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Latest post on 09 March 2013 - 13:20
Congratulations gilliannavarro! I hope the ladies still to deliver are feeling ok, the last few weeks can be so tough. Just thought srdoucet, if you aren't doing it already, I find wearing underwear with strong tummy support really helpful after a c-section. It gives your tummy muscles extra support and makes it easier to go up and down stairs without having to hold your tummy. Added bonus of holding everything in too ;)
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Latest post on 07 March 2013 - 13:28
But we all have the right to disagree...I see it as disagree and not judgment...interesting that that word came out often in the posts.I asked a question! Maybe you didn't mean to come across as judgmental Brigida but that's how your OP came across to me. I know that meanings and intent can get skewed when written but use of caps, multiple exclamation and question marks plus statements such as "Just cannot understand why a mother does not attend to the cries of her baby!" and "How can a mother allow this!?" comes across as shouty and very judgmental. It's nice that the majority of replies are sympathetic to mothers. When I had my first baby I spent endless hours pushing her around the streets as she cried (then eventually settled) in her buggy. I felt like the worst mother in the world but it was preferable to being at home with her feeling completely alone, increasingly desperate and like the walls were closing in as she screamed and none of my efforts to soothe her worked. Luckily I got nothing but sympathetic looks from people, a judgmental look could easily have tipped me over the edge I was teetering on
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Latest post on 07 March 2013 - 10:37
The biggest (Thursday ) tip for parents in this situation - get up and walk with the child - yes up and down the aisle, to the toilet, the bulkhead window areas - whatever! They need diversion as opposed to being expected to sit in a seat for x number of hours. I've worn a path around many an aeroplane! Nothing quite like that feeling of dread when the seat belt sign goes on. To the OP, my children aren't great sleepers on flights. I always take day flights when possible as I find it much easier to be entertaining them during the day than trying to keep them quiet when they aren't sleeping at night.
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Latest post on 07 March 2013 - 10:32
Doesn't coconut oil have a strong smell? I would be keen to try it as LO has mild eczema but not sure about the smell.... The cheap synthetic added oils smell strongly but the pure virgin oil has a very mild smell. I get it from The Organic Shop.
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Latest post on 06 March 2013 - 15:42
Last year my "A" got offered a job by one of my neighbours for 1,000 Dirhams more a month. I don't think I'd be thrilled with my neighbours if they did that!
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Latest post on 06 March 2013 - 15:35
Virgin coconut oil. I use it for everything! This is from a homeopathy website... 100% pure coconut oil is a highly saturated fat expressed from the kernels of the coconut. Coconut oil has long been famed for its gentle moisturising properties. It is an incredibly light, easily absorbed oil that is very similar to skin’s natural moisturiser - sebum. Coconut oil has been used for thousands of years as a skin conditioner around the world and is particularly known for its gentle healing effect on eczema. For this reason coconut oil is the one thing I recommend to all parents of babies suffering from eczema. The best way to use it is when the skin is slightly damp, just having got out of a bath is great, even better if a massage is included! Very often parents comment to me that the results are better than their prescription creams!
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Latest post on 06 March 2013 - 14:21
thanks Daza. Hey how long do we have to do all the birth certificate stuff?? I can't remember. No idea sorry, I've always left it up to my husband! Although now I think about it, 11 days is coming to mind. It's not long whatever it is. Husband was pretty pleased with himself after doing it this time, he went at about 8.30am, got a park by the door then did the drop the documents and pay 500 dirhams for home delivery option. In and out in 5 minutes and the shiny new certificates were delivered to our home two days later.
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Latest post on 06 March 2013 - 14:14
This seems to be increasingly common, for existing pupils our school requires a 10% deposit by later this month to hold a place for the next academic year. For new starters in had to be paid by the last week of January. Not sure at which point it is taken off fees. On the plus side, at least only people who actually want the place will pay it meaning that places not taken up can be offered to those on the waiting list.
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Latest post on 06 March 2013 - 13:45
Worst case scenario I have had DD in the Baby Bjorn sleeping in Spinneys when she went off on one - I lowered the straps, moved aside my shirt, covered her head with a muslin, and she fed while I pushed the trolley round! Loool! Problem solved! Love it! It's amazing how creative you can get in order to stealth feed a little one.
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Latest post on 06 March 2013 - 13:40
What do you know about tuna Mrs V? lol.....and how much tuna is one allowed to eat in a day? Haha! I've made many a tuna salad for my husband, he used to be a bit tubby, not anymore.
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Latest post on 06 March 2013 - 13:33
Thanks Daza.....I need more of these talks. I am far from skinny though. If you keep eating the tuna salads you will be skinny. Eat steamed pud and custard, you'll never reach your goal. It's all about the willpower.
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Latest post on 06 March 2013 - 13:27
Nothing tastes as good as skinny feels ;)
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Latest post on 06 March 2013 - 13:23
How do you know they are ignoring their baby? Maybe they are walking to the changing room/feeding room/car/cafe to sit down and console their baby? I'm just back from a trip to the supermarket with my two week old. He started crying in the car just before we arrived, I put him in his buggy, walked through the supermarket to a cafe on the other side (with him screaming in his buggy) and got a snack for my three year old while I feed my baby. If someone had seen me walking through the shop they may have assumed I was ignoring him. I wasn't.
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Latest post on 05 March 2013 - 21:11
Congratulations Simpleplans! Srdoucet, I could put my baby in the carseat as soon as we left the hospital - I stayed in 3 nights. I think the general guide is lift nothing heavier than your baby.
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Latest post on 05 March 2013 - 19:00
Congratulations srdoucet and EDF8! So pleased to hear your little ones have arrived safe and sound. I hope you are loving all the wonderful newborn snuggles.
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Latest post on 05 March 2013 - 13:58
Our maid is great and does a fantastic job :)
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Latest post on 05 March 2013 - 13:38
It's not antiperspirant but I use one of those natural mineral salt deodorants and it works fine. I get it from the Organic Shop.
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Latest post on 05 March 2013 - 13:21
I'm not sure what the big deal is about children having a late night on a school night as a rare very special treat. When I was 7 my parents allowed me out for a very late night for the first time as a special treat to see the ballet. I still remember how grown up and magical it felt and it certainly didn't do me any harm. My children are normally in bed before 7pm on a school night, I'll be making an exception to take them to Bieber.
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Latest post on 04 March 2013 - 14:19
My MIL (she's Australian)came out to visit us in NZ where we were temporarily staying. I had a new born and a 2 year old (we'd moved from Malaysia when I was 5 months pregnant). She proceeded to lambast me because I didn't offer my DH a cup of tea, a plate of fruit (pre cut), the newspaper and 20 mins TV watching on his return from work in the evenings.............. My word, that'll teach you for not looking after her boy! Did you keep your cool or show her the door?
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Latest post on 04 March 2013 - 12:09
my maid had braces ! ha ha ! when she arrived from Indonesia she was wearing them and honestly .. Hand on my heart I though fook im going to have to pay for them to be replaced if anything goes wrong ! My son needs them and ive been quoted between 15 - 20 K so when I saw the braces on her I did panic ! I did interview her on the phone but it didnt cross my mind to ask her if she wears glasses or braces ! anyway .. 3 months into working for me .. i came home and she smiled at me and the braces were gone ! I asked her what happened and she said that [b'>they were a bit tight[/b'> so she cut them off ! apparently she paid something like 500 aed for the braces in Jakarta ! Lol, she obviously didn't do her homework before getting them!
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Latest post on 04 March 2013 - 11:40
You can buy fake braces. It's a fashion thing. Evidently. EW is probably my source for this so I can't guarantee accuracy....
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Latest post on 04 March 2013 - 11:36
Hi TDB, I'm sorry you are finding it so tough. I don't work so can't offer advice on managing that but I think some of the ladies have given you great tips for getting organised. You WILL find find your rhythm and it WILL get easier. I honestly don't think it sounds like you need a full time maid. If you've had to go back to work for financial reasons then it would negate the purpose to be paying for full time nursery and a full time maid to sit home most of the day with little to do. A maid isn't just the monthly salary, the extra costs (hiring, visa, medical etc) are high. Then there would also be the moving costs and higher rent. You need to sit down with your husband and have a serious talk about what he can do to help keep your family running smoothly. You are both working full time, he needs to step up and help. If he doesn't you will just get resentful which will lead to more arguments and stress. Please don't live on coffee and diet coke! You need to be eating properly to help your body cope. As a few of the ladies have said, make bulk meals at the weekend and freeze. If you don't look after yourelf you will end up getting sick which will make things even harder. Good luck, I hope things improve soon.
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Latest post on 03 March 2013 - 17:40
Hmmm, ok, well in the UK everywhere I went you kept your knickers on and just pulled them to the side... also would have never been told to keep my legs open with one knee held up to my chest which has happened here before! Don't get me wrong - they're a lot more "thorough" here and thats not a bad thing, I just remember finding it shocking to begin with :) perhaps the salons I went to in the UK just had prudish waxer's! edited by kates01 on 03/03/2013 I think they must have been prudish. Never forget when one of my friends went for a wax at a new place in London. Her normal waxer did a proper all off wax so she assumed the same at the new place. After the front was done she turned over and *ahem* spread her cheeks to help. The waxer reacted with utter horror. Whilst drowning her shame in the pub that night she kept muttering 'if the cheeks aren't spread, it's not a real brazilian.'
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Latest post on 03 March 2013 - 15:56
Some advice corinnad - I dont know where you're from but I got a real shock when I very first had a full bikini wax here in comparison to at home - definitely not for the shy! Have got used to it now but I definitely could have done with that advice before I tried it! I go to a lady at tips and toes in the media city branch who's really good If it's not asking too much information, how did you find it varied? I've had full waxes both here and the UK and it's been legs akimbo leave your dignity at the door in both places!
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Latest post on 03 March 2013 - 14:26
Not quite sure what you are talking about Arch, there are loads of Odysseys on the roads here. Maybe you just aren't out and about on the roads at school run time? I haven't experienced any lack of courtesy either. I've driven SUVs for years so was wondering if I would feel 'smaller' on the road but it actually feels very similar height wise to my Pajero. With regards to 'commanding respect' no one yet has tried to race me at the lights like happens on occasion when I'm in my husbands Q7 although I don't take that as a bad thing!
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Latest post on 03 March 2013 - 14:03
Another excellent feature of the Odyssey......I counted 18 cup holders in it the other day. You can never have too many cup holders. SunDevil, my car in London had heated leather seats, heaven on a winter's day!
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Latest post on 03 March 2013 - 14:00
I make chocolate crackles with just rice bubbles and melted chocolate, they are delicious*! *Although I am a Kiwi so you may well consider my version not up to standard ;)
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Latest post on 03 March 2013 - 13:01
I recently got a Honda Odyssey and love it. It's brilliant with a gaggle of young children. The seats in the back can be changed around so you can have the configuration that suits you best. The sliding doors for the back are great and make life much easier, especially as you can open them from a distance with a button on your key. It drives very smoothly and the engine is big enough for a bit of power if needed. The boot is big and deep enough for buggies/bikes etc. Love it. It replaced my Pajero which I also loved but found slightly impractical with 3 children as I often have their friends in the car for carpooling etc and access to the boot seats wasn't the easiest for strapping them in. My husband has an Audi Q7 which is a great car although has the same access problem with little ones in the boot, a bit easier than the Pajero but still not great.
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Latest post on 02 March 2013 - 16:58
I have seen her for three of my pregnancies - the last was high risk. She delivered my perfect baby boy last week. She really got me through what was a very difficult pregnancy, I highly recommend her.
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Latest post on 28 February 2013 - 15:02
Straight in the bin! Not worth risking it for the sake of one egg. Apart from any illness issues, have you ever cracked open a rotten egg? *GAGS* It's vile. I'd rather not take the chance.
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Latest post on 28 February 2013 - 14:55
Just in case you end up with a c-section, try not to worry too much about the recovery. Babies 2, 3 and 4 were elective c-sections for me and I found the recovery easier than after baby 1 who was natural. Everyone is different but that is how it worked for me. Somethings you obviously can't do after a c-section, carrying around your 2.5 year old will be out of the question for a few weeks. It's best to spend plenty of time with your feet up but you have to do that anyway with a newborn with all the feeding that goes on. After my first c-section I was back driving about a week later, I checked with my insurance company and there aren't the insurance issues that there are in the UK. Good luck with the turning, head down mini srdoucet!
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Latest post on 27 February 2013 - 19:17
It's never worked as weight loss for me, I have to exercise and watch what I eat to lose the weight, just like when I'm not breastfeeding. I never lose the last 2 kgs until I stop breastfeeding no matter what I do. I figure that it's probably extra fluid. Maybe some people can eat what they want and not exercise but still lose the baby weight through breastfeeding, I'm not one of them! You can lose most of the weight when breastfeeding but for most people it's not going to happen if you are eating whatever you want and not exercising.
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Latest post on 27 February 2013 - 16:04
Congratulations! I'm waiting for my baby to wake up so shall bullet point for time efficiency :) *Avoid Google. When it comes to other things I'm an advocate of researching everything to the hilt but when it comes to pregnancy if you Google every little twinge you'll only end up terrifying yourself. *Avoid waistbands. I find dresses much more comfortable than pregnancy trousers. The exception to this is over the bump preggy leggings. Buy two pairs and you can can wear them under lots of non pregnancy long top and tunics. *Avoid high heels. Flats are the way to go, your back will thank you for it. *Pregnacare pregnancy supplement has always works for me. *Rub oil in to your tummy/hips/tops of thighs before you shower then shower as normal. The excess sticky oil will come off but your skin will be soft. I used virgin coconut oil. *Babycenter.com is great. You can join and be emailed a weekly update of your baby's development stage. I found it invaluable during my first pregnancy. *Smile and thank people for their advice, it's normally well meaning. Take on board what works for you and vent to your husband about the idiotic suggestions later. *Tell your husband to expect lots of venting. He should smile, nod and agree with you at all times. *Be kind to yourself and look after yourself. You are growing a whole new person. Yes, women have being doing it forever, that doesn't make it any less amazing. Good luck!
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Latest post on 27 February 2013 - 15:18
Fully agree with you ladies. Daza hope things are going smoothly at home. Two friends already were saying about hearing our baby announcement on fb and I made it clear to them that we will announce it when we're ready and once all the family knows. Not sure any of you have done it or what your views are.... But what's with all the baby arrival pictures of the baby on the bare chest? I'm not a prude but wouldn't want that type of pic posted. All going great thanks srdoucet. My baby on the bare chest photos are strictly for home viewing only! I can't believe what some people put on fb, some moments are best kept private.
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Latest post on 27 February 2013 - 14:57
There was an article in the newspaper about a lady updating her status when her waters broke to her contractions to giving birth! Good grief! Contractions bring an f word to mind but it's certainly not fb!
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Latest post on 27 February 2013 - 13:55
I should have done that CMM! I stupidly thought that my family would be aware of one of the golden rules of fb, no mention of pregnancies or new babies until the parents themselves have announced.
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Latest post on 27 February 2013 - 12:55
Jeez! If they are that worried about it maybe they could wrap a stash of gifts for their other children to be pulled out if the new baby gets a large gift. Or explain to their older children that they can't always be the center of attention.....I think it's pretty presumptuous to tell people how they need to bring/present a gift. If someone is kind enough to buy you a gift (especially for your fourth!) then is it really too hard to accept it graciously without conditions attached? Speaking of fb etiquette, I had a baby last week and wanted to wait at while, enjoying my baby (and coming down off all the drugs!) before logging in to fb and announcing it to the world. I ended up having to log in and do a quick post after my brother immediately announced it to the world, tagging both myself and my husband. I love my brother dearly and wasn't cross but would have preferred to announce it in my own time!
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Latest post on 26 February 2013 - 17:15
I think you are right salsB, according to this an A and an O can't have a B. http://www.redcrossblood.org/learn-about-blood/blood-types I'd be getting a pinprick test quickly! Hopefully it's just a lab mix up. Not long ago I read an article about how 1 in 10 men in the UK are raising / have raised children that they think are biologically theirs but aren't. Crikey.
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Latest post on 26 February 2013 - 15:59
I love how so many woman on this forum are so quick to apply their often uneducated opinion. OP asked where to have a nice vegan breakfast not whether or not you agreed with her choice to be vegan. Really people. Anyhow, The Farm offers some very nice vegan breakie dishes. Enjoy. Ooo yes, forgot about The Farm! They have a really nice vegan tofu scramble on the breakfast menu.
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Latest post on 26 February 2013 - 13:20
I've just read The 100 Year Old Man Who Climbed Out of the Window and Disappeared. I couldn't put it down, LOVED it. http://www.amazon.co.uk/Hundred-Year-Old-Man-Climbed-Window-Disappeared/dp/1843913720
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Latest post on 26 February 2013 - 12:47
Pmd, I'm vegan and love breakfast at The Address Downtown Burj Dubai. It's about 140 dirhams per person for the buffet. They have a great selection of fruits, cereals, dried fruit, nuts and compotes. There are vegan options in the indian selection and the chefs are really helpful about telling you what is in everything. The pancakes, waffles etc are all non vegan but I never have trouble finding more than enough to eat. They also have soya milk available and make soya lattes which are included in the buffet cost. Lovely fresh juices too.
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Latest post on 23 February 2013 - 21:20
My gorgeous little boy has arrived! I had a show and other impending labour twinges on Sunday so delivery day was bumped up and he arrived on Monday morning. He's perfect and everything is wonderful. Sorry to hear the first turning didn't work srdoucet. Fingers crossed he gets his head down. My little boy was transverse until a couple of days before he arrived so hopefully yours will just be late in turning too. Good luck!
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Latest post on 16 February 2013 - 18:49
Congrats johjoh! I had my oldest (7) in the UK and my current baby will be my third here. I found it a much nicer experience having a baby here than in the UK.
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Latest post on 16 February 2013 - 16:48
I gave up trying to call LH for anything! They should be able to advise you when you go for the NT, it's normally much easier in person.
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Latest post on 16 February 2013 - 16:45
I never get the blow dry - I always ask for rough dry and it has never occurred to me that they would mind. Usually it is coz I am sick of sitting in a chair for 2 hours getting my hair colored and don't think it warrants an extra 150aed. Sometimes I will go to the salon just for a blow dry or hair curl tho, and I generally leave a tip. What irritates me is that hairdressers are always up selling - especially when you're in a vulnerable state getting your hair washed or something. I've never left a hair salon here without them trying to get me to take highlights (double the price of my roots color), get a conditioning treatment, buy the expensive shampoo, or leave with a blow dry. And generally the prices are a rip off so I always say no - very annoying tho when I'm just trying to get stuck into a magazine and they keep piping up with extra things I should pay for! I once had a hair washer try to get me to book a facial with them. Her selling point was 'but your skin looks so old maaaaaam'. No facial, no tip, silly cow.
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Latest post on 16 February 2013 - 16:08
Not sure, is that the blood test at the same time as the NT? If so yes, although both were done at FMC, I hadn't registered with LH at that point.
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Latest post on 16 February 2013 - 13:35
Some places charge for a quick dry too. One of my friends recently specified no blow dry to a new hairdresser. At the end the hairdresser asked if she should give it a quick dry off....then charged 60 dirhams for it.
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Latest post on 16 February 2013 - 12:59
I skip the blow dry if I don't have enough time. I've never felt rude telling any hairdresser and have never been made to feel I'm being rude in return. Mind you, I have a lot of hair and it takes ages, they are probably relieved to skip it!
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Latest post on 16 February 2013 - 12:51
I've just been too, soooo many flowers! It's really beautiful although I did find it a little odd there were no benches or anything to sit down on.
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Latest post on 16 February 2013 - 12:48
La Leche League is here: https://www.facebook.com/groups/lll.uae/