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khatooon
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16/12/2010 11:08:57
Metness, we are almost the same age and I feel like that sometimes too. It takes me a while to figure out why this happens to me, but most of the time I feel this way when I loose control. Something happens in my life that I have no control over it and that makes me really mad. I try to find excuses to take it out on others. And trust me it just adds to my problems. Fighting with the shop keepers, colleagues, and friends and.....
At times like that I try to change something small in my life ... I get a new hair cut, go to a new place or change my hair color. It might sound silly, but sometimes all we need is to break the routine....
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Metness
Posts 281
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15/12/2010 22:56:01
I just logged in now and saw all the really nice suggestions from all you ladies - Thank you! Thank you! Thank you! It is really a nice feeling to know that there are so many nice people out there like you ladies willing to help! I have been feeling much better today (bought Camomile tea on way to work and had in the morning & afternoon). Booked myself an appointment to see my GP at DLC as well (to ask about thyroid testing). DH also bought me some relaxing 'pillow spray' made of lavender & camomile and also some oil to rub on my wrist and breathe in - bless him!
SueB I really think the idea of a note outside my office informing people that I'm busy during certain hours of the day is a really good one - will definitely start doing this and also will turn my phone off to message only for atleast a couple of hours during the 'peak' hours in the day.
Thanks a lot ladies - I really appreciate it and thanks for comforting me!!
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kelly1814
Posts 3625
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15/12/2010 15:03:56
this is completely normal i think. working 12-14 hour days, dealing with unpleasant unprofessional unreasonable people at work, trying to look after my apartment, have a social life, - thank god for my friends otherwise i would go mad!
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Paris6
Posts 260
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15/12/2010 13:49:00
Metness:
look like you need holidays. Take some days and go somewhere nice to relax yourself or just 1 day and go to a spa/hammam, have a nice 1 day oriental relaxing treatment. You will feel much better after. That is what I always do when I'm not in a good mood.
But if you can have 2 weeks of holidays or more. Book a flight to Switzerland, then take a train from Geneva to Verbier for skiing, breath fresh air, meet nice ppl, relax, sleep...
Cheers
ps: camomile tea + black chocolate (for magnesium)
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DesertRose1958
Posts 1921
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15/12/2010 08:23:20
LadyMuck wrote:
its just living in this place..drives you mad...arses all over the place..incompetents..
ach you know what they say about arses - everyones got one.
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simpleasabc
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15/12/2010 08:02:52
LadyMuck wrote:
its just living in this place..drives you mad...arses all over the place..incompetents..
No more than anywhere else, in my limited experience (England, France, the US, Switzerland and here).
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LadyMuck
Posts 77
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15/12/2010 07:59:44
its just living in this place..drives you mad...arses all over the place..incompetents..
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SueB
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15/12/2010 07:56:38
Metness wrote: Paris6 wrote:
Camomile herbal tea can help
don't know your age but may be beginning of menopause? I'm 27 (so hopefully not menopause  Will definitely give camomile tea a go. I really want to just be left alone most of the time to do my own things. In the office I've got a million things to do (we are very under staffed) but i keep on getting interrupted literally every 5-10 minutes by someone popping into my office to ask something I have already discussed with them a million times before. At home, everytime i go downstairs, the maid comes out of her room to ask all sorts of questions, to complain about something (used to be the AC not any more thank God!), it goes on & on .... today I lost it and told off a lot of people. Now I'm in bed feeling very sh***y about it all and wondering if I should apologise to these people tomorrow or just say nothing.. my worry is unless i do something about it it might get worse (although I feel like I've hit rock bottom at the moment with my irritability)
Yes, it will get worse unless you tackle it now . Yes, apologize *sorry, I snapped at you the other day* and leave it at that. Do you have a door on your office? Close it and put a sign on it that says something like,
*I am busy right now until 11a.m.* change the times to suit you. So, when your door is open they can ask questions, when it is closed they cannot bother you and turn your phone off to message only. Sometimes drastic measures are required to keep your sanity. If you must, speak with your boss and let her know you will be doing this and why ....everyone gets short tempered now and then but if it starts to bother you, then you must do something to keep your sanity.
As for the maid. Tell her you dont want to hear anymore complaining, end of story, finished! Ask if she really needs to ask you or can she not figure it out herself?
See if you can find a yoga class or meditation class on your lunch hour or directly after work? It will be the breathing you need to do lol....anyway, just some thoughts that might help.
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llyc1
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15/12/2010 07:56:15
Metness, it sounds like you're under a lot of pressure at work and stress can make you very irritable. I am around the same age and I used to be the calmest and most easy going person you could know until I started feeling the pressure at work. It really affected me and I know I take things out on the wrong people sometimes like family and shop assisstants. I tried seeing a doctor but he was a bit useless and suggested a holiday and more exercise. I did both but things are still the same. If I have a bad day at work, I will have a bad day at home. I also isolate myself and like to be alone so no one can irritate me. Sometimes I think the only solution is to quit my job and do something less stressful.
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HRH
Posts 636
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15/12/2010 06:26:21
Metness wrote:
Everthing irritates me at the moment - I think i am going mad! I swear! Mostly I get irritated when people ask me questions! People in the office, maid, DH, everyone!! What;s wrong with me? Is it normal to go through a phase like this at some point in life?
This is very normal, the incompedence around you eventually starts to send you do dah, you'll go through this phase for a bit then come to realise that in order to stay relatively sane you need to take a more laid back approach to life here.
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Cornish Pixie
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15/12/2010 05:08:06
It sounds to me like it's stress related. Try to plan some fun things to do at the weekend and relax a bit. This place does this to people, we all burn out from time to time.
Hope you slept ok and have woken up feeling a bit happier.
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Mrs.purple
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15/12/2010 05:01:49
Metness - u and i are the same age category and i totally agree with what u have to say abt needing ur space and getting irritated easily. When i drive to work - i tell my self - let me make it a good day for me and not let anyone screw that for me!
I normally take this as a phase and eventually it wud change,but def get a thyroid check-up. If u go to ur GP - let them knw and they could request for a thyroid test. Dont blame urself and apologise if u think thats gona make u feel better.
Is everything else in ur life OK? what i mean is - maybe something in ur life thats upsetting u has made u feel this way?
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Metness
Posts 281
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15/12/2010 00:09:09
Paris6 wrote:
Camomile herbal tea can help
don't know your age but may be beginning of menopause?
I'm 27 (so hopefully not menopause
Will definitely give camomile tea a go. I really want to just be left alone most of the time to do my own things. In the office I've got a million things to do (we are very under staffed) but i keep on getting interrupted literally every 5-10 minutes by someone popping into my office to ask something I have already discussed with them a million times before. At home, everytime i go downstairs, the maid comes out of her room to ask all sorts of questions, to complain about something (used to be the AC not any more thank God!), it goes on & on .... today I lost it and told off a lot of people. Now I'm in bed feeling very sh***y about it all and wondering if I should apologise to these people tomorrow or just say nothing.. my worry is unless i do something about it it might get worse (although I feel like I've hit rock bottom at the moment with my irritability)
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scogan
Posts 273
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14/12/2010 23:51:02
Preggers?? I got that like in the first few weeks with both pregnancies, only to realise later I wasn't loosing my marbles.
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Paris6
Posts 260
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14/12/2010 23:44:31
Camomile herbal tea can help
don't know your age but may be beginning of menopause?
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Heyjude
Posts 234
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14/12/2010 22:35:06
I can get a bit like that when I get depressed.
Best to go and see your doctor - they can check everything out, and help you work out what is going on. Don't just leave it, and hope it goes away, it might not.
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Minky Mills
Posts 148
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14/12/2010 22:14:00
sugar level? diabetes?
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Metness
Posts 281
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14/12/2010 22:11:29
ceese wrote:
Have you checked your thyroid function? Seriously worth doing!!
No I have not - think I might need to. I have been feeling this irritable for almost 2 weeks now (got worse yesterday & today) so I am willing to try anything. Any clinic will do the thyoid checking or do i need to go to a specific one for this? Any suggesttion would be welcome and I will book myself for a test first thing tomorrow!
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ceese
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14/12/2010 21:58:36
Have you checked your thyroid function? Seriously worth doing!!
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SydGal
Posts 511
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14/12/2010 21:56:50
Metness wrote: Tiki wrote:
yeap, every 28 days.... No it's not that with me - I am not even close to that time of the month! Earlier today I went to Forever 21 to ask for a refund for something I bought today and they told me they don't do refunds but I can exchange it for something else - I was so mad at them I left the original top with them and stormed out of the store ( I didn't take the original purchase or a refund or an exhange - so lost everything basically) - they were follwing me asking me to comeback I wouldn't hear a thing! Weird - isn't it?
That would be normal for me.
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Metness
Posts 281
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14/12/2010 21:44:50
2Blossom wrote:
Yes!! Maybe you're in need of a holiday or a break away from it all?
I actually had a really nice break recently (although only for 6 days) in a nice resort in Africa - so I should be more relaxed...
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Metness
Posts 281
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14/12/2010 21:43:11
Tiki wrote:
yeap, every 28 days....
No it's not that with me - I am not even close to that time of the month! Earlier today I went to Forever 21 to ask for a refund for something I bought today and they told me they don't do refunds but I can exchange it for something else - I was so mad at them I left the original top with them and stormed out of the store ( I didn't take the original purchase or a refund or an exhange - so lost everything basically) - they were follwing me asking me to comeback I wouldn't hear a thing! Weird - isn't it?
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iubamea
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14/12/2010 21:39:38
Tiki wrote:
yeap, every 28 days....
Ya , right
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Tiki
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14/12/2010 21:38:36
yeap, every 28 days....
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2Blossom
Posts 228
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14/12/2010 21:38:09
Yes!! Maybe you're in need of a holiday or a break away from it all?
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Metness
Posts 281
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14/12/2010 21:36:06
Everthing irritates me at the moment - I think i am going mad! I swear! Mostly I get irritated when people ask me questions! People in the office, maid, DH, everyone!! What;s wrong with me? Is it normal to go through a phase like this at some point in life?
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