Am i crazy for wanting a 4th child?

DJ, I had 4 children in 3.5 years. RIght now, the eldest nearly 5, the second is 3 and the TWINS are 16 months. It is hectic yes, but I wouldn't have it any other way. I have good home help which makes a big difference because you really need help and when babies and little kids are involved you need very good help Personally I think if you really want 4 kids (in your big picture) then just go for it. Just stay in the "crazy zone" that is babies and toddlers rather than coming out of it and then going back into it in a few years time. Just be warned... you could get twins!!!! haha

I'd love to have a fourth child but DH won't hear of it. We have three boys aged 8, 6 and 4 and DH feels that finances and energies do not permit him to consider my idea; LOL. I don't have a maid and its been hard coming to this stage with no family support in Qatar. But I still dream of having a little girl as I feel it would complete the family. Good Luck with your decision!

Just saw this on my FB wall and had to share, Its cute and funny but true as well!! its not meant to discourage you OP!! BIRTH ORDER OF CHILDREN 1st baby: You begin wearing maternity clothes as soon as your doctor confirms your pregnancy. 2nd baby: You wear your regular clothes for as long as possible. 3rd baby: Your maternity clothes ARE your regular clothes. _____________________________________________________ Preparing for the Birth: 1st baby: You practice your breathing religiously. 2nd baby: You don't bother because you remember that last time breathing didn't do a thing. 3rd baby: You ask for an epidural in your eighth month. _____________________________________________________ The Layette: 1st baby: You pre-wash newborn's clothes, color coordinate them, and fold them neatly in the baby's little bureau. 2nd baby: You check to make sure that the clothes are clean and discard only the ones with the darkest stains. 3rd baby: Boys can wear pink, can't they? _____________________________________________________ Worries: 1st baby: At the first sign of distress--a whimper, a frown--you pick up the baby. 2nd baby: You pick the baby up when her wails threaten to wake your firstborn. 3rd baby: You teach your three-year-old how to rewind the mechanical swing. _____________________________________________________ Dummy: 1st baby: If the dummy falls on the floor, you put it away until you can go home and wash and boil it. 2nd baby: When the dummy falls on the floor, you squirt it off with some juice from the baby's bottle. 3rd baby: You wipe it off on your shirt and pop it back in. ______________________________________________________ Nappies: 1st baby: You change your baby's nappy every hour, whether they need it or not. 2nd baby: You change their nappy every two to three hours, if needed. 3rd baby: You try to change their nappy before others start to complain about the smell or you see it sagging to their knees. _____________________________________________________ Activities: 1st baby: You take your infant to Baby Gymnastics, Baby Swing, and Baby Story Hour. 2nd baby: You take your infant to Baby Gymnastics. 3rd baby: You take your infant to the supermarket and the dry cleaner. ______________________________________________________ Going Out: 1st baby: The first time you leave your baby with a sitter, you call home five times. 2nd baby: Just before you walk out the door, you remember to leave a number where you can be reached. 3rd baby: You leave instructions for the sitter to call only if she sees blood. _____________ ________________________________________ At Home: 1st baby: You spend a good bit of every day just gazing at the baby. 2nd baby: You spend a bit of everyday watching to be sure your older child isn't squeezing, poking, or hitting the baby. 3rd baby: You spend a little bit of every day hiding from the children. ______________________________________________________ Swallowing Coins: 1st child: When first child swallows a coin, you rush the child to the hospital and demand x-rays. 2nd child: When second child swallows a coin, you carefully watch for the coin to pass. 3rd child: When third child swallows a coin, you deduct it from his pocket money. ______________________________________________________ what happens for the fourth?! Personally I think you are blessed to have 3 and now plan for a fourth, wish I could do the same so I would definitely say p,ease go ahead if you think you can handle it, all the best!!

Hi D-J I've just had my 4th child and have similar spacing to you. The older ones have all just had birthdays and turned 3, 5, and 7, my new baby is a month old. I always wanted 4 and my family feels perfect now our lovely baby has joined us. I don't work so you would have that added aspect. Life feels pretty busy right now, I can't imagine having to fit a full time job in as well although obviously if you had trusted childcare it would help greatly. My older children are loving having a new baby in the house and are really helpful plus they are old enough (as yours would be) to be pretty independent with many things. If my 3 year old gets stuck doing something his older siblings can help him if I'm busy feeding. Good luck with you decision.

I recently returned to the workforce. I can honestly say that with 2 kids, nearly 3 and nearly 1, I wouldn't recommend adding another one to the mix while trying to work full time. It can be quite overwhelming. Personally, I'd suggest you decide what you want more at this time--the new position or adding another member to the family and proceed accordingly. I want to think we as working moms can have both the family and career we desire, but I recognize that at times one or the other has to go on the backburner. I want a 3rd but I don't think my husband does. But, I know I'm not ready for that 3rd even if I can convince him for a few more years. The career and the two young kids is more than plenty on my plate. We need the older one in full day school, not nursery, before I'd consider it.

Children are a wonderful gift from God so if you can have a 4th child..i say why not! If you think you are able to cope with little gap between them..then go for it! I have 2 girls with big gaps between them and now at the ripe ol age of 41yrs..i am trying to conceive...good luck and wish you all the best! Good luck!!! Insha'allah you will succeed. I had a beautiful baby girl at the age of 45!!! (unplanned and unassisted) Thank you Mrs B. :)

Children are a wonderful gift from God so if you can have a 4th child..i say why not! If you think you are able to cope with little gap between them..then go for it! I have 2 girls with big gaps between them and now at the ripe ol age of 41yrs..i am trying to conceive...good luck and wish you all the best! Good luck!!! Insha'allah you will succeed. I had a beautiful baby girl at the age of 45!!! (unplanned and unassisted)

Children are a wonderful gift from God so if you can have a 4th child..i say why not! If you think you are able to cope with little gap between them..then go for it! I have 2 girls with big gaps between them and now at the ripe ol age of 41yrs..i am trying to conceive...good luck and wish you all the best!

Absolutely not!!!! I had so much trouble keeping my pregnancies beyond the second trimester. I wanted a large family but only managed 2 sons - wonderful sons. but, at aged 22 and 20 suddenly they became the brothers if a little sister. At the ripe old age of 45 I gave birth to a babies girl!!! Alhamdulillah truly a gift from god after years and years of miscarriages and then nothing. Children bring life and joy to a home and a family. You will never regret it even when you are exhausted and about to drop!!!! My daughter is my angel.