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Daughter Too Thin

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EW NEWBIE
Latest post on 18 January 2017 - 10:58

Ladies I hope someone can guide me.... I have a teenage daughter how is 15 years old and weighs only 36kgs... she has lost about 8 kgs over 6 months and her periods have stopped for 4 months... i am at my wits end... can someone please guide me where to go .... Spoken with her and its a difficult topic....
Any advice would be greatly appreciated.

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EW MASTER
Latest post on 24 January 2017 - 12:54
Hello, there is a protein shake from Switzerland just recently introduced in Dubai, maybe she would want to try it, it comes with choco and vanilla flavors. She can also take the fruit and veggie supplement to add to her diet Hardly appropriate on a post like this! She is spamming all over here
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EW GURU
Latest post on 24 January 2017 - 12:26
Hello, there is a protein shake from Switzerland just recently introduced in Dubai, maybe she would want to try it, it comes with choco and vanilla flavors. She can also take the fruit and veggie supplement to add to her diet Hardly appropriate on a post like this!
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EW NEWBIE
Latest post on 19 January 2017 - 13:04
Lots of good advice from the ladies on here about seeing a doc and psychologist as soon as possible. Also, if you haven't already done so, please go and talk to her school and see whether there are any issues there which she hasn't told you about, such as bullying, or whether they have noticed any unusual behaviours relating to food and toilet visits. I hope you get the help your daughter needs soon.
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EW EXPLORER
Latest post on 19 January 2017 - 11:05
Ok, this is a topic you need to take seriously. To say 'she will be ok' is not the right approach. If she has developed an eating disorder you need to get help ASAP or it could be something she will struggle with her whole life. You need to get her to a doctor and then get a referral for specialized care if needed. If her periods have stopped her body is shutting down and there could be life long effects to her reproductive system if not fixed. You need to be very proactive, she will fight you and hate you for it but get her help before its too late!!! Please! I second this quote. It is a very important first step that you are seeking help for her so continue on this path! Take her to a Child/Adolescent Psychologist ASAP. Could be an eating disorder (anorexia nervosa, bulimia), could be other psychosomatic disorders. If it is none at least you'll know it has no psychological origination. GP should be involved too who is very open to psychosocial interventions should the need be, blood tests will be required to eliminate other potential causes. *I work in mental health care, to validate my two cents. All the best for her and your family. She will need all the support she can get.
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EW NEWBIE
Latest post on 19 January 2017 - 08:37
Dear mjvdp9,I said in my first reply that she should contact a good dr. N later I said that contacting a good psychologist is also important...I know very well that it's a tense situation for a mom,as I'm a mom to a 21 year old girl n a 13 year old boy.....I just dint say "all vil b ok", that was just to reassure a worried mom....take care..... Please don't worry pinky13. I think many of us were treading carefully as its heartbreaking. xxx
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EW NEWBIE
Latest post on 19 January 2017 - 08:33
Hi forever21, I didn't want to post this but after much reflection I now feel I have to. Someone very close to me has suffered with this. The person had the same symptoms, which began at the same age. Although the eating at meal times seemed to be good it then emerged that lunch for school was being thrown away discreetly. Thrown into sanitary box in toilets. Observed by one of their friends. Heartbreaking. They attended GP and a specialist clinic. It has been over 7 years and although happy and 'healthy', for want of a better word, still there are issues, image and only eating certain foods. But grateful they can express their feelings. This is one illness that is like a heavy grey cloud pushing down over a family and it doesn't ever seem to go away. You will blame yourself and spend years, months and days questioning how did this happen? Where did I go wrong? Please don't blame yourself though. You will do that. The main thing is that you are strong enough to get your princess help and also advice for yourself and others in your family as it will affect them too. Very worrying and upsetting for any parent. My heart goes out to you and your daughter. If you ever want a friendly chat let me know. xx Wishing so much strength and love. Yes go to your GP now and get an urgent referral. http://www.camaliclinic.com/who-we-see/ http://www.americancenteruae.com/eating-disorders/ :heart:
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EW NEWBIE
Latest post on 19 January 2017 - 08:24
Dear mjvdp9,I said in my first reply that she should contact a good dr. N later I said that contacting a good psychologist is also important...I know very well that it's a tense situation for a mom,as I'm a mom to a 21 year old girl n a 13 year old boy.....I just dint say "all vil b ok", that was just to reassure a worried mom....take care.....
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EW NEWBIE
Latest post on 18 January 2017 - 22:50
Ok, this is a topic you need to take seriously. To say 'she will be ok' is not the right approach. If she has developed an eating disorder you need to get help ASAP or it could be something she will struggle with her whole life. You need to get her to a doctor and then get a referral for specialized care if needed. If her periods have stopped her body is shutting down and there could be life long effects to her reproductive system if not fixed. You need to be very proactive, she will fight you and hate you for it but get her help before its too late!!! Please!
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EW NEWBIE
Latest post on 18 January 2017 - 17:31
Hey forever21, everyone's right,trying to lose weight due to peer pressure could b the reason. I feel that both reasons, psychological n otherwise,should b checked to arrive at the right conclusion...I too have a young daughter n completely understand ur concern.....I'm sure everything vil b ok....
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EW EXPERT
Latest post on 18 January 2017 - 16:10
Difficult age, when peer pressure and stress over many things can really get to teenagers, especially girls. How is she eating? What is she eating? You could do a two pronged approach and rule out anything medical, as well as going to see a psychologist. When you say it's a difficult topic, does she avoid the subject completely? I don't want to jump to the conclusion of an eating disorder, but it's not uncommon and people with these disorders are VERY good at hiding it.
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EW EXPLORER
Latest post on 18 January 2017 - 14:22
My DS lost a lot of weight when he joined a new school. After 2 years he had lost 13kg. I nagged him about eating and the fact that he looked ill, but he just complained that I was constantly nagging ! Eventually I asked the school nurse to speak to him. She sent him for a blood test. The results were inconclusive and were due to be repeated . I'm happy to say that he has now put on around 8kg, although he could do with putting on at least another 5kg. Do speak to the school nurse. I think advice coming from an outsider helps. Especially if she doesn't mention that you have spoken to her. For my DS I got him more involved with buying and cooking his own food. It's such a worrying time. My DS was 15 too....
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EW GURU
Latest post on 18 January 2017 - 13:26
I think you would have to speak to child psychologist, at that age loosing weight mostly have nothing to do with not knowing about nutrition, most likely something is troubling her or she wants to be thin. I wish you luck, as it must be hard to see as a parent.
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EW NEWBIE
Latest post on 18 January 2017 - 11:29
Hi forever21, I think u should first meet a good gynecologist or maybe a GP to rule out any issue. N then u could meet a good dietician to suggest a nice healthy diet plan for ur daughter so that she can gain some healthy weight....don't worry she'll b fine...take care....
 
 

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