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TwoKids
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14/07/2011 14:58:02
gaijind wrote: I feel isolated and unable to socialize, despite I tried. It just isn't like old pals that I've known for years. I have been here for two years and a hald now and I don't really have friends. Even those close (one or two) live far, so we only meet occasionnaly and now that am pregnant it seems as if it is creating a gap. Not only, I am more and more tired now but also not "that fun" to be with since I can't do many things my single friends do. Also I stopped working since a few months and this is adding to my feeling of worthlessness. I don't feel happy here and it makes me feel bad that I am unable to enjoy my pregnancy that much. At first I was excited about it. But now, am just bored all the time, feeling lonely all the time and just sad. My poor DH tries to cheer me up, but always busy with work, so we're left with only weekends, but that doesn't help either. I just feel constantly unhappy and cry a lot. I used to be a very active person, loves cycling around, photography and traveling and now I can't cycle, I lost my appetite for pictures and I don't travel anymore.  .
Perhaps you should speak to your doctor about how you are feeling. I know that I was a moody b***h during my first trimester but depression is also a possibility during pregnancy. What about attending Bumps and Babes or responding to the 'Due in Dec etc' threads to meet other expectant mother?
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CarGear
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14/07/2011 14:47:58
sunglow wrote:
I'm really missing my girlfriends at home today.....have been here a while and people have come and gone and right now I can't get the same rapport going here and really need that naughty, girly, giggly, banter and not formal chit chat and mega efforts with people I have no history with! Does anybody else have those days? I know that we have to put effort in and get used to new friends here but sometimes it's such hard work and I feel like I am prattling away like a buffoon to keep things going, which isn't how socialising is meant to be! I want my lovely funny and oh so naughty friends! Moan over - I sound like such a crabby devil - which I probably am!! I need to put a new (less lazy/selfish) head on and approach the weekend with vigour! :-)
Hi Sunglow, I have those days too and when my husband comes home from work n asks me how was my day, I burst into tears.. I've made 4 good friends (1 that's great fun!) but are all gone home for the Summer. It is hard to meet new people that you can just be yourself with and have the craic. I find it hard now at the moment without them. My friends from home know me with years and we act like children ourselves around each other and really miss the genuine laughs we used to have. I think we have to hang in there and hopefully we'll meet the same type here......x
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gaijind
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14/07/2011 13:35:32
I feel isolated and unable to socialize, despite I tried. It just isn't like old pals that I've known for years.
I have been here for two years and a hald now and I don't really have friends. Even those close (one or two) live far, so we only meet occasionnaly and now that am pregnant it seems as if it is creating a gap. Not only, I am more and more tired now but also not "that fun" to be with since I can't do many things my single friends do.
Also I stopped working since a few months and this is adding to my feeling of worthlessness. I don't feel happy here and it makes me feel bad that I am unable to enjoy my pregnancy that much. At first I was excited about it. But now, am just bored all the time, feeling lonely all the time and just sad. My poor DH tries to cheer me up, but always busy with work, so we're left with only weekends, but that doesn't help either. I just feel constantly unhappy and cry a lot. I used to be a very active person, loves cycling around, photography and traveling and now I can't cycle, I lost my appetite for pictures and I don't travel anymore. .
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muurtje
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14/07/2011 11:53:01
I miss mine too!
I have lovely friends here, but it's just not the same. I miss being around girl friends that know me so well that they just need to look at me to know how I'm doing.
It takes time to build up relationships like that and although I see my friends here quite a bit it's not as informal as it used to be back home. Miss being able to pop round for a cup of tea or quick glass of vino whenever.
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kelly1814
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14/07/2011 11:10:41
it took six months before i met a small close group of what are now very close friends who i'd walk over hot coals for.....they get me completely and are just as close if not closer than some friends back home who have known me all my life.
stick with it, it will happen.
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JoyceB
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14/07/2011 11:07:56
Yes, I remember it well during my 2 year stint in Doha. I did eventually meet lovely like minded people after the first few months of being there. I wasn't interested in the stuff that many ladies were in to and managed to "break away" from the "activities" that bored me rigid. I was so happy to leave and come home to my lifelong friends but I cried hard when I had to say goodbye to a small nucleus of lovely friends that I am still in touch with and the hope of seeing them again some day. Stick with it, you will find people that you can relate to soon. 
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TwoKids
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14/07/2011 11:04:36
I empathise with you. I struggle too. Being a mother, it seems that I must only have mother friends. Just because our children are the same age does not a best friend make! That is not the way back home, where I have a mix of single and married friends. Try and get involved with something that you enjoyed doing back home. For me that is football, and yes I will get along to training when my ankle heals, my headache is gone and I do not have to prepare for an interview!!
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Queen Bee
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14/07/2011 10:56:46
It is hard and I sympathise. You have a history with your girlfriends from back home that has probably taken years of laughs, tears & adventures to make.
Give it time, keep getting back on the horse and you WILL find like-minded people. It took me a couple of years to find my girlie's with whom I can have a laugh with, say anything to, be a crabby mare with or just chill with but they were worth the wait.
I actually met them when decided to do something for me rather than trying to fit into groups & activities that I would never have done back home in a million years, just to try to get out there & meet people. And lo & behold I met my partners in crime.
Yes initial conversations can be stilted and if you are the one making all the effort then it is more like a chore than a pleasure. Take up group exercise classes but ones were you need to partner or get involved as a group.
Good luck
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