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Latest post on 30 June 2014 - 13:05
The Lime Tree Café on Sheik Zayed road is open for take away
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Latest post on 27 June 2014 - 14:26
You're asking about a completely new school that hasn't opened yet. The existing Safa School has a good reputation, but the new one will have all-new staff. It'll probably be fine, but nobody can say that with any certainty. The Head of the new Safa was Deputy Head at the original Safa and will be sorely missed - the kids loved him...There are also a number of staff moving across to the new Safa. Personally, we have been very happy at Safa for 4 years and i'd have no hesitation in recommending the new school - when my son finishes at the original Safa we will move up to the new one..so I'd say take it..but i'm biased !! lol
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Latest post on 25 June 2014 - 11:08
I still take my 10 year old in with me and so far have never noticed any negative reactions....
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Latest post on 25 June 2014 - 11:05
There's a woman who has just brought a new concept to Dubai offering an all-round pre-natal pampering retreat...interesting ideas on the website and she has a page on facebook.. http://www.birthzone.ae/#!
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Latest post on 24 June 2014 - 15:08
The way I read it she earns 20k and he earns the 5500 + commission. I thought the reason they said no was the lack of maids room. So if she can't leave the house because she had no maid, how is she still earning? edited by Geordie expat on 24/06/2014 maybe she doesn't work but she meant that every time she goes out she has to take them all with her - guessing they're all little...
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Latest post on 24 June 2014 - 15:06
it does not sound realistic at all. There is no way 20k income will cover rental of 2br apartment in Motorcity, maid, groceries and schooling for at least 3 kids. edited by irish259 on 24/06/2014 + husnbands basic of 5500 + Commission if I read her first post correctly - they could not hire a maid bc her husband salary was not enough. Even she said after she earns 20k, it seems like illegal income then, if this salary cannot be disclosed in order to hire a maid. or Am I wrong? She said she'd gone through all the paperwork to get a maid from Howdra but when they found out she didn't have enough room they refused her.... I don't think this is a wind up but it does help to explain why so many maids insist on Western families as their preferred employers...
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Latest post on 24 June 2014 - 13:37
Yea Sarah all are boys and my income is 20k not the salary but this is a situation where I'm stuck just cannot rent another apartment until this contract is over . [i'>For me it is really confusing yet disturbing my husband is a real estate broker and we have lived in Dubai since 2008 on and off now again I came back just shifted [/i'> so how much longer is left on the contract ? sounds like you only just moved....
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Latest post on 24 June 2014 - 13:35
Yea Sarah all are boys and my income is 20k not the salary but this is a situation where I'm stuck just cannot rent another apartment until this contract is over . 3 boys sleeping and sharing a bedroom with a strange woman .... :o
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Latest post on 24 June 2014 - 13:20
What about her privacy? What about the fact that she needs a job and any job is better than no job and she wouldn't have any privacy if she went back to her home country anyways? And no one worried about my privacy when I was in the Army and bunked up with 49 other people. No one complained that my human rights were being violated ... Absolutely right I agree no boys says how some people treat them they even beat them often who so ever is talking abt the human rights don't they know last month I was reading in gulf news a maid was so badly burned her employer threw hot water she was admitted to hospital just because she didn't served her coffee don't really remember the whole story but here I'm giving her enough money to eat to sleep now if I am compromising with money can't they compromise on privacy after all they need to earn I think if u treat them on priority there demands are never going to finish they run away from there local sponser every other maid runs I bet I'd be more concerned about your kids having to have a stranger and all her stuff in their bedroom all the time...
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Latest post on 24 June 2014 - 13:07
What about her privacy? What about the fact that she needs a job and any job is better than no job and she wouldn't have any privacy if she went back to her home country anyways? And no one worried about my privacy when I was in the Army and bunked up with 49 other people. No one complained that my human rights were being violated ... you were bunked up with your equals, your colleagues, your comrades.... not sharing wiht your boss' children..... You probably didn't get yourself into debt to take this job which was sold to you with different terms, not in a position to complain or resign.... I was bunked up with a bunch of ex-drug dealers from Chicago who wanted to beat the **** out of me from day one and told me so ... But I knew what the job entailed and so did the maid. Most maids come expecting the worst. Have any of you seen how maids live in other parts of the middle east? My maid in Jordan lived in someone's kitchen for two years before we hired her. Worked all day in the store, then cleaned all night. And she supported her family on it for $150 usd a month. That's why there are laws here
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Latest post on 24 June 2014 - 13:00
Doubting Thomas my income is 20k per month it's only he is working on salary plus commissions so we earn much and @cheeky monkey my kids bunk bed consists of three beds three portions so a separate bed is for the maid she can do anything she want if she is going out on weekend on holiday and even if the kids go to sleep she can turn the lights on and do whatever she wants I wouldn't mind my kids never wake up after they sleep everything can be resolved with mutual understanding well, if you earn that much why don't you sponsor the maid yourself and rent an apartment with enough space... sorry but it sounds grossly unfair and unpleasant, not just on your maid but for your children too...so if you need to see to your children at night you will be disturbing her privacy ? You expect her to be up early for work if you are in the room looking after a sick child ? And what about her time off - how can she use the room if your children and their friends are playing...and where will she cook and eat - she has to fit all her possessions into a tiny share of a bedroom with 3 children's things ?
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Latest post on 24 June 2014 - 12:38
For me it is really confusing yet disturbing my husband is a real estate broker and we have lived in Dubai since 2008 on and off now again I came back just shifted and hit to know that my husbands salary on the contract is 5500 only and to sponser a maid that should be around 10000 I mean I am living in motor city paying a huge rent of two bed apartment and just because of this issue can't sponsor a maid second option is to hire from the agency now one agency I called Howdra cleaning they told me to fill up the form give them the documents and I went all the way to qusais to their office after that she told me that the monthly charges to hire a maid is 4000 dhms plus office fee etc ok after accepting all the terms and conditions she told me that u have two bed apartment there is no maids room hence we cannot give you the maid now should I give her my bedroom and start living in the lounge what should I do it's really disturbing that after giving high salaries still no one is ready to start these philipino and other staff lives in sharing 5 or 6 people in a room usually and over here they need a room no offence plz but I am a mother of 4 children and need to get settled ASAP but cannot move a second out from the home until find a maid I also have a baby of 4 months plz can anyone reply what can I do in order to find a legal way out to find a live In maid If your income is only 5500 how can you afford a maid ? And how can you have a live-in if you don't have room for her ? I believe she wants to put her in with the children Yes - sorry but shocking !!
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Latest post on 24 June 2014 - 12:33
For me it is really confusing yet disturbing my husband is a real estate broker and we have lived in Dubai since 2008 on and off now again I came back just shifted and hit to know that my husbands salary on the contract is 5500 only and to sponser a maid that should be around 10000 I mean I am living in motor city paying a huge rent of two bed apartment and just because of this issue can't sponsor a maid second option is to hire from the agency now one agency I called Howdra cleaning they told me to fill up the form give them the documents and I went all the way to qusais to their office after that she told me that the monthly charges to hire a maid is 4000 dhms plus office fee etc ok after accepting all the terms and conditions she told me that u have two bed apartment there is no maids room hence we cannot give you the maid now should I give her my bedroom and start living in the lounge what should I do it's really disturbing that after giving high salaries still no one is ready to start these philipino and other staff lives in sharing 5 or 6 people in a room usually and over here they need a room no offence plz but I am a mother of 4 children and need to get settled ASAP but cannot move a second out from the home until find a maid I also have a baby of 4 months plz can anyone reply what can I do in order to find a legal way out to find a live In maid If your income is only 5500 how can you afford a maid ? And how can you have a live-in if you don't have room for her ?
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Latest post on 24 June 2014 - 08:53
And no, Uraguay haven't been disqualified - it's just a joke going round Facebook !! lolol
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Latest post on 24 June 2014 - 08:11
Please remind me what we hated about the winter??? Were we [i'>really[/i'> too cold? Isn't it unimaginable right now.. And in Winter we'll be craving the hot summer nights. I don't "hate" anything..I love all the weather here whether its cool enough to enjoy the outdoors or hot enough to top up the tan..going home for summer but I'd he just as happy to stay here. .
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Latest post on 23 June 2014 - 22:30
I actually really liked the sound of the way your child's school handles this. It sounds like a wonderful idea and such a lovely way to encourage those children who do try so hard but always fall under the radar because they were not the best at something. It may have been their personal best, and I think a prize like this recognizes that. What if the toppers also received a Prize for their own academic achievement so as not to discourage them? I do think just coming first in something is a great acknowledgement in itself. What school does your child go to, it sounds like a nice one. I'd rather not mention the school by name. The school is rated Good by KHDA and my child is happy there. My concern is how will they foster academic excellence in the secondary when it isn't being valued that much in the primary years (imho). Or is this the norm across most schools and I should adjust my way of thinking? I don't agree that it's the only measure of how a pupil's achievements are valued..our kids get encouragement and are valued throughout the year...
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Latest post on 23 June 2014 - 22:27
Academic awards for year 4 ??? :o I think it sounds nice that the school have made sure everyone has reason to feel proud.. At our school we have a Star awarded to one pupil from each class every week at assembly and the teacher writes on it exactly what it's for.... most kids respond really well to this kind of encouragement.. Our school also has the weekly award throughout the primary years. Yes, children feel very motivated and positive about those as well. My question relates to the end of the year awards, which are a bigger platform and happen after annual exams. What exams ? we have half a dozen awards sponsored by local businesses but they're not strictly academic but i'm not aware of any end of year awards..
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Latest post on 23 June 2014 - 22:01
Academic awards for year 4 ??? :o I think it sounds nice that the school have made sure everyone has reason to feel proud.. At our school we have a Star awarded to one pupil from each class every week at assembly and the teacher writes on it exactly what it's for.... most kids respond really well to this kind of encouragement..
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Latest post on 23 June 2014 - 20:15
Do his parents know you are doing this ?
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Latest post on 23 June 2014 - 20:12
Wait until the staring moves onto openly trying to chat up your 14 year old daughter and her friend and trying to get them to meet up when they've finished work! As happened to us, so I certainly don't think anyone on this thread is being "over sensitive" As many have mentioned in this thread numerous times, when it becomes harassment you have to REPORT. Have you done that? Yes Good. It is actually illegal for men to randomly try to chat up women, let alone girls. How are you supposed to gat a relationship started here then ?? Or do the women have to do the chatting up ?? lol
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Latest post on 23 June 2014 - 18:18
Nice post LadyB. I think it's also good to be culturally aware of where some of these guys are from. They may be from a mountainous village where they have never in their whole lives seen a lady out on her own before, let alone uncovered, let alone with her knees showing or let alone in a bikini! We live in the sort of place that throws one end of the scale together with the other. So as much as they can learn that in our culture we flash our elbows willy-nilly, so to speak, we should also learn that in their culture they may have only seen a lady's elbow in an x rated movie! Maybe they are staring because they think you [b'>look like a movie star[/b'>. :) In my case Elephant Man ... lol
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Latest post on 23 June 2014 - 13:48
It's a late April Fool , surely ....
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Latest post on 23 June 2014 - 13:48
oh well, interest in Wimbledon won't last long back home then .... lol
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Latest post on 23 June 2014 - 13:25
So could Andy Murray get knocked out in the first day ? ( I don't know how it works... lol)
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Latest post on 23 June 2014 - 09:40
The original person that's being quoted was only assuming - he didn't actually see who did it and the bread landed in his pool so couldn't be tested....
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Latest post on 22 June 2014 - 22:04
No idea what this is about but I just logged on since this afternoon and nothing's changed....
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Latest post on 21 June 2014 - 11:25
Beginning to wonder what's wrong with me...i'm mostly alone when in the malls or out and about and I have never yet been aware of being stared at or had anyone follow me...But I very rarely look at people around me if i'm shopping or browsing as I have more important things to be thinking about... A couple of times I've looked across at the vehicle next to me when sat at lights and noticed workmen looking but I just look away...no issue... And as far as the OP goes - well, it's all been said already...it's their job to watch the people in the pool.
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Latest post on 18 June 2014 - 09:32
The isolation of living in a place where distance and climate have such a profound effect on social life and friendships... Compare women who rely on coffee mornings and women's groups with those who work full-time and therefore have to rely on work colleagues for friendships... Why many women spend so much time online and what effect that has on their state of mind...
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Latest post on 18 June 2014 - 08:23
Today’s parents are facing issues in monitoring their children’s performance in schools due to their busy schedules and a lack of proper monitoring system. So ideally, every school should provide an online parent portal for parents to track the progress of students. An effective parent portal is capable of tracking numerous student details such as attendance, progress report etc. Parents are easily be able to review the academic calendar, results, fee module, assignments and study materials from this portal. Its notification centre would provide timely notifications and communication centre reduces the communication gap between parents and teachers. For more details, visit http://www.edsys.in/benefits-online-parent-portal-parents edited by aswathyprobytes on 18/06/2014 I think you're a few years too late !! My sons are at two different schools and one has had an effective portal for some time and the other has an effective communicator AND a portal... good luck trying to replace them !!
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Latest post on 17 June 2014 - 21:44
I don't see why some posters are making this into a thread about "sick people". It has nothing to do with that, nor with her going to the mall alone or with her parents, in "new Dubai" or Deira. It doesn't matter "everyone " wears it, or that they sell them here. It has to do with respecting the culture of the country we live in. Your answer lies in the fact that you have to ask. Edited to ask: [b'>why was this thread revived?[/b'>edited by Oopsiedaisy on 17/06/2014 Hoping it explains that another contentious thread started by the OP is not to be taken too seriously...
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Latest post on 17 June 2014 - 19:53
and? and, it seems a bit unfair to have a dog who has to spend all day alone - will it not be a chore for you to walk it before and after work every day...just wondering how it would fit in with your life, as you describe it on here...
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Latest post on 17 June 2014 - 19:50
Eureka !!
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Latest post on 17 June 2014 - 19:46
so about 300 aed per dog per day? looking to set up a little side line Izzy ?? lol - shame it's not legal :D Nope ... thinking of getting a dog :) But you work full time .... ?
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Latest post on 17 June 2014 - 17:30
so your friend's husband needs to grow up because his mother is living in a war zone and he needs to know how she is... seriously ? listen to yourself OP... a shocking post...I was going to agree that you clearly aren't much of a friend but since your friend is presumably complaining to you about him i'll go further and say you deserve each other !! #speechless
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Latest post on 17 June 2014 - 16:47
I have two Boxers (one born here, one from the states arrived at 4 months.) They both love the heat and sunbathe regularly in the garden. I do, however, apply the same rule as GE regarding the hot ground. We walk them properly in the morning and in the evening and they have access to the garden all day. Unless it is super humid, i don't even need to leave the AC running all day. If I do, they retreat to their fluffy baskets for warmth. They are weird like that :-) I think it depends on the dog, but generally, if they have not known any different, they are perfectly fine with the weather conditions here. So glad you mention about the hot surfaces underfoot - have been haunted by that hideous picture going round facebook of a dog's pad's burnt red raw by the heat...
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Latest post on 17 June 2014 - 16:42
so about 300 aed per dog per day? looking to set up a little side line Izzy ?? lol - shame it's not legal :D
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Latest post on 16 June 2014 - 08:14
i'm moving to Dubai too and have a son aged 5 that needs a year one place in September. I've also come up with GEMS Wellington Al Khail. It seems to be ready but in the middle of the desert. no surrounding community which will not be nice I feel. I'm also looking at Kings Al Barsha and JESS but really hard to know which to go for as I just have no idea of what the commute will be like. Currently we walk to school...i also have twins age 2 that need a nursery place. Perhaps we can talk and compare notes offline.... Please bear in mind that unless you live practically 5 minutes from school, walking isn't an option, especially when summer comes...it's currently 30 degrees at 7.30 am
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Latest post on 16 June 2014 - 08:11
Unless you have a company debenture I doubt you will get into JESS and even with a debenture possibly still not. demand way outstrips supply. I suspect Kings may be similar. second that about JESS, even with sibling priority we were told there was no point even applying for our youngest...I know people who have had their kids on the waiting list since birth and still haven't got a place when the time came...
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Latest post on 15 June 2014 - 10:08
I can tell you that Dr. rolf soehnchen from the Cooper Dermatology Clinic is the best doctor for Boxtox and filler, also he is a real consultant doctor, German and he knows what is the best for your skin, also in combination with other treatments He can't be much good if he has to rely on spamming women's forums to get custom ....
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Latest post on 14 June 2014 - 23:51
It is a concern that the school might not be finished by sept. What would they do then teach them elsewhere until the building is finished or would we simply have no school for them?? I will have a good luck at safa. It's not new here..generally they finish the essential bits and the school opens as normal with parts still to be finished.. My son's school made some alterations last year and for weeks they were without a common room or library..the upheaval was unbelievable.... nothing ever seems to be finished on time here...
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Latest post on 14 June 2014 - 23:39
Yeah, I wonder about that too. I miss Queen of Denial, whose youngest daughter had serious kidney problems. Gee, I follow EW like others follow those long-running soap operas. I used to keep up more with my own relatives' lives... I don't know... it's definitely not like it used to be ......
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Latest post on 14 June 2014 - 22:53
Last time I was in Creative Minds on Umm Sequeim I overheard a bloke asking them to blow up a load of balloons !! Mind you , I never heard their answer .. lol But might be worth asking - he was wanting them for something in the Mall and said he couldn't have helium....
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Latest post on 14 June 2014 - 22:42
well, the new school is opening in September so I guess they have plenty of places... I've seen a new Kings on the Umm Sequiem road but it's barely just foundations so far...who's to say if it will be finished by September...
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Latest post on 14 June 2014 - 22:34
Have you tried Safa School? They also have a new sister school opening in September called Safa Community School. why did that get 4 down thumbs ??? personally we've been very happy at Safa for a few years now, and i'm sure the new school will be just as good....
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Latest post on 14 June 2014 - 22:33
wonder how CycloneT's doing - she went back to Australia a long time ago.... do you ever wonder if people who go home rejoin with different names ? I know some keep posting in their usual name, but I sometimes wonder about others...
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Latest post on 14 June 2014 - 19:32
Nope. But I know TB so why would you say that ?
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Latest post on 14 June 2014 - 17:10
JoyceB, quite petite with bobbed, dark hair and a fringe. Very matter-of-fact. Prefers to walk instead of taking the bus. Famous for her casseroles. Ok, I'm done - is nobody else going to do any??? :D You haven't "done" me ... so to speak .... lol Haven't you met, though? Do you know me ?
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Latest post on 14 June 2014 - 17:05
I find all these comments so terrifying. It seems more of a master - bonded slave relationship than a parent - child relationship. We shouldn't forget that the first step towards correcting a behaviour starts with warning; whereas thrashing comes later if it's a repetitive action. Rest, God help you all! Good grief !! Who has mentioned thrashing ??
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Latest post on 13 June 2014 - 15:15
I have lots of friends who've never had facebook and have no interest in it whatsoever !! I think most people I know are on it! My final year of high school was 1994, I'm friends on Facebook with about 50 of my year group. probably a generation thing !! lol (I left school in1978 and many of my year group are probably pushing up daisies by now... lol)
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Latest post on 13 June 2014 - 14:21
I have lots of friends who've never had facebook and have no interest in it whatsoever !!