Experts at Blossom Nursery provide guidance on dealing with the no phase in kids. Read on to find out more...
6 February 2019| Last updated on 11 February 2019
Many toddlers, around age two, start discovering the power behind the word NO!
And this is when parents need to buckle up and deal with their behavior in the proper manner. The no phase can be a challenging time for parents, as the word no becomes prevalent in practically every conversation they have with kids.
In order to deal with it accordingly it’s important to understand the reasons behind such behavior in your toddlers. Due to the limited vocabulary of children, they are not capable of expressing their exact needs and hence take the support of the word NO and use it frequently.
Keeping this mind, here are 5 ways in which you can learn how to deal with your toddler:
1. Put forth your requests in a clever way
It’s important to speak to your toddler in a positive and playful manner rather than giving them an order. For example instead of saying ‘You need to have a bath’ try saying ‘Let’s go have some fun in the bath and play with your rubber toys’. Toddlers in turn will perceive it less as a threat and more of a fun activity, and hence are less likely to put up a fight.
2. Disguise your direct questions in a fun statement to avoid a clear no
If you put forth a direct question that warrants a yes or no answer then your toddler is likely to pick a direct answer. Instead put forth a suggestive statement and give them time to consider and provide you with an answer. This way the kids are more likely to consider their answer and not reply abruptly.
3. Sometime’s do say ‘Yes’
Aside from all the dangerous things, try keeping things positive with your toddlers from time to time. If you answer your toddler’s no with a no every single time, it is easy to get in a rut and this forces negative reinforcement with your toddlers. Instead in lighter situations like when it comes to picking an outfit, let them decide, as this will give them a sense of power that they are craving.
4. Giving the charge to your toddler
This may sound a little scary but it doesn’t have to be if you are in control of your situation. Present your child with two options that you’re comfortable with. For example when presenting your kid with dinner options ask ‘Would you like chicken pasta or vegetables with rice for dinner?’ This particular way of dealing with a situation will dissuade your child from saying no from the get go.
5. Utilize the power of strategic ignoring
If you’re unable to make any of the above of the tactics work, try strategically ignoring your child’s tantrums. This may not help you with public tantrums but will encourage positive reinforcement with your toddler, as he or she will grasp the concept that his positive behavior is rewarded and negative ignored.
We at Blossom Nursery in Dubai hope that the above tactics will help you parents in dealing with the no phase easily.