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Latest post on 04 May 2014 - 18:07
The ban is due to fruit flies coming in with the mangos potentially damaging salad vegetables growing in the EU. They don't pose a health risk to people and the discount is due to there now being an over supply rather than they are selling off food that shouldn't be consumed by humans.
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Latest post on 02 May 2014 - 14:48
Carters has some really cute things for little boys. I wouldn't worry about MERS unless you are planning on doing your shopping on a camel farm :) Dubai Mall and Mirdif City Centre both have great feeding rooms.
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Latest post on 02 May 2014 - 14:43
Good to hear KateRob. From talking to other mums I think it's something most little girls get at some point. Easy to freak out over but really nothing to worry about :)
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Latest post on 02 May 2014 - 13:04
Hi KateRob Have you checked she is wiping correctly, front to back? My 8 year old daughter sometimes gets irritated and get a bit if a discharge if she forgets and wipes back to front. Little girls can also get thrush which causes a discharge and needs cream to clear up. I don't think you need a gyny straight off, just take her to a normal paediatrician.
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Latest post on 02 May 2014 - 11:54
Hi Namtyy I'm sorry but I don't think there is anything you can do. If the father of your baby is residing in the UK he can't be made to support a child residing abroad. If he is residing here I'm not sure what the law is but in any case it won't apply to you as you weren't married. Could you contact his parents or any other of his family members to see if they could appeal to his sense of responsibility? He is already not speaking to you so you've got nothing to lose.
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Latest post on 02 May 2014 - 11:40
I got a beautiful white flower girl dress for my daughter from Monsoon.
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Latest post on 02 May 2014 - 10:58
I don't have access to shoplifting statistics in Dubai. However I think store security is possibly less obvious in the West than it is here so the perception here is that is heavier I was recently speaking to someone who works for a big high street clothing brand. They told me that stock shrinkage is on average 40% higher here than in London. They said that the loose clothing often worn here makes it much easier to conceal and steal clothes. Before anyone jumps on me I'm not saying that any one nationality is to blame, just that anyone intent on theft can wear clothing that makes it easier for them to do so and they won't stand out. As for the security guards, I'd guess that there are so many here for the same reason so many people have maids - cheap labour.
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Latest post on 01 May 2014 - 16:25
Daza - you are very right - I have to be consistent and firm. My friends believe that I am too kind and that's why my maids take advantage of me and thanks for the advice about the checklist. I am going to start one now. Don't forget you can be firm with someone whilst still treating them with kindness and respect :) Good luck sorting it all out.
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Latest post on 01 May 2014 - 16:20
Has an apple every night which he eats REALLY loudly. It makes me feel like going all William Tell on him, especially when I'm trying to watch Game of Thrones.
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Latest post on 01 May 2014 - 12:34
My maid was also not pleased with her aunt as the aunt tried to make her work on her off day and then told her to lie to me. Too much drama.... But it sounds like you are getting involved in the drama? Why are you even speaking to your maid about her squabbles with her aunt? She is still new and you need to redefine the boundaries of your relationship.
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Latest post on 01 May 2014 - 12:22
Write a 'to do' check list of things your maid is not doing and have her tick them off each day as she does them. Put it where she will always see it to remind her. Further to that, you need to be consistent. You told the aunt you won't be speaking to her again yet you have. If you are going to make a threat you need to follow through on it on your maid won't take you seriously, about anything. Also, don't 'scold' your maid. Tell her firmly and fairly what needs to happen. I've never scolded a maid or anyone else working for me, I save the scolding for my children.
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Latest post on 01 May 2014 - 12:15
I feel sorry for the children when they grow up knowing that their mother didn't work hard on herself for their sake.. yes addiction is not easy.. but so is growing up without a mother because she oded.. i agree with Izzy.. selfish.. At the risk of being lynched I agree So do I :( What a horrible needless waste.
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Latest post on 30 April 2014 - 13:05
Three-second 'rule'. . edited by LadyBee on 30/04/2014 The 'three second rule' in our house has gradually become the 'brush the ants off and stop complaining rule' :D Love your post LadyBee.
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Latest post on 30 April 2014 - 12:29
I respect people's choices and don't disagree with hiring domestic help. That said, I don't agree with the sentiment that life for working mum's in Dubai is so different to elsewhere in the world. I'm a working mum too but my husband and I manage without both maids and nannies, as we work hard to avoid that, believing that it is best for our daughter to be looked after by us, not hired help. I also get a certain [b'>pride[/b'> from managing to look after or home and cook our own food - I honestly don't want anyone else doing that. So, based on my own situation I know that it's possible to be a working mum and not rely on domestic help, although I respect that other prioritise differently. Good for you Miss Issipi. I take pride in paying our maid a salary that far exceeds what she could ever hope to earn in her home country, that supports her family and that has provided opportunities for her siblings that they otherwise wouldn't have been able to afford. Of course I also love that despite having four young children my house is spotless and I have the energy (just!) and ability to enjoy the occasional fun night out with my husband :)
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Latest post on 28 April 2014 - 19:36
refuse. Get her to return her passport, then tell her she needs to finish her contract, or she has to pay for all costs incurred. In theory it sounds good but in reality a maid gone bad is a maid better be gone. The sooner they rid themselves of her the less problems they will encounter. This will turn from bad to worse, faster than the OP can imagine. Agree CW. Plus the OP has said her 2 year old is with the maid full time. Just not worth trying to squeeze the remaining months out and having a resentful carer of your child. It's not ideal losing the money on the remainder of the contract but far preferable to the possible consequences of forcing her to stay. Not to mention the 50k fine if she is in fact working on the side and gets caught.
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Latest post on 28 April 2014 - 18:11
Poor form. Surely part of assessing their patient is visually, which means they need to actually look at you?
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Latest post on 28 April 2014 - 11:48
Idiot. It makes it worse that he is your boss so you can't even give him a deservedly cutting reply in return. Just ignore it, some people will always find some way of criticising you, if it weren't the no children it would be something else.
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Latest post on 25 April 2014 - 13:28
Would you wear shorts Anon? I wear bikinis and tankinis but often wear a pair of board shorts over them as it makes me feel more comfortable, especially if I'm in and out of the water with the children. I generally buy them from Quicksilver, Billabong or Rip Curl. Lots of the styles are very short but if you have a good look there are generally some longer ones. They cover thighs much better than a swim suit with skirt.
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Latest post on 24 April 2014 - 12:04
15. I'm '[b'>probably [/b'>not a d*ck'. Wahey! edited by Daza on 24/04/2014 Key word? ? :D Just choked on my water, tee hee ?
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Latest post on 24 April 2014 - 11:53
15. I'm 'probably not a d*ck'. Wahey! <em>edited by Daza on 24/04/2014</em>
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Latest post on 24 April 2014 - 08:02
Cushion, I can only assume that you have never had a dog so are speaking from ignorance and fear rather than knowledge and understanding. As for 'nothing makes you angrier than pet lovers' - really? War atrocities, genocide, paedophiles, and [i'>pet[/i'> [i'>lovers[/i'> makes the top of your list? <em>edited by Daza on 24/04/2014</em>
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Latest post on 23 April 2014 - 12:51
I love the elastic round the ankles baggy style harem pants that you can get in that little touristy area off the creek in Bastikiya. Park near the museum then walk towards the main water taxi station, the street is behind there. You won't pay more than 40 dirhams a pair.
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Latest post on 23 April 2014 - 12:46
This is happening an awful lot in London, it is not specifically Arab people who are being targeted. its any wealthy area. Scary ! Over ten years ago when I lived in London a woman in our apartment block was attacked in her garage and her shopping, purse etc stolen. The thieves had targeted her after seeing her (she was always very well dressed etc) laden with bags at Harrods and getting in to her nice Mercedes. Followed her home then pounced. Evidently it was quite a common strategy.
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Latest post on 23 April 2014 - 09:02
I've used Supermaids for a twice weekly clean for the past few weeks and they have been good. Three different ladies have come, two were really good, one not so good but I still gave her a decent tip and she was much better on her second visit ?
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Latest post on 22 April 2014 - 13:48
I think I will, just hate wasting money on buying clothes and never wearing them! Can always stick to long tops if they turn out to be a bit Kim K.
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Latest post on 22 April 2014 - 13:36
I did! Pulled out the iTorch, all I achieved was dazzling myself in the mirror. What was that you were saying about idiots :D
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Latest post on 22 April 2014 - 12:19
The whole store is dark Izzy, goodness knows why, I like to be able see what I am buying. It probably just means I'm too old to be in there. I might have to ask them if I can go in to the main part of the mall, good idea.
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Latest post on 22 April 2014 - 10:58
I love your posts kiwispiers ? likewise, you must be on breastfeeding Q&A right? I am trying to figure out who you are ..cyber stalk! Am going to miss your posts when I hit the big 3 triple O.... I've "met" some lovely people through EW. There's still time to change your mind about the big 3 triple 0! I'm not on breast feeding Q&A, have been meaning to join for ages but never gotten around to it. If you do depart from here I might actually join so I can cyber stalk you ;)
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Latest post on 22 April 2014 - 10:19
I love your posts kiwispiers ?
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Latest post on 22 April 2014 - 09:22
I think if a working mum can be needled by comments from a stay at home mum, and a stay at home mum can be needled by comments from a working mum, then perhaps they are not as comfy with the choices they have made as they would like to think. Does it really matter what people think of your role in life, and the misconception that perhaps surround it? I think not. Just get on with getting on, life really is too short to be so offended by so little so often. It's nothing to do with being comfortable with your choices and everything to do with it being annoying when people pass judgement when they don't have a clue. Prior to children, I worked for a large media company in London. I loved working there, got well looked after by the company was completely happy with my choice to work there. However, it still annoyed me when I got narky comments from people when they found out where I worked. I once got asked how it felt to work for Satan and to be honest I felt like slapping the person. I was loyal to my job then as I'm loyal to my job now and part of that loyalty is defending my job if it gets a kicking.
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Latest post on 21 April 2014 - 17:50
Rant on EW edited by IzzyOnTheSeat on 21/04/2014 It's not exactly stress release but I find EW great escapism for a few minutes here and there in my days which are totally dominated by children. And the arguments on here are way more interesting than who stole who's Hot Wheels :)
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Latest post on 21 April 2014 - 16:29
I wish I found cleaning the house good for stress relief, generally it's the other way round!
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Latest post on 21 April 2014 - 15:57
Exercise Cooking/baking Vodka Tequila
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Latest post on 21 April 2014 - 15:53
I always buy fresh organic milk from Spinneys/Waitrose. They used to stock Rachel's but haven't had it for a while and now seem to be stocking Yeo Valley. Supply can be sporadic so I normally keep a few in the freezer.
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Latest post on 21 April 2014 - 14:11
What about a globe or map. Everyone gets different coloured pins to stick in the top three countries they have visited and the top three they would like to visit. Good for sparking conversations.
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Latest post on 21 April 2014 - 11:11
When hubby was at home sending me pics of [b'>all the play areas they were at[/b'> or spending hours giggling with her toys I did consider that to be fun not work but then I'd also come home to a cooked meal and spotless house. So it wasnt a fun and games. Play areas, fun????? Try a few summers here as a SAHM, they are about as much fun as being poked in the eyeball for two hours.....
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Latest post on 21 April 2014 - 11:01
My post was in no way intended to discredit SaHMs as I know what a hard job it is, just doing it on weekends. I even suggested to DH we give the nursery workers a tip or a payrise as they are utter legends. BUT being a SAHM is a luxury and a choice that most of the developed world doesn't have, so if you have the gift of being off then I think looking after one's hubby is a small price to pay. And yes it is 1950s but then so is Dubai - housewife not allowed to work stamped on your visa, sponsorship by hubby, fewer rights, special queues, maids, drivers etc. I have the utmost respect for full time mums but just being devils advocate thinking about the hubbys here. Most have long commutes and long hours that enable many mums to stay home. Its not an entitlement its a blessing. I missed my daughter's first steps yesterday as I was at work, thankfully they videoed it. When hubby was at home sending me pics of all the play areas they were at or spending hours giggling with her toys I did consider that to be fun not work but then I'd also come home to a cooked meal and spotless house. So it wasnt a fun and games. Hope everyone has a nice day whether they're at a desk or supervising toddlers! I may be reading the tone of your posts wrong but what is coming across to me is that in a relationship you think that being the partner who stays home with the children is the easy option compared to the partner who goes out to work. I disagree with that. My first maternity leave was lovely. Lie ins, nesting, lunches with my NCT friends. Fast forward to my next maternity leave, a toddler at home who's demands don't stop because you are heavily pregnant or also caring for a newborn around the clock. Then doing it again with a toddler at home as well as older children with school runs, after school activities, life doesn't slow down no matter how much you want it too. It's about as far from a holiday as you can get. As for having 'lots of responsibility on one's shoulders' is spending your days being everything to a child(ren) not a responsibility? Responsibility for keeping them safe, keeping them happy, keeping them healthy, for their learning, their emotional development. When you are a SAHM, it's all on you, no breaks, 24/7. As for being devils advocate, it proves nothing if you apply it to our family this stage of our lives. During the week, including commuting, may husband general works 7am - 8pm. My 'working hours' are around 6am - 9pm. Night feeds, nightmare duty and all the other things that crop up in the night are done by me. I am incredibly grateful to my husband for how hard he works and for the lifestyle that his hard work allows our family to have. I'm grateful that I have the choice to stay at home and I never forget how lucky I am to be able to do that. It's not a one way street though. My husband is just as grateful to me for the work I put in running our family and raising our children. He's grateful that I gave up my career so I could be at home with our children. In saying all this, it isn't a competition, it's not about who works harder but it does irk as a SAHM when you put your life, your heart, your soul in to what you do yet by some it is still considered the easy option.
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Latest post on 20 April 2014 - 14:35
That's great for you, and like I said before, I respect that other choose to live how they want to. I don't believe that the way my husband and I live is right for everyone. I don't wish to get involved in how household work is done, but I do disagree strongly with the notion that some work is for women and some for men, which seems to be prevalent amongst posters. So in my house, we share according to our strengths and interests. For example, my husband irons really well so he does most of that. He wouldn't wear something I ironed even if I offered, as he claims I just can't iron. On the other hand, I usually take care of anything technical as I'm a bit of a geek and my husband just doesn't have a clue. With things we both like - such as cooking - we share it. And, if there's stuff we both hate, like hovering, we share it too. To me that's the fairest and most equal way of doing the household chores. It would never occur to me that I should do the cleaning because I'm a woman, as if it was the 1950's. I don't see it as a woman should be doing the cleaning issue. Which ever partner is home, it makes sense for them to be doing the lions share of the house stuff, simply because they have more time to do it. Obviously this is just my opinion but if you are at home with only one child then you really should have time to get all the housework done and the meals cooked. If you aren't then you aren't managing your time properly. *Ducks*
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Latest post on 20 April 2014 - 14:21
I do agree with you to some extent Miss Issippi - but having also been the breadwinner while Dh was out of work for a while made me really see things from the other side if you know what I mean. For example, if I was at work all summer while DH gallivanted off to the UK for several months, having a right jolly then yes it would be nice to have a few frozen meals and a bit of prep before he went away. It's not about being anti-feminist just about being fair. Most of the DH's of posters on this board work really hard to provide for their families and enable their wives not to work and generally live very nice lives - you only have to see the # of threads about brunches, Maldives holidays and so on to know that families here live comfortably. If anyone has been a breadwinner, they will know this comes with a lot of stress and pressure. it does create a certain unequal partnership and certain expectations from both sides. However you paint it, the worker will always regard the one who stays at home as having an easier ride - having been on maternity leave I can corroborate this. Looking after an infant in between coffees and lunches is certainly a darn sight easier than rushing from meeting to meeting, delivering projects and having lots of responsibility on ones shoulders. I can't tell you the number of people who have referred to my upcoming maternity leave as a "holiday". Therefore, I do think it's important for those who are fortunate enough to stay home (altho they are doing a fantastic and v hard job) to look after their partners to a degree. You might change your mind once you've got more than one child TDB ;) My husband has a big stressful job with long hours and a lot of pressure. However, he is the first to say that he thinks my job (SAHM with four children) is a lot harder than his job and if it's been a particularly full on weekend then going to back work is bit of a relief. It is of course a time of life thing. Our children are still young, once they are a bit older I will get a bit of time to myself which will make my job easier. I hope :) <em>edited by Daza on 20/04/2014</em>
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Latest post on 20 April 2014 - 08:11
Sorry, don't get your point - if you forget to lock your door it's not a break in , is all .... Touch wood I have no first hand knowledge of any break-ins here .... yet .... lol Splitting hairs a bit isn't it DT? I've been victim of both an intruder through an open window and forcing a door. They both very much felt like break ins and equally rubbish. Perhaps the term 'home invasion' would suit better?
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Latest post on 19 April 2014 - 11:01
From my last experience traveling alone with two young kids (1and 4) on a 14 hour flight, they did absolutely nothing except serve my 4 year old 3 hot chocolates while I was in the bathroom changing the baby) Sounds like they do nothing extra than normal cabin crew then? I've always found cabin crew to be incredibly helpful when I've travelled alone with young children. If changing the baby or in the bathroom with another child at least one (normally two) have sat with my other children.
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Latest post on 19 April 2014 - 09:52
Love picture on that link, the sky nanny is not slumming it in economy! Has anyone one here actually had one? Do you have to get them a seat? If you didn't and the seat belt sign was on for most of the flight they wouldn't be able to help out much.
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Latest post on 18 April 2014 - 18:06
Yes, this would bother me in any language and not just in salons. Idle chitchat in front of customers is very unprofessional. I used to work as a bagger and as a cashier in a supermarket and we were never allowed to chitchat with each other in front of customers and I hated the bosses for that... Years later and older and wiser, I can see why they don't allow this. When I go to the USA and see the teenage cashier flirting with the bagger while ringing up my groceries, I get really annoyed... Totally agree Anon. I had quite a few jobs in the service industry when I was a student and there is no way chatting with a colleague when I was attending to a customer would have been tolerated in any of them.
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Latest post on 18 April 2014 - 15:17
It annoys me regardless of language! I find it just plain rude.
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Latest post on 18 April 2014 - 15:01
True. I guess some people are just consistent in spending across all areas, regardless of whether they can afford it. Lol. Never mind the money, goodness knows what time they get up in order to look catwalk ready at 7.30am! In answer to the OP, averaging it out I probably spend about 700 dirhams a month. It's money down the drain, I look a total hot mess the vast majority of the time :D
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Latest post on 18 April 2014 - 14:49
Don't be fooled... in certain communities, appearance of wealth is of utmost importance. Expensive schools go with other status symbols such as big cars, maids, fancy hair etc but are not necessarily an indicator of financial stability. What does being fooled have to do with anything? There are a lot of women at Repton who spend a large amount of time and money on their appearance. Whether they are up to their eyeballs in debt or rolling in cash is beside the point.
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Latest post on 18 April 2014 - 14:27
I wonder about this too, just yesterday I was at the zoo also known as Zara at the checkout and everyone was so gussied up like they were attending a glam event, glossy hair, fake eyelashes (!), sky high stilettos, it all looked very expensive and high maintenance. They don't have kids and school fees! Have you ever been to Repton at school run time?!
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Latest post on 17 April 2014 - 18:01
When you're both working? Absolutely should tasks be shared etc. When one is working and the other not, it seems a bit cruel to ask too much of the working spouse, I reckon (irrespective of their gender!). ;) I think it depends on children as well. The last time I left my husband on his own for a month while I was in NZ on my own with 3 young children (including one breastfeeding around the clock) I didn't do a thing in advance to look after him in our absence. When I've been away and left him at home with the children I spend a lot of time stocking the freezer with meals and cupboards with food so he doesn't need to think about it while I am gone.
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Latest post on 17 April 2014 - 13:55
nah - its a treat.... but now i have an excuse :D I like your style :)
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Latest post on 17 April 2014 - 13:42
So planning on stuffing your face with caramel creme samosas is just a standard weekend activity for you??!!