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Latest post on 25 July 2013 - 14:26
I don't let them do any cutting at all, just filing (which would be obvious if it was unclean) and pushing back with an orange stick that then goes in the bin.
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Latest post on 25 July 2013 - 14:21
I suppose one thing to consider is that it is now much easier for like minded sickos to meet each other via the internet. Social group formation tends to lead to validation of thoughts and actions. Whether this then leads to a greater likelihood to move from the virtual to the real world and start offending I have no idea. The internet certainly creates a market for people to create and trade images depicting abuse. Abuse is far more likely to come from someone known to the victim however so doesn't relate to abuse by a stranger. The vast majority of people who I know who were molested as children, it came from within the home :(
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Latest post on 25 July 2013 - 14:06
I agree.One of my friends (CID) said it is safer now than 20/30 years ago in the UK. The only difference between now and then is that [b'>people dont look out for each other as much[/b'>. :(
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Latest post on 25 July 2013 - 13:54
[b'>It may of been brushed under the carpet back then but I feel it was far safer than it is now[/b'> As children we used to roam across our local fields and we were never approached by strangers My parents were very protective and Dad still is. my nephews and nieces do not have the freedom that I did but that is part of how the world is now :-( Shortly before I left the UK 7 yeas ago, The Sunday Times (I think) did a big feature on children and how safe they are 'now' compared to 'then'. It concluded that the incidence of children coming to harm (from a stranger) was no higher now than it was back when people felt safer. It cited accessibility of media and extensive media coverage as one of the reasons why people are much more protective now along with the rise of 'cotton wool culture'. I've been googling but can't find the article, will post if I track it down. ETA: This was a UK only study. I know there is no relevance to living here, if I was aware of any such study here I would have commented on that. <em>edited by Daza on 25/07/2013</em>
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Latest post on 25 July 2013 - 12:38
Totally agree Tallybalt.
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Latest post on 25 July 2013 - 12:00
How protective can you be? TOTALLY!! I don't let my DD go anywhere alone, into bathrooms, [b'>other homes[/b'> etc. She is nearly 9 years old and I will continue never to allow her anywhere alone - anywhere in the world. Public toilets!!!! NEVER!!!! Do you not let her go to a friend's home without you mrsb? My children often go to play with friends without me there and vice versa. I can't imagine they would get invited on many play dates if I insisted on also coming with the whole tribe every time.
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Latest post on 25 July 2013 - 11:23
Really? Surely if you believed in conspiracy theories you'd just think she had a fake post baby bump up her dress and the cut of the dress and the way she was holding herself was all part of the deceit? But seriously, does anyone normal really believe that? I think she's a girl's girl and is simply saying 'I've just had a baby, this is what women look like when they've just had a baby and I'm not ashamed of it'. For all the talk of her being totally malleable and doing anything she's told, she does seem to be doing things her own way. Going to stay with her parents for starters.
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Latest post on 25 July 2013 - 10:14
Some idiot at OK Magazine tweeted 'How many people did she give birth to?' as a comment on her 28 hour post baby body. I hope they are demoted to making the coffee for the next nine months although given their obvious lack of any sort of intelligence, even that might be beyond them. Good on Kate for not being afraid to show what women look like a day after they have a baby.
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Latest post on 23 July 2013 - 22:38
Loads Marroosh. [url=http://news.sky.com/'>Sky[/url'> has had good coverage.
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Latest post on 23 July 2013 - 21:24
Our Iftar booking at Atlantis got bumped a couple of years ago for a booking by a VVIP local family :D
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Latest post on 23 July 2013 - 21:20
I'm rather fond of our house geckos and as TB says, they keep insects at bay. I found the cutest ickle baby one on our stairs recently.
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Latest post on 23 July 2013 - 21:02
Sky News thinks the Royal Baby might be making his first appearance soon! Glued to the TV.
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Latest post on 23 July 2013 - 16:15
Don't feel guilty Dusha, your little boy is lucky to have such a caring mummy and he'll be fine. You might get tears for a couple of days but at least you will be there to cuddle and reassure him.
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Latest post on 23 July 2013 - 14:10
I love [url=http://www.sandypants.com/shop/personalised/Personalised-Canvas/'>these[/url'> personalised canvases.
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Latest post on 23 July 2013 - 12:22
I've never been a fan of the sneak out because I feel like my children need to know that they can depend on me and disappearing without warning doesn't feel very dependable. I don't work though so have never had to deal with leaving in that context. I've always explained where I am going, what I will be doing and when I will be back. As another poster says, using mealtimes is a good reference. I also explain what they will be doing, eg you will play with Daddy, have some lunch, watch some TV then I will be home. I know it's hard but try to be upbeat and not anxious, children pick up on how you are feeling so easily and if you are anxious they (not surprisingly) conclude that there is something to be worried about.
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Latest post on 22 July 2013 - 20:24
No news, but info - if the baby is born after Queenie's bed-time at 11.00pm, everyone not present at the birth will have to wait till she wakes up tomorrow morning and is informed by the proud father, who has a specially encrypted phone to stop eavesdroppers :) Supposedly, even Charlie won't be informed before his mother hears, but he's probably got a specially encrypted phone, too ;) After the Queen has been informed, the rest of us plebs (and Charlie) will be allowed in on the info :) Nooooo! Surely she could pour herself a stiff G&T and have a late night?
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Latest post on 22 July 2013 - 20:14
I'm ridiculously excited and have been checking the news every few minutes!
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Latest post on 22 July 2013 - 20:07
I'm finding the The Sun has the best up to date info. From their website: When the baby is born, a palace aide will leave the hospital with a foolscap piece of paper with the Buckingham Palace letterhead and signed by the medical team. It will then be driven under police escort to the Palace, where it will be placed on an easel in the Palace forecourt.
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Latest post on 22 July 2013 - 20:02
Very desperate and have a LOT of time on their hands. They must spend all day at it, I wonder if they ever get replies?
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Latest post on 22 July 2013 - 19:08
Yep, I knew it was there. It's where I always get the sleazy "Hello Daza, I live in Dubai too, you are a sexy lady, will you be my girlfriend?" type messages. Urgh. Disturbingly, when my profile picture was me heavily pregnant I still got loads. ETA: I'm not sexy, they are just desperate losers. <em>edited by Daza on 22/07/2013</em>
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Latest post on 21 July 2013 - 09:45
Daza, always the words of wisdom. Yes, good answer. * * * * * (I am now rating others answers out of 5 stars) Oh the pressure! Now I'm worrying about losing my coveted five star rating on the CW index :D
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Latest post on 21 July 2013 - 09:42
Let's face it, servicing costs are high on *any* prestige make of car. Nobody should be surprised about that. It's just part of the deal - if you decide to buy a prestige car, you have to be prepared to pay prestige prices for maintenance. You're right MG and it's not just the servicing either. We once had to replace all the tyres on my Pajero and my husband's Q7 at about the same time. 2800 dirhams for my Pajero, 7000 dirhams for the Q7.
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Latest post on 20 July 2013 - 15:08
If I thought I could put it behind me and move on I would comment on one of the facebook photos 'Looks like fun :) ' so they knew that I knew and there were no hard feelings and no awkwardness. If I couldn't put it behind me and stop seething and wondering I would speak to the the party host directly and say 'I was just wondering if everything is ok between us as I saw you had a party and we weren't invited, I hope I haven't upset you'. It would be a bit awkward to bring it up but at least then it would be over and done with and you'd know. <em>edited by Daza on 20/07/2013</em>
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Latest post on 19 July 2013 - 14:51
I love my Fisher and Paykel top loader. It drove me mad having a front loader, so slow and guaranteed as soon as the water starts, you'll notice a dropped sock or something. I love being able to chuck things in during the wash with a top loader.
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Latest post on 19 July 2013 - 14:43
Try not to worry about it stovetop, whether she is talking a lot, a little or not at all has no bearing on anything. Most children go through a period of adjustment when a new sibling arrives and they'll express themselves however they see fit, they certainly don't need a big vocabulary to do so. My first child (newly potty trained) expressed herself by wetting her pants a lot when the new baby arrived. We put potty training on hold for a bit, she got used to the new dynamic and all was well again. Once they are through the initial adjustment they are often thrilled to have a baby to help with then a new playmate. I did a book for my first child when I was expecting the second. It explained about me going to the hospital, who she would be with, the baby arriving, her visiting, what would happen when we all got home etc. When she came to meet the baby for the first time we had a 0 birthday cake, she gave the baby a present and the baby gave her a present. My husband held the baby when she first came in so my arms were free to give her a big cuddle. Before going to the hospital she also helped me get the nursery ready and we talked a lot about it being the baby's new room. Don't stress, children are normally better at coping with these sorts of things than we give them credit for.
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Latest post on 18 July 2013 - 19:15
As I said in a previous post, I wasn't allowed to wear them when I was a teenager. In Amsterdam. I don't think it's just in GCC countries where it's not appropriate. I think it's more that people have started to see modesty as something old fashioned and you just have to show what you got. even if it means having your behind hang out of your daisy dukes. What is the difference between that and wearing undies only? Maybe it's a lifestyle difference thing Marroosh? A lot of NZ has a relaxed beachy type feel and many people really wear very little when it's hot. I'm from Nelson which is very beachy and during summer there are plenty of people in the town center wearing just bikini tops and shorts for the girls and shorts and no tops for the boys. No one bats an eyelid or thinks anything of it, it's just summer wear in summer, no issue.
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Latest post on 18 July 2013 - 18:52
No knee length is fine of course, but I think the ladies are referring to the much shorter kind I think. I saw them in Holland as well, some girl had their bottoms hanging out as well. It's like walking around in underwear. This isn't appropriate clothing in any country apart from when you're on the beach. When I was a child in NZ 30 years ago most children wore short shorts, girls and boys (they were called Stubbies) and it wasn't an issue at all or frowned upon. There was no talk of sexualising of children, it was just kids, dressing as kids in the hot summers. I'm not sure how it is now as I've never lived there with children but I see plenty of summer pics of friends children in short shorts so assume it's still the done thing. You are speaking from a NZ context where stubbies and a singlet etc are the norm for most of the society. We are living in the conservative Gulf context and must act and react accordingly. I realise that mrsb, I was responding to Marroosh's comment that short shorts aren't appropriate clothing in any country apart from when you're on the beach.
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Latest post on 18 July 2013 - 18:25
No knee length is fine of course, but I think the ladies are referring to the much shorter kind I think. I saw them in Holland as well, some girl had their bottoms hanging out as well. It's like walking around in underwear. This isn't appropriate clothing in any country apart from when you're on the beach. When I was a child in NZ 30 years ago most children wore short shorts, girls and boys (they were called Stubbies) and it wasn't an issue at all or frowned upon. There was no talk of sexualising of children, it was just kids, dressing as kids in the hot summers. I'm not sure how it is now as I've never lived there with children but I see plenty of summer pics of friends children in short shorts so assume it's still the done thing.
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Latest post on 18 July 2013 - 13:56
My mother was getting a lot of palpitations. She had tests done and she was really deficient in one of the B vitamins, I can't remember which one. She took a B vit supplement and it really helped. Along with coffee and alcohol she also found that grapefruit juice could trigger it. <em>edited by Daza on 18/07/2013</em>
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Latest post on 17 July 2013 - 15:31
Yes, everything open as usual, no need to eat in screened off areas. Spent a few days there at the weekend, much fun :)
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Latest post on 16 July 2013 - 22:45
Congratulations.... I'm in my 5th week..i can totally feel the limbo state!. I found out last week too... i was very excited initially (still am) but getting anxious as i really want to know whats happening inside... if everything is going well etc... i have my first scan booked at the end of week 6... i dont have any morning sickness etc... [b'>just very breathless strangely[/b'>...anyone wiht experience please advice if exercising is ok? hot yoga etc? also advice on diet plans would really help :) BTW I have downloaded a few cool apps (im expecting, sprout, babycentre and what to expect pregnancy version) and registered on babycentre... so that keeping me engaged for now Breathlessness is one of the signs of anemia which is very common when pregnant. It was the first sign I had of being anemic during my last pregnancy. I'd take some iron supplements or you could get your iron levels checked if you wanted to make sure. It's not advisable to take up any new forms of exercise when you are pregnant. If you already do yoga, continue to do so but make sure it's under the guidance of someone who knows about pregnancy, there are some positions that aren't advisable when pregnant. No idea if hot yoga is ok, that would be something to check with an experienced yogi. Swimming is great low impact exercise when pregnant. As for diet, just a good healthy balanced diet is best.
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Latest post on 16 July 2013 - 19:52
Congratulations! I wouldn't do anything at this stage other than just enjoy the good news. If you have a doctor you would like specifically, call to book for a few weeks time. As the other ladies say 8- 10 weeks is a good time. You don't need a blood test to 'confirm' the pregnancy, a positive home test is proof enough, doing a further blood test is completely unnecessary and just another way of getting some extra money out of you - that goes on a lot here with pregnancy.
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Latest post on 16 July 2013 - 15:32
The Change Initiative has a large homewares section with a lot of nice things. They stock brands I haven't seen elsewhere in Dubai.
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Latest post on 16 July 2013 - 14:24
In a nutshell Oopsiedaisy, they can't. The contract from the Philippine Embassy isn't enforceable by law so isn't worth the paper it's written on. In the UAE, UAE laws apply (as you'd expect) and as we all know, domestic workers aren't covered by labour laws so it's really anything goes. In order to have it approved you need to write 1400 on the form but you aren't legally obliged to pay that. Obviously that is all just my understanding of things, I'm not a lawyer and can't quote legal proof. I got the info from human rights watch type articles about cheap labour supply issues in the region.
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Latest post on 16 July 2013 - 10:14
My kids love both. They are only young though (eldest 7), the rides at Aquaventure might be better with older children. We've just spent a few days at Wild Wadi, it opened at 10am and stayed open later than usual due to Ramadan. Quiet early in the day but got busy later. The water is chilled so you don't get too hot and they have water spraying on the paths so you don't burn your feet. All food outlets are open as usual all day and you can eat and drink where you want, there are no screened off areas. It was a great break from the heat and good exercise for my children which can be hard to get this time of year.
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Latest post on 14 July 2013 - 20:07
I've feel like I've had some wonderful insights in to what their faith means to them from some of the ladies on this forum. I'm very thankful to those that do share as it's probably not something I would hear otherwise.
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Latest post on 14 July 2013 - 17:43
I was not following another religion, and I accepted Islam in 2010 Alhamdulilah. I hope you don't mind me asking Marroosh but were you atheist or agnostic before you accepted Islam? Please ignore me if that is too personal :)
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Latest post on 14 July 2013 - 17:39
Maybe they are being facetious?
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Latest post on 14 July 2013 - 15:43
Me too!! By rights I should be wasting away given that my daughter is 9 months old and eats such a small amount of solids and otherwise EBF around the clock ;) but somehow my waistline didn't get that memo. Oh no! Don't tell me that. I've nearly convinced myself that hungry chops will ease up a bit when he starts solids. Even a 3 hour break in the night would feel like a holiday. I'm going to pretend I haven't seen your post :D
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Latest post on 14 July 2013 - 14:33
Thanks for the suggestion Daza, but my chances for doing so diminished some long time ago. I am planning for the 4th - but for some reason i feel it's my first (excuse my amnesia). I can sympathise on the amnesia, I can't even get my children's names right half the time :) I wish I'd sorted my hair colour out to something very low maintenance before my most recent baby. The smell of hair dye makes me sick when I'm pregnant so I spent most of the pregnancy with growing out roots. Now my gorgeous little man is nearly five months and I just can't find the time to go to the hairdresser and he'd have to come with me as he feeds every two hours and it's not ideal to take him. So I've resorted to a home dye for the first time in about 15 years. It's fine but a boring colour and I feel even more dowdy than usual post baby. It would have been quite handy to get laser hair removal done too.
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Latest post on 14 July 2013 - 14:02
I wish I'd gone to New York. Now by the time I will be able to make it there without children I will be so much older and my capacity for partying by night and shopping by day will be greatly diminished :D
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Latest post on 14 July 2013 - 08:52
At first glance I read that as priapism which would have been rather outre for Gulf News. I'm glad I looked closer then made use of Google ;)
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Latest post on 10 July 2013 - 19:02
Swimming? Great for burning off some energy. I'm not sure what the deal is with public swimming but I know a few people who go to the Sheikh Hamdan Sports Complex to swim. You could give them a call to see if they are open over Ramadan. http://www.hamdansc.com/complex/aboutus Or maybe you could visit a pool in one of the gated communities if you know anyone who lives there? We were at the pool in AR today and were the only ones there so it's not like you will be causing over crowding.
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Latest post on 10 July 2013 - 16:51
I thought it was supposed to be a holiday if the goes over 50 degrees? http://gulfnews.com/news/gulf/uae/weather/uae-temperatures-shoot-beyond-50-degrees-celsius-1.1207140 Isn't that why the official temperature never reaches 50? Or is that an urban myth?
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Latest post on 10 July 2013 - 16:49
I think no matter what you do and expect, like Anon said, all maids are different, so just be clear from the start what YOU want and expect, because if there is something eating away at you your relationship wont be good. Find something that works for you and your family. edited by Purple on 09/07/2013 You are absolutely right Purple. Our maid is very responsible and more than capable of taking care of herself. To be honest, I'm looking after the every need of my four young children and husband who works long hours, I couldn't have a grown woman in my home who I also had to shop and/or cook for and remind to look after herself.
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Latest post on 10 July 2013 - 13:50
Did you deliver in private hospital or in Latifa? Private. My little man held on so I didn't need Latifa for an early delivery. Maybe the government hospitals are just really busy now. A friend delivered at Latifa 3 years ago and found it good. She was registered there again for her baby born 1 year ago but ended up changing to private because she found it so frustrating and there wasn't much of a price difference for the birth packages.
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Latest post on 10 July 2013 - 12:48
No, Latifa is a maternity and pediatric hospital and you would get turned away. I think that you should take her to a private clinic like the previous poster stated. It will be cheaper for you and you will wait less time. Agreed.
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Latest post on 10 July 2013 - 11:07
I just chuck dates, nuts, sesame seeds, flaxseeds, desiccated coconut and cocoa powder in the food processor and process till crumbly. Roll in to balls, roll in coconut and keep in fridge. I'm breastfeeding every two hours (or more) round the clock at the moment so feel no need to restrain myself at all :D
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Latest post on 10 July 2013 - 11:01
I don't see how you can possibly " spoil" a child of any age by giving them too much physical affection, frankly it's ridiculous for your MIL to suggest so. [b'>Babies don't cry for no reason, I think it's always a good idea to listen when they show distress[/b'>. Exactly. Unlike my older children who cry if they think it might get their sibling in trouble.
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Latest post on 10 July 2013 - 10:59
It seems that if you are having a normal pregnancy, they let you slip through the cracks. Not just normal pregnancies unfortunately :( My last was high risk so I registered with Latifa in case of early delivery. My government OB (who was great) told me my big scan needed to be done before 30 weeks due to the complications. When trying to book I got plenty of receptionist eye rolling and huffing then an appointment a week before my due date. Thank goodness I was also going private and it was just a back up.