Daza | ExpatWoman.com
 

Daza

4062
Posts
EW MASTER
Latest post on 30 December 2012 - 12:56
If she has started developing then her period probably won't be far off. You should talk to her soon, I remember a girl at my primary school who got her period and thought she was dying because she had no clue what was going on. Reading a suitable book together is an easy way to do it. There are some good books at Kinokuniya (The Book Store) in Dubai Mall about growing up. If you can't find anything suitable then bookdepository.com has a huge range of books and deliver free within about 2 weeks.
4062
Posts
EW MASTER
Latest post on 29 December 2012 - 16:26
Hi DC My first two dropped their daytime nap at about 18 months and my third at about 2 years. They all went through a really grumpy stage when they did drop their sleep, exactly like you described with your son. I found it really helped to insist on 'quiet time' around their normal sleep time. They would have to go to their room and we'd read a book or two together then I'd leave them with a stack of books and dimmed light for a minimum of 20 minutes. I was careful to stress to them that they didn't need to have a sleep, it was just quiet time which generally stopped the 'I'm not tiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiired' tantrums. It gave them a chance to wind down a bit and also gave them a chance to fall asleep if they really needed it. Oddly enough my 2 3/4 year old occasionally picked an afternoon sleep back up a few months ago, he now has one maybe once a week but I still do quiet time most days to give him the chance to sleep if he needs it.
4062
Posts
EW MASTER
Latest post on 29 December 2012 - 13:09
Totally normal! It's lovely that you are so smitten with your baby. There are chemical changes in your brain that happen when you have a baby. As babies are completely helpless it is to help ensure that you stick around to look after them. The levels of what ever chemical it is gradually decrease as your baby gets older and are completely gone by the time they are about 2. Which is not to say that you stop loving your baby so much then, the chemicals are just to help you through the labour intensive sleep deprived first couple of years! As for how mummys go out to work, I know plenty that don't have a choice and hate leaving their baby. I also know just as many that love their babies just as much as the ones who stay home but like the added stimulation that work gives them. Also a few that go mad with boredom and can't wait to get back to work. Nothing wrong with any of the above!
4062
Posts
EW MASTER
Latest post on 28 December 2012 - 20:54
For winter Sandances I normally wear skinny jeans, boots and a loose top. You get the whole range from super casual to very dressed up at Sandance, I find casual and good for dancing works for me.
4062
Posts
EW MASTER
Latest post on 28 December 2012 - 15:28
My children don't have fb accounts but I put pictures of them on my fb and on our family blog. I'm with Anon, whilst I wouldn't set up their own accounts, I don't see it as vastly different to having their pictures on mine. Children are targeted by sexual predators when they are older and accessing fb themselves. A two year old wouldn't be doing this. I think my young children are far more likely to be targeted by a sexual predator who sees them out and about in real life rather than by some sicko who sees a picture of them online and tracks them down from there. I'm not saying it's impossible, just very unlikely.
4062
Posts
EW MASTER
Latest post on 28 December 2012 - 14:26
All good here srdoucet! I've got sausage feet and legs too. An icy foot bath in the evening is bliss.
4062
Posts
EW MASTER
Latest post on 28 December 2012 - 14:23
Hi TDB, it's great to hear that you are feeling a bit better. I've been checking the forum and hoping you were ok. Joining some mum and baby groups is a great idea, it really helps to have people going through the same things at the same time to talk to. It's such a shame that your friends are behaving as they are. I was the first of my friends to have a baby too but my friends were all wonderfully understanding, it would have been so much harder if they hadn't been. Just be honest with them, if they are really your friends they'll be there when you are ready. I feel like being a mum is the best thing in the world too :)
4062
Posts
EW MASTER
Latest post on 28 December 2012 - 14:15
This is the last thing you need at the moment TDB! There is two parts to this. 1) Your husband needs to put his foot down with his sister now. The well being of his wife and new baby come before his sisters desire to party. Her behaviour is not acceptable, she is using you with no thought to anyone but herself. 2) Your husband is undermining their parents authority. You have a daughter yourself now, if in the future you discovered that when she was going to stay with another family member they were allowing her to behave in ways you had expressly forbidden, how would you react? When I was in my 20's I was living far from home, supporting myself and my family had no say in my behaviour. However, this is clearly not the case for your SIL. She is still at home, still supported by her parents and they still have a say in what she does. When I was in my late teens my earlier teens brother came to stay with me a few times. We got up to all sorts of mischief that my mother would have been furious about. The difference is I was still a teenager myself, as an adult with a family of my own I would in no way let a younger relative come and stay with me and run riot. Good luck. As you're are rapidly discovering having a baby is a total game changer. This won't be the last thing you have to tackle and change.
4062
Posts
EW MASTER
Latest post on 28 December 2012 - 09:01
I'm so sorry for what you are going through hilsbils. Feeling alone in something is an awful way to feel. I've never been in the situation you have so it's hard to know exactly how I'd feel but my gut feeling says I couldn't forgo children for a marriage. I always wanted children and I don't think I could give that up for anyone. The thought of a future without children just seems incredibly lonely to me. I know it suits some people, but not me. Also, it's a pretty pessimistic view but I'd be so scared that I'd give up children to keep my husband then my husband would up and leave me anyway and I'd have lost both. We all have things we are willing to compromise on in a marriage, children isn't one of those things for me. I hope you find the answers you are looking for and can again see a happy future again.
4062
Posts
EW MASTER
Latest post on 28 December 2012 - 08:44
Another vote for The Hangover! I watched Crazy Stupid Love recently as I was home alone and had nothing to do. I'm not normally in to rom coms but thought it was fabulous, laugh out loud and I finally *got* the major swoon factor over Ryan Gosling. I also watched Home Alone with the children for the first time in years the other day. Was pleasantly surprised to find it was still very funny!
4062
Posts
EW MASTER
Latest post on 27 December 2012 - 18:42
It's good for a girls night but also for a fun date night..... head to the Madinat for dinner at Trader Vics then dancing at Jambase.
4062
Posts
EW MASTER
Latest post on 27 December 2012 - 10:30
Good luck Turkish, keep us posted how it goes. It will be worth the effort, after I finally lost the weight after baby #2 I felt so much better and couldn't believe I'd let myself feel so awful for so long.
4062
Posts
EW MASTER
Latest post on 27 December 2012 - 10:23
There is the clinic by the shopping center that should be able to do them. I'm not recommending them as I don't take my own children there, just letting you know where they are.
4062
Posts
EW MASTER
Latest post on 27 December 2012 - 10:12
I had something sweet with a cup of tea 7 times a day I'd be way more than 7kgs overweight! You've got a choice to make Turkish, you can either choose to continue to eat as you are and stay overweight and uncomfortable or you can make some changes and lose some weight. Only you can decide whether food or feeling and looking good is more important to you. Breastfeeding isn't an excuse to eat badly, I've breastfeed three children, with the first and third baby I still ate healthily and exercised and I lost the weight. With the second I was a lazy cake eating sloth and I was overweight and miserable for a year after having him. It's not actually hard to devise a healthy eating plan, I'm sure you already know where you are going wrong. Cutting out the 'must have' something sweet seven times a day would be a good start. It's not a 'must' it's just a bad habit you have fallen in to that you can choose to break or not. Good luck.
4062
Posts
EW MASTER
Latest post on 26 December 2012 - 23:24
Hi KittyKat72 I'm sorry you lost your baby last Christmas. I hope you get the answers you need from the embassy. I'm not too worried about my children who have been born here only being British by descent as their alternative passport is NZ which is still a pretty good passport to have for their children. However, I know SA and Zimbabwean passports aren't the easiest to have so I think it's very wise that you get a definitive answer on this from the embassy. I think in your situation I would return to the UK to have a baby if it was the only way of ensuring they would be entitled to a British passport. Good luck with everything.
4062
Posts
EW MASTER
Latest post on 26 December 2012 - 23:14
How have you been trying to lose the weight so far TurkishDervish? What is your diet/exercise regime at the moment? I don't think that protein shakes or tablets are the best way to long term effective weight loss. It's best to look at your overall lifestyle and make changes that you can maintain long term rather than go for quick fixes. Different things work for different people but for me it works to highly restrict bread/pasta/rice etc and eat mainly vegetables and pulses.
4062
Posts
EW MASTER
Latest post on 26 December 2012 - 19:04
The OP has said she and her husband are 'British by descent' which I take to mean they have British parent(s) but were not born in the UK. Both my parents are British but I was born in NZ, hence I'm 'British by descent' not 'British by birth'. It hasn't been an issue for my children as my husband is British by birth. My understanding of the situation is the same as Feefmicks and as she said, you need to take advice from the embassy.
4062
Posts
EW MASTER
Latest post on 24 December 2012 - 13:07
Agreed evelyn2000, I'm a bit fan of lying down feeding. It's how I've always done night feeds. Mmmmmm, the only tip or advice that I can give you is that your newborn seems completely normal and if that is her current sleeping/feeding pattern then you just need to roll with it and remember that it won't last forever. I think at 3 weeks she is still too young for serious feed/sleep training - although Gina Ford and others may disagree. The 7pm -11pm is a classic time for young babies to be awake, feeding and grumpy. All mine have been the same at that time, we call it the witching hours in our family. I'm currently 7 months pregnant and my baby is at his most active between those hours so I suspect this one will be just the same! One thing that I did when I had my first baby that I realised with later babies was wrong is that I was always trying to 'fix' things. In reality, they didn't need fixed, newborns are bone wrenchingly utterly exhausting little things and it's a phase that whilst feels like forever at the time actually doesn't last that long in the grand scheme of things. Have a wonderful Christmas and please try to give yourself a break and try not too worry. It sounds like you are doing a great job.
4062
Posts
EW MASTER
Latest post on 24 December 2012 - 11:33
Another poster said the same thing a few weeks ago. I have intermittent texts go missing to/from NZ. It's odd that the network seems so unreliable, I've never had a problem with Europe.
4062
Posts
EW MASTER
Latest post on 24 December 2012 - 11:29
Hi jc! First, Merry Christmas Eve :) Second, I think most men procrastinate in some areas whereas we women try to get all of our ducks in a row. I don't usually make general "gender" statements, but I think it has some truth. Especially when it comes to moving :) I can't think of a man I have ever known that has been on top of that! Like another said, job hunting is usually fruitless unless you're already here, then it's still tough. Completely agree Beebers. My husband was nightmare getting organised to come here and I was in the same country as him, if I hadn't been goodness knows how long it would have taken. In the end I just told him the date we were leaving and went and booked our tickets. Without that shove I honestly don't know if he would have done it, he was a lot more apprehensive than me and worried about moving to new country jobless whereas I'd done it before and knew it would work out fine. He job hunted for months before coming here and continually got told he needed to be here. It took six weeks for him to get a job once here, it was actually the first one that he had interviewed for when we were in the UK but they weren't prepared to make an offer unless he was actually here. Once the offer was made, he started the following day! The old adage you referred to Beebers is one of my mottos 'It's better to regret doing something than to regret doing nothing at all'.
4062
Posts
EW MASTER
Latest post on 23 December 2012 - 22:28
[b'>Adventure or insanity[/b'>? Don't see too many backpackers in this region, can't think why! It's a fine line! I've met a few people who have come over here young and stayed with friends while finding their feet. Admittedly, they don't look like I did in my backpacker chic days but they are doing the same thing as I did. They just look a lot better doing it.
4062
Posts
EW MASTER
Latest post on 23 December 2012 - 22:18
In Dubai a back pack and a ticket home won't get you very far in supporting another adult, let alone getting legal status and accomodation. You get a rubbish job (even they come with visas), a cheap shared rental and keep looking for something better. If it comes along, great. If not, at least you've tried. When I headed off overseas life wasn't about being financially secure, it was about new experiences and having a sense of adventure.
4062
Posts
EW MASTER
Latest post on 23 December 2012 - 21:54
Sorry to hear you are feeling angry and frustrated at Christmas time jcdubai. Do you have children? I think when you don't have the responsibility of children then you can fly by the seat of your pants much more but once the responsibility of family sets in it's a different story. Marycatherine, I moved to a new country when I was in my early twenties, I had a backpack of stuff and very little money. I figured as long as I had enough for the flight home then nothing ventured nothing gained. If it hadn't worked out I would have gone home having at least seen a bit more of the world. As it turns out, 13 years, a husband and about to be four children later I'm still over here and I'm still having a great time. None of it would have happened if I'd waited until I had a viable financial footing.
4062
Posts
EW MASTER
Latest post on 23 December 2012 - 21:38
Uh oh, I sometimes wonder if/when the broodiness stops, looks like I'm in a another few years of it yet. Are you feeling an actual need for another baby or rather a sadness that it's not likely to happen?
4062
Posts
EW MASTER
Latest post on 23 December 2012 - 21:28
I'd absolutely go! I'd love any excuse to see my brothers whether it was a first wedding or a third. It's about a 14 hour direct flight to Brisbane then a short drive north to the Sunshine Coast. I've been to Australia a few times, it's a great place to visit.
4062
Posts
EW MASTER
Latest post on 23 December 2012 - 20:22
That's a lovely thing to do Nomad. Sad news is always worse this time of year. I'm not feeling 'Christmassy' either. [b'>Had the decorators in[/b'> for what seems like months, not well planned! So didn't even bother with a tree, it would have been in the way, my excuse anyway.... Watching Kirsty and Phil's Christmas admiring their tree instead Haha! In NZ 'having the decorators in' is a common term for having your period. I just read your post and was sitting her thinking 'oh no, poor woman, she really should see a gynae' then realised that no, you really do have decorators in! Think my brain is slightly addled from queuing for three hours to see Santa at Wafi. Hope the decorators are done soon and you have your house back :) <em>edited by Daza on 23/12/2012</em>
4062
Posts
EW MASTER
Latest post on 23 December 2012 - 09:29
If they are on commission they aren't doing themselves any favours. I invariably walk out they lose the sale. I've also had it pointed out to me when I was pushing my five week old in a buggy that 'I hadn't lost the baby weight yet' and even worse, had another sales assistant ask my four year old son why he looked like a girl. When he didn't answer the brainless cow turned to me and said 'why doesn't he talk to me maaaam, why does he look like a girl?'
4062
Posts
EW MASTER
Latest post on 23 December 2012 - 08:28
I don't think there is any 'normal' with regards to bonuses. Some give money for Christmas, holidays or Eid and some don't. If you are happy with your maid and you can afford it then you might want to give a bonus, it's totally up to you. I give a one months salary bonus at the end of every year, five hundred dirhams at Christmas and a couple of hundred for birthdays.
4062
Posts
EW MASTER
Latest post on 23 December 2012 - 08:23
Whilst I agree that there are many people here who for some inexplicable reason seem to think that they are better than staff in the service industry and treat them awfully, there is also seems to be a higher proportion of extremely annoying behaviour by people in that sector working here. I've never been followed around a shop in my home country by a shop assistant who ignores my polite comments that I don't need help yet it happens frequently here. Beauty shops are the worst. In one shop the other day a shop assistant was closely following me suggesting items. I politely told him five times that I was just looking, I didn't need help etc etc. I ended up telling him to leave me alone and walking off. If someone had seen just my final comment they'd probably assume I was upstart expat treating him like dirt. If a shop assistant had behaved in the same way in my home country I would have reacted the same, if not worse. The difference is it's never happened there.
4062
Posts
EW MASTER
Latest post on 22 December 2012 - 23:14
Brandy Scott is from NZ, whenever camel toe is used there it in no way ever refers to the actual toe of a camel....
4062
Posts
EW MASTER
Latest post on 22 December 2012 - 22:46
I really feel for you TDB but please try not to worry, what you've described sounds like classic baby blues which will hopefully pass before too long. Keep talking to your husband about how you are feeling and make sure you talk to a sympathetic doctor if your feelings continue to get worse. After I had my first baby I felt a lot like you have described. I felt so overwhelmed with the burden of responsibility for the tiny precious life that was totally dependent on me. I was terrified that I was doing it wrong or I'd make an awful mistake and I missed work and my normal routines awfully. On top of that was crushing guilt that I had this perfect beautiful baby and I wasn't enjoying or appreciating that. Make sure you continue to talk to people about how you are feeling. I was too ashamed to tell anyone which I really regret, it wasn't until I did start to talk about it that I realised how common and normal my feelings were and there wasn't something wrong with me. If there is anyone making you feel bad about anything try not to take it to heart. Tell them you are exhausted and trying to get to grips with motherhood but you will be in contact and would love to see them when things have calmed down. If they can't accept that then they probably aren't people you need in your life anyway. I hope you are feeling better soon.
4062
Posts
EW MASTER
Latest post on 20 December 2012 - 18:31
Which restaurant?
4062
Posts
EW MASTER
Latest post on 20 December 2012 - 16:35
I'm old, boring and awash in kids but I like the beachy atmosphere at Barasti and there are always lots of 20 somethings there. Not sure on their Christmas plans though. Also might be worth checking out if Nasimi at Atlantis is doing anything.
4062
Posts
EW MASTER
Latest post on 20 December 2012 - 16:28
come round here, we get drunk!!! 7 months pregnant and extremely jealous!
4062
Posts
EW MASTER
Latest post on 20 December 2012 - 15:50
Another new question: how much are you paying, if you have any, for an Al Reem 3-bed + Maid one year maintenance package which includes a - 24/7 emergency call - regular maintenance of a/c (4/year) - regular maintenance of electrical fittings and plumbing (2/year) ? Thanks! edited by TopOfTheWorld on 20/12/2012 4000 AED with Al Hilal. On our second contract with them and always been happy.
4062
Posts
EW MASTER
Latest post on 20 December 2012 - 15:45
then put the iPad away until he is in bed. Agreed. No iPad apart from as an occasional treat at the weekend.
4062
Posts
EW MASTER
Latest post on 20 December 2012 - 15:09
Over the past year my nearly 3 year old son has probably enjoyed his red ride on plastic motorcycle from Geant the most of any of his toys. He uses it round the house, in the garden and out on walks all the time and loves it. Great for burning off a bit of energy too.
4062
Posts
EW MASTER
Latest post on 20 December 2012 - 12:52
My four year old says Aquaventure my six year old says Wild Wadi! My husband prefers taking them to Aquaventure, he reckons the lazy river and rapids are lots of fun with them.
4062
Posts
EW MASTER
Latest post on 20 December 2012 - 10:14
Hi srdoucet We're very similar, I'm nearly 30 weeks with my fourth baby who is boy #3. A few of my friends have had cords around baby's neck but it's worked out fine for all of them. I hope it's not causing you too much worry.
4062
Posts
EW MASTER
Latest post on 19 December 2012 - 23:36
My understanding of it......it's the same joint of meat. When raw it's called gammon. When it's cooked or smoked it's called ham. So if you wanted to cook from scratch you'd buy a gammon joint. In to the oven it goes and voila, out comes ham. However, you can also buy a ham (so already cooked) then glaze and reheat for serving hot.
4062
Posts
EW MASTER
Latest post on 19 December 2012 - 23:31
Welcome to the Ranches Scotchanddiet. Maintenance: Contract with Al Hilal, they can also do shelves etc - (ph) 258 4203 Water: Nestle - 800 4404 Gas: Don't use, plenty of trucks driving around though so should be easy to find someone. Car: Maid BBQ: Maid I've never been to a Ranches Ladies morning tea so no idea if it's worthwhile. Good luck with the settling in, hope you love it here as much as I do!
4062
Posts
EW MASTER
Latest post on 18 December 2012 - 16:27
Wonderful news TDB, congratulations!
4062
Posts
EW MASTER
Latest post on 18 December 2012 - 13:54
Whenever I order flowers for anyone abroad I google local florists in the area then either order online if any have websites or I call and order, giving my credit card details. I use my UAE credit card and have never had a problem. There are international floral companies such as Interflora but they just use local florists anyway and charge a premium.
4062
Posts
EW MASTER
Latest post on 17 December 2012 - 16:15
It's lower ground floor, almost next to the Organic Shop and Cafe - down the waterfall end.
4062
Posts
EW MASTER
Latest post on 17 December 2012 - 15:20
Artikel, that's it! Nice one Beebers. They shut down in Dubai Mall too but their Christmas shop has opened up again in the past few weeks, located in the same place.
4062
Posts
EW MASTER
Latest post on 17 December 2012 - 15:16
I don't know about MOE but there is a shop on the lower ground floor of Dubai Mall that only sells Christmas decorations and it is amazing. It's almost next to the Organic Shop, I think it might be called Iconic.
4062
Posts
EW MASTER
Latest post on 17 December 2012 - 15:03
Hi LeoBan I haven't had Post Embryo Transfer but I have had Primolut injections for other pregnancy complications here in Dubai. I've spoken to other ladies who have also had it here so it's definitely available.
4062
Posts
EW MASTER
Latest post on 16 December 2012 - 22:42
That's great to hear Lynn66, hope your Dad gets home ok tomorrow. KB75, the information I was given at a government clinic recently is that they don't accept direct billing from any private insurance companies but they do fill out forms for reimbursement. I'm yet to test it out as the doctor at the clinic I went to was unable to fill the form out as it needed to be done at the correct department at Latifa hospital.
4062
Posts
EW MASTER
Latest post on 15 December 2012 - 19:22
Don't worry Mmmmm, everything you've said sounds totally and utterly normal and Kiwispiers advice is spot on. At 2 weeks things are going to be constantly changing and generally the only thing you can confidently predict is that you can't confidently predict anything! The spitting up sounds normal but just check that you are winding her properly, I found with mine that if I didn't wind them properly they were more likely to spit up. My children all liked to be held to sleep when they were tiny. I got lots of the 'you don't want to make a rod for your own back' etc comments but I enjoyed them falling asleep in my arms and none of them had any problems getting off to sleep on their own once they were a bit bigger. You can't cuddle a baby too much.
4062
Posts
EW MASTER
Latest post on 13 December 2012 - 14:46
Marvellous plan TDB! Enjoy.