Judging and making assumptions are two completely different things. As someone else said I don't think anyone can say that they don't automatically make assumptions sometimes, we all do, it's human nature to do so. I think people are worse here because it's too easy to lump people together into certain categories.
I'll judge people through their actions and personality and behaviour and if I agree with it or not.
No I do not always judge, but I think I should of considered it. Ive taken people under my wing, made them welcome, and to find out how judgemental they are. One lady used to say I did far to much for my girls!!!! yet she went on to help a member of a family, yet I was looked down upon.
My DD came here and just mentioned in conversation that she wanted to be a mum ( obviously not right this minute) and this woman had to step in and say out loud that she could not possibly have children out of wedlock here) we are not stupid, it was a conversation!!!!!! This same person asked my DD to put her cigarette out ( DD was on her own balcony).
Alot of people here are so superficial, I am not saying I am perfect by any means, but we all get let down.
I love the way ladies always say they never connected, I so remember our girl days in ( they were fun by the way) but one particular lady always joined in, yet never invited us to her place.
There will always be cultural differences in everyone....we are what we are.....not inferior or superior to anyone.....
Making assumptions does not necessarily imply thinking oneself superior or inferior. Interesting how many posts here seem to suggest this is how the question about judging has been understood. I actually see it as a normal, automatic process we do whenever talking to someone, often addressed at avoiding lack of respect, conflicts, frictions etc. For instance, I would never start a conversation about, I don't know, the latest book by Salman Rushdie with someone who looks deeply Muslim, or about the misfits of the Catholic church with a fervent Catholic, or about the latest exhibition by Cattelan with someone who has no idea about Italian contemporary art, if I do not know the person or if something in that person makes me think he is not up to the discussion. These are things that can be guessed from the looks, the way of talking or, why not, the nationality.
I try very hard not to make assumptions & always remind myself not too,especially, when I think I can see people making assumptions about me in this country. It's human nature IMO
There will always be cultural differences in everyone....we are what we are.....not inferior or superior to anyone.....
Before Dubai, never. Now, I automatically adapt my conversation level and expectations to the person I am talking to, often based on his or her nationality or accent or looks, always hoping to be positively surprised. Of course if I am not positively surprised, I tend to confirm my previous opinion and so on. If I am, I renew my hopes in mankind. I don't know if this is racism or just a practical approach to surviving here, actually I do not even care :)
Like others, I don't make judgement but have certainly made assumptions in the past such as when a lady was moving over to DXB and didn't know anyone and had been in touch on this forum beforehand.
Anyway, we both arranged for her to join us at a quiz night and over several emails, the lady informed me of her name which wasn't your usual Smith, Brown but certainly sounded one that a Muslim lady would have. She then advised that so I would recognise her, she had dark hair and didn't drink alcohol. So yes, in my blinkered lack of education, I was expecting a Muslim lady to join us at an alcohol imbibed quiz night and perhaps she wouldn't approve!!!!
This lovely lady can still remember I'm sure my face when she turned up and introduced herself in an broad Aussie accent and then proceeded to swiftly answer the first question to the quiz. Mind you, it was to do with Australian sport so she didn't impress me!!!!
Now....... She is a fantastic friend who I miss so much since we have both left but I know we will meet up again!
I am in line with others. I don't believe I judge people but do make assumptions based on nationality.
A flaw in some situations perhaps but it has helped me on many an occassion too.
Being non PC that I am, I'll admit that I subconsciously make assumptions about (different to judging btw) people based on their nationality when I first meet them, I'm pretty sure most people do the same to me when they first see me. As I get to know them better they are individuals to me, I don't see them as "a nationality" iyswim.
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maybe judge is a bad word... but it is easy to make assumptions about a person based on nationality (even if those assumptions are wrong)... not assumptions about their charecter just common culture diffrences
I don't judge the character of the person by their nationality but I tend to make assumptions about people's behaviour according to their nationality.
i agree with this...
I certainly have expectations of behaviour based on nationality but try to treat all the same and wait to be surprise done wayor the other. Workedin customer service here for 10 years and a little cultural knowledge goes along way. IE never tell local kids in the cinema to shut up, go sit beside them and make them think its their idea to behave appropriately,works wonders andno one loses face!
Not intending to be provocative, but whilst we all (I hope) believe that we would answer no, just go and do some racial awareness trainig and I bet nobody could genuinely put their hand on their heart and say no.
Thursday night thread?
I think everyone makes a very basic primary judgement on initial appearance. A secondary judgement then occurs as soon as several words are spoken. Living in the Dubai adds another dimension as judgements are made quicker based on other factors.