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Latest post on 09 July 2013 - 19:59
Thank you Marroosh for your kind words and also to the other ladies for your answers :) Sakhifa, I'm sorry, I've just re-read my last post to you and I sound shrill and badgering which wasn't my intent at all. The heat today must be getting to me :) I am respectful and try to be extra respectful during Ramadan but I was beginning to think that I was doing the wrong thing. As DesertRose said in another thread, it's a minefield. I'm off to put the aircon on really cold and lie on the couch :D
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Latest post on 09 July 2013 - 18:59
[ Well...I won't discount your claim that you see Muslim women cover more during Ramadan...but I don''t agree that this should be an example you follow. Be respectful all year long...you know the "rules" (enforced or not :)) ...why does covering your shoulders and wrists make you more respectful this month if you don't do this the rest of the year? "Ramadan behavior" should be the norm - not the exception :) I normally cover my shoulders and knees however during in Ramadan I cover to my wrists and ankles. I wouldn't feel comfortable going out during Ramadan with my lower arms and legs uncovered however during the rest of the year I do. Shoulders and knees covered seems to be following the dress code suggested in malls, I've never seen it suggested anywhere that I should cover from wrists to ankles. So, are you saying it's fine just to cover shoulders and knees during Ramadan with lower limbs exposed? Anyway, that is all superfluous to my original question, is it fine for my children (eldest 7) to just wear shorts and a t-shirt during Ramadan? Can anyone please tell me? Please?
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Latest post on 09 July 2013 - 14:39
When they hit puberty is when Muslim children would generally start to dress more conservatively. In any case, your style of dress shouldn't change just because it's Ramadan...it should be respectful no matter what time of year. Thanks Sakhifa. My children don't dress any different to their Muslim friends at the moment, I guess that will change as they get older and the girls start to cover. I know people often say your dress shouldn't change during Ramadan and should be respectful at all times but I always notice that there are a lot more fully veiled ladies around during Ramadan so have always thought that Muslim ladies themselves often tend towards more modesty at this time. Or am I wrong thinking this? For my part I go from covering knees and shoulders to covering ankles to wrists.
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Latest post on 09 July 2013 - 14:26
Look up Voluptu on FB - Rachel Ohan specialises in the Maxi - she has a studio in Al Quoz and at home in Ranches too. The other independents do a lot of Maxi's too - look up Judith Hobby Clothing , House of Colour Dubai and Melanie Gissing Design on Facebook MI! You've not been around for a while. Welcome back.
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Latest post on 09 July 2013 - 14:22
I think that is about what I paid for tyres on my Pajero, I went to a place on Al Manara Street, I can't find the details but maybe another poster might know it.
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Latest post on 09 July 2013 - 14:19
When it's hot they are normally in t-shirts or vests and shorts, should they be covering their knees and shoulders during Ramadan? They are nowhere near puberty, the oldest is 7.
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Latest post on 09 July 2013 - 14:04
If you are here long term then I'd say buying generally works out cheaper. You also have something to sell at the end of it so it's worth checking out which cars hold their resale value best. Car rental companies are making money off you, they certainly don't rent out at a loss.
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Latest post on 09 July 2013 - 13:26
Ignore your MIL, she's probably just jealous that she doesn't have a gorgeous little baby of her own to carry around anymore. Giving your child physical contact is not spoiling them, how ridiculous. Carry him as much as you want and enjoy every second of it. Every baby is different, some love lying on their back, some don't. You know your baby better that anyone so do what works for you. The RIE method (mentioned in the link below) is another example of doing what works for you. One friend who followed the principles it worked perfectly for. Happy baby, mobile from young, all good. Another friend who did it had an extremely frustrated grumpy child who couldn't get herself up until she was over 1 and would just lie on the floor screaming.
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Latest post on 09 July 2013 - 13:09
I've only ever had big scans at 12 weeks and 20 weeks with all of my babies. It's totally up to you what scans you have so just do what makes you feel comfortable.
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Latest post on 09 July 2013 - 13:00
Yep, it's pretty hot, I burnt the backs of my legs on my car seat this morning. Which won't be a problem from tomorrow when the knee length skirts get swapped for ankle length ones :)
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Latest post on 09 July 2013 - 10:14
Thanks Marroosh. My children would probably love it too, biscuit sandwiches sound a bit decadent though!
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Latest post on 09 July 2013 - 09:55
...dodging burst tyres on the road is a daily sport It's the summer slalom :D
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Latest post on 09 July 2013 - 09:54
This is probably a dumb question but what do you do with it? Spreadable biscuits sound kinda weird.
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Latest post on 09 July 2013 - 08:32
I do an all inclusive salary and our maid buys all her own food. She has a cupboard in the kitchen and a small fridge, microwave and rice cooker in her room. She uses the cooker in our kitchen. She eats really well, lots of fish, vegetables and rice. However, I don't really see it as any of my business what she chooses to eat, I pay her a good salary and if she choose to eat basic food to save money then that would be up to her, I ate a lot of noodles when I was a student.
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Latest post on 08 July 2013 - 13:02
My friends and I always suss them out when they tell us where they live haha 2 flirty guys said Meadows and Ranches to which we replied Wife and kids away. They both looked very sheepish and wandered off Ha! Do you reckon they are actually looking for an opportunity for a bit of philandering or just flirting in a doomed attempt to kid themselves that they've still got it?
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Latest post on 08 July 2013 - 09:37
Once in 6.5 years when we moved from our rented house to our own home.
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Latest post on 08 July 2013 - 09:33
You post a photo on facebook of your car temperature gauge saying 50.
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Latest post on 07 July 2013 - 16:20
A lot of violence. I hated it, DH liked it, but then he's a Sopranos' fan. Love the Sopranos My husband loves The Sopranos, he also loves Boardwalk Empire. Steve Buscemi is marvellous in it.
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Latest post on 07 July 2013 - 16:20
Yep, on series two. I like it although wouldn't say I love it. It's a bit different and I find it really interesting in terms of a snap shot of that time in the US. I don't find it particularly violent although that may be an indication of my general TV viewing habits. I believe it is based on a true story. Al Capone is in it!
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Latest post on 07 July 2013 - 16:18
Yep, on series two. I like it although wouldn't say I love it. It's a bit different and I find it really interesting in terms of a snap shot of that time in the US. I don't find it particularly violent although that may be an indication of my general TV viewing habits.
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Latest post on 07 July 2013 - 09:24
Love her comment at the end, good for her. http://www.bbc.co.uk/news/uk-23214821
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Latest post on 06 July 2013 - 21:34
I haven't seen it but would imagine it's a terrible thing to subject a precious young mind to. Nothing gets me moving at lightening pace like diving for the remote if my seven year ever gets out of bed and comes downstairs when I'm watching The Walking Dead.
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Latest post on 06 July 2013 - 21:29
On the topic of Wimbledon and faces, I'm just gutted Nadal exited so early. Some shirt off action from him never goes amiss. And before anyone jumps up and down about objectifying him, he wouldn't have done [url=http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=_3-GiVIE8gc'>this[/url'> if he minded being ogled.
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Latest post on 06 July 2013 - 19:21
I haven't watched any today but it is possible your language selection has swapped itself? On your remote press options (second from bottom row on mine) one scroll down to audio languages, select, scroll and change if given an english option. Ours sometimes randomly changes.
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Latest post on 06 July 2013 - 11:23
Same here Anon, anything that rides up goes straight in the don't wear pile! Lynett84, if you do the cooking in your home then I'd suggest getting a lot of meals in the freezer before bubs arrives or you might find yourself living on toast. It's really important to eat properly to recover from the birth and help with breastfeeding (if you plan on doing so) and it can be really hard to find the time and energy to do proper meals.
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Latest post on 06 July 2013 - 11:19
When daddy would drop him off, we found that our son wouldn't cry at all. His teacher said that children are generally more attached to mom then dad so they cry more when mummy drops them. I also think it's because Dads tend to be much more matter of fact when dropping children off. Mums are often anxious about it and their child picks up on it and it makes it harder. Generalising of course!
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Latest post on 05 July 2013 - 20:15
He quite possibly wants you to offer him some cash. Happens all the time.
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Latest post on 05 July 2013 - 20:07
Best buy hands down was the [url=http://www.babybjorn.com/products/bouncers/babysitter-balance/babysitter-balance/'>Baby Bjorn Balance Bouncer[/url'> loved by all my children from newborn and still going strong on my fourth baby Also great is the Braun ear thermometer. It's a bit big for them from newborn tiny but is fine from a couple of month and is SO good for taking the 'Oooo, he/she feels hot, do you think he's/she's hot, could that be a fever?' guesswork away. Worst buy was probably a fabric sling. I bought two types and couldn't find a good fit with either.
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Latest post on 04 July 2013 - 16:28
Hi Redrec It's such a personal decision but for me, I had my fourth 4 months ago and I know I'm done. That doesn't mean I'm happy about it and it is all so bittersweet with my little cherub knowing that he is my last baby but I feel four is our family's limit if that makes sense? The thought of no more newborns makes me want to cry to be honest but at the same time I'm at peace that we are done and I feel so lucky to have the family I do. My fourth was like the missing puzzle piece and when I met him for the first time I had an overwhelming sense of knowing I'd finally met all of my children.
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Latest post on 03 July 2013 - 21:55
Lots of pharmacies have it. The one in Arabian Ranches definitely does at the moment.
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Latest post on 03 July 2013 - 17:59
Yes, it's not exactly rocket science :)
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Latest post on 03 July 2013 - 15:16
Hi shiranf It's all about compromising, things won't be the same as before your little girl was born but that doesn't mean you have to let yourself go once you have children. Unless you are happy to of course and that is fine too! One child is really hard work, you have to be an all singing dancing entertainment system for them with no other little people around to entertain and provide distraction. In many ways I found having one child harder than having more than one so don't feel like you aren't doing well for finding it tough. I've always done lots of walking with the buggy with my children. When it's hot you have to head out early but it's still manageable. If you pick up a good enough pace it's a nice breeze for them. Evenings it's exercycle in front of the TV as soon as they are in bed. Yoga stretches with them watching when they are little and joining in when they are a bit bigger. Swimming pushing them in a baby float/ring in front of you. With waxing I either take them (and some toys) with me and talk to them while it's being done or occasionally at the weekend. Hair and nails at the weekend also, just less frequently than pre children. My husband doesn't mind, he knows the alternative is a minging wife. Relaxing type treatments -massages/facials etc are an extremely rare treat but that's where the compromise comes in. I know a lot of people that get hairdressers/beauticians to their home instead of going out for it. I tint my lashes at home so avoid having to wear mascara day to day. Tinted moisturiser, blush and bit of liner takes about 30 seconds. For showering (I love a long hot shower), I have the little one in the room in a baby chair or on a mat when they are babies or with a box of toys when they are bigger. Lots of peekaboo with the shower curtain. Bubble baths either in the evening or with your little one. Not relaxing but fun. With going out in the evening you just have to make the effort and do it. When you are worn out the thought of it can be daunting but once you are actually out it's great and you feel much better. You don'd need to stay out late, just a few hours in the adult world works wonders. Please read [url=http://www.ncregister.com/blog/simcha-fisher/to-the-mother-with-only-one-child'>this[/url'> it's an amazing letter to a mother of one from a mother of nine.
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Latest post on 02 July 2013 - 17:49
Hi kiwispiers They provide a warm waterproof outfit, boots and a helmet. All you need you take is gloves - you can buy there if you don't have any. I normally take a woolly hat. Take two pairs of socks in case they get wet. Don't dress your son in too many clothes, the first time I took my children I had them all bundled up then with the snowsuit on top they were too hot. Have fun!
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Latest post on 02 July 2013 - 15:20
Thank you celticcavegirl. We are not a fan of cereals in our house. DS is just yearning for this particular one, after he had a taste once! Has anyone spotted this brand in dubai? http://www.wholeearthfoods.com/ If it's their peanut butter you are after, as muse says it's in Spinneys MC. I don't buy it however as it has palm oil and salt added, the Arrowhead Mills brand at the Organic shop just has peanuts in it.
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Latest post on 02 July 2013 - 09:21
Was the party for the kids or the parents lol Foie Gras and Moet ;-) Both I think! I had a marvellous time admiring all the Louboutins parading around.
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Latest post on 02 July 2013 - 08:58
DS likes the nesquick chocolate balls for cereal. It's sugar laden! And not something I can make at home. I make muesli for DH but this i can't make at home and don't know what to alternate with, How old is your son Irooni? I just wouldn't buy anything like that for my children but the eldest is seven so I don't know how much of a battle these things are if they are older. If it's not in the house, they can't eat it. You can buy peanut butter made from just peanuts and nothing else from the Organic Shop. It's great. My children love it on toast.
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Latest post on 02 July 2013 - 08:56
At my children's school people seem to do invite the whole class parties in for the early years then invite just a few friends/only the girls/only the boys once they are in Year 1. We've been to some hugely extravagant parties but my children are still only young (eldest is 7) and they don't seem to notice or care how much money is spent. As long as they have a great time with their friends and get cake and a party bag (small or large, it doesn't matter) they consider it a top party. Probably the most extravagant was held over 3 ballrooms in the One and Only, buffet for 100 children, dance troup, 7 tier cake, foie gras station, sashimi station, Moet station etc. The parents that throw the extravagant parties are all lovely people and have always been perfectly happy sitting in our garden having beverages from the cool box and eating home made food when our children have had parties.
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Latest post on 01 July 2013 - 18:13
My [b'>point[/b'> is that just as there are some that do follow the laws there are a lot that don't. We are adults and we are entitled to choose our own actions and accept the consequences but it is a bit hypocritical to suggest that your employee must be forced to follow the rules if you don't. I am sponsored by my husband and if he told me I had to be home by 11 we wouldn't have a marriage anymore! You can't compare the two ophelia. My relationship with my husband is an equal partnership, my relationship with my maid is not. Whilst I consider her my equal as a person, as her boss I hold the balance of power and it really is a case of do as I say, not do as I do. It's the same in many jobs. <em>edited by Daza on 01/07/2013</em>
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Latest post on 01 July 2013 - 13:20
Looks great for around the house although it's worrying that Groupon has listed one of the selling points as 'fits in the backseat of a regular sized car'. For when you are driving? For when you leave your baby in the car while you nip to the shops?
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Latest post on 30 June 2013 - 16:20
Try and take a nap every day, ([b'>Daza will no doubt commiserate with me on how impossible this is once you have two children[/b'>) don't get out of bed until your husband leaves for work in the morning and go to bed as early as possible in the evening. Daytime sleep? Is that what you get when you close your eyes for 3 seconds when cooking dinner? :D
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Latest post on 30 June 2013 - 14:52
It's a tough time of year for the little ones with the heat and the aircon. It might not just be hunger that your little chap is waking for, he might well be thirsty too. My EBF baby is coming up 4 1/2 months and he is waking every couple of hours at night to feed, it's increased to this since our aircon has had to be on all night. It can also be hard keeping up your milk supply in the heat, I definitely have to work harder at having enough when the weather is hot. If you are struggling and happy to give formula then maybe you could try supplementing with another bottle to see if that helps? Personally, I wouldn't start solids at 4 months but that's just my preference. I'm taking the tough it out approach and sticking with EBF but it's a lot easier for me to do because he's not my first baby and I know that it doesn't last forever. It might feel like it does at the time but it truly doesn't! The most important thing for your baby is that he has a happy mummy so if you need to give yourself a break with more formula, do it. Happy mummy = happy baby. It's what I did with with my first baby as I felt like I wasn't coping. I seem to be able to get by on much less sleep now :) Good luck, no matter what you decide to do you will one day get to sleep through the night again, I promise.
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Latest post on 29 June 2013 - 12:42
Don't worry DR, I'm not offended at all. The different points of view are the great thing about this forum and I've learnt a lot about this region from your posts especially. I really enjoy Ramadan here and use it as a time to talk to my children about Islam and about helping others less fortunate. I want them to see Ramadan as a nice time and if I told them we weren't going out for the duration, they wouldn't enjoy it at all. We normally go away for half of Ramadan as whilst I do enjoy it, it can be tricky with the little ones and I do hate the thought of offending anyone, especially our hosts who as you say, are so gracious. I do hope I won't offend you, or anyone else if you see my lite ones tucked in to a quiet corner eating their sandwiches :)
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Latest post on 29 June 2013 - 10:01
Year after year after year Ramadan throws people into a panic because they seem to think going without food or drink as a non faster will make you shrivel up and die within a couple of hours - it wont. And speaking as as a non faster[b'> I can't see why people need to go to the extent of packed lunches etc[/b'> when out and about - why cant trips out be planned so that meals are eaten at home and other things done between your meal times. Seriously, does the onset of Ramadan trigger something in the primitive brain (no jokes about the driving please :) ) that results in people kind of losing their normal reasoning when it comes to food and drink. edited by DesertRose1958 on 29/06/2013 edited by DesertRose1958 on 29/06/2013 I take packed lunches out for myself (if pregnant or nursing) and my children during Ramadan. Malls don't open until 10am so that is when we go. My children are young so eat around midday and when it is hot outside I like to spend a good few hours in the mall, maybe go to a play area for an hour, have a wander, generally get a bit of exercise and blow off some steam for my children. I don't want to have to pack them in to the car to get home for 12pm ish to eat at home. They would climb the walls and send me potty if we never left the house during Ramadan. I avoid the roads in the later afternoons during Ramadan so I don't wish to take them to the mall in the afternoon. In the evenings they are in bed. I don't want to my children to be eating fast food all the time when we are at the mall so I pack a healthy lunch. For myself, I get bad pregnancy nausea and have low blood pressure so need to eat regularly when pregnant. I wouldn't feel safe to drive after not eating for several hours, especially as I have very precious cargo on board. When nursing I also have to eat regularly or my milk supply drops dramatically, I wish I was one of those women who produce oodles of milk but I'm not, I really have to work at it. This Ramadan, my youngest is EBF so it's crucial I eat. When I'm not pregnant or nursing I do not eat or drink when out during Ramadan, it makes things much easier. Although with four babies in the last seven years I am normally pregnant or nursing to be honest.
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Latest post on 28 June 2013 - 16:44
Hi Bongo74 I've had three pregnant Ramadans here and never found it a huge issue. I always take a packed lunch for my children and myself. My children eat it tucked in to a quite corner somewhere and I'll eat too if there aren't other people around. If it's busy I'll eat mine in the car once we get back to it. If I need to drink water I'll do so discretely. I've spoken to a couple of local friends about it they have said it's absolutely fine.
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Latest post on 27 June 2013 - 17:17
Do you mind telling which places it is illegal I'm just curious? It's illegal in NZ. Which doesn't mean it doesn't happen or course. NZ has one of the highest rates of physical child abuse in the developed world and also of child death due to maltreatment. It's shameful :(
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Latest post on 27 June 2013 - 15:47
I agree emlsnre, surely they could give them out a week earlier? One year our class had a poor mum in tears at pick up as they were refusing to give a report as they said she hadn't paid for something. She was insisting she had but couldn't produce the receipt as they were moving to another country the next day and their things had been packed and shipped already. It was awful, she needed the report for her son's new school and was so upset. They wouldn't budge. If they do insist on reports on the last day then surely they could send a letter a week prior saying if your child's was being withheld. You'd then have a week to sort it. Especially valid given how hopeless their 'systems' are and how often payments go astray. I hope you sort it out bblue, what a frustrating start to the hols. Happy holidays anyway :)
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Latest post on 27 June 2013 - 12:49
Viana brand Bratwurst, three big sausages per packet, they are fresh. Since you mentioned a sausage sarnie I've been hankering for one. Lashings of sauce, a bit of mustard. Mmmmm.
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Latest post on 27 June 2013 - 12:20
I have noticed the Le Marche at AR hasn't had any for ages. The Organic Shop has veggie sausages that are much nicer (IMO) than Linda's if you fancy a change.
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Latest post on 27 June 2013 - 12:02
Mrs_B, I really feel for you and I think in your shoes,[b'> I would just hang all the expense she has cost you and cancel her return ticket now[/b'>, if that is possible in your circumstances. As someone suggested below, see if you can go through an agency like Howdra or Explorer as though it may be more expensive, it seems you will have more peace of mind. In the meantime, if you need a friendly helping hand, you could do worse than look for the Facebook group "The Fairy Godmothers Club Support Page". Without her passport can you cancel her visa though or would you have to report her as absconded?
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Latest post on 27 June 2013 - 11:58
Apr04 good luck with getting your driving licence :). I understand what you are saying about independence and being able to hop in the car. The feeling isolated is something that concerns me with not driving and living in a villa. . [b'>Lovelylilies, I'm with you on the taxis taking the stress out of driving.[/b'> I'm the total opposite! I love driving myself and find taxis so stressful. I avoid taxis whenever I can, the good drivers seem few and far between. They, speed, tailgate, take calls, don't know where they are going etc and glare at me when I pull them up on any of it. Plus they are worked to the bone and exhausted. To the OP, if you've managed without a car until now you'll probably be fine. If not, you've always got the option of getting a car so maybe just wait and see how it goes.