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Latest post on 27 June 2013 - 10:26
I couldn't have someone in my home who I didn't trust, especially with very young children in the house. Yes, the old death in the family / passport damaged tale is familiar story but just because others do it doesn't mean that I would accept it from someone employed by me. I would meet her at the airport with her bags and get her on on plane back, visa cancelled without her ever having left the airport. I have no idea how it works but if you spoke to Immigration it might be possible for them to deal with it without her even going through departures. Once she is in your home it is going to be a lot harder and not pleasant to fire her and you leave yourself open for her to abscond. Save yourself the stress.
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Latest post on 27 June 2013 - 10:00
I really don't understand the need to compartmentalise and label how we raise our children. All is seems to do is give rise to confusion about what each method actually entails (as seen on this thread) and create dissension about what is 'right'. It also often seems to set new mothers up for failure when they try to follow a method that really doesn't suit them or their baby. Surely we all just want happy, healthy children, why put a name to how we go about that? Sometimes it seems that women are so busy debating different child raising methods that we forget what is the the most helpful thing of all - sharing experiences and supporting each other.
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Latest post on 26 June 2013 - 15:17
Cut out stodge. No bread, pasta, rice, cakes, biscuits etc. Lots of vegetables, raw or lightly steamed, pulses, beans, lean meats and nuts. Nothing processed. Lots and lots of water. The first few days are the hardest, after that you will start feeling great.
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Latest post on 26 June 2013 - 08:31
Great idea Tallybalt! I love Momo, never thought of having iftar there though, must try.
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Latest post on 26 June 2013 - 08:04
Hi angel joy This is just my opinion but I honestly think that at 14 months you are expecting too much of him and being too hard on him. He doesn't understand the concept of saying sorry and won't for some time so holding him by his ears and forcing him to say sorry is only giving him attention for his behaviour which is not going to help. Not talking to him for 5 minutes is also too long for his age, it's a very long time for a 14 month old. The article SueB posted raises some really good points. This is also good advice, note that they are talking about a two year old. Your son is much younger so has even less grasp of concepts: "Your two year old does not yet have a hard-wired, internalized conscience. Nor is she intellectually at an age of reason (which usually begins at around two-and-a-half). Therefore, making her say "I'm sorry," and putting her in a corner until she does will have no long-term effect. This punitive approach really doesn't discipline a two year-old. It just teaches them the words that they have to say to get back to playing. At this age, toddlers usually do not have highly developed social or language skills. Given their lack of verbal ability and interpersonal skills, they often turn to hitting and other forms of aggression (e.g. biting) to express their frustration and anger etc. Removing your child from the scene of the aggression and redirecting her attention to something else is a productive response with this age group. Try being firm and telling her that her hitting hurts and is not allowed. Then leave the room, and leave her to connect your departure with her misbehavior. Over time, this response will result in behavioral changes. Actions such as these have much more of an impact than lecturing, scolding, time-outs and insisting upon an apology. Positive Discipline for Preschoolers, by Nelsen, Erwin and Duffy is an excellent resource for you." Toddlers can be such hard work and so frustrating but they are also amazing little people. Understanding what stage of development they are at and what they are and aren't capable of is really useful in how you approach problems. <em>edited by Daza on 26/06/2013</em>
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Latest post on 25 June 2013 - 19:56
Don't forget that you should not start eating til the prayer begins (you should wait, there usually is a countdown), I've never been to one with a countdown, I've been missing out! NYE style?
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Latest post on 25 June 2013 - 19:50
I cant wait to try Iftar where is the best ones to go to and at [b'>what time of day are they[/b'>? Right after sunset. The actual time is slightly earlier every day as the days gets shorter.
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Latest post on 25 June 2013 - 13:46
Try not to worry too much, at 14 months he's still so so young and is just beginning to test the boundaries. Keep calm and always be consistent. Give good behaviour lots of positive attention and remove and ignore him when his behaviour isn't so good. The general rule for naughty step is one minute for every year of age so your son should have no more than one minute. Remember that he is only young and learning so much every day. He is at an age when he can become really frustrated with his limitations, I'd suggest doing some reading (google it) of brain development at his age. He's not doing it maliciously and will learn in time if you are firm, fair and most of all consistent. If the only reason you are considering nursery is to try and help his behaviour then I'd say don't do it. In all probability it will actually make it worse, in the short term at least. Also, I hope this doesn't sound too harsh but you need to learn to deal with his behaviour at home rather than sending him off for someone else to deal with. Interaction with other children is important though, find out toddler activities in your area go from there. Good luck. <em>edited by Daza on 25/06/2013</em>
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Latest post on 25 June 2013 - 13:33
The frothy milk is what makes it! Highly recommend it and it takes seconds to clean. I also use the frother for making hot chocolates.
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Latest post on 24 June 2013 - 08:44
When first travelling with a baby I took cooled boiled water already in the bottles and pre measured formula. I kept the bottles upright so they didn't leak. Cabin crew would heat the bottles when needed. Later on I got boiled water on board and let it cool. I've travelled through many airports including Heathrow and LA with cooled water in bottles and it's never been an issue. Countless people travel with supplies for bottle fed babies, airport security are well used to it and it's not a big deal.
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Latest post on 24 June 2013 - 08:37
The last week is a huge pain as a parent having to do the school run in the searing heat and keeping track of the endless splash/snow/book/toy/party days but my children love the last week - as did I when I was at school. It's a chance for them to let their hair down a bit and have some fun with their friends before not seeing them all summer. It's a well deserved week for them after all their hard work during the year. <em>edited by Daza on 24/06/2013</em>
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Latest post on 24 June 2013 - 07:49
Fantastic marycatherine! Thanks. I will get hubby to buy some organic maple syrup next time he goes to Toronto. You can buy organic maple syrup here at the Organic Shop. It's 100% pure, no other ingredients.
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Latest post on 23 June 2013 - 16:10
My daughter is only seven but I'll be buying her a bra style top as soon as she asks for it whether it's needed or not. The reason is that when I was 11 I was the only girl in my class with no bra and it was horrible. I plucked up the courage to ask my mother for one on several occasions but she refused as she said I didn't need one. Neither did a lot of girls in my class but I was the only one without. I went from liking PE and swimming to dreading it because I was embarrassed to get changed in front of anyone. It made me even more ashamed of my body which I was ashamed of enough in the first place being skinny and flat chested. In a nice final touch, on the last day of school the boys targeted me in the inevitable water fight as our white blouses went totally see through when wet and I was the only one whose nipples were on clear display with no bra to cover them :( I was finally allowed a bra when I was 12 and my confidence soared :) ETA: The only lesson I learned from my mother taking a stand was that I'd never put my own daughter through the same humiliation. <em>edited by Daza on 23/06/2013</em>
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Latest post on 23 June 2013 - 16:01
Just to add my two fils worth, I think child pageants and vile and wouldn't let my daughter near one.
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Latest post on 23 June 2013 - 13:35
1. Organic chicken. Organic Shop, The Change Initiative, Spinneys an C4 all sometimes have stock. It is more expensive but worth it. If you are on a budget it's worth paying for organic and eating it less if needs be. 2. Tomato sauce. Amy's Organic from the Organic Shop is nice. Or make your own, saute diced onions and garlic, add tinned tomatoes, a spoon of brown sugar, herbs and spices to taste then puree. 3. Cereal. Make your own. Every morning I mix 1/4 cup of oats, 1/4 cup of oat bran and 1/4 cup of ground flaxseed with a handful of dried fruit and nuts. Or you can make up bigger batches of what ever you like, grains, seeds, dried fruit, nuts etc in a container. 4. If you want 100% meat then make your own. Or meatballs. 5. I use sunflower oil for cooking. No idea if it's better or worse than canola. Probably similar. 6. Pancakes. Sprinkled sugar and lemon juice. Yum. 7. Make your own or the Organic Shop has a good bakery with a full list of ingredients. <em>edited by Daza on 23/06/2013</em>
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Latest post on 23 June 2013 - 09:54
[url=http://www.stuff.co.nz/business/money/8810196/How-to-teach-kids-about-money'>This[/url'> article is more about pocket money but it talks about monetary rewards for children.
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Latest post on 21 June 2013 - 14:25
I start brushing as soon as a tooth is through, it's all a bit hazy but I think just with water at first. Then an age appropriate toothpaste, fluoride or not depending on your views. Same with the toothbrush, just an age appropriate one. I've always used minty toothpastes, not the vile fruit or bubblegum ones. I've also been told that plain baking soda is good. I need to research it and if it has basis, I'll be using that for my currently teething baby.
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Latest post on 21 June 2013 - 14:17
He's had death threats, maybe the promoter just didn't think it worth the risk. I can imagine it would have made insuring the shows a tad pricey.
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Latest post on 21 June 2013 - 14:14
My DD - also aged 8, does not receive any pocket money etc. She got fist place in her grade and I rewarded her with a much desired iPad. I have uploaded educational games and lots of story books. I don't see why children require money. My DD has a bank account and if she is given any money she deposits it into her account. It is difficult to teach our children how to manage their money, especially here, where they live in a consumer and highly competitive society. I wouldn't give money directly, but rather something that he has been wanting for ages or treat him to a day out to a fun destination. Agreed, it is difficult to teach our children how to manage their money but don't you think in order to learn they need to actually have money of their own? I do give my children pocket money (the eldest is 7) and the primary reason is to begin to teach them the value of money. If they never have it, how will they learn? I've mostly stopped buying them things they want, toys, books etc and they have to use their pocket money. If they can't afford it, they have to save their money. They caught on very quickly and will work out how many weeks they need to save to buy certain things then they make a decision on whether it's worth the wait. I think it's really important that they understand that everything we buy has a value and it needs to be worked for and sometimes waited for. They also have enforced longer term savings of a third of their 'income'. I see it as a moot point whether you choose to reward your child with your time, an ice cream, 100 dirhams to spend as they wish or an iPad costing several thousand dirhams. The point is to acknowledge and reward their hard work. The means you see fit is irrelevant really. After my 7 year olds recent assessment week I took her out for morning tea, just the two of us and gave her a box set of some of her favourite books. She was thrilled and felt special. I didn't wait until her results came in, she studied hard and did her best so I wanted to acknowledge that. When we do finally get her results she'll get a hug and a well done.
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Latest post on 21 June 2013 - 13:51
Did you guys really want to see him? Or is this a windup? I couldn't stand Russell Brand and couldn't see what all the fuss was about until I took the time to read his book and listen to some of his interviews. As it turns out, he's smart, funny, well read and incredibly articulate. His views on the recent Woolwich attack are worth a [url=http://www.huffingtonpost.co.uk/russell-brand/woolwich_b_3347964.html'>look.[/url'>
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Latest post on 21 June 2013 - 13:43
Does anyone actually buy the thick winter coats they seem to stock year after year? Surely there cannot be that many people holidaying in the Arctic? I would think that people do buy them. Otherwise, they wouldn't stock them. Let's not forget that it is winter in the Southern Hemisphere. Let's also not forget that it's 'summer' in the UK ;)
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Latest post on 20 June 2013 - 13:58
she's already pregnant..... IVF was just the history; and the seafood just an example. Posted while I was typing! Seafood is no reason to say anything. Drugs or heavy drinking, I'd try to help.
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Latest post on 20 June 2013 - 13:55
Oh my goodness, it's none of your friend's business! Seafood? I thought you were going to ask about bungy jumping or something! She's been trying for a baby for years, she needs support, not criticism over totally inconsequential things. Women get judged about so many things when they are pregnant, it's such a shame the judgments on your friend have started even before conception.
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Latest post on 20 June 2013 - 10:56
As long as you've got a pimped out 4x4 it can hang out of the window of then I'm sure you'd have no problems. That cub is SO cute.
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Latest post on 20 June 2013 - 10:24
Oh no! I saw a great interview with him the other day where he said he was coming here. I did wonder about it given his subject matter. I know other comedians have had to tone it down when coming to Dubai so wondered how much he'd have left to talk about! Mind you, if AD let Madonna do her thing then maybe that isn't the problem.
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Latest post on 20 June 2013 - 10:16
I'd give 100. My 7 year old got super excited when she saw a red note in her piggy bank recently (I'd swapped it for change).
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Latest post on 19 June 2013 - 13:52
hahah, what was the actual thing the poster Overheard at McDonalds? And who was the OP? wasn't it something about someone moving to Cannes...... Monaco maybe? I vaguely remember posting on a thread years ago about overhearing two alpha mummies having a competitive chat in Costa. Pretty sure I didn't start the thread though so it could have been in reply to a Cannes one.
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Latest post on 18 June 2013 - 19:20
Hahaha! Planning on going out in a flame of odeing glory?
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Latest post on 18 June 2013 - 19:18
Sadly not :p <em>edited by Daza on 18/06/2013</em>
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Latest post on 18 June 2013 - 19:11
Daza (N Passage Erk) you sort of suit that! N.Perk for short. I sound like a loyalty scheme. Would you like to apply for our N.Perk card maaaaaam?
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Latest post on 18 June 2013 - 19:06
I think we should all reincarnate ourselves as whatever the log-in words were. love from Ngessi But. I'm something starting with n passage. Erk.
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Latest post on 18 June 2013 - 14:00
My children have all been fine at the theater at that age but I think it depends on the child, none of mine are fidgeters. A nice snack bag might help him sit still :)
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Latest post on 18 June 2013 - 13:47
Ha! Although they have a point, syrup covers up the taste of their p1ssy coffee nicely.
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Latest post on 18 June 2013 - 13:45
No it's me and MrsPineapple! Everyone wants to sit next to her on the bus ;)
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Latest post on 18 June 2013 - 13:42
There are lots of plant nurseries by Academic City Road which is often referred to as as the plant souk, There is also a vary large plant nursery just past Dragon Mart. You take the first right past the Dragonmart / International City entrance. It's a small road so keep a close eye out. Follow it round, it curves to the left at some point, there is a gate to turn left in to the nursery. There is an office by the gate, they will wave you on or tell you exactly where to go. It's all very rustic, green and countryside like. The plants are at the end of a bumpy track. I love going there.
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Latest post on 18 June 2013 - 13:34
No, it's not right. Very inconsiderate. Although compared to half the world being starving it's a pretty minor issue ;)
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Latest post on 18 June 2013 - 11:01
Hi kitty bitty I wouldn't try to surprise him again. To be honest, I'd probably be pretty annoyed too if I'd had a fight with my husband and he organised a romantic dinner then feel asleep! Maybe try actually sitting down with him and talking honestly about what's going wrong rather than trying to win him over? You need to be able to communicate to sort out problems and if you are spending days at a time when you aren't speaking then you've obviously got a communication problem. Good luck.
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Latest post on 18 June 2013 - 10:46
My 3 year hates taking medicine of any kind and spits it if given a fraction of a chance. We've had the most luck with the syringe method, it's awful and it feels like I'm choking him but it gets the most down. He's a chocolate fiend so is is slightly better about it if I promise a square of chocolate afterwards. Good luck and I hope your little chap is feeling better soon.
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Latest post on 17 June 2013 - 17:32
Never heard of it. *Tootles off to check IMDB*
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Latest post on 17 June 2013 - 17:29
Don't worry Baslaef, you'll be fine. Watching the sibling bond grow is a beautiful experience, enjoy :)
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Latest post on 17 June 2013 - 17:01
CS claims it was a 'playful tiff'. Holding someone's neck to emphasis your point? Hmmmm.... http://www.thesun.co.uk/sol/homepage/news/4971983/police-launch-probe-into-nigella-lawson-husbands-throat-grab.html
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Latest post on 17 June 2013 - 14:34
Congrats! Top tip for lasting the distance? I have twice divorced parents so am flying blind about how to make a marriage last :)
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Latest post on 17 June 2013 - 14:29
Keep a stack of towels in your car so you only need to remember to replace weekly? Or keep towels next to your exercise clothes? Or set a reminder on your phone?
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Latest post on 17 June 2013 - 14:22
Congratulations Baslaef! It can feel tricky at first but it won't be long before you're an expert at juggling 2 children. I decided against the TV / iPad when breastfeeding. Simply because my second (and third, and fourth) babies breastfeed all the time when they were tiny and I didn't want the TV on non-stop or my toddler whining for it if I only had it on some of the time. We read a LOT of books when feeding. Nice for the older child and nice for the baby to hear my voice. I'd put music on for my toddler to dance and me to chair dance. I also would put out different boxes of toys throughout the day for the toddler to rummage in. Simple puzzles were good. We'd also play lots of games where I'd ask my toddler to go and find certain things and bring them to me. Or I'd tip out lots of coloured balls or soft toys for collecting. You'll probably also find that there is not much you can't do when breast feeding your second baby. Walking around and making meals can both be done no problems one handed. The days of sitting down reading or watching TV whilst breastfeeding your first will seem like a distant memory! With regards to putting your newborn to sleep, I've always found that my children have gotten off to sleep better with a bit of noise around when they are tiny so you don't need a silent house. Of course you'll have moments when your older child will shriek at just the wrong time and wake the baby but it's just one of those unavoidable things. As some of the other posters have said, it's also a good time to encourage your older child to play independently. It's also a great learning curve for them that they need to begin to think of others. Good luck!
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Latest post on 16 June 2013 - 16:54
It must be! The brother and I are 9 months and 1 week apart-mum always wanted twins and felt this was the next best thing-talk about insane! Oh my god! Your mother is one brave woman wuffles, that is the closest gap I've ever heard of.
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Latest post on 16 June 2013 - 15:59
Good luck with the drive paddington1. If it were me I'd definitely want to be at the hospital before the contractions really got going. When I had my first baby there was no slow start to proper contractions. We were an 8 minute drive from the hospital (with 12 speed bumps, ouch), I had two contractions on the way and belted in to a car seat not able to move around is NOT a nice position to have a contraction in. AD is lot further than 8 minutes and you just never know how quickly contractions are going to heat up.
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Latest post on 16 June 2013 - 12:47
You're right Pikachu, he could be suffering from dementia or there be some other issue. Which would be tragic for both of them.
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Latest post on 16 June 2013 - 12:21
do you actually believe the Nigella story? There are pictures. Unless you think they are acting?
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Latest post on 16 June 2013 - 12:20
Yuck. I think I'd say something but you're right, it is a difficult conversation to start so it's hard to know unless I was in that situation. I'd like to think I would though, it's not good form at all.
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Latest post on 16 June 2013 - 12:16
It's probably very sad that I'm more interested in this story, also jaw-dropping (to me): http://www.mirror.co.uk/news/uk-news/nigella-lawson-attacked-husband-see-1955564 Gosh, that is awful. If he does that in public imagine what he does in private :( I can't believe no-one intervened. I've been thinking a lot about moral responsibility after watching [url=http://www.stuff.co.nz/world/australia/8797666/Army-chief-becomes-unlikely-feminist-hero'>this[/url'> speech.