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sydneygal
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05/06/2012 13:54:33
that is so cute kiwis about the crocodile - amazing to see them use their imaginations 
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kiwispiers
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05/06/2012 13:42:46
my son (22 months) got an ant bite today and told me a crocodile had bitten him, even once I suggested it was an ant he stuck to his story, "no mummy, crocodile!" Yesterday we went to a playgroup, when daddy asked him later who was there he rattled of a list of his friends, none of whom had actually made it. This is why child witness testimony of under 3s has to be extremely carefully analysed and extracted. Its not really lying, they are just not always sure of things and use their imagination to fill in the blanks.
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mafmaf
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05/06/2012 11:51:38
this thread made me smile...i doubt that toddlers lie at this very young age...they do and say things meant the other way around.
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Green-ish
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29/05/2012 12:59:05
snoopy10 wrote:
It is not unusual for a child to make up stories at this age.my dd told her teacher I punch her like spiderman and I have never raised my voice or hand on her😳! Her teacher assured me this was normal BUT I would use your child's description as a warning to keep your eyes open n cautious.
I think it depends on the child and to some extent, how much time they spend with older children. My 2 yr old is the youngest of three children and she makes things up ALL THE TIME!  She's a monkey, that one!
Like kiwi suggested, she also sometimes says one thing, but means something else. The other day she was in tears and saying, "I have a headache Mummy. My headache is reeeeeeeeallly baaaaaad." (with full dramatics). When I asked her to show me where the headache was, she rubbed her tummy. Not long later she visited the toilet...'headache' gone. 
Amy, I'm glad you got to the bottom of it. For me, the most important thing is that our little ones feel listened to and heard when they have something to say. Even if it's an exaggeration, miscommunication or a porky pie, we must really listen to them then then find the actual truth for ourselves.
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notheragain
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29/05/2012 07:44:53
Sorry to hijack but Dufftown... Are you from Dufftown, aberdeenshire??
edited by notheragain on 29/05/2012
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snoopy10
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28/05/2012 22:35:58
It is not unusual for a child to make up stories at this age.my dd told her teacher I punch her like spiderman and I have never raised my voice or hand on her😳! Her teacher assured me this was normal BUT I would use your child's description as a warning to keep your eyes open n cautious.
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amy2010
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28/05/2012 14:04:59
AnonDubai wrote:
I don't think that toddlers lie but they definitely exaggerate things or word things differently.
I asked my DD if the nanny pushed her. she said yes. and then I asked her to show and she did. I assume my nanny can be forceful sometimes. They go for a play with our neighbours kids in the afternoon - this is the time when she is out of my watch. So I had a chat with the nanny and I asked her to be gentle with my DD.
It's not like my DD doesn't like the nanny - she likes her a lot. My DD is a very happy child and she is ok to stay with the nanny at home.
I'm happy that now I know that my nanny can be forceful and I have to keep an eye on her.
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amy2010
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28/05/2012 13:52:12
flydiver11 wrote:
Do you mind if I ask where you got the cameras from?
We'd love to set this up, but we are both totally hopeless on computers.
PS... I hope it is a miscommunication with your LO, either way, it's good that they told you.
I got mine from Maxcom. They install UK products with 2 years warranty. if you have problems with connections after the installation they provide good support. You can find them on www.maxcom.ae or link
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AnonDubai
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28/05/2012 10:41:33
I don't think that toddlers lie but they definitely exaggerate things or word things differently.
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flydiver11
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28/05/2012 09:20:47
Do you mind if I ask where you got the cameras from?
We'd love to set this up, but we are both totally hopeless on computers.
PS... I hope it is a miscommunication with your LO, either way, it's good that they told you.
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amy2010
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27/05/2012 16:35:51
I forgot to mention that I have security cameras around the house and they are on all the time (including audio) on my PC at work. My husband does the same. And I always see what happens at home excluding bathrooms. I've never seen my nanny doing anything wrong such as shouting or God forbid beating, loosing temper. She is always patient and calm.
Anyway I'm gonna follow advise of dufftown
I really hope it's nothing serious.
Will let you know Ladies
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Flower33
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27/05/2012 16:15:10
kiwispiers wrote:
too young to "lie" as such but it could easily be misunderstanding/miscommunication.
For example by "pushed" it could mean the nanny ushered her in a direction with a light hand on he back, or she fell and the nanny didn't quite catch her, or someone else pushed her and she has confused the memory, or they were playing and she was accidentally knocked over, or even her nanny pushed her...on the swing, in a toy car, in the pram etc and she didn't like it. These are all situations where a child might say they were "pushed" but it might not be quite how you interpret it. Best not to jump to conclusions but keep a watchful eye out just the same.
Yes very true! You explained very well
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dufftown
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27/05/2012 16:08:52
kiwispiers wrote:
too young to "lie" as such but it could easily be misunderstanding/miscommunication.
For example by "pushed" it could mean the nanny ushered her in a direction with a light hand on he back, or she fell and the nanny didn't quite catch her, or someone else pushed her and she has confused the memory, or they were playing and she was accidentally knocked over, or even her nanny pushed her...on the swing, in a toy car, in the pram etc and she didn't like it. These are all situations where a child might say they were "pushed" but it might not be quite how you interpret it. Best not to jump to conclusions but keep a watchful eye out just the same.
I agree with KW. At any age, it would be very unusual for a child to make up a story of "abuse" and all stories should be taken seriously. However, children may have an exaggerated sense of injustice and you would be best to ask her to show you what happened. Try role playing where she is the nanny and you are her and make her show you how the scene played out.
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kiwispiers
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27/05/2012 15:41:41
too young to "lie" as such but it could easily be misunderstanding/miscommunication.
For example by "pushed" it could mean the nanny ushered her in a direction with a light hand on he back, or she fell and the nanny didn't quite catch her, or someone else pushed her and she has confused the memory, or they were playing and she was accidentally knocked over, or even her nanny pushed her...on the swing, in a toy car, in the pram etc and she didn't like it. These are all situations where a child might say they were "pushed" but it might not be quite how you interpret it. Best not to jump to conclusions but keep a watchful eye out just the same.
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Flower33
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27/05/2012 15:27:41
I think at 2 year kids r too young to lie. You should ask ur dd, and next time put a video recorder, to be at peace.
Unless they are exposed to such behaviour from others. Example my boy learnt from my nbrs son to keep quite and say: i didnt do it, when i caught them tearing books. My boys never had a habit to break or tear things. So when he saw other boy doing it he found it funny and started doing the same. When i told the boy not to play with toys books in this way, he simply kept quite and when insisted he says i didnt do it.
When i spoke to his mom she says he always does that and asked me to correct him. But thank u, i limited kids playgroup and eventually withdrew, as my boy was copying a lot of staff i am not happy with.
Kids learn or absorb or copy things very quick and may 1 or 2 times enough to get bad hanits.
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mushypeas
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27/05/2012 14:49:51
muu wrote:
Can you ask her to show you how she pushed her, kids at this age rarely lie, she could be telling the truth
I agree, I would ask her how she was pushed and ask her to show you.
I know she is very young but ask her firstly what she means by pushed ?
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muu
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27/05/2012 14:45:12
Can you ask her to show you how she pushed her, kids at this age rarely lie, she could be telling the truth
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amy2010
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27/05/2012 14:38:14
Today at the breakfast my 2 yo DD told me that our nanny pushed her. My DD is already putting sentences together so I didn't mishear her.
I thought kids don't lie till they are 4-5 yo. Please advise!
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