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Latest post on 06 September 2014 - 08:17
Glad it was caught early FairyDust. Would you mind sharing the name of your doctor please? I recently went to see a dermatologist about a mole and he was very dismissive. Would be good to see a doctor who takes such things seriously.
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Latest post on 05 September 2014 - 20:51
Hi LMAO We went to Thailand two summers ago and stayed [url=http://thechavaresort.com/'>here.[/url'> At the time our children were 2,4 and 6 and it was perfect. The apartments were lovely, the pool was great, the food was excellent and the staff couldn't have been more helpful. The beach is a short walk across a reserve opposite and there were lots of restaurants within strolling distance. The Surin Beach area is quite small, upmarket and laid back. Can't recommend it enough, despite the age of our children and the fact I was pregnant we managed to have a very nice relaxed easy holiday.
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Latest post on 05 September 2014 - 15:22
Dinner tonight.......chocolate. Yes!
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Latest post on 05 September 2014 - 15:18
I have offered to help her find another job but she said she doesn't need my help. edited by MollyMooMoo on 05/09/2014 In light of this I think you are over thinking things. At the end of the day she is a grown woman who is perfectly capable of making her own decisions and obviously has been doing so for decades. She's not a naive young girl you need to look out for. I would sit down with her and tell her what you have been told about Kish on here. Tell her the exact date her contract ends and tell her that on that day (or a few days earlier if another day suits you better) one of three things will happen. 1) She will have found a new job and her new employers will have started the visa process so you can cancel her visa and you are no longer responsible for her. 2) You will take her to the airport and cancel her visa and she will return to the Philippines on a one way ticket. 3) You will take her to the airport and cancel her visa and she will go to Kish on an open return ticket. Once she leaves you will be no longer responsible for her and you will not be able to help if things don't go to plan in Kish. It will be more expensive to book a flight on the day if it comes to that but at least it will be resolved. If no flights are available she will still need to exit through immigration and wait on standby until a flight comes up. If it comes to that it's the price she pays for not getting organised. She says she doesn't need your help so take her at her word on that. Tell her that cancelling her contract with you and her end date is non negotiable. You won't give her extra days to sort it out past the date you have given her. Don't give it any more thought and get on the the huge task of relocating and worrying about your own family. Provide her with an honest reference if she asks for one.
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Latest post on 05 September 2014 - 10:23
Just to add, it's nice that you are trying to help this lady but you really shouldn't feel obliged to. In any job if someone had only been there a short while and been a less than satisfactory employee their boss wouldn't spend their own time and money helping them find a new job. For a good employee yes, especially a long standing one but in your situation no.
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Latest post on 05 September 2014 - 10:15
I'm not an immigration lawyer so this is just my understanding rather than fact but I having just done the process I think she has two options for re-entering via Kish. A) She can re-enter with an employment visa, for this option she will need a new sponsor who will have to provide her with the necessary documents before she leaves. B) She can re-enter with a tourist visa. For this she will need a relative living in Dubai who has sponsored her tourist visa. This will need to be obtained before she leaves. ETA - she can't risk leaving before this is approved in case it is turned down, if this happened and she was there she would be stuck. If she doesn't have either an employment or a tourist visa she will be unable to enter the UAE and would either be stuck there or fly home. She can't just fly to Kish and sort things out from there. She must have her paperwork in order before going or she will be stuck. An maid agency isn't an option right now due to the ban. <em>edited by Daza on 05/09/2014</em>
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Latest post on 04 September 2014 - 21:40
Totally agree with Lola. If she actually wants to provide a better life and education for her children she will get her act together and get another job, there are so many available due to the ban. If she can't be bothered you can't be responsible for that, you have enough on your plate.
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Latest post on 04 September 2014 - 17:32
Water sorted, the maintenance guys turned it off and forgot to turn it back on. I did have a mild panic when faced with a beetroot juice blender and no water. Thursday is all the excuse I need for a takeaway!
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Latest post on 04 September 2014 - 17:05
Anyone else in Alma without water?
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Latest post on 04 September 2014 - 17:04
Sorry Tattie, when it comes to getting just the right shade of blonde my tree hugging tendencies go out the window. A girl has limits :)
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Latest post on 04 September 2014 - 14:25
ooh - its F1 this weekend - and it looks like rain; exciting. Rain here? Or Monza?
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Latest post on 04 September 2014 - 13:55
Repton and Foremarke are the same thing. You should google them VERY carefully first... Same owners but there is a pretty hefty fee difference!
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Latest post on 04 September 2014 - 13:01
I'm really surprised to read this thread because I know a lot of Australians and I don't think of them as being particularly advanced academically ... Since it's Thursday....which nationalities do you think of as academically advanced? Your own :D ?
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Latest post on 04 September 2014 - 11:29
Husband away so I'm going to spend my evenings on the couch watching Grey's Anatomy, hurrah! Other than that, term time activities are all starting so I'll be ferrying children around.
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Latest post on 03 September 2014 - 17:14
Another question - is Coconut oil and flour available here? Keep seeing recipes, with those ingredients included, online? I've found Biorganic in Tecom has the best range of coconut flour. They have several different varieties, all good. It is also stocked at Organic Foods and Cafe, they are sometimes out of stock but I think they have it at the moment. Coconut oil is available in both places, I buy mine from Greenheart though.
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Latest post on 03 September 2014 - 14:14
Is it something maids do once they have a new visa and they have you over a barrel perhaps?! Not in my experience, no. She is taking the micky, you are absolutely right in telling her if she had an issue she should have raised it before you renewed her visa. Would you agree to a contract renewal then badger your boss for more money a month later? I know I certainly wouldn't. How much money you have is absolutely none of her business, I'd furious if our maid tried to guilt me in to giving her more money on the basis that she is poor and I am not. She's not a charity case. <em>edited by Daza on 03/09/2014</em>
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Latest post on 03 September 2014 - 12:09
I'm pretty sure Decathlon at Mirdif City Center does it.
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Latest post on 03 September 2014 - 11:53
Totally worth the money!
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Latest post on 03 September 2014 - 11:52
Ok, I guess I'm in the minority here. But I know I'd rather have been raised by my mother - no matter where or how - than by anyone else and I assume that's the case for most people. That is, of course, if your mother is a kind, sane, loving person... Exactly. Rosemary West was a mother.....
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Latest post on 03 September 2014 - 11:50
The great thing about newborns is that noise doesn't bother them, they can sleep through anything. Obviously blaring music is out for little ones but general noisy chatter is fine. It's easier with a newborn than with a toddler running amok! We did a Arabian Ranches Golf Club Christmas Day Brunch a couple of years ago. We had about a gazillion children including a newborn and it was good. I think it's a great idea to go out, you can have a nice time, leave when you want and not feel any pressure to spend time cooking when you are exhausted.
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Latest post on 03 September 2014 - 11:45
:D forgot to ask about price??? how much that costs? 4950 AED. I checked worldwide prices in case it was cheaper to pick it up when I was home but the price is more or less the same everywhere.
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Latest post on 02 September 2014 - 21:02
Good for you SarahN :)
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Latest post on 02 September 2014 - 20:55
It sounds very much like she is not yet ready for potty training. It doesn't matter what your other children did, she's her own little person and will do things at her own pace. I know it's hard not to but try not to compare :) I would take the potty away completely to give her a break from the stress of it. Put the potty back in the bathroom in a month or so but don't say anything about it or pressure her. She will start to take an interest and let you know when she is ready. She is still young, there is absolutely no need to push her and if you do you could well end up doing more harm than good. If you relax about it, so will she :) <em>edited by Daza on 02/09/2014</em>
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Latest post on 02 September 2014 - 16:45
I've got four children, three of them are at school and one home with me - I don't work. We live in a four bedroom townhouse. We are all out the door at 7am during the week. Our live in maid starts work at 7.30am and works until 7-7.30pm with two hours off in the middle of the day. She has Fridays off and starts at 9am on a Saturday. She is responsible for all the housework, laundry, ironing, washing our two cars once a week, keeping our garden tidy (dusting outdoor furniture etc, not any gardening) and occasional evening babysitting once my children are in bed. She isn't responsible for any cooking or caring for my children. It seems completely reasonable for your maid to have time to help in the morning and with cooking. If she is struggling sit down and work out a schedule for her then tell her exactly what you want done when. To be honest, I wouldn't ask for her input when you are working out the schedule, just decide what suits you best then let her know what is expected.
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Latest post on 02 September 2014 - 15:54
Don't know if this is the same as Shellac--but I agree. Much less ado compared to tips and acrylic as well! Yep, same same.
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Latest post on 02 September 2014 - 15:30
One of my friends used to bit her nails down to the quick and had her whole life. She stopped completely once she started getting Gellish done on her nails.
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Latest post on 02 September 2014 - 15:28
If you put 'food intolerance test' in to the search function loads of threads will come up. Generally not great feedback.
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Latest post on 02 September 2014 - 13:44
I've been looking especially old and haggish lately so decided to give the Boots Protect and Perfect range a whirl as there has been a lot of hype about how good it is. Surprisingly enough, after a few weeks of use I have noticed that the fine lines around my eyes have reduced. I haven't morphed in to Rosie H-W but I do think I'm looking a bit perkier in the eye area.
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Latest post on 02 September 2014 - 13:29
Chanel has a range called sublimage...it's divine...you should try it... oh really, I like the sound of this too.....[b'>is it expensive[/b'>? It's Chanel! They aren't known for their bargain pricing.....
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Latest post on 02 September 2014 - 11:04
Super quick to clean, much better than a food processor. It's stainless steel with no hidden nooks to make cleaning tricky. For sticky stuff you can add water to the bowl and give it a whizz which cleans everything off. Every part of it apart from the blade can go in the dishwasher too.
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Latest post on 02 September 2014 - 10:53
It has a 2 litre maximum capacity. I'm not sure what your second question is but you can make margarine in it, you can also make butter and whip cream.
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Latest post on 02 September 2014 - 10:19
The Marriott in Deira is great for toddlers. You can request a table in the children's play area so you don't need to move to keep an eye on your little one. The Ibn Battuta Gate Hotel is also good, you can get a table next to the children's area too.
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Latest post on 01 September 2014 - 18:13
Yes! It's worth every dirham. I use mine many times a day every day. You can do everything in it and it makes it so much easier to eat healthily. I make everything from scratch so I know exactly what we are eating and how much salt, sugar etc is going in to our food. It also means I go to the supermarket less as I can just buy ingredients in bulk then make as needed. Because it stirs as it cooks it means no standing over the hob stirring, you can just get on with whatever else you are doing. It also saves time by chopping vegetables, I can have a big bowl of finely chopped coleslaw done in six seconds :) No more onion and garlic hands either. Can't recommend it enough, there is a brilliant website recipecommunity.com.au that will give you an idea of just how much it can do.
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Latest post on 01 September 2014 - 14:26
You do not need to cancel her visa. Give her 10 days "sick leave", let her sort out the mess and let her return, unless you want to go through the whole process again to get a new maid. She is just human who did a stupid mistake (love sometimes does this to a person). edited by blokkop on 01/09/2014 What if she wants to keep the baby? You can't just assume she doesn't.
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Latest post on 01 September 2014 - 11:18
As she has already been to hospital and they assured me she would not be reported as she is married, I will wait until tomorrow. If her hcg levels have increased then I will know she is lying and I can send her away with a clear conscience. From googling, it appears that very rarely you can retain a non developing embryo for a prolonged period of time and hcg levels could remain the same (but not increase). I fear that I am probably being ridiculous and do realise that more probably than not she is 5-6 weeks along with a developing pregnancy but I would rather wait a day and find out for sure either way. On a side note dh was not in the country 5-6 weeks ago, so that wouldn't wash even if she did go down that route. That's great, at least you have some breathing space to deal with it. Good luck.
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Latest post on 01 September 2014 - 11:10
I am well aware of that. I'm just saying - it's a consideration. But what is the alternative? What would you do in this situation? How is it possible to ensure she is going somewhere safe? The OP needs to provide her with a flight home, what she does when she gets there with regards to her husband and her baby can't realistically be the OP's responsibility. She can have the baby or not, she can tell her husband or not.
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Latest post on 01 September 2014 - 10:53
That's not. BUT as a 'human-being' it would be responsible to make sure she at least is going somewhere safe. And everyone seems to forget the innocent party - the child. Honestly some people are so heartless. The responsible thing to do (for all concerned) would be for her to leave the country so at least she can't be jailed for her mistake. It may not seem 'fair' but we all know the rules when we move here and we abide by them or take the consequences. The reality is she can't be here pregnant with an illegitimate child. If she has problems and needs medical care she will be reported and her husband will find out. The longer she leaves it to go home the less likely it is she will be able to hide it from her husband. It's horrible but what other choice does she have? What would you honestly do? Keep her her and risk her being jailed? What if she requires medical care but doesn't miscarry - she will end up giving birth in jail.
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Latest post on 01 September 2014 - 10:18
It's understandable that you want to believe her but stop and think clearly for a moment. Which is more reliable, the word of a woman who is no doubt terrified and has every reason to lie or two very reliable medical tests which have both reached the same conclusion with regards to the length of the pregnancy? Don't do any more tests and stop dithering. To protect your family and indeed her, she needs to be on a flight, today. As much as that feels like a dreadful thing to do it the consequences of her staying here could be far more dreadful. Yes she will have to face her husband in her own country but she is going to have to do that at some point anyway, at least this early on she might be able to get away with him not finding out. If she stays you also run the risk of her taking matters in to her own hands with regards to ending her pregnancy. If something goes wrong and she ends up in hospital they will be obliged to report her. <em>edited by Daza on 01/09/2014</em>
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Latest post on 01 September 2014 - 10:02
I think a lot of people are going over to the blender option, because with juicing you throw away so much of the fruit/veggies and it's such a waste. Plus they're a pain to clean. Agreed. Plus it's not just the waste, it's so much healthier to blend the whole fruit/vegetable rather than just extract the juice. The fiber in the pulp is not only good for you, it fills you up. By contrast if you are simply juicing (fruit especially) you can end up taking a big sugar hit that doesn't fill you up. I use my Thermomix to blend, it's great.
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Latest post on 31 August 2014 - 14:03
hangs head in shame - does oz hgave strict / lax laws? (thought you were kiwi) edited by IzzyOnTheSeat on 31/08/2014 They got a lot stricter a few years ago after a mass shooting - the risk of dying by gunshot fell 50% as a result. I am a Kiwi but credit where credit is due to the Aussies!
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Latest post on 31 August 2014 - 13:53
Just look at US / UK gun crime figures then you wil see that stricter gun laws do work. Or look to Australia.... http://hereandnow.wbur.org/2014/07/10/australia-gun-laws http://edition.cnn.com/2012/12/16/opinion/australia-gun-laws/
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Latest post on 31 August 2014 - 12:01
It doesn't sound ridiculous at all Diamonds86, it's common to lose your confidence after a baby and something I have struggled with too. It sounds like you might need a bit of help dealing with your feelings. Could you see a counsellor, on your own this time, not with your husband? It's a horrible way to live feeling so unsure of yourself all the time and it's so easy to lose sight of who you are after children. Talk to your husband. Confide in the two friends that you used to do play dates with. Your youngest child is still only six months old, things will get better.
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Latest post on 31 August 2014 - 11:28
When you say you agreed a time and day but it just never happened, what do you mean? Did you not turn up or did she not turn up? Please don't take this the wrong way and I don't want to upset you when you are already down but not being in contact is a two way street, did you also apologise to your friend for not being in contact? And was it her having to work around your schedule, when you are free etc? It sounds like maybe you were the first to have a baby and you expected people to work around you now you are the first to have a second baby so again you expecting people to work around you. Aside from the friend issue, need to work on making yourself feel good again. I find eating well and exercising regularly make a massive difference to how I feel. I make a big effort to eat well and I make time for exercise. It can be such an effort when you are tired but it is worth the lift it will give your mood. I walk with the double buggy in the morning and exercycle in from of the TV as soon as my children are in bed. Most nights I'd rather just collapse on the couch when they are finally in bed but I make myself do it. And it's worth it. These things might not work for you but find something that does make you feel good and put the effort in to do it. With no help you can't go out in the evening with your husband but have occasional nights at home when you cook a nice meal, dress up a bit and talk. Or play cards or scrabble. You don't need to leave the house to make time for each other.
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Latest post on 31 August 2014 - 10:51
Hi Diamonds86 I'm sorry you are feeling like this. Is it possible that because you are down it is slightly skewing how you view things? You say they invite you over for children's birthdays but you don't feel like going and then that it is upsetting because it is always you making the effort. If they are inviting you over then they ARE making an effort, if you want to try to salvage the friendships you need to accept invitations when they are offered and then reciprocate with invitations of your own. Have you actually invited your friends over to meet your new baby? A proper certain date and time invitation, not a vague 'you must come over sometime' type invitation. I know it is hard when you are exhausted with small children and everything seems like such an effort but if you are trying to save floundering friendships or make new ones then really do need to try hard. Ask people over for a meal, you can always order takeaway if you are too tired to cook. Organise to go out in the evening with your girlfriends while your husband stays home with the children. It can be a herculean effort to get yourself glammed up and out in the evening but it is worth it to have some adult time with your friends, to talk about something other than children and to get a chance to finish your sentences without interruption from small people. I agree with Izzy, you do need to stop using excuses and be a bit more flexible. You say you have no job and no time to go to gatherings but if you aren't working you DO have the time, you just need to make the effort and reorganise yourself so you can find the time. The more you isolate yourself the more you will be isolated.
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Latest post on 31 August 2014 - 09:12
What skills do you have? My step-sister works from home doing a proof reading service. You obviously need strong language skills to do this though.
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Latest post on 29 August 2014 - 15:56
Yes I would, as I barely sleep on a flight anyway. And if I recline, I only go back a little bit. I usually keep my seat my seat up as I don't really find reclined seats comfortable! As for my own leg space comfort, I pay a little extra and get the emergency exit seat. edited by Marroosh on 29/08/2014 If you found reclined seats more comfortable you might change your tune ;) I find reclined seats much more comfortable so I recline on long haul. Travelling with four children is enough of a handful without making it worse :)
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Latest post on 29 August 2014 - 15:42
Hahhaa good on you! Some people are just so rude and selfish! If I am on an overnight flight, I understand people want to recline their seat to get some sleep. I always check with the person behind me if they are still comfortable, I want to be comfortable so expect others behind me to want the same. What would you do if they said no, they weren't comfortable? Would you keep your seat up? Even if the person in front of you was sleeping with their seat reclined and you wanted to lie back to sleep? I just accept being uncomfortable as part of flying economy. I keep my children occupied and insist they behave and be quiet. I walk my baby around endlessly when he grizzles. I put my seat back up at meal times. Bit I won't keep my seat fully upright for the duration of a long haul flight because the person behind me might feel cramped. I put my seat back, I expected the person in front of me to put their seat back and the person behind me can do so too if they want more room. I know it's worse for tall people but my husband is 6'3" and he has never complained about a reclined seat in front of him.
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Latest post on 28 August 2014 - 20:36
Welcome! It might be a bit much if you are still acclimatising but you could try the beach before breakfast or in the evening. Beach clubs often have good deals this time of year, with chilled swimming pools it's easy to cool down. The water parks are fun, Wild Wadi, Aquaventure, Dreamland etc. Sharjah Wildlife Centre is good, my children are the same age as yours, they really enjoy it. Just wait, the weather will cool down soon and there will be loads to do and explore. The mall will be a distant memory in no time :)
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Latest post on 28 August 2014 - 19:59
Courier? Surely no-one in their right mind would agree to carry 'stuff' for a total stranger to Thailand? Sounds like a one way trip to the Bangkok Hilton....
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Latest post on 28 August 2014 - 15:16
Did you read the comments on the article? some of them are unbelieveable. Andrea from Buckingham - how large is she that when the man front reclined his seat his head was in her lap? She's either huge or exaggerating.