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Latest post on 28 September 2014 - 09:49
has any of you ladies actually got over something like this? You might find http://www.survivinginfidelity.com helpful
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Latest post on 28 September 2014 - 09:39
Trying to get off the Ranches at 7 am - allow 30 minutes
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Latest post on 28 September 2014 - 09:34
They do not. Nor did I say they did, if the only entertainment people get in a day is to pick at English.. Yet as this board is occupied by writers, I will direct attention to the précise wording [i'>is no longer current[/i'> This means it is not up-to-date with the latest trends,teachings, and so forth. I supported this point with reference to people who graduated in the early 2000s, when social media had yet to hit the world. Knowing how to pick English is a skill. It is not a qualification. Short of having a degree in English lit., this is nothing beyond two words at the end of the CV… Languages English edited by Londiamond on 28/09/2014 Is no longer current = Has a sell-by date
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Latest post on 27 September 2014 - 23:26
Yes. A qualified sham. And it is hard to get back into the workplace for a lot of these ladies. CVs read as follows for many of them Qualifications 2002 Bachelor of XYZ Work Experience 2005 - 2006 The Next Role On The Ladder 2002 - 2004 Entry Level Position 1998-2000 Something to make $ while at school … and then it is blank from when the child was born through to the present date. That can be 4+ years. In those years, the degree they hold is no longer current, as market forces have changed. This was particularly relevant to people who got their degrees before social-media became what it is. No one says these ladies do not have brilliant organizational skills. They do. When brought into the office, give them time and they will have it very organized. However, when their CV is alongside a CV where the candidate has held positions here, has seen the changes as they happened, has been a part of the changes, it is so very competitive for these ladies. And that is fine for many. Not all women want to work. There are some who crave this, though. And while they love being a sahm, they also want to strive to their own self-actalisation career-wise, as they invested years in it before becoming a mother. Therefore, if, as the OP, a mother would like to look for positions where she can get the best of both worlds, where she is happy to take a low wage to have this balance, then good for her. Her CV will thank her for it. edited by Londiamond on 27/09/2014 This is the first time I ever heard of degrees having sell-by dates....
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Latest post on 27 September 2014 - 21:31
I use a program called Irfan View - you can copy a photo onto it and change format or size..search for it on google..
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Latest post on 26 September 2014 - 20:58
Very concerning indeed Do you live on the Palm ? No, I don't. oh
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Latest post on 26 September 2014 - 20:44
Very concerning indeed Do you live on the Palm ?
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Latest post on 25 September 2014 - 22:48
well, this is a happy little thread isn't it.? ...i'm sure it's giving this year's intake of newbies a great comfort !! lol
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Latest post on 25 September 2014 - 22:07
Everything else i've read says it was a burst water pipe - hardly something they could have anticipated...
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Latest post on 25 September 2014 - 12:34
omg i'm so shocked that a man would by condoms in the AFTERNOON !! What has the world come to ?? Definitely up to no good... for sure... apologies to the OP for the hijack....
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Latest post on 25 September 2014 - 10:33
I believe it's only illegal for men ...
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Latest post on 24 September 2014 - 13:39
I am not a fan, but I can see it's a good way to go out and celebrate if you are a big group and paying individually, one price for food and drink, don't need to sit down after the meal and count who ordered what. Even the poshest hotel brunches mostly serve some cheap plonk. Much rather go out for a nice evening meal and spend the day at the beach. But here's the thing. We found over the years, that brunches refuse to cater for non-drinkers and are basically penalised for not drinking. We had a massive argument at one venue, who refused to give the non-drinkers a discount, saying it was one price for all - because of the food - whatever! Another reason many people stopped going. They all offer soft drink packages, don't they ? We often have our son with us who doesn't drink, have never had a probem...sorry FD but it seems we're frequenting completely different places lol
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Latest post on 24 September 2014 - 13:36
I don't find them very social at all, when many have dj's blasting music so loudly, you can't even talk to on another. I must be getting old then - never been to any with music !! lol apart from Bamboo LAgoon who have an amazing Polynesian band..
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Latest post on 24 September 2014 - 13:26
We enjoy them - sometimes just family but usually a crowd - it's a fun, sociable way to spend a day and we only go to places where the food and drink is good and the staff are attentive enough to clear crockery immmediately... eta - each to his own - i've never been to a beauty salon here so we all spend our money how we choose, and why shouldn't we ? :D <em>edited by Doubting Thomas on 24/09/2014</em>
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Latest post on 24 September 2014 - 12:33
Because talking about it probably just gives these ppl the attention they seek - as Suzyduzy wrote. I say, move forward, don't look back, stay positive, keep head hi and focused on real life. In the end they will be judged for thier comments, not you. Yes, i'm sure you're right...just so infuriating that people can so easily fool others into thinking they're something they're not !!
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Latest post on 24 September 2014 - 11:24
I'm not talking about private messages - i get loads too, in my "other" inbox, but they're easy to ignore and to be honest, a bit of a giggle !! lol I'm talking about someone making comments in a group, following me to another group and making abusive comments to me on there, then telling the admin of that group lies about me to get me banned... I reported it all to facebook but got nowhere. In the case of my friend, the person and her followers are posting abusive comments on a public page..Last time it happened i also reported it to facebook.
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Latest post on 24 September 2014 - 10:10
Okay to disagree. Its the way you do it that matters. Some people turn it from intellectual debate to a personal insult. Others are just *******. Facebook is safer because people cannot hide behind their real name. Sorry, I disagree - I have been subjected to some horrible bullying by someone on facebook together with the person actually spreading lies about me...I also have a very close friend who is currently being subjected to the most hideous bullying imaginable on facebook and there isn't a thing that can be done to stop it... At least on a forum you can just walk away....
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Latest post on 23 September 2014 - 23:16
yes I agree with you; people dont have to like it (the country) or the religion (Islam) or us (converts), but best if all three categories are disliked with good manners and respect. I don't care whether you are a converted christian, muslim, jewish or dogist. If I don't agree with what you've written, I'll say it. I'm a converted atheist and lean Marxist on religion. But I live here because being religious isn't a qualification for a visa.[/quote LOL I' now goggling dogist! something to do with car parks isn't it ?
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Latest post on 23 September 2014 - 22:18
They pulled out of Honk Kong or somewhere and the US but got rid of the CEO I think....They are definitely struggling.. I didn't find most of the Choithrams Tesco prices too bad to be honest...
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Latest post on 23 September 2014 - 22:15
Perhaps they employed the censor who did the tarrentino movie - can't remember the name of it.. edited by IzzyOnTheSeat on 23/09/2014 probably edited out
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Latest post on 23 September 2014 - 21:29
I'm with Guinness...in my opinion this Convert/Religious thing is a red herring ...personally i couldn't care less what religion a poster is or was and i doubt i'm alone in that...I'll admit to taking a dislike to posters based on certain things they say or attitudes they have, but that doesn't mean i can be bothered to follow them around the board just to down thumb them !! lol And since it's the most prolific posters that complain of this the law of averages must come into it - the more you post, the more chances you have of getting thumbed, so to speak... I get loads of down thumbs, mostly deserved, probably but plenty not, yet i don't mention my religion. Also, I am always amused when these discussions come from relative newcomers who don't know that some of the posters here have known each other and liked or disliked each other for several years !! Nature of the beast and all that...
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Latest post on 23 September 2014 - 21:10
At the end of the day, it's just a reflection of real life, from the annoying/obnoxious end of the scale to the tremendously nice end, and everything in between - that's life. EW is good as a forum as it let's you see other sides to discussions that you may not otherwise think of, but if there is a post you don't agree with or a poster you don't like, ignore and move on! [b'>We wouldn't all be friends in real life and sometimes you just need to be a bit thick skinned [/b'>if someone disagrees with you. I agree that it is tame though compared to others. MN!!! :\: Mods: can we please steal the strikethrough text from MN??? it would be so fun. And sometimes you need to be thick skinned when you ARE friends in real life....
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Latest post on 23 September 2014 - 10:38
Daza I didn't think it was possible to love your posts more than I already do, but now you've made me fall a little bit in love with you. Well said. What's happening with Marroosh is plain bullying and finally someone called a spade a spade. As enthusiastic as converts are in any religion, they are quite passionate and vocal about their new found joy, and it can make others feel challenged or put off. Still no excuse to thumb down or cyber attack no matter what stance she takes on any subject. Marroosh I don't always get what you say, but I will defend your right to say it. Izzy also gets a lot of hate and I don't understand why, they give her way too much importance in a negative way. I have said this time and again, if you see what this forum was like a few years back the same posters complaining will find the playing field is filled with kittens compared to the absolute wildcats that used to be on here. And I do hope that some very popular posters who have left Dubai do not read this thread and feel unwelcome. A lot of what they post is still relevant to Dubai today and besides, I miss their wit and wisdom. (I also miss TNTs but that's like a volcano that's gone completely dormant now). LOL..it's STILL those same posters !! :D The argument about ex-residents still being here is no different to local women who are on here and they're not even expats !! lol The site is called "Expat Woman.com".. take a look at some of the other boards - Qatar, Saudi etc and you will see regulars from this board posting... If you use the search or rely on the "recent posts" tab all the boards are mixed up and you will see comments from "Dubai" regulars all over the place !! lol
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Latest post on 23 September 2014 - 10:18
Sorry to say this but i'm more concerned that you are dragging an 11 year old child around Sharjah in a taxi at 11 o'clock at night !! And yes, the cat should be spayed, given the enormity of the stray cat issue here...I hope you can get them to one of the adoption days - all the places have facebook pages, it's easy to check.. 38Smiles, Bin Kitty, British Vet Hospital etc. Good luck. In answer to your other question, i'm sorry, I only have boys but yes, I imagine girls are something of an emotional rollercoaster, although i'd have thought 11 is still a little young yet...
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Latest post on 22 September 2014 - 21:48
To be fair, noble though most of the posts on this thread are, very few have actually answered the OP's question...
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Latest post on 22 September 2014 - 21:44
yes Admin, your recent change of approach hasn't gone unnoticed and is much appreciated...
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Latest post on 22 September 2014 - 21:09
Meant to add that the psychology of forums and especially posters is fascinating...
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Latest post on 22 September 2014 - 21:05
The psychology of it is quite interesting. http://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/better-living-technology/201408/why-the-online-trolls-troll http://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/your-online-secrets/201409/internet-trolls-are-narcissists-psychopaths-and-sadists edited by Tattie Bogle on 22/09/2014 I like number 3 - The spiral of science theory...happens a lot on here
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Latest post on 22 September 2014 - 17:31
Almost without exception, if you mention this forum to people, the first thing they say is how nasty some of the posters are but that it is also useful for finding information !! lol Although nowadays, so many regulars have left it's not really anything anymore... I know other forums where there is no nastiness or drama and they can be dull a lot of the time - I think people actually like a good cat fight - as long as they're not the subject !!
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Latest post on 21 September 2014 - 21:39
I agree but I think it's the same mentality that keeps people smoking even though they know it's killing them...Lots of highly intelligent people smoke - why ? and why do they take their kids to see creatures held captive that they know should be swimming free ? Not my problem ....
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Latest post on 21 September 2014 - 21:32
Affection ?? awww :)
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Latest post on 21 September 2014 - 21:31
Bazar at Wafi Mall every Saturday until Boxing Day, 10 am - 7 pm Arte at Times Square Friday and Baby Bazaar at Times Square on the Saturday... Useful facebook pages are Time Out Dubai, What's On Dubai and Good Magazine..
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Latest post on 21 September 2014 - 15:44
Wonder why Lesley didn't put it out that she was going to quit and ask if anyone else wanted to take over - or did she? Surely there are some mums out there that would be interested. Really ? you think someone could do all that ? endless driving round schools giving presentations, all the paperwork, all the emails... I don't know anyone.. I do think someone could do it - Lesley did it and surely there is someone else who feels as strongly as she does about it ... and who can afford to pay !!
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Latest post on 21 September 2014 - 13:26
In response, I will clarify the point I made as it seems without correct grammar it is irrelevant. The reason why it took an expat to start it is because carseats are important to western expatriates because western governments have invested a lot of money into educating their people. The same money has not been invested in the same things locally. This investment has made western expatriates knowledgeable. Over the years, knowledge has come across as betterment. This began, amusingly, with English speaking expatriates talking down to non-native English speakers, as though the language, and knowing it, somehow made them superior. In time, the local community grew resentful of the attitudes and whatever was said by one of these expatriates was seen as another way to act superior. It was not seen for what is really was. In this case, a way to save lives. This is a stereotype. Stereotypes are seen before people. So before the listener sees a person trying to help, they see a person trying to make them [the listener'> appear uneducated. Automatically, the listeners becomes defensive and nothing is heard. By stepping down, the gate is now open that a local can pose the idea to the government, that a local in a higher position with knowledge can pose the idea. And, it will not be a case of the expatriate feeling smug - that they WERE RIGHT - it will be a case of the right thing being done based on the facts. This is politics. Politics I can predict played a role in Lesley walking away as this is a large, uphill climb for a foreigner. edited by Londiamond on 21/09/2014 You are in no position to surmise why Lesley took the decision she did unless of course, you are a close personal friend....
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Latest post on 21 September 2014 - 12:16
Wonder why Lesley didn't put it out that she was going to quit and ask if anyone else wanted to take over - or did she? Surely there are some mums out there that would be interested. Really ? you think someone could do all that ? endless driving round schools giving presentations, all the paperwork, all the emails... I don't know anyone..
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Latest post on 21 September 2014 - 09:47
On a positive, parents who never before did are buckling their children NOT because they have to, because they WANT to. And this is the reason why. This lady has changed lives. I hope she leaves knowing she has not given up, this was bigger than her and she did a great deal in its life. If she saved one life, she SAVED ONE LIFE. Well done! Give it time now. It will breathe. Now that an expat has stepped away the change can be a local initiative drawn by the locals. not a response to expat demand. So why did it take an expat to start it in the first place then ? Overlooking the popint and the way things go. We brought this with us. It took an expat because it is not a big deal here however it is to a western expat. We have a reputation for being **** and thinking we do everything the perfect way and so when we start to complain regarding how things are done, the we do it better and who does not do it the way we do it is not evolved sign flashes above our heads, giving the listener the instant reaction of getting defensive. So even when they agree, the do not do it as they think it tells the person with the sign above their head that they were right. It is petty politics practiced all over the world. Nay, it is human instinct to be the better one. Is it just me or did none of that actually make sense ?
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Latest post on 21 September 2014 - 08:52
On a positive, parents who never before did are buckling their children NOT because they have to, because they WANT to. And this is the reason why. This lady has changed lives. I hope she leaves knowing she has not given up, this was bigger than her and she did a great deal in its life. If she saved one life, she SAVED ONE LIFE. Well done! Give it time now. It will breathe. Now that an expat has stepped away the change can be a local initiative drawn by the locals. not a response to expat demand. So why did it take an expat to start it in the first place then ?
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Latest post on 20 September 2014 - 23:37
I'm surprised Annabel is only an "R" rating - I thought the trailer was pretty disturbing.... In the UK trailers have to be certified as suitable for the rating of the main feature, but I don't know if that rule exists here. It would seem the OP was shown a trailer of a movie that had a rating higher than the one she was there to see so I don't blame her for being concerned. Thanks for the heads up. Did you inform the management ? It may have been a simple oversight which could then have been resolved...
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Latest post on 19 September 2014 - 23:27
How do you know what he's looking at on the internet ? We monitor email and web use. It's in their contract and they get told again when they are given their email account and internet access. Really ? Oh my....
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Latest post on 19 September 2014 - 22:14
How do you know what he's looking at on the internet ?
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Latest post on 19 September 2014 - 22:06
Our friends took their decision to appeal and won - the reason they were given was that the father was on a temporary work contract so therefore it wasn't the child's fault they weren't living in the UK. Our eldest got home status but we had to provide paperwork such as bank statements, mortgage statements etc. He's had his NI number since he was 16 and has a full UK driving licence. We also had to certify that our house has never been rented out. But we also had my husband's employment contract and a letter stating that his secondment to Dubai is temporary. I do believe different universities have different rules but he was only interested in one. On the other hand, they have to fill a certain number of places with overseas students so sometimes that can work in your favour if places are limited !!
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Latest post on 18 September 2014 - 12:07
I don't think it's unusual to prefer to spend your money on others, especially children..We don't brunch every week or wear designer stuff and I've never been to a salon here apart from to have my hair done...
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Latest post on 18 September 2014 - 11:53
http://www.filmon.com live UK TV for free - not as many channels as cable or satellite etc but all the main ones... Do you find it buffers a lot? I have tried to use it but it just stops and starts my internet speed is 16 too. It may be my laptop as it isn't the best No, it works fine although we do find the picture quality drops sometimes, especially at weekends !! lol
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Latest post on 18 September 2014 - 10:48
http://www.filmon.com live UK TV for free - not as many channels as cable or satellite etc but all the main ones...
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Latest post on 17 September 2014 - 15:47
Part-time work is illegal here and carries huge fines for both the employee and the person employing them. Also, illegal employees may face difficult questions if your child needs medical attention and obviously if you're unlucky enough to hire a dishonest one and your property gets damaged or stolen you won't be able to report to the police or claim on insurance...But, on the other hand it never ceases to amaze me how much of this goes on !! lol it's not illegal if you do it through an agency or you provide a visa/ labour card. yes, the OP had already said she didn't want agency..
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Latest post on 16 September 2014 - 18:19
Part-time work is part-time work, even for Security guards....
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Latest post on 16 September 2014 - 17:59
still nice here at the Ranches :D
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Latest post on 16 September 2014 - 14:43
ohhhh and I've just noticed how old this thread is !! lol
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Latest post on 16 September 2014 - 14:41
Both myself and my two friends have seen Andrew and we all lost weight. I lost 15kg in three months. One of my friends did his shape up clinic over 8 weeks and she loved it. He must be good if you've gone to the trouble of registering an account here just to tell us !! lol
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Latest post on 16 September 2014 - 14:37
Part-time work is illegal here and carries huge fines for both the employee and the person employing them. Also, illegal employees may face difficult questions if your child needs medical attention and obviously if you're unlucky enough to hire a dishonest one and your property gets damaged or stolen you won't be able to report to the police or claim on insurance...But, on the other hand it never ceases to amaze me how much of this goes on !! lol