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Latest post on 04 October 2011 - 18:42
I saw her when DS was about five or six months old, and again a couple of months later. While she did recommend a psychologist, she also said she'd be happy to prescribe medication if that was the route I wanted to take. I was adamant I didn't want to take anything (oh, how ridiculously stupid of me, but for some reason I felt like I wouldn't be 'me' any more if I was on medication for it) so in the end, I did nothing. I would have been better far sooner had I done one or the other. DS is 16 months now and I still have good days and bad days. I'm due with my second in about six weeks, which I think isn't helping at the moment as I seem to be having more bad days than I used to. I think, though, I started feeling properly better around eight or nine months post-birth, just before I found out I was pregnant again. At this stage (before the second pregnancy) I was back to exercising, getting out by myself more and generally just feeling like I had some kind of life outside being a mum again. Can I ask, does your LO sleep well? I was originally diagnosed with PND in the UK and my doctor there said it was likely caused - or at least exacerbated - by extended sleep deprivation, as my son was a terrible sleeper from 4 to 8 months. Now I'm well aware that broken sleep, or particularly being woken while in a deep sleep, is the main trigger and a few days of that can easily send me over the edge again. One of the worst things about PND, for me, was admitting it and talking about it. I hated feeling weak and like I was a failure as a mum because of it. I still feel like that now but am fine talking about it on good days (bad days, forget it!). I'm utterly petrified of having it again with baby #2 - and I do sometimes think it's never properly gone away since DS - but one thing I'm absolutely sure of is that the minute I start feeling anything like how bad I felt at its worst, I am straight off to the doctor to take whatever they can give me until I rattle. Do go and see Carol Smylie. She is very sympathetic at the same time as being practical and logical, which is just what you need when you're emotionally fragile. I bawled in her office both times I saw her and she was fine with that! I so hope you get the help you need soon. It's a horrible, horrible situation to be in and I feel for you.
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Latest post on 04 October 2011 - 10:59
Hmmm... I wonder if they'd investigate if they weren't legal. I mean, I want to protect us and avoid being lumped with a 50k fine but I don't want to be responsible for someone's livelihood going down the pan! I'll see if I can find a website I can check on, thanks.
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Latest post on 04 October 2011 - 10:58
Shame you didn't point to his crotch area and ask if it really was that little he couldn't find it :D.
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Latest post on 04 October 2011 - 10:39
I wonder if she'll ever change, or if I'll ever change my opinion of her :\:. It actually makes me quite sad hearing that you can't wait - I'm starting to realise DS and I are missing out on a whole extended family and it is sad. Ironically, my ex-in-laws were amazing! I'm disappointed I won't get to enjoy the companionship of a MIL and DS won't get to enjoy his cousins and aunts and uncles, because we rarely see them. Normally I love having visitors and was brought up to offer the best in hospitality to people staying in our house, but I just can't bring myself to do it with her and I definitely don't ever look forward to seeing her. I know part of this is because the woman just doesn't understand the meaning of the word hospitality when it's her house but abuses it in other people's, but part of it is also that I simply can't stand her and don't want to show her my best side (childish, I know). I keep trying to remind myself that my grandmother would have insisted I be the better person and not change who I am because she's so awful, but my grandmother - sadly - isn't here to keep nagging me! In other news, it was ridiculously hot and humid again on our morning walk today. Yuck. Enough of the summer already.
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Latest post on 04 October 2011 - 09:47
345 quid new? Sold. I think the Pear converter thingy will be at least a couple of hundred all in, and I'd probably be able to sell the Apple for a reasonable price here given that it's only a few months old and 3,000dhs in Just Kidding. Is it worth going to one of the stockists here for a push-around or will the Sport do the trick, do you think? And KB, did you like the one you had?
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Latest post on 04 October 2011 - 09:41
He had a much better night, thanks. I gave him the right dose of baby ibuprofen at 6 (not the dose for a six-month-old!) and he was in bed asleep by 6.15, woke once in the night and had another dose and slept until just before seven. Seems much happier in himself now, and went off for his morning nap with no fuss. Fingers crossed he's on the mend!
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Latest post on 03 October 2011 - 21:03
What about a cheap hired driver for the week to take her around and be at her beck an call? Maybe there is some little man out there wanting petrol money ea day. See reference to taxi drivers. She won't pay for it and ain't no way I'm shelling out.
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Latest post on 03 October 2011 - 21:01
Is it the same as the Westbury? If so you have to remove the metal bars at each end and reposition them higher up. DH is the expert on this one but he's in Saudi, so if you can wait till Wednesday I can get him to email you instructions!
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Latest post on 03 October 2011 - 21:00
I think you might be able to but H.A.K. should know that one! OK no worries. I'll find out about the Apple this week and we can go next week. We can take the lovely MIL with us :D.
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Latest post on 03 October 2011 - 20:27
Just Kidding super-helpfully don't stock the Apple Pip Converter I need to make ours a double, and super-helpfully won't order it, so I'm weighing up whether to get someone to bring it over from the UK or sell the Apple and get a P&T. Might go to Bumble Bee one day this week for a nosey if you fancy it :). Where else stocks P&Ts?
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Latest post on 03 October 2011 - 20:25
Hey, I like my car! :D
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Latest post on 03 October 2011 - 19:55
My doctor has said no unnecessary running around and feet up for the rest of it, so she's on her own. But of course she won't pay for taxis, and won't take the chance they'll get lost (neurotic is not the word), so she'll be under my feet the whole time. Ah well, I warned DH!
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Latest post on 03 October 2011 - 19:48
Oh, and she did nothing but complain about how expensive everything was even though we'd paid for her ticket with our air miles and she barely put her hand in her pocket once. Grrr! I need to stop moaning about her now or my BP will go through the roof.
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Latest post on 03 October 2011 - 19:47
She came last year when I was 8 months pregnant with DS. She sat on her backside and expected me to run around after her even though I was still working full time, and she also expected to be taken around and shown the sights of Dubai even when I was exhausted. One night, when I had to work late then came home and did all the housework and cooked her dinner, she actually stood there and let me mop around her feet as she was putting a DVD into the player to watch. So yes, she is, sadly.
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Latest post on 03 October 2011 - 19:21
Because she's a selfish cow with no consideration for anyone other than herself. I wonder if DH would mind if I upped sticks and moved to your house while she's here? :D
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Latest post on 03 October 2011 - 18:55
So I went out with the wee man and the dogs this evening and I felt like I was walking around in a sauna again. Huh? Is it me or is this d*mn humidity clinging on this year?
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Latest post on 03 October 2011 - 18:53
They did them in two days. But... the Roman blinds were rubbish. Total, utter rubbish. The guy asked me if I wanted them straight or that scalloped edge and I said straight. I was perfectly clear with that. He's gone and made them with that stupid scalloped edge and the finishing is so pathetic one of my dogs could have done better. And I think he conned me out of a load of material - he told me he needed both my curtains to make two blinds yet the guy from White House said he only needed one, and the blinds are tiny compared to the curtains which were huge. When I get the energy I'm going to take them back and try to get them fixed, with the extra material he should have!
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Latest post on 03 October 2011 - 18:47
I think there are a couple in Springs 15 - one of them has an Alsop & Alsop sign at it but turned the wrong way, so not sure if they are really marketing. The other hasn't got a sign there. Just be careful if you do end up renting from this particular company - you might like to ask them how much of a marketing fee they've built into the rental amount and if the owner is aware they're charging you more than he's asking:D.
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Latest post on 03 October 2011 - 18:41
I never thought of it that way. Thanks! And PS: Is your sister a masochist?! I thought I wanted three or four and then I had one :D.
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Latest post on 03 October 2011 - 18:38
DC - this http://kidshealth.org/parent/infections/skin/roseola.html is roseola. DS has just had it and it seems to be going about - I know three others with it...His temp went up to 40c and it was not pleasant. Took him to Medcare where they gave him suppositories for the fever and (bless him) an icy wash down. Imagine the howling! I'd get yours to the docs. Hope he is well soon. So they don't get the rash until the fever breaks? He doesn't seem to have any signs of respiratory illness at the moment but a friend did say he sounded sniffly when he woke up this afternoon.
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Latest post on 03 October 2011 - 18:37
Thanks for all the input :). We went to the doctor this morning and of course, having been miserable, grumpy and hot all morning, when he got there he was chirpy and had no fever. According to the doctor he's cutting three pre-molars and has a slight throat infection, which could be left over from the tonsillitis he had last week. And that's about it. I told the doctor he'd had diarrhoea last night but not since, and the minute we got to the bank after the doctor he had explosive diarrhoea everywhere. And as soon as we got home I took his temp again and it was back up at 39.2. Then he only slept for half an hour this afternoon, when he normally sleeps for an hour and a half, and woke up crying again. Apparently I haven't been giving him a high enough dose of either Calpol or Calprofen - shows how sleep-deprived I am! I worked out his new dose a couple of weeks ago, according to his age, and for some reason decided he's six months old again. Duh. He's in bed now super-early because he's beyond shattered. I guess all I can do is keep a close eye on him and take him back to the doctor if he doesn't improve. At what temperature should I take him to the hospital if he gets worse overnight? And can I take him to Al Wasl if he doesn't have a health card?
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Latest post on 03 October 2011 - 10:57
I've used Lee from St George computers for our laptop at home and he was fantastic. That was a while ago, though, so I'm not sure if he's still here. Try the details on this thread [url=http://www.expatwoman.com/forum/messages.aspx?TopicID=69661'>link[/url'>.
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Latest post on 03 October 2011 - 10:55
:(. He took forever to go to sleep and only slept for an hour, whereas he normally has at least an hour and a half in the morning and three hours if he's had a restless night. And he's woken up crying, so he's clearly not had enough sleep. Off to take his temperature again...
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Latest post on 03 October 2011 - 10:48
Oh, and you can also put boys in tights. Just don't tell their friends :D (or put photos on Facebook!).
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Latest post on 03 October 2011 - 10:32
Either of those sound like good options! Do you like toddlers?! The really ridiculous thing is that way back in March I suggested she come in April or May when I still had enough energy to take her around. DH said that was too short notice. Then I suggested she come in December so she could meet her new grandchild. No to that one too. So, I have no sympathy. I warned him she'd be bored and she will be. First moan about being bored and he's getting it with both barrels for giving in and letting her come.
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Latest post on 03 October 2011 - 09:53
Wrap up warm :D. I had the same concerns taking DS home to the UK over Christmas last year. He was a bit bigger but I was convinced he'd get hypothermia. It's a lot more work taking care of a baby in a cold country (from my experience) but he coped just fine. Do you have anyone living there with a baby you could ask? I think I called my sister every day for a week while I was packing and every day I was there to ask what to dress him in. Re the passport, I tried to find this out recently as my Dad has been very ill in the UK and I was concerned about coming back here after the summer, as I'm due in about six weeks and was worried we wouldn't be able to leave again as we'd be stuck waiting for the new baby's passport. A British friend told me she managed to get an emergency travel document valid for a year that enabled her to leave the country with her baby when her dad was ill.
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Latest post on 03 October 2011 - 09:49
Wait on my every command? Er, no. That would mean being helpful. The woman's never cooked me a meal in more than six years and has probably made me about five cups of tea and one round of toast. And p*** off and leave me in peace? I wish! Sadly we live in Al Waha and a) she'll have a panic attack if the taxi driver gets lost and b) she won't pay for taxis. Any other suggestions welcome :D.
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Latest post on 03 October 2011 - 09:45
I'm not sure if it might be the cut of them as well, but then again my jeans are from H&M too so I guess they're just ridiculously inconsistent even within their own ranges. I've given up looking at size labels since I had DS (and especially now I'm ready to pop with #2). Once the baby arrives I'm going to get back to size 10 in Next and then not look at any other size labels when I'm shopping. That was always my benchmark when I was younger - if I could get into a 10 in Next I was OK! ETA: Right now I'm really not sure who I'm kidding. Before I got pregnant with #1 I was at least 10kgs heavier than a 10 in Next, and before I got pregnant with #2 it was more like 20kgs. Perhaps I need to start being a bit more realistic! <em>edited by DubaiCat on 03/10/2011</em>
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Latest post on 03 October 2011 - 09:43
Medium storm (?) season starts 5th October according to the calendar in my sailing club (who've organised camping for the 7th :)) Super. MIL arrives on the 6th and I'm under strict instructions from the doctor not to lift a finger and keep my feet up. What on earth will the lovely lady do with herself for ten days?! :D
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Latest post on 03 October 2011 - 09:41
I got shorts from H&M just after I had DS last year and they were a 16. I could get into my 29 waist skinny jeans, though. Work that one out!
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Latest post on 03 October 2011 - 09:38
It was lovely, wasn't it? I was surprised at the really cool breeze that was coming from the land, not the sea. Oh well, I suppose my washing will dry now at least... You've just reminded me I need to get off my backside and go put it out... ta! Ah well, it's coming into storm season if we have any such thing. We'll get one sooner or later!
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Latest post on 03 October 2011 - 09:37
Are you drinking enough water and avoiding things like caffeine? How's your circulation? I have no clue if the pill can contribute but I've read that cellulite is due to toxins not being flushed out and poor circulation. I've always had it since I was about 15 (and my Mum said DC, that's terrible cellulite for someone your age!) and I found Hypoxitherapy really helped before I married DH. It got rid of a load of dimpled flab around my bum, hips and thighs :D.
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Latest post on 03 October 2011 - 09:23
Re the chip, I think most - if not all - vets have those scanner things that read chips. Once you have the number, though, you'll need to call the municipality to see if it's registered with them and if not, start calling round the vets :(. This was my experience when I found a stray dog a while back, anyway. Good on you for giving the poor wee thing a home if she doesn't have one she's missed at :(.
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Latest post on 03 October 2011 - 09:18
Is that why DS was up about six times in the night? I wish he could speak and tell us what's going to happen.
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Latest post on 03 October 2011 - 09:17
it was a breeze at hospital lol looking after a newborn and not my 2 yr old lol. This is what I'm thinking! Normally I don't get a second to sit still when he's awake so it may well be a blissful rest! Thanks for the info on the dolls. I think that sounds like a good idea. DH is somewhat concerned we'll find his doll with its arms and legs pulled off...
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Latest post on 03 October 2011 - 09:14
I think for him this is pretty high. He's had fevers before when he's had ear infections, but I don't think he's ever felt as hot as he did yesterday and last night. I couldn't find the forehead thermometer for ages so I was just relying on how he felt to touch, but I found the forehead strip yesterday afternoon (that was what gave the 39 reading) and then the basal body temperature one I used when I was charting, so I checked it with that instead in the night. He was up at 11.15pm, just before 1am, 2ish, 3.20am, 4am and 5am then got up for the day at 6.30am :(. He'd had diarrhoea when he was up at 11ish so I checked his temp again then, and it had gone down to 37, then this morning first thing it was back to 36.8 although I did give him more Calpol and baby ibuprofen in the night. I'd love to let him sleep as much as he wants but that's the problem - he doesn't seem able to! I've just given him Calpol and put him down for his morning nap and he's still up chatting to his cot pals and having the odd yell. I'm not sure if this is because he's so ridiculously overtired from the night, or because he's not 100%. What's roseola, TwoKids? He's had a rash on his cheeks on and off for a few days now but I thought that was from teething. I'll see how he is when he wakes up from his nap (if he ever goes to sleep!) and take him back to the doctor if he's still out of sorts and hot. <em>edited by DubaiCat on 03/10/2011</em>
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Latest post on 02 October 2011 - 20:56
Well after a bit of research the Philippines government has approved a ban on household workers in Qatar, Kuwait and the UAE because of a lack of workers rights. So not sure she could even transfer to a new job anyway. But as I said earlier given what the OP has said about the family, she'd be banned anyway, Does this mean new visas won't be approved for Philipina maids?
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Latest post on 02 October 2011 - 20:50
Thank you both :). DH, of course, has just left for Saudi so I'm on my own and was a bit worried. I'll keep an eye on him and see what happens. Naturally I can't find the baby monitor so it may have to be mattress on the floor time!
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Latest post on 02 October 2011 - 19:21
Would they cover contacts I buy in the UK, do you think? Acuvue Moist here are 345dhs for the big box, which lasts me six weeks, but DaySoft equivalent in the UK are 360dhs for six months' supply. I wouldn't complain if that was covered by insurance! Or maybe I should get new glasses :).
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Latest post on 02 October 2011 - 19:14
I'm pretty sure there's a stall at Ibn Battuta that sells them. I'm thinking it might be somewhere around Next, or that area.
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Latest post on 02 October 2011 - 19:13
Great news! Honestly, don't worry about going to the doctor even if you think it's something trivial. I'm pretty sure they understand how worrying a first pregnancy - or a difficult pregnancy - can be, and they're very sympathetic. So glad everything is OK for you!
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Latest post on 02 October 2011 - 19:08
Thanks all. I am having a planned C-section thanks to my spine problems (decision taken out of my hands = result!) so I will be in there a few days at least. I would feel much happier knowing DH's at home looking after the little guy, so I guess it's better for him to do that and for me to take full advantage of 24/7 nursing care and get as much rest as I can! A couple of friends have suggested getting him a toy baby to play with over the next few weeks, and getting one for me too, so we can both have a 'baby' and then when the real thing arrives he still has his baby while I have the newborn. Has anyone tried this?
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Latest post on 02 October 2011 - 16:23
I would cover the cost of these - it's healthcare. I get glasses / contacts on my insurance so similar thing. You do? I never thought of trying to claim for this. Is it standard for health insurance to pay for it here?
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Latest post on 02 October 2011 - 15:52
We were watching The Tortured on Friday and a guy came in with popcorn and drink and there was only 40 minutes left of the film!! Wonder if he was a little confused! How was it? I heard about it on the radio and watched the trailer on YouTube and I don't think there's any way I could watch that film. I know it's ridiculous but I just wouldn't be able to stop thinking about DS :(.
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Latest post on 02 October 2011 - 15:48
If you do decide to reintroduce the dummy, you might find this version helpful [url=http://www.wubbanub.com/'>link[/url'>. They're much easier for baby to find in the night if they wake and need their dummy. We had problems with DS sleeping from four months to seven or eight months. We were up anywhere from four to fifteen times a night with him so I know exactly where you're coming from. The issue with us was that I'd basically taught DS he needed me and a pair of boobs to get back to sleep, and without that he simply couldn't. Perhaps your LO has learnt that she needs her dummy to get back to sleep, and can't without it? Cecile helped us immensely so I would definitely recommend her if you're thinking of trying that route. I hope you manage to resolve the situation soon, for your own sanity! PS At that age DS was sleeping at least four hours or so in the daytime, and from my research I think that's about average. From what I understand, the less quality sleep a baby gets during the day the less likely they are to sleep all night. Strange, but seems to be true. It's a challenge working out how much your own baby actually needs but once you do it's a whole lot easier to manage their sleep effectively.
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Latest post on 27 September 2011 - 10:58
If he's chipped AND registered at the municipality you have some chance of finding the owner, but if he's not registered then it's a matter of calling all the vets to see if he's one of their patients. It's such a frustrating feeling when this happens. You don't want the owners to go unpunished if they just abandoned the animal or kicked him or her out, but it's so hard to make this happen. Remember the dog in the Jebel Ali villas - that was a case for some serious retribution if ever there was one and I don't think anything ever happened :(.
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Latest post on 27 September 2011 - 10:31
You might find he's too far gone to have a chance, but at least he'll not have to suffer any more. I have visitors from tomorrow or he could have had my spare room :(.
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Latest post on 27 September 2011 - 10:30
Sounds good to me. Can we extend it to shopping malls? I saw more flesh at MOE yesterday than the last time I managed to get to the pool.
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Latest post on 27 September 2011 - 10:27
If you manage to grab him I'll chip in for vet bills. It'll only 100dhs or so as we're on a pretty tight budget at the moment but hopefully that'll help.
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Latest post on 27 September 2011 - 08:15
I'm not sure but that's reminded me to check mine - thanks!