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Latest post on 23 May 2016 - 09:35
I believe you already sent this very same post to the 7 days tabloid.... That explains why you never respond back, and you are only an editor in 7 days or expat woman writing a letter just to spark comments.... How sad things isn't that much real!
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Latest post on 21 May 2016 - 22:51
I have nothing to offer you but words, it's tricky situation that you are in at the moment, keeping 2 different credit cards for different banks wasn't a wise decision, and it's too late to tell you that.... All I can say is keep looking for jobs, expand the pool you are searching in, not only in your field, look somewhere else, downsize your belongings, and move in with someone and pay rent for room, keep applying for different jobs not only legal ones, try to negotiate with the banks to give you a plan to pay these credit cards on instalments, you are in a very stressful situation already and you don't want to add to this situation the legal actions that could take place... Seek help from your embassy, ask them to help you in terms of paying at least part of your monthly rent- a lady was in different situation that I know approached her embassy and they did pay part of her monthly rent- again you need to negotiate the banks about the credit cards - you have no idea how this could help- and seek a plan, you don't need those abusive call centre angry employees that get paid peanuts as a salary! You'll endure this and you'll prevail, you are strong independent woman and you'll get there. Good luck and best of it.
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Latest post on 21 May 2016 - 17:25
Same here! 4 months ago I was traveling and did transit in Hong Kong, I ignored my inner feelings and didn't buy them from the Disney shop at the airport! ? They were priced at over 500 Hong Kong dollars each! Now can't find them here, the only option was almost 15 centimetres long with m'n'ms at a fuel station at meadows priced 28 dirhams HTH
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Latest post on 20 May 2016 - 21:07
I have better diet, I just whatever I want whenever I need it, I don't God back, I don't watch my weight and don't care about others opinion about my figure.... At the end it's all about how comfortable I am in my own skin!!?????? Oh yeah! I love food ??
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Latest post on 20 May 2016 - 20:44
You know the answer to your questions, and it's only you who will do it. You have the option of ignoring the whole thing and let everything look normal, bear in your mind on the best case scenario you might get STD - Google it- and some of them have no cure, and the possibility of passing the same to your baby too.... Or you can woman up, leave the #%^* and have your independence; you are responsible now with a 5 months old baby, you don't need to live with your parents - you aren't a child - or with anyone else, prepare yourself get cash as much as you can, copies of his property or salary certificate from his work, and evidence on his infidelity, pack light and take necessary stuff to your baby and grab the next flight back home, go to your house - the one you and your husband have- and occupy it and file for divorce on the base of infidelity and demand maintenance for you and your baby.... Or you can divorce him here and take his life, force him to be kicked out of your home and find somewhere else to camp in, for that you need to contact the Sharjah courts or follow the emirate that your residency been issued from, again, if you are going to fight from here; line up your duck in a row, get your passport and your baby with you, and you need evidences about the all his extra activities outside the marriage, you can give it as evidence in the family court... Again it you whom will decide what is your next step... So choose wisely
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Latest post on 20 May 2016 - 20:14
Ladies, thank you all!! My children finally got into JESS ?? The last couple of weeks, between the existing school and Jess. Until this very moment never been to JESS for a school tour yet! As they have their tours only at 8:45 am and by that time I'm still on the road and not even near the school! Anyway, this too will be sorted, I guess it's the that strange feeling of getting something you've been waiting for, a very long time, despite leaving the country and coming back, not even sure about the initial receipt we paid the registration for the children ? But we finally made it! Thank you ladies ?
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Latest post on 20 May 2016 - 20:04
Do yourself and your baby a favour and once you got the residency apply for the government health card for yourself then you can have your baby's done... Babies up to the age of 2 years are given free vaccines in government hospitals, then you can match the UK health check with any private doctor with the rest of the vaccines that not covered by the governmental hospital... HTH
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Latest post on 22 April 2016 - 16:57
Buy followers?!!! Sure it's scam!
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Latest post on 20 April 2016 - 00:29
Walking distance? In this heat? ? Yes as mentioned: you need to set an appointment first, and be prepared for queuing up, it'll be a long march in, AND you can't take your hand bag, mobile/ tablet/ or anything except the required papers and the fees only!! Good luck
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Latest post on 10 April 2016 - 14:35
Sit her down and talk to her? She is a thief! A thief is a thief, stolen little things or big cash! OP you know exactly your feelings about the maid, but you want someone to take the decision instead of you, you say you can't trust her and found the missing stuff in her room while you've been cosplaying nurse to her! The poster said its illegal to take videos or photos INSIDE your own home is wrong, you can install cameras in your own home - why do you think Itisalat do sell nanny cams?- as long as you don't install them in the bathrooms... And don't publish them on social media or any way, and just give it to the police... Back to the original post: you know what to do, if your trust is gone, then the maid should be too gone, if this doesn't matter with you; then let her in your home and don't come back asking for advices of what to do when big cash or expensive items gone missing, no one will take your decision for you, it's only you, go with your gut feeling and don't listen to any voice or reason or trying to explain what steeling is for the maid. That's my 5 cent, and that's all.
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Latest post on 30 March 2016 - 15:12
Like seasand, home is where I take off my bra, walk barefoot, no make up on, say whatever on my mind, be with my beloved ones, it doesn't matter we are at home country or abroad, a hotel room or appartment, home is where we all can say, eat, think and do whatever we want, and be happy with it. That's home for us - my family I mean-.
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Latest post on 30 March 2016 - 15:09
Good to know about the plastic bag! Thanks for letting us know. That's another reason for NOT going there then. I find it insulting to be "accused" of being a thief. It's bad enough with the stapling of shopping bags in Carre4 in MOE! Are there really THAT much theft and shoplifting here in Dubai? You would think that nobody would steal as you can can get sentenced to several months in prison! Here's just one story... http://gulfnews.com/news/uae/courts/dubai-airport-porters-jailed-for-stealing-chocolate-and-gum-1.1698829 Ahhh the C4 staples! I refuse to have my bags stapled, why on earth they have detectors on the check out then? I either wrap the bags in plastic or like the last times when they don't have I leave my other shopping bags at the customer service desk.... Simply I stop going anywhere that treat me like that, that's what made me not to go to big brand thing at world trade centre....
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Latest post on 30 March 2016 - 14:27
Tbh, it depends... You'll find plenty of obscured brands, the stuff that failed to be sold, or ridiculously highly priced before and after discount, and the most important and stupid thing: they will retain your handbag/ pursue and give you a token, you can have your mobile and wallet with you and give you a plastic bag to be able to hold your wallet and mobile phone with you ? Which is indirect accusation of thinking that everyone is a suspected thief ? Claiming this is the rules of world trade centre ??? I went there once, and didn't like what was there and left after queuing up and refused the attitude
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Latest post on 22 March 2016 - 15:35
What are the prices? i just saw this offer up on our school's fb page as a holiday meal box for AED 475/- 1 x beef rib eye or 1.3kg side of salmon 1 x 2.5kg chicken breast 2 packets of chicken drums 1 x 1kg of chicken nuggets 6 x baby back racks of pork ribs 3 x packs of bacon 1 x 1kg beef mince 1 x 1kg pork mince That's the neighbor pack offer? Was it? IMHO it's expensive for little amount Myself and my colleague who shop at C4 and Geant worked out the delivery pack costs versus the supermarket ones ( We only buy Australian or NZ meat) Pork ribs and bacon from Organic Café or Park and Shop and the delivery pack prices are over AED150 more I order amounts to be honest, as I have good big family to feed...
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Latest post on 22 March 2016 - 15:35
What are the prices? i just saw this offer up on our school's fb page as a holiday meal box for AED 475/- 1 x beef rib eye or 1.3kg side of salmon 1 x 2.5kg chicken breast 2 packets of chicken drums 1 x 1kg of chicken nuggets 6 x baby back racks of pork ribs 3 x packs of bacon 1 x 1kg beef mince 1 x 1kg pork mince That's the neighbor pack offer? Was it? IMHO it's expensive for little amount Myself and my colleague who shop at C4 and Geant worked out the delivery pack costs versus the supermarket ones ( We only buy Australian or NZ meat) Pork ribs and bacon from Organic Café or Park and Shop and the delivery pack prices are over AED150 more I order amounts to be honest, as I have good big family to feed...
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Latest post on 22 March 2016 - 15:33
Seasand, now I'm bracing myself, I have a 16 years old girl, and I guess we will do the same ?
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Latest post on 22 March 2016 - 14:50
This certificate could be obtained from Arabic and Muslim countries for females who wish to get married.... Can you check with your consulate over the phone or in person? Now I don't understand, every time applying for ID renewal, she'll need this certificate??? From which age these requirements please? ETA: no objection means : there is no reason hold this lady or girl from getting married, which is different thing.
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Latest post on 22 March 2016 - 14:18
What are the prices? i just saw this offer up on our school's fb page as a holiday meal box for AED 475/- 1 x beef rib eye or 1.3kg side of salmon 1 x 2.5kg chicken breast 2 packets of chicken drums 1 x 1kg of chicken nuggets 6 x baby back racks of pork ribs 3 x packs of bacon 1 x 1kg beef mince 1 x 1kg pork mince That's the neighbor pack offer? Was it? IMHO it's expensive for little amount
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Latest post on 22 March 2016 - 13:23
Is it Thursday already? ?
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Latest post on 22 March 2016 - 13:18
Now I'm waiting to see the" my child settled well" or "it feels like our prep school back in uk" or " it's ok to pay highl fees for my child education at independent school" posters.... I bet they are on the pay scale at that school.
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Latest post on 22 March 2016 - 13:11
I didn't do it, but interested in knowing too
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Latest post on 22 March 2016 - 13:08
Couldn't resist looking at your previous posts about the same problem with your employer, you stated you don't go out in your off days that's why you come to this board asking for someone to help you get out of your contract, then posted again that your employer doesn't approve your engagement to your Sri Lankan fiancé after 4 years relationship - how did you stay in touch despite unable to go out even in your off days?- then now this post, that you and your fiancé are doing some paperwork to finalise your marriage, and that's why you've been out late..... To be honest: you didn't want the job, fair enough, you could say that straight to your employer, and contact your consulate- hence you can go out in your off days- and you choose to ruin your last contract by getting yourself into this mess. If you had a problem with your employer; you won't run around getting married, you'll sort out your job first, and now being in this mess by your own acts, I'm sorry I can't find sympathy for your ordeal, and you should now know what would happen if you don't say your expectations and honour your obligations, so next time you get a job anywhere in the world: be honest, and respect your obligations, after all you signed the contract no one else. Good luck in your trip home and all the best in your marriage preparations.
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Latest post on 22 March 2016 - 08:57
To answer your question: yes, the sponsor buys you a ticket to your home country, it's as per thier discretion, they can buy you a direct flight or they can bump you from flight to flight until you reach home. I suggest you take it as learned lesson, if you are going to be late you should call in advance and explain your situation, but going radio silent and expect your boss or employer to just take this attitude AFTER you are already late.. That's not proffissional at all.
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Latest post on 19 March 2016 - 22:49
To get an aupair to work in Dubai is almost impossible. I use to work as an aupair nanny a couple of years ago in Saudi and Beirut. I t was a beautiful experience. However I was made to understand that certain nationalities are only allowed to work as nannies in Dubai. So it is going to be very hard to get an Au Pair of your choice. Unless you're lucky enough to get an African -Au Pair nanny whose nationality is one of the listed nationalities allowed to work as nanny in Dubai. Good luck with your search and check out http://nanny-agency.com/ That was where I was found! Now I work as an Administrator in Dubai.....Hope you find what you're looking for. You misunderstood the concept! Au Pair is WAY different than nanny or maid!!! As you stated "certain nationalities" then you are referring to the maid job, au pair is something different than maid! As she is well educated lady or student and cares for the education of the children, she doesn't clean or cook.
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Latest post on 19 March 2016 - 22:40
The main thing I've learnt is: it doesn't matter who you are, what does matter whom you know! It's sad but effective, and vitamin W works every time!
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Latest post on 07 March 2016 - 13:00
I don't know most of them personally, but in my profession it's important to widen my network, so on some way would like to give a good impression, without thinking I want to go out on a date.... Maybe make a public thank you post and leave it there?
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Latest post on 06 March 2016 - 20:21
Personalised key chain, you can buy them blank plates in silver from silver shops; you can as the shop to engrave personalised message with your names too... HTH
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Latest post on 06 March 2016 - 20:06
i wonder what triggered her to loose it with the kids, you had to treat her really bad for that to happen. I guess that would apply to that maid who killed the infant aged 6 months old, to get at the other maid who cares for the baby, as the maid killer was caring for an elderly woman and she detested caring for the old woman!!! Please go ahead and use the tactic of victim blaming, and turn the blind eye at the perpetrator.... A predator is a predator, no matter what job, social status or gender or anything, they are the predators. Please go ahead and start blaming the victim.
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Latest post on 06 March 2016 - 19:59
I am curious of this law of applies to nannies and/or maids? I ask because if a parent works 8am-4pm (for example) they are working 8 hours. They would also need commute time. If we are allowing for one hour each way that comes to 10 straight hours of help needed per day while the parent is gone. How would a nanny get a one hour break "every five hours" in this situation? To be honest: maids, drivers and all unskilled labourers don't go under UAE labour law, they go under the immigration law, which have different category for their break timings.... It's a big gray area, the law stipulates they are entitled to "a" break, but never give how many hours for work or how many breaks they have. It only stipulates they are entitled to "a" day off, and the day off to be monitored, which states you can give them their day off, but not let them off site!
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Latest post on 03 March 2016 - 19:21
I think it's great idea! As I used to have heavy pain no pain killer would work and will creat very heavy flow when I was young, being on period isn't sickness, and no doctor will ever give a sick note of period pain to be presented to your work. Being on period is natural occurrence, it's not sickness and we need to stop stigmatising ourselves more than the society already do. I remember when I was pregnant used to have morning sickness like any other pregnant women, however I had this boss complained about me that I'm not in the office and always in the bathroom, I explained to him that matter, then he told me then don't show up to work and take sick leave! I told him sorry are you expecting me to have sick leave for 3 months? I can't afford it, no doctor would even give me such sick leave and even if I found one, no hr would accept it. Then he told me : then why you still working after you got married!! Neither less I can explain how he tried hard to take my nursing hour with her s manipulation.... But when his manager - she was female - was pregnant; he didn't bat an eye lid! Sure he was doing his best for anyone under his supervision, but couldn't do the same for his superiors. May I say: we women tend to bring each one of us down on the behalf of the society, safeguarding the the attitude toward us, not standing by each other so we all - men and women - have equal rights and equal pay. Third culture family, you said everything I wanted to say ??
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Latest post on 02 March 2016 - 17:58
As per UAE labour law, the worker get 1 hour break if worked 5 consecutive hours in normal working hours. The normal working hours are 8 hours per day and could reach 9 hours only. HTH
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Latest post on 01 March 2016 - 19:24
my daughter's school sent us an email a week ago about closing the school, and we are now looking for other schools to join, we talked to the school about our addmission fee and if we are going to refund that back as its not our choice to leave but of course they act like its not a refundable in any case and almost like we are the first parent to talk about this, anyway just by ready the KHDA fee framework it turns out you can refund it if you are leaving the country or other circumstances, I thought maybe someone would know anything or if they experienced this before. I'm sorry for what you are going throw, it's stressful enough the look out for new school, and now this! Did you find another school yet? And may I ask you what school that is closing please? As I'm looking for a nearer school to our home as the commute is very far and I'm constantly tired now. Thanks and good luck for new school
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Latest post on 20 February 2016 - 15:18
First of all, I would insist on meeting the perents of the kids is having the party, most of the times perents don't have an idea that their kids is throwing a party, if the parents do know, I would ask them why they didn't send invitations themselves to the other parents too?? If your DD don't want to give info or couldn't give you info, then she either know there will be no chapprons to look over or, she could be a victim herself to someone's "party"! This what I would do if it was my kid, again this is not my kid. To be honest it's very dangerous to enter anyone's property over here - and anywhere- as you just entered at your own risk. No, I wouldn't let my DD or DS to go to such event called party
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Latest post on 09 February 2016 - 12:38
Hi ladies and gentlemen. I have been searching for a job and trying my best but its seems being African is the only crime I committed. I am a young lady and a graduate extremely hardworking,well experienced and fit to do any given task... yet whenever I tell them am an African I get weak response and no feedback. Even to work as a nanny yet no one wants to give a try.....pls why the discrimination what crime have we africans committed???? We never told God to make us africans.why are parents killing the zeal of the young african generation to make a decent living??? This is so unfair as I am discouraged and so feel so lonely in this race of life....thanks all for your time and contributions....God bless. Well... I was contacted few days ago by an African who was looking for job! She was sending me "good morning" messages and texts and finally found me over the phone! I invited her for an interview the same day and discussed all details and agreed on salary etc ! She was supposed to contact me yesterday to simply tell me what time she will come today with her suitcase to start the job!! All of sudden, I had to chase her for hours last night (same person who was sending me "good mornings!") and ended up hearing she wants more money!!! I guess I shouldn't had been that kind from the beginning!!! Now wind777, you just mixed up all your cards! The op is applying for jobs and don't get a call back, and in your case the applicant just walked away from a job offer with you... You can't generalise here, your post is something way different than the op's post
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Latest post on 06 February 2016 - 15:52
Hi ukehb, I'm posting on behalf of a friend of mine, that she wants to get in touch with you. She is German and changing accomodation at the moment. If you are still interested, I wonder how we can get in touch or exchange contacts or emails over here, I'll be checking this thread until you are online then. Thanks in advance
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Latest post on 02 February 2016 - 13:21
I know Doubting Thomas, and I hate me being the reason of someone else's missing out on job or appointments, after all teachers are human and perents too. May I ask if anybody have reviews on iskandar garage in Ajman? Yes my car still broke down and I'm using rental car at the moment, I started hating this car, another poster not happy with my second hand car.
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Latest post on 02 February 2016 - 12:55
Gorobattie, you are a long time EW'er so you know that here we don't always get the responses we'd like, that's the beauty of an open forum, replies from all angles. But I think you do take a lot of things to heart including probably a lot of the responses you have received. Just try to take things with a pinch of salt. People say things without thinking some times. I am sure half us have been called fat or been told they haveput on weight since they arrived in the UAE. How have things been with Ms MiddleAge since your OP? She is being professional and I try not to interact with her at all, if it happen polite smile and I make sure that I'm extra polite so I don't leave anything for different interpretations
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Latest post on 02 February 2016 - 12:49
Did you reported the matter to Dubai police? Did you contacted consumer rights, as you did buy the car throw agency? Hiding info is scamming too, I hope that you did report the agency and the seller to the police
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Latest post on 02 February 2016 - 11:39
OP, maybe if you'd dress better you wouldn't be mistaken for a maid...:biggrin: Ok I'll show myself out... ? So you judge people as per what they dress? As per your comment you just degraded anyone who isn't up to your personal taste in weardrob choices... How about the old saying of " don't judge a book by it's cover"? And that is a classic micro aggression toward anyone you don't assume they are equal to you ?? As another poster said about mental note of dressing up to look like she own the shop, when she is going to shopping. I understand that you show up at school, grocery stores in your Sky high Louboutains, with tip top make up - don't forget the winged eyeliner- perfectly manicured nails, dvf iconic wrap dress and your totte bag from LV.... Please correct me if I'm wrong, becouse I never seen such classification for humans like that... Rant over it.
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Latest post on 01 February 2016 - 22:15
Quote: "[i'>Sorry I don't want to know about your misfortune, each one have his own misfortune, and we all deal with it.[/i'>" But you can come on here with your misfortune and expect us to sympathise, but when you are told (not by me...) to just deal with it, you throw a "you don't know what it's like" racism card at us. Seems fair... I never once spoke down to you, I did however maybe have the audacity to question a few things which seems to have got your back up. Seeing as you don't want to listen to anyone else's hardships because no-one has it as hard as you, (obviously), I shall just pop off and continue to quietly deal with my own misfortunes. I wish you the best for the future and I hope no-one is ever mean to you again. I am sorry if my post come as I'm saying that you talked down on me, becouse you didn't. You said that you have your own share of misfortune and don't want to talk about it and I just confirmed what you said. Again I'm not saying I have big time hard time and no one else did, everybody have his or her own share of the hard times, and each one deal with it, some need guidance, and some go throw it all, years back when I was naive and over here talked about it so many posters bashed me for that, I thought it was OK as long as I am just a username on screen, again I was stand corrected, I'm not saying I'm more important than anyone, I'm just important to myself, and everybody else have the same feeling like I do, in the past I used to wait for others to step in as we are all humans, but seeing the ugly side of humanity showed me that the shiny knite that will save me is me, no one else, I don't become mean just like that, I give that opportunity to others to be mean first, so when I catch them red handed, they have no one to blam but themselves. Have a good one CM
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Latest post on 01 February 2016 - 21:21
Gorobattie, you said (and I have copy and pasted as the rest of the section is too long) "[i'>This poor teacher as you describe, was aware of my phone call to the school, stating that my car broke down and couldn't be fixed by myself and got AAA to tow it to the garage, and gave them expected time of my arrival with taxi,[/i'> " If that is the case then the teacher would have known you were the parent, so why are you saying she thought you were the nanny... I think there is more to this story than you may even be acknowledging yourself. Also, for those saying that Gorobattie is not upset at being mistaken for being a nanny but that really she is only indignant that a nanny should be spoken to that way, I do not believe that is the case as she said (and again, I quote) " f[i'>or posters thinking it's not a problem to be mistaken for the help or nanny, it's clearly a statement from someone to tell" you are different and less than others" and want to tell these posters: count your blessings that you haven't reduced to be a second class human...[/i'>." She is actually saying that she thinks a nanny is a second class [b'>human[/b'> and is horrified at the teacher daring to surmise that she might be one!! CM, you might not be aware that English isn't my first language, but you keep playing with words, twisting it to showcase how bad I am, I don't have to prove myself to you, you can understand what you want to understand, English isn't my strong suite, but I try my best. To recognise rasist comment, treatments it's easy for anyone who've been subjected to it to recognise it/ identify it in a heart beat, again I can tell from you and whomever defend racist attitudes from white peoples who never been looked down and concederd second class human, I can tell from your words you never been on the receiving end of these words. Being a maid or nanny is not the problem, the telling off as the maid or nanny have to answer to ANY one lived and born into the white previlig, and you take it for granted you are better than anything else!!! I dare you, I double dare you or anyone who wants to cast the racism on me to tell me that since early life she haven't been looked down becouse of her background, skin colour, or called she is exotic - resembling you to an exotic animal you get on a safari trip ha!- or assumed you are less than other, even going to a club; always asked for ID but the white chick just right front of me no one bats an eyelid and let her go without stopping her to ask for an ID. When someone mistake you for a nanny in Europe is way different than ME, becouse only certain countries are allowed to have untrained labour to work these jobs, becouse not a North American, Australian, Europian country would allow their citizens to be " untrained labour" and occupation these jobs.... When you get into your villa, you'll find the Gardner coming in introducing himself to you and ask you if you would like to hire a Gardner, for me, it did happen that a Gardner come in leaned on the door and tried to struck a conversation with me and asked me about my madam.... Racism is everywhere, been practiced on daily bases among white privileged people and people of colour too. I try my best not to follow this cruel world, and set example to my children, becouse we are all humans, so side with your poor teacher please, say whatever you want to say about me, but again, think about the begging scams that done by people of colour and how you question yourself about how true it is, and that woman who called herself pillows that come over this board and started begging and many posters started giving her money, meds and all what she asked for, becouse she was white and appologitic - if you remember couple of years back on EW, and it went all ok until a poster said its illegal to give meds without prescription to people not intended to... And the scam been exposed and no one heard about her again. Rant over it Oh Gorabattie, your English is just fine, you manage to express yourself perfectly, please do not say I am twisting your words, you were the one who basically said a nanny was a second hand human, not me. That is not a lack of perfect english, that is you trying to take back your real thoughts and throw a racism card again.... And seriously, you know NOTHING about my life and the abuse I have been on the receiving end of. Just because my English is good... well, now who is assuming? Just because I choose not to talk about it, please do not assume I am just some white and therefore privileged woman, How hilarious can you be?! I am hilarious with people I know ? But I just don't like to be talked down from anyone think they are above me, you don't know me and I don't know you, seeing the ugliest side of humans made me pick the tone of being talked down, I just refuse to be victimised by anyone, if that made anyone feel uneasy with me, well I prefer to be away from harm than been harmed by anyone misunderstand my kindness as weakness, so yes, I don't play nice anymore, and don't want to be categorised as nice. Be proffissional and that's it. Sorry I don't want to know about your misfortune, each one have his own misfortune, and we all deal with it. Rant over it.
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Latest post on 01 February 2016 - 20:54
Gorobattie, you said (and I have copy and pasted as the rest of the section is too long) "[i'>This poor teacher as you describe, was aware of my phone call to the school, stating that my car broke down and couldn't be fixed by myself and got AAA to tow it to the garage, and gave them expected time of my arrival with taxi,[/i'> " If that is the case then the teacher would have known you were the parent, so why are you saying she thought you were the nanny... I think there is more to this story than you may even be acknowledging yourself. Also, for those saying that Gorobattie is not upset at being mistaken for being a nanny but that really she is only indignant that a nanny should be spoken to that way, I do not believe that is the case as she said (and again, I quote) " f[i'>or posters thinking it's not a problem to be mistaken for the help or nanny, it's clearly a statement from someone to tell" you are different and less than others" and want to tell these posters: count your blessings that you haven't reduced to be a second class human...[/i'>." She is actually saying that she thinks a nanny is a second class [b'>human[/b'> and is horrified at the teacher daring to surmise that she might be one!! CM, you might not be aware that English isn't my first language, but you keep playing with words, twisting it to showcase how bad I am, I don't have to prove myself to you, you can understand what you want to understand, English isn't my strong suite, but I try my best. To recognise rasist comment, treatments it's easy for anyone who've been subjected to it to recognise it/ identify it in a heart beat, again I can tell from you and whomever defend racist attitudes from white peoples who never been looked down and concederd second class human, I can tell from your words you never been on the receiving end of these words. Being a maid or nanny is not the problem, the telling off as the maid or nanny have to answer to ANY one lived and born into the white previlig, and you take it for granted you are better than anything else!!! I dare you, I double dare you or anyone who wants to cast the racism on me to tell me that since early life she haven't been looked down becouse of her background, skin colour, or called she is exotic - resembling you to an exotic animal you get on a safari trip ha!- or assumed you are less than other, even going to a club; always asked for ID but the white chick just right front of me no one bats an eyelid and let her go without stopping her to ask for an ID. When someone mistake you for a nanny in Europe is way different than ME, becouse only certain countries are allowed to have untrained labour to work these jobs, becouse not a North American, Australian, Europian country would allow their citizens to be " untrained labour" and occupation these jobs.... When you get into your villa, you'll find the Gardner coming in introducing himself to you and ask you if you would like to hire a Gardner, for me, it did happen that a Gardner come in leaned on the door and tried to struck a conversation with me and asked me about my madam.... Racism is everywhere, been practiced on daily bases among white privileged people and people of colour too. I try my best not to follow this cruel world, and set example to my children, becouse we are all humans, so side with your poor teacher please, say whatever you want to say about me, but again, think about the begging scams that done by people of colour and how you question yourself about how true it is, and that woman who called herself pillows that come over this board and started begging and many posters started giving her money, meds and all what she asked for, becouse she was white and appologitic - if you remember couple of years back on EW, and it went all ok until a poster said its illegal to give meds without prescription to people not intended to... And the scam been exposed and no one heard about her again. Rant over it
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Latest post on 01 February 2016 - 13:53
:angry: To be honest I'm appalled by this! Suppose I am a maid or a nanny; does that give her the right to scold me? Another thing, was she that much blind to see how my children look exactly like me minus the skin colour? I'm fuming, can't and won't let it go, I had this bad treatment many times over the years and every time I correct the person and don't get an apology at all, I am really really ****** off! :angry: To me OP seems to be fuming about both being mistaken by a maid and the teacher feeling that it's ok to scold a maid which she wouldn't do to a parent. But the poor middle-aged teacher (a term just as judicial as the accusation itself) is getting the full load because apparently it has happened to OP before. Totally overreacting if you ask me. Just let it go. Life is too short to be bothered by these things. You seem to really have issue with me OD, that's fine with me, as it's your problem not mine. This poor teacher as you describe, was aware of my phone call to the school, stating that my car broke down and couldn't be fixed by myself and got AAA to tow it to the garage, and gave them expected time of my arrival with taxi, as I'm in the process of hiring a maid that I already issued her access card to the school, again the maid is at home in mirdif and the school in springs - long story you have nothing to do with- and then me showing up to school with sweaty attire and some dirt on my jeans, and my hands too. This poor teacher as your description thought it was ok to scold the help, as most of nannies, maids and drivers don't answer back, again there is plenty of families do let the help pick up the children, but not me; I wouldn't let my maid do the trip to pick up my children..... That poor teacher as you described "thought" she can scold a grown up person and get away with it, that poor teacher at start denied what she said, that poor teacher said sorry once she knew she was cought as my children witnessed her attitude toward me. As a classic victim blaming tactic you practic; to find a reason justify your personal attack, all I can say to you: you really need to practic yoga, so you can love yourself, really I don't write for you, and I hope this is my last post to you, and go ahead find another poster to pray on, in another thread I stated that I do not entertain any post or reply on my queries or rants, yet you keep getting yourself into it! I suggest you stay away from me, you already stated you don't like me, and that's ok with me, because that's your own problem not mine. Adios
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Latest post on 31 January 2016 - 18:58
Well done for complaining. It's sad when people speak in a different manner when they think they are talking to "the help". I agree with you Slivstet. But also wonder why the OP mentioned that the teacher is middle aged?! Is that also assessing someone based on appearance? :P Oh well I find generation of my age and younger is more diverse and don't mention these statements. However older generations tend to classify humans and pass judgments on everybody, like older generation from my own family who think women who persue their own career while having children are not good example of mothers ? Which started so many debates from my side that not everybody have the luxury of staying at home and not to be affected by loss of income, or the women just like men that need fulfilment in the career field - that was another big debate ? - and judgments been passed by older generations is just sickening! Third culture family: you know exactly my point and you described it much better than me, thank you ? And perhaps your generation have lost the ability to shrug thinsg off with a laugh. It's a knack, I advise you to learn it, saves a lot of heartache. Oh well LT Maybe next time you've been called something you aren't- out of putting you down- you too can laugh it off too. Follow your own advice ? Oh for goodness sake Gorobattie, what are you so cross about?? Would it be so awful to be mistaken for a maid?? Get a grip girl. I used to have a large hotel in another life, the number of times I was mistaken for the cleaner or the gardener are incalculable, it used to make me giggle. You need to lose the chip. Livelytrish, you are not me and I'm not you, have a look at your own hand and you'll find you have 5 fingers that aren't the same length or even are the same. Not becouse you are ok with something other would be ok with it, have a look at queen Elizabeth; she is a woman still so much different, she have the same blood or biologically like us, yet she is so different. You owned a hotel before good for you, I never owned a hotel like you, I just own my own life. Have a grib on life you too, not everything is the same for everyone else. Have a good evening, Gorobattie checks out!
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Latest post on 31 January 2016 - 18:41
Well done for complaining. It's sad when people speak in a different manner when they think they are talking to "the help". I agree with you Slivstet. But also wonder why the OP mentioned that the teacher is middle aged?! Is that also assessing someone based on appearance? :P Oh well I find generation of my age and younger is more diverse and don't mention these statements. However older generations tend to classify humans and pass judgments on everybody, like older generation from my own family who think women who persue their own career while having children are not good example of mothers ? Which started so many debates from my side that not everybody have the luxury of staying at home and not to be affected by loss of income, or the women just like men that need fulfilment in the career field - that was another big debate ? - and judgments been passed by older generations is just sickening! Third culture family: you know exactly my point and you described it much better than me, thank you ? And perhaps your generation have lost the ability to shrug thinsg off with a laugh. It's a knack, I advise you to learn it, saves a lot of heartache. Oh well LT Maybe next time you've been called something you aren't- out of putting you down- you too can laugh it off too. Follow your own advice ?
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Latest post on 31 January 2016 - 18:32
Well done for complaining. It's sad when people speak in a different manner when they think they are talking to "the help". I agree with you Slivstet. But also wonder why the OP mentioned that the teacher is middle aged?! Is that also assessing someone based on appearance? :P Oh well I find generation of my age and younger is more diverse and don't mention these statements. However older generations tend to classify humans and pass judgments on everybody, like older generation from my own family who think women who persue their own career while having children are not good example of mothers ? Which started so many debates from my side that not everybody have the luxury of staying at home and not to be affected by loss of income, or the women just like men that need fulfilment in the career field - that was another big debate ? - and judgments been passed by older generations is just sickening! Third culture family: you know exactly my point and you described it much better than me, thank you ?
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Latest post on 31 January 2016 - 17:31
If you are not a chronic late offender then the teacher was definitely wrong to chastise; but I will let it go if the teacher is usually a good/nice smiley one - maybe you just caught her on a particularly bad day. However, why do you think an apology is in order if you are thought of as a nanny - is it that bad of a thing to think of someone? Especially if - as you say - you are frequently mistaken for one - then surely this teacher was just making the same mistake so many others have done and can't be singled out for it. Is that really being defined by you as bad treatment? Me thinks this thread divulged not only teachers hidden double standards but yours too. Sorry, but not sorry! Being Cronin late offender qualify me to be subjected to such degrading comments.... No, I don't think both are the same! You can't have racism to be perfect punishment for being late!!! In another note: no, I wasn't late offender, it was once off... Again this doesn't mean it's alright to bash me becouse I was late, school were aware and AAA were aware of it.
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Latest post on 31 January 2016 - 17:27
I did talk with the deputy of junior school, as he says it's serious accusation!! Gone throw the situation and the teacher in question at start said she didn't say that, and once confronted with her, I told her the exact conversation between me and her, and then she said she is sorry for whatever offended me! for posters thinking it's not a problem to be mistaken for the help or nanny, it's clearly a statement from someone to tell" you are different and less than others" and want to tell these posters: count your blessings that you haven't reduced to be a second class human.... You may not think of it, but you aren't a woman of colour to know this micro aggression. Let's just say that this new teacher to this land, is now aware she can't say that to anyone, she is made aware that she won't get away with it, not a parent, driver, nanny, or a maid will endour this treatment... Like me or hate me, I might stand corrected, but I made that teacher aware these antics can't be and won't be ok... And yes, she did appologys, as I told her my children are witnesses on the whole incedent. Thanks ladies and thank you for supporting my rant.
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Latest post on 27 January 2016 - 18:52
I suggest you contact the store you bought your watch from, they'll advise you which is the maint/ any fixing contracted workshop will do it for you...
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Latest post on 27 January 2016 - 18:48
What happened with Hartland? There was a lot being written about it on here before it opened, but then went very quite. Exactly! There were group of posters only posting to state " my child settled well in thier class" or " it feels like a family ?" Now none of them posting anymore!!! I wonder why? ???
 
 
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