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Hospital - awful experience, gynae emergency

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Latest post on 28 January 2021 - 21:29
Dear ladies, I am currently two-month pregnant but, unfortunately, my pregnancy has stopped. My gynecologist already "prepared" me to the worst as she explained me, two weeks ago, that there would...
Hi I am sorry for your bad experienced can you please suggest me a good GYN doctor in Abu dhabi please I am trying to conceive Thanks in advance
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Latest post on 08 March 2016 - 15:19
Sounds grim, I really feel for women who have such poor experiences at such a difficult time. Rudeness and lack of compassion from medical professionals are never acceptable. The others are right, it does not mean you can't go on to successful pregnancies and healthy babies. Lots of women miscarry (possibly about a third of all pregnancies) some aren't even recorded as pregnancies. I do wonder if we do women a disservice with such accurate early confirmation of pregnancy and such high expectations that all pregnancies result in beautiful bundles. There are things some women find helpful in dealing with pregnancy loss at all stages. My guess is that specialist bereavement support services aren't available in Dubai as care is not midwife led but you may find buying some small memento of the baby helps, a little bracelet, a tiny book to write your hopes and sadness in, a tiny baby grow to hold until the tears are done and then put away when you are ready. Later pregnancy loss mothers find a careful photograph helps. Giving the lost baby a name can also help make them feel real rather than simply something to forget. Few mothers actually want to forget and advice to do so is rarely helpful. You need to get to a stage where you can accept, remember the joys that pregnancy brought - and even the shortest wanted pregnancy usually brings some joy - and recognise that there is a positive future. This bit often isn't easy if it is a later loss or if there is additional trauma such as unkind medical staff, unaccepting relatives or partners or medical complications. It will get better and although very cliched, time does usually heal.
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Latest post on 08 March 2016 - 10:44
My heart goes out to you. I know it's not much consilation but I had miscarriages, abortion and ectopic pregnancies, and I am sure there are many ladies, such as yourself, been through similar and worse. But I just want you to know that I nearly gave up and it is soul destroying. But I am living proof that you will get through this, you'll be a stronger person and a wonderful mother. This woman sounds dreadful. Believe me she is in the minority. They can teach students all the medical knowledge there is, but sadly being a decent human being isn't one of them. Lots of love. xxx :heart:
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Latest post on 07 March 2016 - 16:44
Just wanted to let you know that I'm thinking of you. I hope that the procedure went 'well' and that you are ok. Xxx
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Latest post on 26 January 2016 - 09:37
Dear Nestie, Thank you for your words. I thought about complaining and finally forgot it, I don't have the energy for it currently :) This lady really hurt me. My D and C was rescheduled thursday 28th. I should have been 9 week pregnant that day. I cannot stop to think about it, I cannot turn the page, as I still have everything in my belly. I really feel stupid to write this! It is already a lot to read the both of you. Really appreciate that.
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Latest post on 25 January 2016 - 19:40
So sorry to hear about your experience. Pregnancy loss is a very difficult thing to go through and the way the 'professional' treated you at the hospital is outrageous. I would be tempted to make a formal complaint. Stay strong. Xxx
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Latest post on 23 January 2016 - 18:59
Thank you so much for taking the time to answer me. I read to the tread, thanks again. As you wrote, this is so common... My best wishes to you. Take care
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Latest post on 23 January 2016 - 16:30
It is always sad to hear these stories, and they are so common. May I respectfully suggest that you look at the Dubai forum - there is a thread on about the third page headed "miscarriage D & C procedure". You will see advice from a lady called Tessa21. From her various postings I would assume that Tessa21 is a professional UK lady with many years of experience in gynae/obs, including teaching at university level. From my own unfortunate experience I can confirm that her advice is absolutely spot on. Keep calm and my very best wishes to you - you will get through this and go on to have healthy babies.
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Latest post on 22 January 2016 - 16:18
Dear ladies, I am currently two-month pregnant but, unfortunately, my pregnancy has stopped. My gynecologist already "prepared" me to the worst as she explained me, two weeks ago, that there would probably be a problem. One week ago, she confirmed me the pregnancy stopped around one week ago. So second miscarriage to come for me. The problem is that nothing happens, I am not bleeding, no pain... and I still have symptoms as my pregnancy hormone is still high (42000 ui/L) and it is very hard to accept. I met another gynecologist in a private hospital and scheduled an abortion operation for next week. After that, I went to a diffrrent hospital, to get the abortive medicine, as they can stop this nightmare, in that case I could avoid the operation. I had an ultrasound, that showed a too small embryo for a supposed to be 8 week pregnancy. No hearbeating. After 4 hours, finally, a female gynecologist came to me and was so rude. I showed her the other ultrasounds, we could easily understand that nothing happened these last 2 weeks. The ultrasounds were not acceptable for her as I made them in another place. She never wanted to trust me when I tried to explain her my pregnancy could not be younger. She refused to hear that reading the ultrasounds reports of the last two weeks and the new one I had in here, the pregnancy was absolutely over. She asked me if I wanted to teach her her job, to teach her how to read a report (me I was crying and stayed polite of course) She left and went back with two security guys (?!). In my opinion, she did not want to take any responsibility, she finally said " Come back in one week, we will see". So I will be operated next week. If you have any gynae problem in such a difficult situation, this is not what you need.