Nippy35 - My Story for you....

Hi Ladies,
I would like to thank you all for all your kind thoughts… I would like Admin to keep my post on here, as I will be posting a very important number for people to use if they are in need of help…Here is my story...

On Tuesday 11th December, our off shore bank account were querying a money transfer transaction as they couldn’t see the beneficiary and could we confirm who it was being paid too! I asked to see a copy, and it had come from my husband. When queried, I was told not to worry it’s all to do with my Christmas present and told me not to worry! Even when he came home, he was cuddling me and telling me not to worry and to chill out and sit and have a beer with him! We even went to bed that night cuddling me, again reassuring me it was my present, (I was worried as the amount was 18K).

On Wednesday 12th December, We had our morning kiss, sat had breakfast, I went to change, and left around 7.20am with the children, he walked to the door with me, again gave me another kiss. I dropped my son off at school and took my other son to a Christmas party play group with a friend. At midday when we were leaving the party, my husband called to say, that he has left me and moved out and cancelled mine and the children’s visas. He would only give me 10 minutes of his time, the reason of leaving was that he was unhappy for about 2 years! Which looking back over the last 2 years of our life and the things we have done, it just didn’t add up! He also had gone to the bank, withdrew 12,000aed and left me with 1000aed and cancelled my credit card. By the time I got home, he had removed EVERY item of his clothing, even his sandwich box! All the paperwork to do with all our financials, and wouldn’t answer any of my calls for another 5 hours later. He was not interested in talking or giving me a chance, just that he has started divorce proceedings and that we have to draw up a financial agreement between us for a court next week. I just couldn’t believe what I was hearing. I just spent the rest of the evening/night in a state.

Thursday 13th December, still in shock, didn’t know what to do or who to speak with…. I phoned the British Embassy, I told them my story and the questions I asked, they couldn’t help me, they told me I need to speak with a lawyer, but with a lawyer in Abu Dhabi as that is where our visas are. I tried to find lawyers, but they were so expensive, and I didn’t have the money to spend or how to go about seeing them etc. Later that day I also got my husband’s first draft of his money proposal, with terms and conditions that he wanted. I spent most of the day in a daze and just sat there!

Friday 14th, spoke with my husband and informed me that a court date had been set for the following week, Thursday 20th December. I was told that his financial agreement had to be agreed before the court date, this agreement was for my protection! He told me that if he defaulted on a payment I could phone the courts and get him arrested and put into prison, until he paid what money he owed! However, if I didn’t agree he will let the judge decide, and threatened that we all know which way the judge will favor, so I wasn’t really given much choice but to go with what he wanted, as I was scared and frightened.

Saturday 15th was the first time I saw him as he came to look after the children as I already had a pre booked hospital appointment, the cold nasty look in his face and the way he spoke just sent chills down my spine, he didn’t hang around much after I got back from the hospital. He gave me another amended financial agreement and left.

Sunday 16th December, a friends husband had been speaking with a lawyer who gave me some good information and a number to call the next day. I sent an email to my husband asking for the court case number for Thursday and was informed; he didn’t know what it was. I had a shipping company come in to quote, when asked my husband to pay, he refused even though this was one of his conditions that he would pay for! I also found out Sunday evening that the court hearing on Thursday was not just for this financial agreement but to finalize our divorce! How can I be divorced when I have not been given any official documents or anything, I spent the rest of the evening, so worried and scared, not even a week of being told he had left, now I’m being told that on Thursday our marriage was no longer…

Monday 17th December, I phoned this number that had been given to me, it’s a funded British organization, and she was such a lovely lady and helped me out. She went off to speak with their lawyers and after several calls that day, she informed me, that they all told her for me not to attend the court hearing on Thursday as it didn’t sound right! And it was best for us to leave the country before he could issue a summons against me. They told me not to tell him of my plans and let him think I was still attending this court date. I had a very lovely lady from expat woman, come round after reading my plea for boxes that day and also came with a pizza in hand, thank you so much, you know who you are!

Tuesday 18th December, I funded the shipping cost, just so I could go and take our belongings, so the packing began…. The lovely “Expat Woman” just knew I wasn’t eating and again and came by with a lovely goody bag of food, which was greatly received and just what the doctor ordered! Thank you! In the morning, I had our flights changed from Saturday to Wednesday afternoon.

Wednesday 19th December, packing was finished, so gut wrenching saying goodbye to my close friends, it was so horrible. I called my husband from the house phone to discuss where he wanted to meet the next day, and he said he would send an email. Little did he know I left to the airport straight after that phone call! I arrived back in the UK early evening that day, my god it was cold and wet!

Thursday morning, I received a text 3.30am UK time to see what time I was going to the court and he confirmed the court time, I told him I would meet him there…. An hour before the court time, I sent him an email, saying that I am no longer in the country and that I will be issuing proper divorce proceedings from here, I’ve not heard anything from him since.

We didn’t own a house, so I am here in the UK, living on family floor space! I have no house, no job, no car, pretty not a lot of money either. However, I have my two lovely boys with me, I’m scared, I don’t have much of an outlook at the moment of my future, but all I can say, with the kind wishes and thoughts being sent to me, from all, it’ helps me carry on through my days….

I would like to say a huge thank you to a lovely man who gave me that number to call, without that number, I hate to say that I would of ended up going to the court hearing on Thursday, (Thank you, John and Emma for your help in giving me this number)

Ladies if you need this sort of help or advice, I didn’t know of this company or number, and even the Embassy didn’t give it to me….. Please make a note of this number, it was well worth a phone call….. They are called BCAF The British Community Assistance Fund 04 337 1413.

Thank you all, I enjoyed my time in Dubai, I didn’t wish to leave the country or my husband or my life, it was taken from us without any explanations without any warnings. But I wish you all lovely ladies a very safe, happy life in Dubai….

Nippy 35…xxx