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Latest post on 25 November 2013 - 21:57
In the perfect world, you would all be able to spend some time together, and I have read that many families are able to do this, where step children, step parents and biological parents all spend Christmas together. Failing that, I do think that this mother should be able to have her daughter for Christmas day. You do have your children with you. But my husband won't have all of his children with him, once again. FYI my step daughter is my child in every way that matters.
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Latest post on 25 November 2013 - 21:55
I always feel sorry for the kids in these situations, they are usually stuck in the middle not wanting to upset anyone and feeling like all the fallings out/bickering/problems are their faults. As it is the season of good will and you mention the mother will be on her own, would it be possible for you to invite her over for Christmas breakfast with you all then she could take the daughter home after. All you adults have one thing in common, you all love the girl deeply, I'm sure the best Christmas gift for her would be to see you all getting on together. This could be a good starting ground as the future will bring many occasions where you will all be there to support her, it is much better for her that you do these things together as a united front. Please don't feel sorry for my little girl, she is wonderful, very happy and completely oblivious to the fallings out that sometimes occur, she think's we're all friends, lol! It's simply not possible to do as you have suggested although I can see how that would be a nice solution.
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Latest post on 25 November 2013 - 21:52
How would you feel if your DD lived in a different country from you? Would you think it was fair for her to spend Christmas morning with her dad (that she spends the rest of the year with) while you say on your own? Well I would never give permission for my children to go and live abroad so that's really not relevant. We are not responsible for her life choices so the fact she will be on her own is unpleasant but not our fault. Would you feel the same if the roles were reversed? If a mum moved away with her child, did all of the usual day to day stuff of looking after her, loving her, getting her to do her homework, looking after her when she was sick and the dad (who readily agreed to the move) refused to pay child support, insisted the mum paid thousands of pounds a year in flight costs and then went on to insist he have every single xmas morning? I think not!
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Latest post on 25 November 2013 - 21:24
I think it depends on her mothers situation. Will she be alone when her daughter is not with her, or does she also have another family? No she doesnt, which we are sympathetic towards and has played a large part in our desicions to date. However is that reason enough for us to miss out on every xmas morning?
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Latest post on 25 November 2013 - 20:22
Yes we did and her mum chose to agree to the move.
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Latest post on 21 October 2013 - 11:55
I am struggling to find any info, other than the schools website. Do anyone's children attend this school? Are you happy? Thanks.
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Latest post on 07 October 2013 - 20:16
I may be able to help. what is your email address?
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Latest post on 07 October 2013 - 10:45
Legally none, if I had a muslim maid I would give some additional days off around Islamic holidays, likewise a christian some extra days around easter and christmas.
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Latest post on 07 October 2013 - 10:22
Thank you!
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Latest post on 07 October 2013 - 09:40
Bump. Am getting desperate, would be much appreciated.
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Latest post on 06 October 2013 - 20:25
Please could you share the number for your gardener? Im really struggling to find someone. TIA
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Latest post on 01 October 2013 - 09:20
Not sure where you got the idea I'm not going to be doing anything?? Thanks again for all the replies, will update later.
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Latest post on 30 September 2013 - 18:59
Not sure if you can get these on youtube but we like Dexter, The Mentalist and are about to start Breaking Bad.
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Latest post on 30 September 2013 - 18:57
Thanks for your replies, it's interesting to see such different perspectives. I will talk to her and update you all.
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Latest post on 15 September 2013 - 18:09
ok i will phone them tomorrow, thank you.
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Latest post on 15 September 2013 - 17:44
I have a lovely 8 month old desert cross who we adopted fom k9 when she was 4 months. Im having a terrible problem with her growling at and biting my children and i just cant keep her. Shes so sweet with me, would never growl or bite but has snapped at the children too many times now. If anyone could give her a loving home (obviously with no young children) please let me know so we can talk further. Shes totally house trained and really very good natured, most of her problems seem to be around eating. I really dont want to return her to k9 for fear she would remain there for a long time and she really deserves to be with a loving family, just one without young children. I will post on classifieds too. <em>edited by batgirls gal on 15/09/2013</em>
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Latest post on 03 September 2013 - 17:29
Which school does your son go to? Are you needing help on a morning or afternoon or both?
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Latest post on 20 August 2013 - 16:20
Yes, she does. What do you think about her staying in on her days off?
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Latest post on 20 August 2013 - 15:58
There's chinese village 044474403 :-)
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Latest post on 08 June 2013 - 15:14
Did the show start on time and approx what time did it finish? Also, how long was the wait for a taxi afterwards? Thanks edited by Yorky on 08/06/2013 Just read on another thread that it finished approx 11pm so just need to decide if we get a taxi or drive? edited by Yorky on 08/06/2013 Started on time, from 8-8.25 support act, then a break for 30 mins, then finished about 10.20. Taxi was ok.
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Latest post on 08 June 2013 - 15:13
We were shocked at how rude so many people were, massive crowds were still waltzing in at 8.20pm - talking! We literally couldn't hear the supporting act. We were sat in the front row of the Grandstand seating though, you should be ok if you're slightly further forward because of where the walkway is. People were up and down all throughout the show - nothing like a theatre in the UK where the comedian would rip you to shreds if you got up part way through. Not a pleasant evening, I stark reminder of how ignorant and self obsessed so many peopl out here are and I'm talking about western expats. His jokes were all old material I'd already heard on Live at the Apollo repeats out here. I wouldn't go again if you paid me.
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Latest post on 05 June 2013 - 15:52
very gentle bump for batgirl. Could you send more information to my email? Is you car the one in the classifieds? Hello, sorry been doing the school run my email is mileage is 140000 fully serviced by the dealer, it's not on classifieds yet, have just decided to sell and haven't advertised at all yet. Speak soon.
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Latest post on 24 May 2013 - 13:17
[ wow... do people really do this ?? Agree Pikachu, I find it very condescending and disrespectful that people think they can treat human beings this way. This whole thread is bordering hysteria if you ask me. I totally disagree. If you have spent close to 10000dhs on sponsorship fees, then the maid breaks the contract through stealing, mistreating children, etc then you need to get them away from your home and end your liablity towards them in the quickest, safest way. If a maid works hard, doesn't break her contract then of course it would be totally inappropriate but in some instances it is the best thing to do. The OP (maids forum) was about the maid not mentioning she had left the house to see her sisters. Not about stealing or mistreating children. And even if a maid does, that is no excuse to sink to the same level. We shall have to agree to disagree
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Latest post on 24 May 2013 - 12:49
Thanks for that and again glad you have Sandy back.
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Latest post on 24 May 2013 - 12:47
[ wow... do people really do this ?? Agree Pikachu, I find it very condescending and disrespectful that people think they can treat human beings this way. This whole thread is bordering hysteria if you ask me. I totally disagree. If you have spent close to 10000dhs on sponsorship fees, then the maid breaks the contract through stealing, mistreating children, etc then you need to get them away from your home and end your liablity towards them in the quickest, safest way. If a maid works hard, doesn't break her contract then of course it would be totally inappropriate but in some instances it is the best thing to do.
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Latest post on 24 May 2013 - 12:33
Yep, unfortunately have been there and was absolutely the right thing to do. She went crazy and it would have been a terrifying journey if we had told her before we set off.
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Latest post on 24 May 2013 - 12:28
Yes immigration will look after her if you're early. Does this mean she doesn't know she is going and you are planning on telling her when she's about to leave for her sisters house? If so it might be better if you could send her on an errand (perhaps to the shop?) then pack for her whilst she's out, put the suitcase in the car, then when she gets back from the errand just say you're all going out and tell her she's going just as you pull up to the airport.
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Latest post on 24 May 2013 - 12:19
Hi Grassgreener, been following the thread and so happy for you that all has ended well. I was hoping you could give more information about the carers house being broken into? I live in Warqaa 4 and am a little concerned after reading that. Do you know how they got into the property and if they were caught?
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Latest post on 22 May 2013 - 21:05
I believe Gems Royal Dubai School has FS1 places for Sep
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Latest post on 22 May 2013 - 18:33
just to clarify, you can do the entire cancelation at airport Victoria, thats why the office is there, if they are busy it could take an hour, but like I said, they are very accommodating and helpful, if her flight is ages away they are able to keep her there also (mean I know, but this is what they are there for, emergency situations like this). edit to add, for anyone else with issues, if you bring a maid in through an agency they would normally deal with all this if its within the first 2-3 months. edited by Purple on 22/05/2013 I wasn't aware it could all be done at the airport, makes it much easier
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Latest post on 22 May 2013 - 18:00
Your husbands employer is talking rubbish. I have done this a few months ago, go to a typing centre/immigration (bin sougat will be very busy maybe try jafilliya) with her passport, dh passport and visa papers ask for her visa to be cancelled. You then have 30 days to send her home. I think it is very unlikely you could get her on a flight tonight, it will take a while at immigration so probably best to book a flight for tomorrow. When you go to the airport check her in as usual, then at security explain it is a cancelled visa and your dh will have to walk through to get some paperwork stamped. A few days later take that stamped paperwork to immigration at Jaffiliya and get your 2000 deposit back. No way would I pay her any money owed, put it toward the price of the ticket (that is what I did), nobody asked her if she was owed any money and I honestly think they would have just told her to be quiet if she had tried to complain about it. You are already out of pocket on a wasted visa, it is her own doing and you should not feel bad for her. She sounds awful, it is a horrible experience for you but will all be over in a few days.
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Latest post on 19 May 2013 - 10:56
Where are you up to with the visa? For me that would make a difference. If you haven't completed and paid the 5000 yet just send her home. End of. If you have finished the visa I would sit down, tell her, you are unhappy because of this, this and this. (including not interacting well with your dd and saying good morning) tell her she needs a complete attitude change or she will be going home as there is no job in your home for someone with her current attitude. Then walk away, give her a few days and see if it's worked. If she doesn't change I would send her home you do not need a maid (who you are paying to help you) behaving in this way.
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Latest post on 29 April 2013 - 16:09
do they actually man handler her on to the plane? i mean what if she does a "tom hanks"? No the staff at immigration said that sometimes they refuse to get on the flight, are unable to leave the terminal as they don't have a visa anymore and just stay in the terminal for a few days until they realise they have no choice. However if that happens I believe you lose the deposit and it is used to pay for another flight.
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Latest post on 29 April 2013 - 15:36
Personally if I need my maid to work on her day off she'll be offered either the day before off or the day after.
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Latest post on 29 April 2013 - 15:20
I had this exact experience 2 months ago. Go to any immigration with her's and the sponsors passport and ask for it to be cancelled. That bits simple. Do not tell her she is leaving until you get to the airport, I packed up my maids room and put the suitcase in the boot whilst she was out then took her to the airport, once there I told her she was going (because she'd stolen cash several times) and then she went crazy!! Wouldn't move, flung herself on the floor crying and shouting. Had to threaten to call the police but in the end managed to get her inside, I would not have liked to have told her at home and then had to endure the car journey with her hysterics. Then checked her in at the desk, walked with her to security, explained the situation to the staff and then my husband had to walk through with her and an immigration guy, they went to a desk where the cancellation paperwork was stamped and then she was taken through. Then you take the stamped paperwork and the deposit receipt to the main immigration centre in Jaffiliya to get the deposit back.
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Latest post on 19 April 2013 - 12:38
You would need to specify which country you are from and where you are getting divorced (if indeed you are married). Every country has different laws but most western countries do not automatically give custody to anyone and both parents have equal rights. I would advise you get out of the mindsight 'of legal control' you should be trying to work together with your ex (and he with you) to raise your child together even if you are no longer with each other. Joint residency should be the first option if it is at all possible.
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Latest post on 14 April 2013 - 15:09
I also think the younger she is when you tell her the better. She will have more time to get used to the idea before she hits the angst years. She will probably use this info against you then anyway. Teens tend to turn everything into a tragedy starring themselves. Im not sure you can win this one but you can try. Whats most important is that she thinks you are cool with it now. If she senses anxiety from you about her reaction then she may feel anxious and insecure about the news or decide you expect her to be upset and act accordingly. If I had to impart something like this then I would do so when she is in a happy, confident mood. Take her aside and tell her you have decided that she is old enough and mature enough to hear something you having been saving for a time when she can better understand it. This should be flattering- they all want to be seen as grown up. It is unlikely that she doesnt know that mom+dad=baby but she doesn't need to know details yet(she probably knows more than you think) Ask her if she feels safe and happy at home with 2 parents then tell her she is doubly lucky because she has a special Dad who chose to be her daddy instead of just the usual family setup. Then let her ask questions about her birth father whom Im presuming doesn't feature in her life at all. What you tell her should be as boring as possible. Not scary, negative,romantic or sad- just dull. Kids this age are quite self absorbed and still have short attention spans. Most likely she will hear you- be a bit grossed out having to contemplate parent goings on- then want to do something else. Perhaps you could keep the talk short- ten minutes tops- so she isnt overwhelmed with too much info or emotion from you. Don't let her feel you are sorry for her or yourself or that it is or was a huge issue in your life. If you treat it as a normal thing- she will accept it as such. Don't make a fuss over her afterwards either or she will figure out its a topic she can use to her advantage (theyre so clever and dont always play fair) The likely scenario is that she will skip out and carry on as if she never knew different leaving you wondering what on Earth you were all wound up about. Of course she will think about it at times in the future- as and when something reminds her or if she has questions but then you can just field these as they happen to give her more clarity when the info is needed. She will manage. Dont worry too much. Kids are very hardy creatures and as long as youre fine she will be happy and balanced. How does your husband feel? Maybe he would like to be there too? I would tell my daughter first in private and then have Dad in the next room to come in and give her a hug afterwards- but thats our family.Dad isnt big on scenes. Im sure whatever you decide to tell her, she will be fine. Try not to worry.Easier said than done I know.x I think this is great advice, I would keep it casual.
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Latest post on 05 April 2013 - 18:27
Thanks very much :-)
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Latest post on 05 April 2013 - 18:26
Thanks very much :-)
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Latest post on 01 April 2013 - 23:41
Thanks guys, the vet thinks she's a desert cross should that be cause for concern? I assumed that any dog brought up in a nice home, around children would be fine? I know puppy's snap and play but that was really not what she was doing today, she was really scary!! Do you think that kind of aggression can just be a one time thing? Because if it happened again when she got bigger she could really hurt someone. <em>edited by batgirls gal on 01/04/2013</em>
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Latest post on 01 April 2013 - 23:24
Thanks for the replies I will ring K9 tomorrow for some more advice. Dogcatcher - K9 actually suggested we get a pup so she would be used to the children. She was certainly not playing with my 2 year old she was being extremely aggressive and when I tried to take her outside she bit me, it was so out of character as she's normally very laid back and sweet. I do not want to give her up but am very concerned about what could have happened had I been in a different room when this happened. <em>edited by batgirls gal on 01/04/2013</em>
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Latest post on 11 February 2013 - 18:04
Does botox hurt?? :-)
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Latest post on 29 January 2013 - 16:56
LOL yes I did see sense, sometimes you just have to read what you've wrote to realise! Do you think it would be a police matter or would they not just tell us to go to RERA?
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Latest post on 28 January 2013 - 22:26
Thanks, kind of knew it wasn't the done thing but it's so annoying! Will definitely email him, like has been suggested.
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Latest post on 28 January 2013 - 18:51
Thanks for that, much appreciated
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Latest post on 28 January 2013 - 16:59
Thanks for your replies. I found some other threads on here after I posted and it all sounds pretty good, just need to be careful about DEWA connection it seems as we are looking at a newly built place, thanks again!
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Latest post on 31 December 2012 - 23:24
Thanks everyone but what happens if she just walks back out after check in?
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Latest post on 31 December 2012 - 19:12
Thanks that's helped alot
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Latest post on 31 December 2012 - 18:54
Anyone? Please?
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Latest post on 31 December 2012 - 13:51
Her visa is cancelled and she's flying tomorrow, what do we need to do at the airport, is there an immigration counter we need to go to? Does anyone know what we need to take with us? Thanks so much
 
 
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