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Latest post on 27 October 2011 - 21:01
Its not just omega 3's - its Omega 6's as well. It is a very good suggestion. Look up the Oxford Durham study and the Adelaide study for the reasearch findings
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Latest post on 27 October 2011 - 21:01
You do know it's illegal don't you?
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Latest post on 27 October 2011 - 20:16
I wouldn't panic....is it affecting his learning? it could be many many things...eg dyspraxia, or auditory processing BUT he is still very little - he may just have a developemental lag. I would advise against too much internet research, there is a lot of mis-information on the internet and you could tie yourself into knots. Rather than looking for a name, look at things, strategies that can help with the behaviours. I would be asking the teacher what she can do, within the class to help with these behaviours. remember he is still very little - it the states the recommended age for assessment is 7 and in the UK is it 8years I believe (though some professionals will do it earlier). OT can help with fine motor skills, and I also I believe the organisation skills may be helped with this? There is a very good book called "the way of boys" that talks about these developemental lags, and how esp in the early years of school they are not developmentally ready for what is being asked of them, there is nothing "wrong" with them, they just have not got "there" yet. there
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Latest post on 18 October 2011 - 20:12
Kid vs kat - I left you a message elsewhere, we used snoopy pets - they were fab, and co-ordinated everything. The pick up from the cattery in Dubai, the blood tests and the quarantine in the UK. You pay them a fee and they co-ordinate, but we had to pay the cattery and the quarantine facilty ourselves. I think that is what makes them cheaper. HTH
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Latest post on 07 October 2011 - 20:35
lax2dxb - I have really mixed opinions about your post. How old is your daughter - and what is her training? Yes it sounds like the child your DD is involved with is very difficult, but it does not sounds as if she has any idea what she could and should be doing to help him.......how I feel about what you have written, would really depend on the age of the child....but to me it doesn't sound like the school, or anyone around him is doing anything to help him...yes he may have some issues that can not be dealt with at school, however most probably, he feels completely out of his depth for some reason, has he just moved here, is he an english is a 2nd language child, is he like my son, who had a language delay, and because of that had huge frustration over communication issues........and yes behaved appalling at school. he also had a teacher who decided he had aspergers and ostracised him from the class, therefore compounding the social issues, resulting from the speech delay. You and you daughter need to do some reading.....I know I have really educated myself, boys in particular can have very "ragged" developement and regress terribly, just before they make a significant developemental leap, like acquiring language, or learning to read (do you want me to quote my sources?). Most boys "catch up by the time they are 7-8....What amazes me is that so few teaches educate themselves, but then profess to be experts. Saying a child shouldn't be in school, because she has experience with special needs children. Well I don't know anyone who has experience with special needs children who would clear the room and leave them throwing stuff around...that doesn't teach the child anything, infact it probably reinforces the behaviour as he got what he probably wanted....to be left alone. I am sure your DD means well as do you, but teaching isn't a sanitised experience where all the children come into the classroom, face the front, keep there hands to themselves, and are perfect angels, they will at times lose the plot, hit, behave like little monsters...the upside is of course, when you see the change in them..... the other thing is the "shadow" culture in Dubai.....where any child that doesn't fit the mold, has to have a shadow,....which sets them apart, and generally they end up being a glorified phillipina maid and the kids learn nothing, and end up further isolated, less well socialised..... Don't get me wrong there are definate times when a shadow is required - in cases of Autistic children, who have high sensory needs etc. I am not saying that the boy in question doesn't need help, but for the most part, that is the idea of school, to not only look after the academic, but the social side as well, and he made need some outside help....but marginalising him will probably only create more problems for the future.....
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Latest post on 07 October 2011 - 00:20
selma - you won't be able to bring your car over - they drive on the "other" side of the road in Dubai......
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Latest post on 07 October 2011 - 00:10
Hi lolitta, I have the same problem my dd who is 4 years old is having behavior issues at school. The school have found a shadow for the 16th, however I have to keep her off school until the shadow starts... Any advice of a good behavior therapist would be great. I really need to look at another school for year 1 but what kind of report will she get.Any good school suggestions please.....We really need to deal with this cddsmum - see my post below, I can't recommend Sheda at reach out (knowledge village) strongly enough, she was amazing, really believed in DS, and he is doing amazingly this year. But really, you also have too look at the school, and specifically the teacher.
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Latest post on 06 October 2011 - 13:03
or her email address FIONA COUTTS <[email protected]> But if is behaviour that you are needing to tackle - maybe talk to reachout (based in knowledge village), they may have someone who could work part time in the classroom, to help him. I have never encountered so many shadow teachers, or the apparent need for them, as there seems to be in Dubai....
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Latest post on 29 September 2011 - 22:54
AMW - your post made me so wild, angry and frustrated - your son is being bullied - lets call it what it is - he is systematically being targeted and the school can't/won't do anything about it!!! The answer is you pay for a shadow? You are just basically being asked to give the teacher a teachers assisstant b/c the school have taken it away. The school should be putting someone in the class to sort out who is targeting your son, and putting a stop to that. The reason it winds me up is that this happened to my son at 2 schools in dubai, and the schools/teachers are so soft on it. It is not acceptable. By all means get your son the help he needs - and I can't recommend Sheda enough, she taught my son to stay away from the boys who were taunting (is best friends in the class ended up the girls for that reason), she taught him to manage the change and transition, and to not explode in relation to the taunting. But you need to demand of the school and the teacher that the bullying is stopped...it happens to much in dubai that children that are a little different, maybe have a developmental delay (my son had a speech delay - he has now caught up) - are picked on - the most vulnerable and the schools do nothing.... Sorry for the rant, but obviously as a parent who went through 2 years of this, it really really makes we wild.
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Latest post on 28 September 2011 - 23:44
Monsta sponsers live out - so I am sure if you email her she will give you costs. When our maid went home for a month - I rang around the agencies...whereas the year before they had been flexiable, this past year they were not....I think you will find it cheaper to sponsor a live out....you will need to make it clear to her, that she can only work for you, as with such short hours she may be tempted to freelance, which is a big no-no. Also it means you can develope a relationship with her with your family - she will learn how you like things done...no matter what the agencies said, we laways ended up with diff people, so I was always showing them where things went, how we wanted things done.....it would have been faster to do it myself, which isn't the point..... i also wanted consistency around the kids....not a whole parade of different people...the same person in the house...hope this helps!
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Latest post on 28 September 2011 - 23:23
Well the first thing is - if is to help him, then you want someone who is properly trained to do this....are you sure you need a shadw and not someone like a behavioural therapist? From what you say, is he ok in the structured times in the class and it is just the unstructured times that he ends up "out of his depth" ? From what you have said and Shadow seems a little extreme....it seems to be the first thing dubai schools suggest..... Here are 2 suggestions from me - firstly, if you just want to organise a shadow and be done with it - Fiona coutts (search her on the forum - her contact details will come up), she can help you find a qualified one. OR - our son had social issues relating to a speech delay, he also really didn't cope with moving to dubai and became very angry and frustrated,. plus was bullied in our compound.... Anyway we worked with Shada at REach out in knowledge village - amazing results, and if you are getting nowhere with Kidsfirst, I would try and see her. She worked with DS one on one at home (it ad to be during school time so he missed a little bit at the beginning of the day), and then at school - it really helped him. It was money very well spent...she was also a great go between with us and the school - she was seeing things in the classroom that were exacerbating his behaviour...he was being taunted/baited into anti-social behaviours...the school should have been on top of this - but sadly they weren't. So for my money I would start with reach out...but there are two options.... and I found kidsfirst hopeless too...... DS had OT and speech therapy at Dubai community health center.....I gt spots because I harrassed them - rung them every week, and asked if anything had come up....picked up Backhti's card and got in touch personally.....unfortunately in Dubai, it is very much - its the squeaky wheel Reach out can also assist with finding you an appropriate shadow...but expect them to ask why it is necessary....for that matter Fiona probably wil too. <em>edited by Mrs Laughan on 28/09/2011</em>
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Latest post on 07 July 2011 - 22:35
K12 is the only recognized homeschooling program in the UAE - lucky for you it's American curriculum based, so then you would be able to transfer into a school when you got a spot. They are based at knowledge village and I believe the mums that use them are generally happy. I know FJCrruiser used them... Not sure if she still does
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Latest post on 30 June 2011 - 22:29
I think either Moomoo or half-moon emailed me ....but I can't find the email, can you email me again, so I can send you the kinestheisiologist's contact details?
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Latest post on 25 June 2011 - 10:05
I am not sure I can explain it- lots to do with reflexes, that you have as a child that are not fully developed, and linkingthe right and left brain.... I think "brain gym" may have grown out of it. If you google "educational kinesthesiology" lots of stuff will come up, including some video's which are interesting. I am never sure about posting individuals contact details so email me on mrslaughan at gmail dot com I know she is away for the summer, but if your interested I am sure you could set up an appointment for when she is back. There is also another kinesthesiologist at the osteopathic center on Al Wasl road beside the choithrams - I have no experience of her, but the osteo I go to there has said she is good.
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Latest post on 24 June 2011 - 22:14
Hi ms champion, my son is not as ethers, but has had a language delay and associated behavioral issues, so I know how difficult schooling is in Dubai, if you have a child anywhere outside the "norm" and the "norm" being very narrow here. My first thought is that you need to get in touch with Fiona Coutts.... She is an education consultant, so helps families find schools for their kids. A big part of her business is relocations, but she has a special interest in children with special needs. She knows what schools do it well, and she knows the best way to approach those schools. It doesn't come cheap, but she will be your sons best advocate. Their are children on the autistic spectrum in schools in Dubai. In my son's class there is a boy who is autistic ( with a full time shadow) - he would not be consider aspergers, definitely autistic. If you search Fiona Coutts on here , her contact details should come up....I know she is going away in a couple of weeks.... With ABA -we did some work with a behavioral therapist from a center that does ABA...reach out in knowledge village . I have to say they have dealt with us with absolute integrity....and been very quick to reduce DS therapy , as and when he has been ready, really felt they weren't all about the cheque..... Also wanted to make a comment about BILD....contrary to what's written on here, they are not a school, they do provide educational services, but are not a registered school, had dealings with them, for a very short time, and have to say, didn't feel they had the integtrity we would expect.... Also the head therapist, I thought were good, but the junior therapist we took DS too for speech, I felt was woefully inexperienced and ineffectual. The other thing I have just done is taken DS to a educational kinestheisiologist.....it was really to help him with his pronunciation, anyway thought this lady was incredible......very insightful, and given us lots of "homework". Anyway also noticed on her business card that she is something to do with sensory integration.....
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Latest post on 22 June 2011 - 21:12
They need to actually go down to the municipality.... When guiness lost her dog ( I believe) she had let them know, but they had her dog, and had put her up for adoption. Also if you go to the pet forum( you may need to dig through) you will find numbers for the vets and places like DARC...all of whom they should contact.... There is not a central number for the microchip, so you need to make it as easy as possible for them.
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Latest post on 15 June 2011 - 20:14
Lakes maeen 1 Funny about the deema one with the substation that you mentioned BMAP, that sounds like one we looked at back in January.....surely it still can't be empty......
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Latest post on 15 June 2011 - 18:57
Hana specializes in the lakes, don't think she is Turkish, DH thought Kuwaiti? She would be about our age..... BMAP - ours is a 5 bed ( 4 up, 1 down, which we use as a study) and within your budget. It might be described as. A bit tired, but you may be able to persuade the landlord to paint it...... We have loved living in it, lve the layout n the community.
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Latest post on 15 June 2011 - 17:44
Hi BMAP - we may be moving out of our villa in July...not sure yet, but should know in the next couple of days. Why don't you email me on Mrslaughan at gmail dot com and I'll let you know? Also who is your agent? we used Hana and she was amazing...I could also pass on her details if you wish Cheers Mrs L
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Latest post on 13 June 2011 - 15:58
You should go and talk to immigration.....YOu won't be able to do visa on arrival, you will need to organise the visa before you go. They have just become a lot stricter and as she is your nanny, you (I very much doubt) will not be able to get a visit visa, you will need to apply for a work permit....I have just done this for our housekeeper and a lot is involved. It is possible to do, just a lot of forms and a lot of info....are you a NZ'er? not sure if it makes any diff or not..... Also has she been with you a while? these are all things that seemed to factor into our application.
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Latest post on 10 June 2011 - 07:29
It reminds me of when I first arrived ( well had been here about 6weeks), I was heavily pregnant, about 34 weeks(the size of a small hippo) - anyway in spinney, at the counter getting some hummus and this women rams me with her trolley.....I look at her stunned, and she says in a very posh British accent "well you were in the way" wTF!,,, yes there were lots of people, it was busy, so you ram the pregnant women...my response was "well as you speck English, a simple excuse me would suffice", she just turned around and headed in the other direction. There were some ladies in abaya's on the other side of me and they just shock their heads in disgust.......I always think of that when I hear that "locals" don't always appreciate the expat population...as parts of the expat population don't always behave in the best manner, and I would quite happily drive them into the sea......
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Latest post on 09 June 2011 - 08:32
I think that means she should be able to withdraw money from any cash machine...it is basically a direct debit card....so she won't be able to use it in shops here. It will have a visa or mastercard symbol on the back?
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Latest post on 09 June 2011 - 07:32
HI lemondrops - hope you are reading your thread on the babies board :) I also wanted to add that DD started great guns on solids - I was so relieved!!!...and then she decided that she wasn't having a bar of it....she would clench her lips and jaw shut when she saw a spoon.....:( I know it is along way off for you - but when she got to about 7 months, and could eat on her own...she took off...big peices of penne with bolognese sauce, big chunks of roasted veges esp sweet potato......she now eats really well A lady on the other thread, has talked about oral aversion, which I found really interesting...as I too went through oatches where DD would not drink anything during the day, and only feed at night My heart goes out to you, it really does - big hugs...
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Latest post on 08 June 2011 - 18:30
Hi lemon drops - oh I feel for you, I had very similar thing with DD, though not as bad.... She would only feed from a dropper, for a long time, and the dr's would not listen to me, so I know what the despair is like. also went through phases of feeding her in her sleep. Have you thought about an osteopath? It would need to be one specifically trained in treating babies....that seemed to help DD.... We took her to Lauren at the osteopathic center on al wasl road. Also Accupuncture - I have no experience of this with children, but I have used it slot and really believe in it. The other thing is kinesthesiology.... I didn't do this with DD...as I didn't really know anything about it, anyway it's all about reflexes, I have taken DS to see one recently (here) and it is amazing, I just have these very fun things to do with him and some massage, and the difference in him is HUGE...anyway I know she works with babies...so maybe worth talking to her...... If you want her details email me mrslaughan at gmail dot com
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Latest post on 07 June 2011 - 18:51
thanks for your offer tally-ho...yes he is only 6.......not sure of area's yet.....i'll come back to you when I know more.
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Latest post on 07 June 2011 - 17:19
OK - so his teacher at the last parent teachers said 3 days out of the 5, DS is just like any other child. and 2 days out of 5 he doesn't have a great day....having said that, I know in class we are having trouble with him being taunted by the other boys, so really don't know what to think. Quite happy to keep paying for SLT and OT (His fine motor skills need some help) privately....just want to find a school that will help him to flourish. His reading and writing is coming along really well....he is one of the best readers in his class.
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Latest post on 07 June 2011 - 15:36
whats a "statement of needs" and who does that?
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Latest post on 07 June 2011 - 15:10
thanks boomerang...we will be looking for a mainstream school, but one that understands SEN...in a year he more than likely won't be described as SEN (with the right support)...but he is not their yet
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Latest post on 07 June 2011 - 12:43
THanks Sugarbeach - yes it is overwhelming, and I don't know london at all - I have been there for 5 days on business, and spent most of that in a conference room. I think at this point we are going to look to live outside london. To the other ladies - DS has a speech delay, which is down to only 6 months, he has not had great school experience here, his reports are not going to be great. We will need to find a supportive and understanding school....and as I don't know London, its education system or anything about it...we thought we would enlist some help. The school is our number 1 priority. Also DH got the call yesterday, and to make this move as easy as possible for DS, we would like him to start school in september,...but we are on the other side of the world for 6 weeks over summer, so all things considered, we might get some help.
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Latest post on 06 June 2011 - 13:30
I know what you are going through meals. Last year because DD was still so little, I based us at my mums.... It was good not moving around, but although I love my mum...never again. This year we have hired a house for the time we are at home.... I may do a few more little trips, than last year, but I am not moving here there and everywhere , my in-laws seem quite capable of traveling whntg want to, so they can come to s, and are welcome to stay with s.
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Latest post on 05 June 2011 - 21:51
OK - sorry, I can see my post would make it seem I was opposed to it. I know in many cultures mum's are often present. I think I am a little tired to be succinct, but here goes. What I objected too is this faliacy that men can't cope with the whole birth thing, which is very wrong. Also that the husband didn't get a vote, b/c he wasn't pushing a watermelon out of his vejayjay, nd would never be asked too.....my dad was not allowed to be present at the birth of any of his children, and it was the greatest regret of his life, he truly felt cheated. The OP's title says she wants her mother as her birthing partner, that tends to imply at the exclusion of the husband, .... While I agree it is important she feels comfortable, let's face it, birth is just the first step at parenthood......I personally think it would be wrong to start the journey subjugating the dads roll. No matter who is in the room, the baby will arrive, and the OP will need to parent it with her husband, he should get a say, how they resolve their differing opinions will be dictated by their relationship.....
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Latest post on 05 June 2011 - 16:13
mpp_jl - I think you are being really unfair, sexist and I don't know what else (Victorian maybe?)...video's are nothing compared to the real experience. DH nearly passed out during the anti-natel class when they showed the video...and that was in the first 5 min!!! Hadn't shown anything really...However in the delivery room he was amazing. I had a VERY fast labour, my OB hadn't arrived, it was just the midwife and the room was not set up. He helped deliver DS, Not what was planned. He was amazing, basically there with the catchers mitt so to speak. So to say they don't know what is involved and can't hack it - well I find that attitude hugely frustrating and unfair. Nenni - this is a very special thing for your DH, and maybe, and quite rightly he is worried he will be sidelined in something that should be about you 2 creating a family. Also I think you need to ask yourself why you want your Mum there so stongly? Is it because you don't think he will cope? I don't think that is very fair.....Is it if something goes wrong (god forbid)? If its that, then the last person you should be listening too is your Mum, you should be listening to the medical professionals and then you and your husband making the decisions together..... I think you just need to think about why you want her there....and you need to address your fears - before the birth. I had both mine without epidural...both times I would have loved one but they were too fast. Anyway - yes it is painful, but you need to confront that head on, and allow yourself to have the power to deal with that...the mind is an amazing thing....the other option is you say, I don't want any pain and have yourself hooked up to an epidural at the first twinge......the most capable hands you will be in is the medical professionals- not your Mum. Maybe you husband doesn't want to start fatherhood playing second fiddle to his MIL - I get that.
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Latest post on 05 June 2011 - 11:55
we have a miele - I think it is quite energy and water efficient, as they go...also expensive...wouldn't be without one, but I guess it depends how much you hate washing dishers...;)
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Latest post on 05 June 2011 - 11:53
there is an article in 7 days today, that Nad al sheba vets, needs cardboard for parrots that they are looking after....maybe they have one that needs a loving home.
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Latest post on 04 June 2011 - 22:04
We used her, found her great. Wish we had got in touch with her sooner. Good luck!
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Latest post on 31 May 2011 - 21:52
Hmm mm you probably need to do a little research first, well with the nursery that is.. DD is going next year, they have just allocated places, but my understanding is there is quite a waiting list - you my get lucky though. Your not going to be able to "do a few hours" - well actually you can, but your only option is to pay for 5 days 8-2 I asked around and people seem very happy with it, but when looking for a nursery for your LO, look at a number of options, look at what hours suit, if the school has the same educational philosophy as you, if you like the "feel" of the place, then go to forums, but find out if you actually like it, andit suits your needs.
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Latest post on 30 May 2011 - 11:57
We homeschooled DS for awhile...the issue you are going to have (rules may have changed but this was as of NOV last year) is the transfer cert, which both your kids will need. So you will need to have them enrolled in a recognised home school system, and the only one that is recognised here is the K12 program, which is american curriculum....so if you enrol them that , you will be able to get a transfer cert....your next hurdle will be meeting the requirements for changing from the USA curriculum, back to the UK curriculum, and the KDHA put quite strict requirements on that. It can be done, but you just have to be prepared for it and know where you stand.....so you really need to check this out fully before you embark on this.
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Latest post on 26 May 2011 - 07:54
Dr John (mcewan) is fantastic....0501493445
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Latest post on 25 May 2011 - 06:20
Yes it does seem to be something that happens a lot here. DS birthday, people who said they were definates didn't show (no call), and some who didn't RSVP showed up. DH birthday, where we were having a catered dinner party a 1/3 didn't show, which really peed me right off
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Latest post on 24 May 2011 - 21:01
I always wanted 3, but we have 2 and that is where it will stay, as DH is adment that is where it will stop. DS is 6, and DD is not quite 18 months. You know I think it depends on your children's personality. DS is a sensitive wee boy and the arrival of his sister really strengthened for him the sense of family and belonging, for him it is what made a family, mum, dad and a sibling. And when I watch them together, it just makes my heart melt, they adore each other, and even with the age difference have a lot of fun together. When I found out DD was a girl, to be honest I was disappointed as I loved having a boy...I loved his boyishness, however I would not trade my daughter for anything. We struggled to have a second, and DD was not an easy pregnancy - lots of worry, so I am just relieved I have 2 healthy and happy children.
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Latest post on 24 May 2011 - 20:53
I am sure I saw it. Couple of weeks o at the bookshop at the spinneys center on al wasl road
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Latest post on 24 May 2011 - 17:35
Thanks for your support ladies. I just felt so bad for it. It had been in intensive care for 4 hours, receiving treatment, so I am guessing it had been given fluids, and its nuero signs weren't improving. They described the poor little things leg as smashed. I very much doubt it would have been run over again b/c of where it was (it had got itself behind one of the barrier things), but hopefully it was comfortable and frolicking over rainbow bridge......
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Latest post on 24 May 2011 - 14:34
Sorry ladies...I just spoke to the vet...and it is going to be euthanised. It's leg was very badly broken apparently, but not only that, it apparently appeared to have very bad brain damage....it did not have control of its functions.:( So although a hard decision, I think it is the right one, the vet was not even sure if it would survive an anesthetic....very sad, but it least it will pass away peacefully and painfully rather than slowly in the carpark. Very sad :(
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Latest post on 24 May 2011 - 13:38
So today I was loading the kids in the car at spinneys, when I was approached by a local man asking for milk, turns out it was for a kitten, turns out kitten was in bad shape. He said he wanted to take it home, but was off out, and thought it just must need a drink, so I said do you have a box anything, and I will take it to the vets. The kitten didn't have any obvious injuries but was lying b/w 2 cars. Anyway he gave me his newspaper, which I would say he had just bought, I put in my car and took it too the vet. It did cry out once, but really just lay panting most of the time. Anyway got it too the vets, they say to me - so you just want us to put it down, (bearing in mind that I have left the kids in the car - who are sick), and this is all new to me....not knowing what I am dealing with I say, well not if it is just dehydrated or something (the vet wasn't available)...anyway i have just spoken to the vet (who is not a native english speaker - so things weren't that clear)..she said they have given it some injections to make it comfortable, it has some neurological signs (I don't know what that means just concussion or brain damage?), maybe a broken leg, she said maybe it was clipped by a car...so it will depend on the internal injuries...it is just a matter of wait and see. OK - so should I be saying euthanise it? I can't take it in - I have 2 cats who don't get on (plus DH has said 2 cats is it). I can pay medical costs to a point.....I can ring feline friends, but have a feeling they will say they are full....do I just need to toughen up? DS has said it can live with him in his room......I am kicking myself on one hand for getting involved, but I couldn't leave a distressed animal lying in the car park.....
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Latest post on 23 May 2011 - 14:31
Lanelle Chapmen...I found her very cold, but she is meant to be very good, she does all the testing....but be warned it is expensive. Or a nutritionalist? I have never really had food battles with mine...so to me I would say definately have him checked out, as for the food thing to have gone on so long....having said that an aquaintences child was like this and it turned out to be attention seeking...which seems a little extreme
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Latest post on 23 May 2011 - 14:20
Stick to your guns....you may decide that in future it's not a suitable consequence, but the important thing when you give a consequence that you stick with it, and it sounds like you have found one that he won't want to miss out on. On another not, have you had him checked out to make sure there is no "medical" reason for not eating? an intolerance (you'd go to a homeopath for that) or an allergy?
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Latest post on 22 May 2011 - 12:25
He used to be our Vet, and he was fab, but he has left, which I knew he was planning on doing, but surprised to find out that he had gone when I had to take Max in.
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Latest post on 22 May 2011 - 12:25
So any other suggestions...?
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Latest post on 22 May 2011 - 11:49
So our wonderful vet has left Dubai, and I am not enamoured with his replacement. Our current vet is a bit of a trek to go to, so it seems time to change. Any recommendations?
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Latest post on 22 May 2011 - 11:48
So - don't panic - our cat isn't, but he has been in a massive fight. Anyway Vet, when I took him in to be treated , rang me and said she would like to do the test, I agreed...her next statement was "if it is positive, what is your decision"....honestly it floored me, my initial reaction was there is no way we would have him put down, until it started affecting his quality of life. When I picked him up I got a little bit of a lecture about how if he was positive, he should be put to sleep (fortunately he was not)....anyway, she wasn't much for the education, so I wanted to know, if you lovely ladies have thought about it, and if so, what would you do?
 
 
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