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Latest post on 27 January 2014 - 10:08
They are being asked for a two week stay away, not three months, get this into perspective. Cars and communicable disease are incomparable. The base comparison is one of risk.
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Latest post on 27 January 2014 - 09:15
I do not think Dubai cabs are the same case; most taxi drivers get good amounts (compared to cashiers and salesmen) and can afford deodorants. They do not use it or shower frequently because of cultural reasons, not poverty. Did you read the letter Arch? Poverty is only one of the aspects it speaks of.
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Latest post on 27 January 2014 - 08:56
Here it is! http://sg.entertainment.yahoo.com/blogs/singapore-showbiz/local-actress-oon-shu-ann-open-letter-anton-031951568.html That is a great letter and so relevant to life in Dubai too. After reading that I'm no longer going to complain about the smell in some cabs here.
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Latest post on 27 January 2014 - 08:44
Asking siblings to stay home feels like using a sledgehammer to crack a nut. Given that you can be infectious up to 10 days after onset of symptoms and incubation can be up to 21 days, if you want to be really socially responsible that would mean 31 days isolation. Do you really think people should isolate for 31 days just be on the safe side? In the past couple of years that would have meant 3 months off school for my one child who never contracted chicken pox despite is three siblings doing so. My husband hasn't had chicken pox either. As the majority of fatal cases are adults and he comes in to contact with far more adults during the course of his day than my children do, should he have taken 3 months off work? He'd be told to return or be fired. The serious consequences of road accidents far outweigh the serious consequences of chicken pox per capita. In order to be socially responsible should we then all decide not to use cars? Of course not. We minimise the risk through seat belts, airbags and taking care (some of us) and go about our lives hoping for the best. With chicken pox you can choose to minimise the risk through vaccinating your family and in the event of contracting it, staying home for the duration of the infectious period.
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Latest post on 26 January 2014 - 16:01
I'd give KHDA a call and see if they can advise if the nursery is allowed to do this. It's ridiculous.
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Latest post on 26 January 2014 - 14:12
I haven't heard of that before. A couple of years ago my two oldest children had chicken pox two weeks apart. If their little brother had been unable to attend nursery due the same policy he would have missed a month of nursery. He didn't get the pox anyway, I'd have been fuming with a needless month off. Have they offered a pro rata refund as he's not actually ill himself?
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Latest post on 25 January 2014 - 14:59
They are having a good [url=https://www.facebook.com/photo.php?fbid=661540563889557&set=a.543273219049626.1073741828.537424922967789&type=1&theater'>laugh[/url'> about him in Singapore. <em>edited by Daza on 25/01/2014</em>
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Latest post on 25 January 2014 - 14:33
I don't think it has anything to do with being an expat either. The vast majority of people in Singapore use public transport regardless of nationality, he wasn't singling out the locals. Not to mention that his wife is SIngaporean which further suggests he is an elitist twit rather than a racist twit. His comments probably have more to do with working in a certain sector than being an expat. What he said is a pretty bog standard version of the sort of thing you hear in the City in London ad nauseam. It elicits roars of laughter every time, yawn. He was just stupid enough to put it on facebook.
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Latest post on 23 January 2014 - 14:23
Its nice to see a thread where almost all posts are in agreement.... mothers should be supported... if only there were district nurses or mandatory follow up home visits. Absolutely mannikat. Breast feeding can be so so hard in the first early weeks, many women struggle even with support, what hope is there with none? If there was more support then maybe there would be less need to even consider a law.
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Latest post on 23 January 2014 - 14:12
When I saw the title to this thread I knew it would be you Izzy :D I'm going to be watching a lot of rugby this weekend. Children's rugby so not even the prospect of a bit of All Black eye candy to appreciate.
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Latest post on 23 January 2014 - 14:06
I believe in supporting each woman's personal choice on what is best for herself and her baby. It would be great if there was more to support the women who want to make the choice to breast feed. I bet there are countless women who don't breast feed due to a lack of support in the work place and in life in general. I also bet there are far fewer women who don't formula feed due to a lack of support. How many people here have received a *look* or judgement about breast feeding? And how many have had the same with formula feeding? A few years ago I had a dentist ask me why I was still breast feeding my 1 year old as 'he was a bit old for that'. On this very forum a view was expressed that it was not just acceptable, but applaudable to shame a breast feeding mother as she wasn't being discrete. In my home country women who formula feed are often judged and shamed. That's not right either. Why can't we all just support each other a little bit more?
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Latest post on 22 January 2014 - 19:20
I told her everything we talked about here in the most gentle way possible. She seemed a bit affected by what I said and nodded the entire time. However, she's asked for 2-3 days to get back to me. I will keep you all posted. What is it exactly that she is getting back to you about? Is she considering her options as choosing to travel with you or finding a new job? Or does she think she has the option of saying no and then spending two months being payed to cavort with her boyfriend in your empty house? Personally, I'd be hiring someone new. Summer travel is obviously one of the job requirements so I'd want someone who was happy to do that. Even if she does agree this year, who's to say it won't be the same issue next year? And if she agrees but resentfully, would you really want her looking after your small children anyway. Sorry to scaremonger but have you seen Gulf News today? She doesn't have you over barrel, you will have your parents with you this summer so you won't be alone and you'll be fine.
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Latest post on 22 January 2014 - 14:31
Got your brave pants on HorizonMum ;) ? The Queen doesn't need to have a drivers license. Same same.
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Latest post on 22 January 2014 - 14:23
I loved the books! Those and the Duncton Wood series, teenage favs of mine.
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Latest post on 22 January 2014 - 14:20
Coming from South Africa we were given the same opportunity of going on a veldskool trip… aka ecoventure I suppose, both in primary and high school. I will be sending my child for reasons I strongly believe in: 1. I want him to enjoy the experience like I did. 2. He is very keen to go 3. Kids in Dubai spend enough time indoors during summer, being surrounded by one too many techy toys that being out roughing it a bit will only do him good. 4. From my trips, I learnt valuable lessons: team building, compromise, appreciation, respect, to name a few…. some qualities I think a great deal of children in Dubai lack. 5. My children are only children once… If I can give them the opportunity, then why not send them Although I do feel that the price is a little inflated for them camping in a tent and eating less than perfect meals, I (personal opinion) feel that if I don't send my child, he'll feel left out, let down by his parents, and not able to enjoy this experience with his friends. He'd be 'that boy' who did go to ecoventure. Granted we are all entitled to our opinion on this matter, but I firmly believe that my children should at least once in their life experience an ecoventure. Surely they can experience all you've said without paying over 1000 dirhams for one night? It's not going on camp that is the issue, it's the cost. Plus at that cost there will be some parents who simply can't afford it, why should their children have to miss out on the experience because the school has chosen such an expensive option?
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Latest post on 22 January 2014 - 13:56
Congrats Mrsbrown! I'm pretty sure all the info is on the [url=http://www.passports.govt.nz/Child-passport---form'>NZ Passport[/url'> site. I've looked at it a few times but still not gotten around to it!
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Latest post on 22 January 2014 - 13:52
It's even worse if you want to shop up past medicenter. No parking at all. Don't know how those stores make money. There is parking behind medicenter. Take the same entry in to the covered parking at for going to Spinney's, turn left and keep going until you are in the right place. The car park goes all the way to the top of Foxhill up behind the Party Shop. Spaces can be hard to come by the whole way along though...
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Latest post on 22 January 2014 - 13:47
I don't have an issue with camps for children i have an issue with them being held in term time, and at exorbitant cost. You don't have to pay, that's the point. I feel the same Lolacat but don't feel it would be fair on my daughter to make a point by not sending her. The camp is during the week and if her year is the same as previous years then the majority of children will go, hence it's very obvious to the ones that don't that they are missing out. I can afford to pay so I will, however much I'd rather not pay the ridiculous price. If the cost is going to be so high I wish they would hold it at the weekend or during holidays as it would be much easier to choose not to go at those times.
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Latest post on 22 January 2014 - 13:36
I personally don't know of any children in Dubai from an International School going on an Ecoventrue camp at the age of 7. Maybe the local schools do ( I don't Know) but all others I believe are year 4 or mostly 5 onwards. I have a 7 year old and believe me she would love to go if she had the chance. My 7 year old has an Ecoventure camp coming up. She's Year 3 at Repton.
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Latest post on 17 January 2014 - 08:58
Nomad is a good brunch with children, lots of space for them to run around and ducks in ponds to look at. Lots of people take their young children to Bubbalicious but I personally don't like it. It's very busy and hard to keep track of them. The whole vibe can get pretty drunken which I don't like my children being around either. I really like The Marriott in Deira for a family brunch with young children. You can ask them to put up a table on the children's play area then can relax as it's easy to see them at all times. It's my favourite with children.
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Latest post on 17 January 2014 - 08:33
I do not think it's ok to show the whole breast in public, however the way that woman was spoken to makes me feel uncomfortable. She is a mum in a vulnerable position i.e. holding and feeding her baby, no one any idea what was going through her head. Maybe she was in an exhausted world of her own and just automatically went to feed? Staring, glaring and shouting at a feeding mother makes me uncomfortable. Surely a friendly advising manner would achieve the same result? edited by GirlAnachronism on 16/01/2014 Well done GirlAnachronism, that is such a good point and so well put. With all the judgement towards how mothers choose to behave in all aspects of child rearing sometimes people forget that mothers are just women doing the best they can at what can be a very hard job. Support, understanding and friendly advice go so much further than berating and shouting, especially towards a woman who might already be struggling. I do hope the mum in question didn't go home upset and decide that breastfeeding was just too difficult to manage :( <em>edited by Daza on 17/01/2014</em>
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Latest post on 16 January 2014 - 12:38
Can it be done if the mother is wearing an abaya? I always had my son in the Baby Bjorn but I don't see how I could have breastfed him in that. I use the Baby Bjorn too. Can only do it when they are quite small but you slip one of the shoulder straps down a bit so baby is lower and lift your boob up a bit. Light wrap over the whole lot although you still can't really tell with no wrap. Unsure on the abaya, if it opens at the front I think it would work, just like opening a shirt. Apologies if my description has made anyone feel uncomfortable :D
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Latest post on 16 January 2014 - 12:10
Oh, that would be nice, but how could they implement that? edited by AnonDubai on 16/01/2014 They have admitted it would be hard to enforce!
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Latest post on 16 January 2014 - 12:07
Well, I said number two and I don't think my comment was ignorant. I have frequently breastfed in public here and I am heavily pregnant and breastfeeding my 19 month-old ([b'>How many of you are going to tell me how irresponsible that is towards my unborn baby[/b'>?). What I meant by the Dubai Mall being crowded is that that place is always packed and I would not want to be walking around while breastfeeding there because I'd be afraid of getting shoved by someone... Not me, I take my hat off to you :) If we ever happen to meet I'll give you a baby/carrier/feeding/no-one can tell demo. It's easier than it sounds.
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Latest post on 16 January 2014 - 12:02
Breastfeeding is good for the mother and to her baby. but as For me,[b'> we should consider that we are in Dubai[/b'>. For breastfeeding mommies if your baby needs milk then you should go to a private areas where in you can expose your breast for your babies. or prepare at home a breast milk use a breast pump and put it n the feeding bottle. Yes, that's right, Dubai. Part of the UAE where the federal council is currently in discussions about making it illegal NOT to breastfeed if a women is able.
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Latest post on 15 January 2014 - 15:59
My favourite argument in the whole BF debate is "but it's perfectly natural." Er...so are several other bodily functions, but we have private rooms for those. Not that I'm advocating for private rooms for BFing - as long as you're discreet it's fine. I just think it's a strange argument. To compare feeding a baby with taking a sh*t is a little odd...
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Latest post on 15 January 2014 - 15:47
Hi mumofmoo I had a natural birth for my first baby followed by three elective c-sections. I don't regret having a natural birth at all, I would always wonder what labour is like if I hadn't experienced it but I had no wish to repeat it. I have no regrets about my elective c-sections either. I experienced the same joy, exhilaration and sense of accomplishment upon meeting my babies as I did with the natural birth but without the downsides I experienced first time around. My physical and emotional recovery after my c-sections was a walk in the park compared to my recovery after the natural birth.
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Latest post on 15 January 2014 - 13:50
Is she in a room on her own? At that age my children have all slept much better sharing with a sibling.
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Latest post on 15 January 2014 - 13:10
Congratulations BintNizam123! If I was in your position, third baby, no complications before and trusted OB lined up then I think I'd feel comfortable just doing the big scans along with a check up at 12 and 20 weeks then a check up at around 30 weeks and every week from 36 weeks. Obviously if anything seems amiss then more but all going well, I'd be happy with that. If your cycle is reasonably regular then you can use an online due date calculator. I've never bothered with a blood test or scan to date the pregnancy, my OB has just used a little chart thing so no difference to doing it yourself. I had my first baby in the UK. I didn't have my first proper Drs visit (which was the scan) until 12 weeks. When I first went to the doctor to say I was pregnant she didn't do anything other than say congrats and give me the info I needed. Unless there is a history of problems there is no need for all the visits that are so common here.
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Latest post on 15 January 2014 - 12:43
However discreetly you do it, it is impossible not to show a bit of nip when you're getting them to latch on, never mind putting yourself away afterwards. I Not impossible at all. You just need a bit more practice - which you'll be getting soon ;)
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Latest post on 15 January 2014 - 10:14
Sorry, I don't understand. Why would you give the local gentleman a tap on the back? It's just an expression coco pops, a way of saying well done. Example: 'I got first place in the race!' - 'Hurrah! Big pat on the back for you.'.
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Latest post on 15 January 2014 - 09:06
Obviously it was not very subtle or no one would have noticed. Besides as AnonDubai says there are more than enough feeding rooms around why put yourself and others in an awkward position. It would be lovely to always have the time at the mall to sit in a nice quiet feeding room and feed your baby but I often found that when they were little and feeding loads I wouldn't be able to get anything done that I needed to. Life goes on with a new baby, shopping and other errands need done.You can't leave them at home when small and EBF so they have to come along. Not to mention that nice quiet feeding rooms aren't so nice and quiet when you've got other little ones crammed in there with you.
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Latest post on 15 January 2014 - 08:58
I've breastfeed walking around all over town including Dubai Mall. With baby in a carrier and shawl wrapped around it just looks like they are sleeping. I'd never just get my boobs out walking around, here or anywhere else. Like mumofmoo says, it's easy to be subtle about it.
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Latest post on 15 January 2014 - 08:46
DH left us not long ago. Its not been easy to leave DS and go back to work and I wouldn't be in a position to be able to take leave and yes unfortunately DS is special needs. Thank you for all the replies I'll look into the suggested options. Good for you Sandpit_Queen, it sounds like you are doing what needs to be done to look after your son under very difficult circumstances. Good luck with finding a resolution.
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Latest post on 14 January 2014 - 18:08
I buy Wild Planet Wild Albacore Tuna from Spinneys. Nothing added, just tuna. It says low mercury compared to conventional brands. No idea of the validity of their claims. My husband eats it, he hasn't dropped dead of mercury poisoning yet.
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Latest post on 14 January 2014 - 18:04
Come on ladies, what's with the judgy pants? The OP has said she needs round the clock help, maybe she doesn't want to give us her life story why? Maybe her son has special needs, maybe she has a job that lives depend on and she needs to be alert at work, maybe she will turn in to a pumpkin at midnight if she is up with her child, who cares?
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Latest post on 14 January 2014 - 16:30
That said, we *were* allowed on very rare occasions as a super special treat, to drink soft drinks and one of those times was, guess what, when we were flying somewhere on holidays. You've jogged my memory LadyBee! We were the same, parents super strict with food and drinks but I remember the excitement when we were allowed a can of fizz on the couple of occasions we flew internationally. Fanta, it was like liquid gold.
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Latest post on 14 January 2014 - 14:27
Hi kavsmum We get three children covered by my husband's work. Our fourth child is covered by the same policy but we pay for it. Speak to your HR department and see if they can organise. If not speak to the insurers directly.
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Latest post on 14 January 2014 - 14:23
What a twit. Giving your six year old a can of Pepsi probably isn't the best choice you could make but it's really none of his business. I bet he doesn't have children. I wonder if he also refuses to serve pregnant women alcohol or coffee? Children meals on planes often come with junk food, it's a bit hypocritical of him to decide what is acceptable and what is not.
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Latest post on 14 January 2014 - 13:23
There are details on [url=http://www.expatwoman.com/forum/topic200970-looking-for-a-live-in-trust-worthy-housmaidnanny-for-immediate-start.aspx '>this[/url'> old thread about an agency that does short term maid contracts. I have never used them so have no idea if they are any good.
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Latest post on 13 January 2014 - 18:21
And with dad traveling on occasion you want someone who is capable of handling situations should they arise. I'd go for a nanny from his home country if money is not a problem :) That's what I'd go for too. As another poster said, there is also holidays to contend with. Not to mention sick days/rain days/any other days. What on paper is 'several hours every week-day after school' and 'occasional duty trips' is in reality going to be a lot more, sometimes with very short or no notice. That's without going in to legalities of it all.
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Latest post on 13 January 2014 - 17:48
This was because OP emphasized that homework help was a big issue for the father - so it was not the straight forward childcare/babysitting problem. I am not sure that the average maid is going to be of much help with homework supervision for a child headed to secondary school soon edited by Puffinlunde on 13/01/2014 Good point Puffinlunde. <em>edited by Daza on 13/01/2014</em>
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Latest post on 13 January 2014 - 17:00
If BubblingCreek is correct (and she probably is ;) ) and sponsoring someone is not an issue then surely he is in the same boat as any single working mother, of which there are a few here. When they have asked for advice on EW I don't recall anyone suggesting boarding school - although I might just have missed that :D ETA: Hit add message by accident. It does sound like his only viable option is to hire a live in, the best he can afford. If there were such a fairy godmother type like he seems to be looking for I reckon the single mums would have her snapped up years in advance... <em>edited by Daza on 13/01/2014</em>
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Latest post on 13 January 2014 - 16:47
I see no reason for knowing the blood group of your baby (except if you want to rule out paternity issues.....) I never asked why they test it in the UK or here, they take the blood for the heel prick test anyway so it's not any more invasive for bubs.
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Latest post on 13 January 2014 - 14:17
Mssassy, just wanted to add that you might be over thinking things a bit. Stop worrying, it's totally normal for a toddler to get their nose out of joint and start acting up when a new baby arrives. It's unusual that a child doesn't show any effects. If her behaviour is a continuation of previous behaviour and her parents can't handle it then by all means seek further help but it would be a bit premature if this is brand new behaviour as a reaction to the new baby. As Lolacat suggested, a book on positive parenting might help. I do have to totally disagree with the notion that newborns don't need emotional input and it's just taking care if their physical needs. I also think it sets a bad precident to treat the toddler like they are still the most important one in the family. They should know that they are as important as they always have been but that the new baby is also as important and that your love is big enough for both if them. They have to learn it at some point unless you plan on playing favourites forever. The longer you leave it the more they will think that they come first. Learning to share the limelight is good thing. <em>edited by Daza on 13/01/2014</em>
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Latest post on 13 January 2014 - 13:57
I had one baby in the UK and three at the American Hospital here. Each time their blood was typed immediately and it was written on their immunisation record.
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Latest post on 13 January 2014 - 10:54
Cutting sugar down is pretty easy once you've got the hang of it dinks. I must admit, I find it surprising when people are shocked about what certain foods contain but I've got a specific diet so have been reading labels for years, since I started doing the grocery shopping when I was in my early teens. Like the other ladies say, just avoid processed foods. I make our breakfast muesli and don't buy biscuits and cakes, I bake them. They still have sugar but I control how much goes in and I stopped using refined sugars a while back. Not because they have any less sugar but because I use syrups which contain more goodness - antioxidants, fibre etc than refined sugars. I buy pasta sauces, peanut butter etc with no added sugar. Fruit juice is a bit of a treat rather than every day. I do my own juicing using predominantly vegetables and very little fruit. I feel so much better eating the way I do. I relaxed a bit over Christmas and ate more rubbish than usual, I felt awful and got sick. I don't know how people eat like that every day!
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Latest post on 13 January 2014 - 09:19
You want to lose weight, then burn more calories than you take in every day. That's it. No pseudoscience or faddy diets needed - but the multi-billion-dollar diet industry relies on people not understanding that. edited by Madge_Gustard on 13/01/2014 Absolutely. It's not rocket science.
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Latest post on 13 January 2014 - 09:12
I'm sorry this has upset you so badly DR. From your posts on here it's obvious you conduct yourself very well. This situation has everything to do with the other woman's behaviour and nothing to do with yours, you should not be feeling angry, stupid or humiliated at all. The smirk was probably do with the fact she was happy she had upset you so much. It's probably easier for her to think you are a racist than for her to realise that she is the one in the wrong. Forget about the silly cow, she's not worth your energy for one second longer.
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Latest post on 13 January 2014 - 09:02
What is the right manner to make a child understand what is right in this scenario? Hi mssassy We all deal with things differently but for me, the right way to deal with this scenario would be to give my child extra reassurance and love at what can be a very difficult time for a young child. She's not reacting to the sleepover, that might have been the final trigger but her behaviour stems from struggling with her feelings about the new baby. She is too young to rationalise with about the situation (as your sister is trying to do). Calling her 'a bad girl' (as your mother did) is only going to re-inforce her negative feelings, as will threatening to punish her like your BIL suggests. What your father said is just plain wrong (sorry) and it's obviously not a viable option. All of my children's worries about a new sibling started a few weeks after arrival once the excitement has calmed down and they realise the new baby is here to stay. It's a much more common time than straight after the birth. Her behaviour stems from fear and hurt, she doesn't need punished or threatened. She needs love, consistentcy and reassurance. It can be a tough time but if you all work from the same page, she'll be fine soon.