Handling Nepali Maids in Dubai

With current rules, anyone can change their job and there is no ban. Only if employer has a serious complaint which is with evidence etc, employer can submit a request in labor department before cancelling. You have got tricky situation. No option is safe in itself. I would let her stay as normal. You can't guard 24x7, if a maid wishes to cheat. Good luck.

Six months left is really annoying, with the whole process being so expensive it's a lot of money to lose. Hopefully with one last effort to resolve it you'll get somewhere, good luck.

I understand your frustration, next time spend more time speaking to the person that will actually work with you, it's always good to check references, but also make sure with the person that you hire that you agree with each other. You live and learn and it's always easy to look back what you could have done better, especially when you hire someone when you are stressed, maybe try to find a middle way with this maid until the end of the contract if possible.

she said she would like to look for another job , however I do doubt that she has already found one ...what would otherwise motivate her so much ? also , is it normal practise to take the nannies along with you when on a long holiday ? we were planning to take her along to our home country for the summers .... that was one of the things she had resisted to ... infact she resists coming out with us anytime even if we need the help with the kids and we accommodated that as well .... do they basically get that choice ? As you are asking, -Do they get that choice? I think you weren't clear from the beginning what you expected from this maid. I think you should let this one go, find a new one and be very clear exactly what you expect from them and from there agree salary etc. Agree, and put it all in writing so there can be no confusion. If my boss only told me after I accepted a job that international travel would be expected I'd quit too. Sukhi, you haven't said how long she has left on her contract, is it very long? Can you find a compromise?

she said she would like to look for another job , however I do doubt that she has already found one ...what would otherwise motivate her so much ? also , is it normal practise to take the nannies along with you when on a long holiday ? we were planning to take her along to our home country for the summers .... that was one of the things she had resisted to ... infact she resists coming out with us anytime even if we need the help with the kids and we accommodated that as well .... do they basically get that choice ? As you are asking, -Do they get that choice? I think you weren't clear from the beginning what you expected from this maid. I think you should let this one go, find a new one and be very clear exactly what you expect from them and from there agree salary etc.

Maybe she's pregnant

I don't think there is any 'normal' practice with regards to taking maids or nannies out or away with you, each family just does what suits them. It doesn't sound like she is a very good fit for your family. You would be much better off with someone who is happy to go out and travel with you if that is what you require. If she is breaking her contract early I wouldn't pay any end of service bonus and cut my losses.

How long does she have left on her contract? Has she told you if she is going to find another maid job here or a different job here or if she is going home?

To be fair, they are no different to us, they can be unhappy at work, just as us. I worked as an aupair when I was young and hated living with the family I worked for and didn't stay for the full year that I was meant to be there. It wasn't personally that I didn't like the family, but I didn't feel like I properly had my own space. There are so many reasons why it might not work.

in my experience, I think communication is key... we have had a nepali maid for the past 5 years now and she is very well settled with the family... we have increased her salary on an incremental basis every year and have set certain ground rules that we have mutually agreed on and that she has respected... every year when it's time for contract negotiation we tell her what we're offering her for the year and stipulate any additional terms & conditions or modifications to her job description similar to how we are discussed these things at our places of work... we then give her two to three weeks to decide on whether she wants to renew her contract giving her the space and time to think over her options. yes, we do have issues... whether it be her excessive use of the mobile phone or her forgetting to stick to some not-so-routine chores but every issue is addressed and resolved as and when it happens (no point leaving it for later on). We talk to her face to face across the table just like normal mature adults and try to get her to understand the situation... 9 out of 10 times the matter gets resolved and she appreciates that it was discussed and agreed mutually... i think the next time you recruit a maid find key issues that you feel might crop up, such as, - [b'>her missing her family/children[/b'> ... we have given her access to our home wifi so that she can set aside time to skype with them on a regular basis... she also gets given any of my new or barely worn outfits that I don't need to send back home to her grown up kids - [b'>her need for salary advances[/b'> ... we have agreed that she can have upto three salary advances during the course of one year and these will be cut back from future salaries at a pre-agreed installment rate so that she still has money to live on during the year - [b'>her holiday dates[/b'> ... we agree on which time of the year she wants to go on leave at the start of her contract year so that both of us can plan in advance for that time away - [b'>her health issues[/b'> ... we have also taken out medical insurance for her (which will be mandatory from June onwards anyway) and she gets taken to a clinic the minute she falls ills... and we have sat down and explained to her exactly why she needs to take care of her health and how it indirectly affects us and the children because she is exposing all of us to those germs etc when cooking, touching, etc. Now she wears a mask or takes appropriate care when ill to ensure that the spread of the virus is limited. - [b'>her days off[/b'> ... we are very fixed with her days off... we insist she takes every Friday off... we have also offered her single days off on public holidays (when there is a group of more than one day off... such as for Eid or when it coincides with the weekend)... but our condition right from the very start has always been that she can have NO over nighters on any condition... and that is something we remind her off at the contract negotiation stage every year... she can leave home first thing in the morning but needs to be back home by 10:45pm at night and absolutely no overnighters or overnight guests any relationship even if it is between the maid/employer needs to be built on a strong communication link... so talk to her... find out why she wants to change jobs... understand the real reasons and then perhaps it will all make sense... no point forcing her to stay till the end of the contract... coz if she's not happy then u'll always be worried at what she might be upto when ur not around... all the best

Either she finishes her contract with you or you send her home with a one-year ban. She can't just quit like that.... Hey Anon , thanks for your reply ... but is a ban possible ? I heard it cud be lifted off easily these days as well . as much as I don't want to be harsh but her behaviour lately has hit my nerve ! Yes, a ban is possible. If it's lifted, there is not much that you can do about that.

You cannot force her to complete her contract as you have family, and you do not want her to hurt your kids or herself. You can try to negotiate and find a middle ground if you really think it is worth keeping her. I am not sure how you recruited her but it is always less risky to hire someone fresh from their home country with no experience through an agency. They tend to be more professional in terms of honouring their contract. I understand your troubles as I had troubles keeping a maid for years.. Wish you all the best, and good luck!

Either she finishes her contract with you or you send her home with a one-year ban. She can't just quit like that....