

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EW NEWBIE
Latest post on 24 August 2015 - 19:08
Seems true. I am going to apply for the job mentioned above and will look at other opportunities. If anyone of you out there know of any banking jobs, which is my experience,please let me know. Full or part time. The idea are clicked to my heart and I will try my best for it. My experience mainly includes customer service and Personal Banking advising .
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EW GURU
Latest post on 24 August 2015 - 15:02
When I didn't have a satisfying home life with small children, I got a job, 50 % of my salary went to child care. I don't regret it, otherwise I wouldn't have any work experience here in the UAE, which I think is important if you want to get a foot in the job market one day. And just to be able to have a chat and a coffee with colleagues made a difference for my miserable everyday life.
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EW NEWBIE
Latest post on 24 August 2015 - 14:52
Thnks ladies I would look at these options.
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EW OLDHAND
Latest post on 24 August 2015 - 14:47
What about this one and have your little one in the same nursery so you can see him/her all day :) http://www.expatwoman.com/dubai/jobsdetail.aspx?pid=1411&cid=jobs&jbid=7217
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EW GURU
Latest post on 24 August 2015 - 14:42
Would your job pay enough to pay a live out maid? I would get that job, even if only covered for the maid and occasional coffees or lunches, at least you would feel like a human away from the crazy house.
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EW OLDHAND
Latest post on 24 August 2015 - 14:19
I'd be delighted if your MIL is ignoring you as she sounds horrific! It sounds like going back to work is away to get away from MIL and encourage DH to move out as you'll have more funds. Maybe you could get a part time job to appease everyone including your LO who will probably enjoy some socialising at nursery. There are some very good cheaper ones as well. Have you had a look at the EW jobs page?
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EW NEWBIE
Latest post on 24 August 2015 - 14:06
Yes u are right. I should go out and about. And when I do, my mother in law shows her disapproval by ignoring me when I am at home. My baby is nearly one yr old. I recently left my job as it demanded the hrs that would put both my kids on my MIL. AnD also I feel I don't have any brain left to deal with any pressures. I am a Masters in marketing and was working for a very good organization at entry level.
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EW GURU
Latest post on 24 August 2015 - 13:59
You need to do more activities/outings with your children. It is important you don't sit at home and lower your mood. There are plenty of things to do without spending a lot of cash. When the weather gets better, it's good to get in the habit of regularly going out, even for a couple hours everyday. You could have a picnic in the park (you could even go with your husband, it's unlikely your mother in law would be interested but if she does join you, at least you are out of the house and the children can run and play), walks along the beach, you could even take along some picnic chairs and have the children play in the sand, small parks are also nice for an hour. In the summer you could go to the malls that have attractions, for example festival city often has displays that interest children, and other malls sometimes have little shows. It's good to get out and walk, even if you are not buying anything. Also I'm sure there are some reasonably priced soft play areas that you could also visit every so often. Also arrange play dates with other parents.
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EW OLDHAND
Latest post on 24 August 2015 - 13:47
personally although your MIL and SIL sound difficult and toxic, I think your biggest problem is that your DH as you say keeps delaying moving out and you are not even sure this will happen next time. It must feel like you are trapped. Would your MIL look after your little one for a few hours a day? How old is your baby? What sort of work could you do?
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EW NEWBIE
Latest post on 24 August 2015 - 13:44
Hi thnks My DH also wants a seperate place but he has delayed it and asked me to wait till mid next yr. Until he looks for more options like relocating. I can't go back to work, as no one will look after my baby. And day cares are just so expensive. I have been given future dates in the past as well to solve the problems but back then I had patient. Now that I have completely ran out of patient, still I have been given another future date. Which I am nt sure will actually come or extend. I have tried to confront my mother in law for alot of problems in the past but it seems she acknowledges them during the discussion but never act upon the solution.
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EW OLDHAND
Latest post on 24 August 2015 - 12:46
Hi Shzee There is very little you can do without your DH agreeing to find a place for just the four of you. What is the first step to making this happen? Do you think he actually wants to, is it guilt/pressure that is stopping him doing this, or does he actually like being home with all of you? PS, If I were you, in the short term - why not get a job? It will a) contribute to family income so you are able to get your own place sooner and b) give you new friends/confidence etc.
 
 

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