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Latest post on 27 May 2013 - 16:25
I've seen a salary in the region for 2500 for a live out mentioned on here a few times. Do you have plans for how your son will be getting home from school and also to school if your husband is unable to drop him?
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Latest post on 27 May 2013 - 16:12
As sarahlou says, make sure you are drinking plenty of water. I'm always super hot when I'm pregnant so being out in the heat is even more sticky than usual but if you have to do it, you have to do it. I haven't had to walk to work in the heat but have done a lot of walking to and from school runs, activities and pool side for swimming lessons with no problems. Make sure you always have water and you'll be fine :)
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Latest post on 24 May 2013 - 18:32
[b'>Why don't you just pay for a seat for her[/b'>? I hope you have relatives sitting next to you and not strangers! The extra 3000 dirhams or so cost might be the reason! I've always kept my children on my lap until you have to buy one for them, it's a lot of extra money for a seat.
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Latest post on 23 May 2013 - 16:39
[b'>Gosh, so much drama.[/b'> If you trust the maid then let her stay working here, if not then send her home. It i really not a big event, just drive to the airport and walk her through. There is little to talk about, and she will not wrestle with you at the airport. Just tell her that you are going there to do the cancellation as immigration is closed on the weekend. Once inside, you can check her in....all done. Drama-o-rama indeed! When we had a maid a abscond a few years back it was high drama Chez Daza. It was all a bit of a let down how uninterested and 'meh' immigration were when we contacted them. BUT SHE"S GONE!!! WHAT DO WE DO???!!! *Stifled yawning from the immigration man on the other end of the phone*
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Latest post on 22 May 2013 - 18:06
I dropped my purse in Lamcy Plaza carpark last year. A man found it, called me and handed it back with not even 1 fils missing. I tried to give him money to say thank you but he refused to take it.
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Latest post on 22 May 2013 - 10:39
Poor you mushypeas, I had to go to Media City yesterday mid morning and left after half an hour of not being able to find a park anywhere. There were so many cars driving around trying to find a space, absolute nightmare.
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Latest post on 22 May 2013 - 10:34
My husband's work is moving premises shortly, staff weren't consulted or given sweetners nor would I expect them to be. It will really inconvenience some staff but if they don't like it they can leave. I don't see it as any different with a maid. With regards to the small room, Ikea has small bunk beds that work really well in our small maid's room. <em>edited by Daza on 22/05/2013</em>
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Latest post on 22 May 2013 - 10:29
Outspan, why would you put up such questions and comments from any man you don't know? If a man spoke to me like that in a bar I'd tell him to shut it and walk away. If a man spoke to me like when he was working, as a taxi driver or anything else, and I was a customer I'd report him. If a black cab driver in London said such things I'd get out his cab and report him immediately. I'm probably a bit sensitive to such things as many years ago I was attacked by a London mini cab driver (stupid me for getting in it, luckily I was able to get out and run) but I think there are quite sinister overtones to any driver who would make such comments.
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Latest post on 21 May 2013 - 19:36
ok! im sorry if i think my childs health is important and for trying to give good advice. I certainly know that all children are different. I have 4 under 6 years old and find it a struggle everyday. Not just in what they eat. My kids dont eat porridge for breakfast and i'm glad because i dont have time to cook it every morning while trying to dress and feed 4 kids. But i'm not gonna give them sugar for breakfast. thats all. [b'>is that a crime for me to say that[/b'>? Of course it's not a crime for you to say that :)
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Latest post on 21 May 2013 - 19:26
Fantastic kissymac! So pleased for you. Good luck DizzyDuck, I hope a place comes up for you too.
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Latest post on 21 May 2013 - 16:08
I know this is a super tricky situation but if I found out my husband (or anyone else) was drinking then driving my children then I'd put a stop to it that very day. Leave it even one single day to get proof and he could crash and the consequences don't bear thinking about. I'm sorry your friend is in this situation.
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Latest post on 21 May 2013 - 15:02
AR is only 8 Minutes away from Victory Heights, except between 7-8.30 am when it will take you an hour or so! Although if you go out the main exit then cut through Global Village, along Emirates Road then down Umm Sequim Street (if that is what it is called at that end) then it takes about 10 - 20 minutes depending on where in the Ranches you are.
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Latest post on 21 May 2013 - 13:54
Thank you - I will just head down to Satwa tomorrow then! :) See you there, I'll be the one with the cross baby and 3 year old in tow ;)
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Latest post on 21 May 2013 - 13:46
The last time I did mine was in Knowledge Village, I tried to go there again this morning and after driving around for half an hour failing to find a park, leaving, then coming back again to pick up my husband to drop me off so I didn't need to park....they told me to go to Satwa. All with a very unhappy baby in tow. So I'd definitely advise Satwa! Our maid got hers done recently in there.
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Latest post on 21 May 2013 - 10:16
was only giving positive criticism... nothing negative and no names calling. My opinion to the OPs question.... children will eat when they're hungry. theres no need to force them or worry. my eldest child was so difficult and i used to stress at every meal trying to get her to eat.... then my second child i didnt have time to fuss so she ate when she was hungry. and when children are hungry they are more likely not to be so fussy. If your daughter eats an apple for breakfast then thats ok. just give her an extra snack for morning tea or extra for lunch. All of our children are different and we all have different things that we think are important dxbqueen. My children won't eat porridge (my preferred choice) in the morning unless I force them no matter how hungry they are. They would rather go to school hungry. Which isn't acceptable at all to me. Morning snack is far too late for their first food of the day. They need something to kick start them in the morning and if that means compromising a bit then I'll do it. No guilt either :)
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Latest post on 21 May 2013 - 09:26
My older children (5 and 7) got 10 dirhams a week until recently but I've just changed it to 30 dirhams, 10 of which has to be saved. I've done it in conjunction with no longer buying them things when we are out and about as I want them to learn that everything costs money and if they want things they might need to prioritise. The 10 dirhams saved a week goes in to a glass jar in the kitchen so they can see their savings grow. They can spend it every three months, it's not happened yet but they are looking forward to it. My 3 year old gets 10 dirhams in the jar and 3 dirham coins as he doesn't think that paper money is real money! They have to do chores to earn computer time at the weekend, we don't do chores for pocket money yet but will in the future.
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Latest post on 21 May 2013 - 09:17
Don't worry Redrec, you're doing a great job. I understand the stress of a picky eater, it can be all consuming and make you feel like a failure - which of course you aren't. My children all used to eat porridge when they were younger but can't stand it now. I forced the issue (it's so good for them!) for ages until one morning when my 5 year old vomited in his porridge bowl :( I felt like the worst parent in the world. They now have breakfast boxes with a variety of things. Sometimes toast, sometimes apple and a handful of dry cereal, sometimes pancakes, sometimes chocolate waffles! From a packet! Gasp! They eat very healthily at their other meals so I'm prepared to give a little on breakfast. It's taken the battle out of breakfast time and we are all much happier. [url=http://www.huffingtonpost.com/steve-wiens/let-me-be-the-one-who-says-it-out-loud_b_3209305.html '>Here[/url'> is something for you to read :) <em>edited by Daza on 21/05/2013</em>
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Latest post on 20 May 2013 - 22:27
Daza, i'm a firm believer in Girls Can Do Anything, in fact when I nipped round to my daughters last week she was outside with her wee girl cleaning the car. I asked her why and she said because it needs done. :0 Its not something I think I will ever do and not just because I'm of the mind that just because its acceptable to do something like clean a car - it doesn't mean you have to. :D I wouldn't make a good Kiwi but I do make a good sister to three kiwis and I don't laugh at my birth dad when we go to the shops and he stands in chewing gum [b'>cos he didn't wear shoes[/b'>. I leave that to my Kiwi stepmum :D edited by DesertRose1958 on 20/05/2013 Love it! Shoes are definitely optional in our house, even for trips to mall :D
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Latest post on 20 May 2013 - 16:47
In fact that's one of my pet hates...seeing women out on the street at 5.30am cleaning a car. In our home it's the women who clean the cars! Either our maid or me (although never at 5.30am, urg), I don't think my husband has ever cleaned a car in his life. I had to teach him how to mow a lawn when we bought our first house together too. I'm a Kiwi girl raised in the era of 'Girls can do Anything' ;)
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Latest post on 20 May 2013 - 13:22
Unbelievably I've had plenty of man management roles at work in the Uk, but it feels very different in your own home. I did too Victoria, I apply the same management principles as I did then to our maid now and it works well. If you put your maid's behaviour in the context of in a standard workplace and you can really see how appalling it is. Refusing to work agreed hours, refusing to let your boss in to your office, calling it a prison, complaining phone calls out of hours were an invasion of privacy....you wouldn't have put up with this from an employee then so why do it now? <em>edited by Daza on 20/05/2013</em>
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Latest post on 19 May 2013 - 16:58
Being family orientated and Christian is no indication that she won't play games and take you for what she can get. Years ago I hired a maid who espoused family values and her love of reading the bible in the interview. It didn't stop her walking out without telling me a few days in to the job after she got a better offer. She just disappeared, after numerous phone calls and stress on my part I got a text message informing me the next day. To be totally honest, I think your maid has seen you as a pushover and has decided to see how much she can get away with. When our current maid first started she had 1.5 days off. A few weeks in she asked if she could have just one day off as all her friends only had one day and she had no one to spend the half day with. Needing flexible hours is certainly not unusual. TB, I remember the window talker!
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Latest post on 19 May 2013 - 16:38
On a footnote - I worked as a school counsellor in UK and some of the kids who had the biggest fears and issues were those where parents believed there were adult matters that should not be shared with my kids. In my experience the happiest children were those where issues were discussed within a family( on an age appropriate level) with the caveat generally being ending with something along lines of, 'but things will work out one way or another.etc etc" Userathotmaildotcom if you want to chat. That's really interesting Feefmick. Something for me to remember as my children grow up :)
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Latest post on 19 May 2013 - 15:06
You were honest from the start apart what your expectations were and she accepted the role. Why should you have to compromise and agree to a happy (for her) medium because she has now changed her mind? There was no 'misunderstanding over hours' on her part, she knows that you've paid for her visa and won't want to lose the money so thinks she can dictate her terms to you. It's probably what she did in her previous job hence no reference.
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Latest post on 19 May 2013 - 13:54
I had this happen once, it wasn't nice at all. For once, Google was reassuring. http://www.nhs.uk/Conditions/Sleep-paralysis/Pages/Introduction.aspx
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Latest post on 19 May 2013 - 11:41
Thanks Anon, I've got a lot to be happy about :) For me it was one of those things that I knew I'd never regret doing but I was pretty sure I'd regret if I didn't. Good luck with your decision!
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Latest post on 19 May 2013 - 11:25
Although I should probably add that sometimes the sheer volume of noise in the house makes me feel like my head is going to explode. On the loudest days, I quite look forward to them all being tucked up in bed ;)
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Latest post on 19 May 2013 - 11:22
Hi Anon! I'm absolutely loving being a mum of four! It's certainly quite hectic but I much prefer a bit of chaos to quiet. I'm actually finding it easier than having three as I'm finding there are less issues with someone being left out which used to cause no end of problems. There is less time for one on one attention for my children but anything they lose out on I feel is more than made up with what they gain from an extra sibling. If I need to make the time for one on one whether for bad or good behaviour then I do. Only my two oldest children have homework, my five year old we do it when he feels like it, my seven year old we have a set time so the others just amuse themselves if I need to help her. Not sure how it will work with increased homework going forward but I'm sure we will find way. My seven year old loves helping her brother with his homework and they both love reading to their younger brothers which is nice. What has been a surprise is how much my husband is enjoying it, he took a lot of convincing to go for four so it's a big relief. All in all I feel very blessed and I'm so happy with my four little cherubs :)
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Latest post on 19 May 2013 - 10:48
I agree SallyM. My oldest child is 7 and she would have no idea about stress over school places unless I told her. However the age that the OPs children's are they would be well aware of who had places, who was going where etc. It's understandable that they would worry if they thought they weren't joining their friends. What is the OP meant to do, lie to them and promise them a place will come up? What if it doesn't? No school place and a broken promise from mum too. I'm sure the OP is doing all she can to reassure and motivate her children but she can't promise them something she can't deliver. Good luck to your children kissymac.
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Latest post on 19 May 2013 - 10:39
What did you think those women were going to do to your son that you had to get him away so urgently? That's not the point. A parent has every right to request that a stranger not take photos of their child. Or to delete them if they do.
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Latest post on 19 May 2013 - 10:27
DesertRose and DAza, interesting that you view her cleaning skills as less important than other things (or rather not sufficient without other assets). I was employing a cleaner first and foremost ( I don't work outside the house though do work from home sporadically) so underestimated childcare and personality, but now see how important it is. She is not a misery to have around, but she's not great. Good mornings are often ignored! Hi Victoria, I'm a SAHM so our maid's prime responsibility is cleaning with minimal childcare but I still definitely view personality as more important than cleaning skills. If someone has the right attitude then the rest can be sorted out with training. A bad attitude or grumpy demeanor are a LOT harder to improve. If you do decide to let her go and not send her home please be honest with any future employers about why you are no longer employing her. Otherwise another family will just have the same problems and they will end up losing out too. It may be that she isn't cut out for being a maid and would be better suited in a job with less people skills needed.
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Latest post on 18 May 2013 - 22:31
children have the right to be able to live surrounded by people who are great to them regardless of who the person is. They also have the right to have happy smiley people in their life. Your daughters home is her haven. This is so very true. I don't think it matters how great at cleaning your maid, if she isn't nice to have in your home it will bring down the mood of everyone. Plus if she is relatively new things are only going to get worse. I'd cut my losses and find someone who would be content with my rules :)
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Latest post on 17 May 2013 - 21:05
Try and make your own ... this is a strictly vegan one and I find this blogger invaluable [url=http://glutenfreegoddess.blogspot.ae/2009/07/egg-free-olive-oil-mayo.html'>Mayo[/url'> She also has a cheesless cheese ... the link is in the text of the mayo recipe... HTH edited by commentator2012 on 16/05/2013 Thank you commentator, I made that mayo today and it's great! Yum.
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Latest post on 17 May 2013 - 11:10
Have you got a government health card anyway? That can cut down costs dramatically as well and use the government facilities. EW Admin edited by admin on 17/05/2013 Sorry to the OP to diverge slightly but are you sure about your statement above? When I recently had to go to a government clinic they told me that a government health card didn't actually make any difference. It used to, but not anymore. Would be interesting to know if I was given incorrect information. Good luck to the OP.
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Latest post on 16 May 2013 - 21:10
Try not to worry to much about it onthemoveagain, I was in Thailand with my children last summer, the youngest was 2 1/2 so beyond puree stage but the hotel we stayed at was really accommodating to what ever food we wanted, restaurants were the same. I always find holidays a good chance to try to get my little ones to step outside their normal eating and try new foods, you never know what you might discover they like. As Feefmick says, french fries if all else fails!
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Latest post on 16 May 2013 - 13:48
lately she is yelling at my kids all the time. I'd show her the door on this alone, the rest is beside the point. As a parent, I sometimes yell at my children. If I'm employing someone to look after them - no. It's nothing I wouldn't expect of myself, for 18 months I was an after school nanny for three demanding children. I didn't yell at them once. Not ever.
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Latest post on 16 May 2013 - 07:51
Are we talking uphill gardening? edited by summer breeze on 16/05/2013 Hahaha! Just nearly dropped my baby laughing :D
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Latest post on 15 May 2013 - 13:49
Alternatively say nothing but at the end of the treatment - turn round and say "Now i would have given you a 20% tip but you were very rude to me by saying xxx - so i think i will use that money to buy myself a cake to cheer myself up; so thank you" Ha! Love it.
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Latest post on 15 May 2013 - 13:42
Yes I do, do you think that stops them from rude comments? Or are they afraid they will be in trouble if they do? Yep, I do think it stops the rude comments. Or more likely just means they make the rude comments to their friends in their own language :D
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Latest post on 15 May 2013 - 13:37
I never get these comments from salon girls or any other rude comments. If I were you ladies, I'd tell these girls to their faces what you think. You don't have to accept this! But you wear an abaya right Marroosh? I may be wrong but I can't imagine anyone in an abaya has to put up with rude comments. ETA: LadyBee you must be neither fat, nor hairy, nor single, nor with one child :D <em>edited by Daza on 15/05/2013</em>
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Latest post on 15 May 2013 - 11:07
Much much much more fun to make them squirm and try and dig themselves out of a hole......... True! <em>edited by Daza on 15/05/2013</em>
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Latest post on 15 May 2013 - 10:21
Just milk :( can't get them to eat anything in the morning. They drink a glass of milk at 6:30 and head to school..breakfast at 9 on wards After reading all these comments, i feel bad :( Don't feel bad lamaaz, it can be a nightmare to get them to eat in the morning with the early starts. We've had the most success with doing them breakfast boxes to eat in the car on the way to school. Do you think that would help?
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Latest post on 15 May 2013 - 10:12
I haven't been but The Ivy has been recommended on here a number of times as a not brunchy brunch.
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Latest post on 15 May 2013 - 09:08
I don't think you need a witty reply, especially if like me you aren't a genius with words! People know full well what they are saying and how it will be received. When I've been on the receiving end on a rude comment and always say 'Don't be so rude' and not with a smile. <em>edited by Daza on 15/05/2013</em>
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Latest post on 15 May 2013 - 09:00
I used to be very defensive and protective when other children were a bit forceful with my daughter but having been on the other end of things I try and be a little more understanding now, not saying its ok for your child to be pushed around but I just remind myself that they are only two years of age, a difficult age group ;) Great post Thunderbird, I think you've made some very valid points. I was much more protective of my first child but with subsequent children I've gotten a lot more used to rough and tumble. Children can be a lot more physical if they have older siblings (especially brothers) who they play rough with. Of course it is not ok for the other little boy in this situation to be hitting the OPs son but he may not even realise he is doing anything wrong. It is up to his parents to make him understand this but as you've said, he's only two himself. I've been on both ends of things myself. When my first child was small I wasn't very understanding on a couple of occasions when she got bitten.....the shoe was very much on the other foot when she went through a biting phase herself :( Good luck OP, I hope your little boy isn't finding it too upsetting. I often think learning how to deal with children's social interaction is almost as hard for us as it is for them!
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Latest post on 14 May 2013 - 20:51
Does he want to go the playgroup and enjoy being there in general? If he was otherwise was enjoying the playgroup I wouldn't withdraw him but would try to resolve the issue with the other child. Either by talking to the teacher or the parents depending at the situation. If he wasn't enjoying it (for whatever reason) I would withdraw him.
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Latest post on 14 May 2013 - 16:09
i delivered my son at city last year and you are correct. in fact, they insisted he sleeps on my chest for comfort, warmth and ease when breastfeeding. when he had to be checked for something they did it right next to my bed. the only time he left the room was for his first bath - and we went with the nurse so she could show us how to do it LOL the only thing that i missed out on was the lactation consultant. by the time we were in our room, she had left for the day and there wasnt any back-up consultant. and she didnt come to the hospital on the friday. i had to get a lactation consultant to do home visits - well worth it! good luck x If I had the option, I'd go to City for this approach alone, it is SO much more mummy and baby friendly. At American they did a couple of in room checks but my baby normally had to go to the nursery for checks. Our room was quite a distance from the nursery so each time they took him I'd have to first insist to the nurse that yes, I was coming too and no she wasn't to take him without me and her saying he would be fine was beside the point. I'd then have to rush to get my dressing gown on while telling her to please WAIT while she kept insisting 'it's fine'. Erm, no, it's not. Then I'd have to shuffle down the corridor and wait outside the nursery peering through the gaps in the blinds to watch as he got lined up with all the other screaming babies to wait his turn. It was never quick and I'd invariably get dizzy (c-section coupled with low blood pressure) so would end up kneeling on the floor trying not to faint. Once a porter took pity on me and got me a chair. When he finally came out it would be back down the corridor with the nurse looking bemused. I ended up going home a day early against my obstetricians advice as being in the hospital was just too much effort!
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Latest post on 14 May 2013 - 10:47
Hope you get it sorted MISoMA, I do agree with the other ladies though, don't rush in to a quick fix, make sure you get it done properly. If you've got any sort of warranty repairs etc might have to be done with Audi directly to keep it valid. Don't panic, it could be worse, my husband had building material off the back of a small truck fall on to his Q7 whilst doing 120kmph on Sheikh Mohammed Bin Zayed Road this morning. The damage is more than a few scratches (but thankfully only to the car).
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Latest post on 13 May 2013 - 17:13
When I confronted them they actually refused to admit it, when I called the management and made a big deal they finally admit that every time they took my son away they bottle fed him. Explained a lot to why he refused to breastfeed, he just wasnt hungry. Goodness KenzaB, that is utterly atrocious, I would have been absolutely livid. Beyond livid in fact. Awful that you went through that. I've heard a few stories along those lines which is why I've never let any of my babies out of my sight in the hospital. Along with instructions in chart that my baby is not to be taken from my room without me going too. Which didn't stop me waking one night to find a nurse walking out the door with my baby. I hit the roof. I found the 'we know best' attitude of some of the nurses appalling.
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Latest post on 13 May 2013 - 16:22
A couple of years ago I did NZ - Dubai alone with my three children who were 6 months, 2 and 4. I didn't get an extra seat for my baby, we got bulkhead seats with a bassinet. It was actually fine and as Feefmick said, the thought is worse than the reality. You just need to be super organised and expect to get no rest so anything you do get is a bonus. I've always found cabin crew really helpful when travelling alone with children. As bizarre as it sounds, I actually had a really nice journey with my children with no problems at all. Oh apart from going to check in the night before and discovering the second leg of my flight had been cancelled! I got it sorted quickly after a bit of hyperventilating. I always avoid night flights, my children don't sleep well so I'd rather be entertaining them during the day than trying to keep them quiet at night. Even if it doesn't go so well, it's short term pain for long term gain, think how lovely it will be to see your family :) <em>edited by Daza on 13/05/2013</em>
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Latest post on 13 May 2013 - 15:07
Daza. ..a mango that madam has peeled for her. Of course DR!