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8 Reasons to Get Married Later in Life

The average age of marriage has slipped over 30

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8 November 2020

8 Reasons to Get Married Later in Life

Marriage is a big decision - why rush?

If you go online and search ‘unmarried at 30’, the results make for pretty grim reading.

‘Women Told Us What It’s Really Like To Be 30 And Single’, reads one headline; ‘Why You Shouldn’t Freak Out If You’re Turning 30 And Still Not Married’ proclaims another; while perhaps the most telling of the lot reads: ‘Yes, I’m Unmarried and Over 30, Stop Talking to Me About It’.

The irony, of course, is that by loudly telling everyone it’s ‘OK TO BE SINGLE AND 30’, many of these pieces end up pushing us in the other direction.

Now, new figures suggest that, for the first time, the average 30-year-old is unmarried. Here’s why it’s fine to be unmarried not just at 30, but also considerably later…

1. You’re more likely to get it right

We don’t want to be negative, but couples that marry in their teens or early 20s generally have higher divorce rates.

This isn’t just because later marriages have fewer years to survive on the clock – the brain doesn’t finish developing until the mid-20s, and marriage is one of several areas where older, cooler heads tend to prevail.

8 Reasons to Get Married Later in Life

2. Your 30s are the perfect time to do the things you want to do

Many of us talk about living it large while we’re young, but when you’re in your 20s – moving out; establishing a career; generally trying not to panic – you’re not actually very well-positioned to do so.

During your 30s you’re far more likely to have the time and means to go on that trip you’ve always talked about, or enjoy a cheeky Thursday night out.

3. If you want to focus on your career, you can

Career progression takes inordinate amounts of effort, and your 30s are often the moment people push on or plateau. It’s perfectly fine if, for as long as it takes, the wedding bells are drowned out by the photocopier.

8 Reasons to Get Married Later in Life

4. Marriage is not something you want to rush into

Rushing marriage is like rushing your food – it may taste the same on the way down, but you’ll regret it when you get indigestion. No one just ‘gets married’, and if there’s no one you want to walk down the aisle for, you shouldn’t be thinking about the church.

5. You don’t need to feel pressure to have kids

Popular culture is full of not-even-very-subliminal messaging – particularly aimed at women – telling people that 30 means baby time. Thankfully, 30th birthdays are not marked by the immediate onset of menopause: Have children when you’re ready to have them, not when headlines tell you to.

8 Reasons to Get Married Later in Life

6. Weddings are really, really expensive

The average cost of a UK wedding, according to a survey from Hitched, is almost £30,000. Think how many weekends away and nights out with your mates that would cover.

7. You should completely ignore ‘the list’

Everyone who watched that Friends episode, The One Where They All Turn Thirty, will be familiar with ‘the list’ – a general rundown of things that someone wants to have done by the time they turn 30.

Get promoted at work, score for Manchester United, own your own house (sorry, that last one got a little silly) – invariably some targets will be missed, and an existential crisis ensues.

Life is a journey with no end destination: Bin the list and get married when you want. And, if needs must, score your first goal for United when you’re 35.

8 Reasons to Get Married Later in Life

8. You’ll learn that you’re totally ok on your own

Marriage is not the be all and end all, and it’s liberating to realise that you’re quite enough as you are. You’ll be able to give more of yourself to any ensuing marriage if you know that you don’t have to take.