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How often do you shower/bath your school children a day?

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EW NEWBIE
Latest post on 18 February 2013 - 10:03

Hi ladies,

I'm currently giving my 2 children a very early shower before school at 6.15am and then they get one at night too before bed. I'm just wondering if we should cut one out as it's quite a lot of work! do you shower them just once or twice a day and when do you do it? currently debating with DH about it.... thanks!

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EW EXPLORER
Latest post on 22 February 2013 - 08:02
It would be interesting to hear how what the shower situation here in the UAE in 60s and 70s. We had toilets and bidets, mostly squat toilets. DH was in Dubai in the early 70s and shared a basic bathroom with 3 other guys. There was no shower, just a small square bath and squat loo. Then he must have had sub-standard accommodation as every house I went to during the 70's had showers etc. In fact, by 1977 we had our brand new villa with central air conditioning, now that was a wow thing. There are some apartments in Dubai that still have the original bathrooms from 1970, one example is the KFC building on Al Dhiafa St (the name has changed, possibly December 1st St). It was not so backwards.
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EW NEWBIE
Latest post on 22 February 2013 - 06:38
So OP, did you get an answer to your question?;)
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EW GURU
Latest post on 21 February 2013 - 23:44
It would be interesting to hear how what the shower situation here in the UAE in 60s and 70s. We had toilets and bidets, mostly squat toilets. DH was in Dubai in the early 70s and shared a basic bathroom with 3 other guys. There was no shower, just a small square bath and squat loo. I have Emirati friends who often discuss life here when they were growing up in Dubai in the 50's and 60's. One topic (of great hilarity to them) is the difference in hygeine between now and then. Most of the houses had no indoor toilets, they has to "go" far from the house in the sand, at night this was not practical so they would go nearer the house, let in dry in the sun / sand and then bury it. The women used to all go the beach in evening for this - that was their time and place! I knew Gertrude Dyack ( Doctora Latifa of Al Ain) and many conversations with her confirm how different things were back in the 60's. In her book the photos of the Bedouin (taken in the 60's), show them with what would be considered very dirty clothes. They were just too sensible to waste precious and hard to come by water on washing clothes. They also cleaned themselves with sand. This is what my friends laugh at now - the comparison between that and the sparkling white clothes (with 3 showers and changes of clothes a day) that they have now. So I guess not too much difference between here and the rest of the world back then. Everyone has changed ther hygeine habits (some to a bigger extent then others!) What would those Bedu think of all the waste of water now?! edited by Genie on 21/02/2013 <em>edited by Genie on 22/02/2013</em>
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EW NEWBIE
Latest post on 21 February 2013 - 22:18
This thread is quite a read; Loads of twists and turns. Wish the subject was a bit less c***py... Yes I think they are taking the **** now ! I think this thread is turning in a load of ****...
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EW MASTER
Latest post on 21 February 2013 - 22:13
This thread is quite a read; Loads of twists and turns. Wish the subject was a bit less c***py... Yes I think they are taking the **** now !
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EW NEWBIE
Latest post on 21 February 2013 - 22:12
So glad I live in Oman and we do not put up with such rubbish! Don't you wash at all in Oman then ? :D They don't go to the bathroom either..
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EW NEWBIE
Latest post on 21 February 2013 - 22:12
This thread is quite a read; Loads of twists and turns. Wish the subject was a bit less c***py...
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EW MASTER
Latest post on 21 February 2013 - 22:10
So glad I live in Oman and we do not put up with such rubbish! Don't you wash at all in Oman then ? :D
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EW NEWBIE
Latest post on 21 February 2013 - 21:13
So glad I live in Oman and we do not put up with such rubbish!
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EW OLDHAND
Latest post on 21 February 2013 - 20:10
It would be interesting to hear how what the shower situation here in the UAE in 60s and 70s. We had toilets and bidets, mostly squat toilets. DH was in Dubai in the early 70s and shared a basic bathroom with 3 other guys. There was no shower, just a small square bath and squat loo.
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EW EXPLORER
Latest post on 21 February 2013 - 19:29
It would be interesting to hear how what the shower situation here in the UAE in 60s and 70s. We had toilets and bidets, mostly squat toilets.
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EW MASTER
Latest post on 21 February 2013 - 19:18
Even the Queen poos ! :-P
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EW MASTER
Latest post on 21 February 2013 - 18:45
Seriously I've seen it! There was a house in one of those UK "home buying" programmes a couple of months ago where they had the same thing in one of the bedrooms. ETA: Also twin bathroom with toilets side by side with no wall in between. edited by Wednesday Genius on 21/02/2013 When I was a teenager (many moons ago) I can remember some clubs had two toilets in each cubicle. They reckoned it was because most females went to the toilet in pairs !!!!! It didn't do us any harm <em>edited by Geordie expat on 21/02/2013</em>
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EW EXPERT
Latest post on 21 February 2013 - 18:40
Well after all of these comments, I am the only one having 'weird' habits, apparently. All of that, just because we are clean. Wow. I cannot imagine sharing a toilet with other families, we don't even share with each other! lol you need to get off your high horse a little bit. Your children definitely learnt this from some adult at home, because no child I know spontaneously decided to shower after a no2. If you havent expressly asked this of them then you need to realise that they are picking up some seriously OCD habits from you. This isnt called 'just being clean' this is a disorder that can hamper a normal way of life that they are inheriting from you. Dont take offence, perhaps you can recognise that you are one of the only ones that are scrubbing to this degree and its NOT normal or neccessary. If I were you I'd take this as a parenting red flag and scale back a bit. edited by Dubai-Mum on 21/02/2013 I have to agree with Dubai mum and her line of thought.
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EW EXPERT
Latest post on 21 February 2013 - 18:35
Can I add another angle to this thread... who will admit to using the toilet in view of their partner? There's a scene of this happening in "The Change Up" (very funny film btw) when she doesn't close the door. But worse when house viewing in London we saw a **few** houses where there was a toilet in the master bedroom. No walls or curtains tracks... just slap bang in full view of the bed. Is there a trend going on I know nothing about? Traumatising to the eyes, ears and nose I'd have thought! Esp if the person has stripped prior! What on earth is traumatising about someone going to the toilet? It's quite a natural process. This thread becomes even more nuts, women have babies, people go into hospital, nurses spend their lives helping people go to the bathroom as do many people in the community who care for the disabled and elderly, mothers help their children. I really don't give a monkeys about anyone needing to use the toilet in my presence and especially not family members. It's not a big deal, obviously one doesn't make a song and dance but if i'm not going to have a breakdown and need threapy if my DH walks in or one of my kids! Sure respect privacy but let's not indocrinate our children to become neurotic about it or believe there going to the toilet is somehow a "dirty" thing that must be hidden and showers taken straight afterwards. <em>edited by Lolacat on 21/02/2013</em>
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EW NEWBIE
Latest post on 21 February 2013 - 18:25
It would be interesting to hear how what the shower situation here in the UAE in 60s and 70s.
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EW EXPERT
Latest post on 21 February 2013 - 18:24
At the risk of going down in history... I know many [mainly men'> who won't go to the toilet without a magazine. It isn't uncommon to have bladder and bowel control, and, from a person inherited the habit (OCD behaviours) of a woman who believed straight bleach was the answer to life's problems, it does not surprise me to have a shower after BM. I hope you're not eating, but google how far poo particles travel, sh1t mouth :D Sorry, had to say that because it's everyone :D Let's say it in a different way: Samuel wakes up, goes to the toilet (poo), has a shower, goes to school. He plays, washes hs hands, has dinner, goes again to the toilet (poo), has a shower, goes to bed. Samuel poos twice a day, both times at home. He also showers after each BM. I personally never passed at school, university, mall, other people's houses - I don't like it, it's embarrassing to me, I'm not an 'open' pooson. I really don't understand your post, too cryptic?
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EW OLDHAND
Latest post on 21 February 2013 - 18:18
And don't forget if you had a teenage sister and got in the bath afterwards there was floating hair everywhere where she'd shaved her legs in the bath. I personally don't worry about pooh, my family had to shovel it (literally) had to take it in the evening and bury it in the garden, and we are all still here with no real issues (mind you when I was born, we had the luxury of a toilet ;) ) <em>edited by Alismum on 21/02/2013</em>
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EW EXPERT
Latest post on 21 February 2013 - 18:00
My first 8 years of life was spent in a tiny 1 bed "single end" tenement in Glasgow in the 50s. We shared an outside toilet with 3 other families and had no bathroom. My mother kept our tiny home spotless as did her neighbours. That outside loo was scrubbed every day by the women of the "close" and everyone took their turn of sweeping and mopping the stairs and close entrance. I went to gran's once a week for a bath as did my parents. I really have to laugh at how fussy and rather precious people can be these days about cleanliness. My kids loved their shared baths right up until my DD was about 6 and DS 3 when it got too cramped. Nothing "gross" about it either! And I bet there were no allergies / intolerances / asthma / ADHD / irritable bowel or any other similar nonsenses!
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EW NEWBIE
Latest post on 21 February 2013 - 17:49
This thread made me remember my Grandma's house- and my dad telling us when they grew up they washed in the kitchen sink and there was an outside loo- that's only going back about 60 years... amazing how far we've come- or plumbing has! It was a big deal when they had a inside bathroom put in! As kids in the 70's we used to have a once a week bath (shared with siblings!) and like others have said it used to take ages for the boiler to heat it all up! Mum used to attack us with a face cloth at other times during the week. Guess that's why I love a big long, on my own shower now hahahahah! Maybe the poster below is referring to using the shower hose of the toilet not having an actual full body shower after a ahem "number 2"?? Amazing how times have changed!
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EW MASTER
Latest post on 21 February 2013 - 17:33
Oh and YES this thread is one of the best and will go down as a classic.. Best piece of " Rich people in Dubai's problems" I have ever read in a long time and surpasses even Dubai - OMG , my children will only poo if they can have a shower straightaway! Good lord, what ARE you eating?
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EW OLDHAND
Latest post on 21 February 2013 - 17:33
My first 8 years of life was spent in a tiny 1 bed "single end" tenement in Glasgow in the 50s. We shared an outside toilet with 3 other families and had no bathroom. My mother kept our tiny home spotless as did her neighbours. That outside loo was scrubbed every day by the women of the "close" and everyone took their turn of sweeping and mopping the stairs and close entrance. I went to gran's once a week for a bath as did my parents. I really have to laugh at how fussy and rather precious people can be these days about cleanliness. My kids loved their shared baths right up until my DD was about 6 and DS 3 when it got too cramped. Nothing "gross" about it either!
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EW MASTER
Latest post on 21 February 2013 - 17:25
Well I am going to gross you all out, my grandparents (Dutch) lived in a house with their 5 children and they didn't have a bathroom, there was a toilet but everyone washed in the kitchen. Everyday you locked the door, stripped off, filled the sink and washed yourself. Used clean water to rinse off, got dressed and the next person went in. Eventlually they had a sink put in the master bedroom but you could only get cold (icy) water out of the tap. It was all they knew. There was a sink outside the toilet room so you could wash your hands. I didn't know us Dutch people have such a gross bathing history... I hope you are joking here because it beggars belief that someone would not know that this is the way people lived less than 100 years ago - people did not have inside toilets let alone bathrooms and washed in tin baths or kitchen sinks routinely and yes with the same water.
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EW EXPERT
Latest post on 21 February 2013 - 17:16
What a great thread!!! Bathroom door is always closed in our house and def no his / hers side by side toilets. Yuk. On our first holiday together (Prague) I wouldn't even 'go' in our hotel bathroom and I'd wait until I could go to a coffee shop (I should say, to a toilet in a coffee shop!)
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EW NEWBIE
Latest post on 21 February 2013 - 17:13
Can I add another angle to this thread... who will admit to using the toilet in view of their partner? There's a scene of this happening in "The Change Up" (very funny film btw) when she doesn't close the door. But worse when house viewing in London we saw a **few** houses where there was a toilet in the master bedroom. No walls or curtains tracks... just slap bang in full view of the bed. Is there a trend going on I know nothing about? Traumatising to the eyes, ears and nose I'd have thought! Esp if the person has stripped prior! I will go to the toilet and not close the door and so does my partner. Obviously we don't say.."I'm going to the loo, fancy coming to watch?" but we are comfortable enough with each other to leave the door open and not be embarressed if we walk in on each other! We only have one bathroom so if I am in the shower/bath and he needs to go it isn't an issue and vice versa!
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EW NEWBIE
Latest post on 21 February 2013 - 17:12
Weird. I suppose 'horses for courses' and all that :-/
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EW NEWBIE
Latest post on 21 February 2013 - 17:08
Omg Wednesday! That's unreal surely. I've been in London for 25 years and have never seen such a thing -If this is trending then I know nothing about it either!
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EW NEWBIE
Latest post on 21 February 2013 - 16:22
Well I am going to gross you all out, my grandparents (Dutch) lived in a house with their 5 children and they didn't have a bathroom, there was a toilet but everyone washed in the kitchen. Everyday you locked the door, stripped off, filled the sink and washed yourself. Used clean water to rinse off, got dressed and the next person went in. Eventlually they had a sink put in the master bedroom but you could only get cold (icy) water out of the tap. It was all they knew. There was a sink outside the toilet room so you could wash your hands. I didn't know us Dutch people have such a gross bathing history...
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EW EXPLORER
Latest post on 21 February 2013 - 16:21
Well I am going to gross you all out, my grandparents (Dutch) lived in a house with their 5 children and they didn't have a bathroom, there was a toilet but everyone washed in the kitchen. Everyday you locked the door, stripped off, filled the sink and washed yourself. Used clean water to rinse off, got dressed and the next person went in. Eventlually they had a sink put in the master bedroom but you could only get cold (icy) water out of the tap. It was all they knew. There was a sink outside the toilet room so you could wash your hands.
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EW NEWBIE
Latest post on 21 February 2013 - 15:51
Well after all of these comments, I am the only one having 'weird' habits, apparently. All of that, just because we are clean. Wow. I cannot imagine sharing a toilet with other families, we don't even share with each other! lol you need to get off your high horse a little bit. Your children definitely learnt this from some adult at home, because no child I know spontaneously decided to shower after a no2. If you havent expressly asked this of them then you need to realise that they are picking up some seriously OCD habits from you. This isnt called 'just being clean' this is a disorder that can hamper a normal way of life that they are inheriting from you. Dont take offence, perhaps you can recognise that you are one of the only ones that are scrubbing to this degree and its NOT normal or neccessary. If I were you I'd take this as a parenting red flag and scale back a bit. edited by Dubai-Mum on 21/02/2013 Well said Dubai-Mum! Couldn't agree more!
 
 

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