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Latest post on 23 March 2014 - 10:37
You answer the phone and say "tell me"
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Latest post on 23 March 2014 - 10:34
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Latest post on 23 March 2014 - 10:24
One of my earliest memories as a child: I was 6 years old, and while other girls dreamt of ballet i envisioned a life without my father. My mom and I would live in a flat across from my school. I would cross the road to go to school and she would walk to work which was a few blocks away. Afternoon time I would cross the road to the children's play house and wait for my mom to finish work and pick me up. Together we would walk home and have eggs for dinner, watch tv and go to bed. Believe it or not, my dream was that elaborate. It haunts me to imagine that this is how i felt at such an early age. I also spent a good part of middle school convinced that my parents were divorced because mail arrived for my mom and it was addressed Ms. My mother never left my dad. As we grew older and she could not hide it, it was always I am waiting for the last child to finish school then its over. She is still with him. My father was a serial cheater but a good father. he provided for us, sent us to the best schools, we had a driver too. Life was good but beneath all that we spent dinners without him, if he was there it was mostly silent dinners with arguments erupting in the still of the night. Please do not use your children as a reason for staying in your marriage, it weighs down heavily on them. I would much rather you say, I like my life and I will turn a blind eye to it. Today my mother is very happy, they holiday and live life as they should have 20 years ago. It took a lot out of her. And from seeing that I know what it takes to stay with a cheating man. You are dying inside, a slow and painful death. I hope you make the right decision for yourself. And whatever choice you make, remember your children see, feel and understand.
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Latest post on 18 March 2014 - 17:04
I would like to start off by saying that I am not a fan of diets. I believe in adjusting your mind-set and developing healthy eating habits that will change your life forever and incorporating exercise into your everyday lifestyle, from a quick walk to jogging etc. I try to do something with myself for 30 minutes everyday. Having said the above, and knowing myself and what works for me. After attending the weightloss show, i purchased the nutria-diet shakes. I use them to replace my dinner when I have had a bad week/day etc. Like if i had a huge lunch and know that dinner will have to be very light, i mix my shake and viola. I lost 3 kgs in the first week of using it by replacing my evening meals for 7 days days - eating a healthy breakfast and lunch of course. Now i generally have a light supper as a rule, and do not eat after 7pm.
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Latest post on 18 March 2014 - 16:41
HI TDB, Definitely go for it if you can afford it. I was fortunate enough to have my mom around when I gave birth and professionally I do a lot of business with the Al Tamimi Group - they own Emirates Home Nursing and we are already saving up to have help for when we expect our second baby. And do not feel guilty about it, not even for a second. I had a natural birth and felt like I was run over by a train ten times, I can only imagine what a c-section would feel like. Im sure you must be getting impatient, my last few weeks of pregnancy were ****, I wanted the baby out asap.
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Latest post on 16 March 2014 - 21:12
Hi ladies, So we are really interested in a villa in this area, I would like to get a clear answer in traffic? With the back road open has traffic eased? Thank you :-)
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Latest post on 14 March 2014 - 21:37
49M&Ms Hi there, hope you are having a beautiful weekend. 6 years ago my husband set up his business here and we were unfortunate enough to end up with a very unprofessional interior fit out company that had no clue what they were doing. Needless to say this affected the launch of our business, however a dear friend of ours recommended Codice Interiors to us, at the time they only took on large projects and ours was nothing compared to what they usually did. We were hesitant but upon approaching them and meeting with an Italian, Swedish and Lebanese team they were able to understand my husband's vision and executed according to our specifications. I once put the designer's email in a public forum and they were inundated with calls. I will not be doing that here. They are a very underground movement, we recently used them again for refurbishment. What I like is the relationship they have built and maintained with us even thoughts we are a small company. Email info at codiceinteiors dot com - hope u get help and please I can't stress this enough - due diligence, use a company with a track record and tangible referrals.
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Latest post on 11 March 2014 - 15:40
On this thread, as well as another one, a woman who I've long considered to be a very decent person due to the posts she makes is being lambasted regarding a question she asked me during what I know for sure will have been a momentary lapse of judgement on her part. Granted I've never met the lady but I do know from her posting history that she is an honorable, very decent woman. Someone who I very much hope to meet one day. edited by DesertRose1958 on 11/03/2014 Agreed. I also found it odd, that I was critising Sanddy_Dogg whose advice I always admire. I just did not like Rebellodubai's line of defence.
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Latest post on 11 March 2014 - 15:21
edited for diplomatic reasons. Confused at the reactions from some... can't people manage two conversations at once? No-one is denying the horror of what happened. But those with grimy floors can't pass up the opportunity to find out about a good tile cleaner. Some very off topic conversations take place at some of the funerals I've been to. Save your indignation or put it to use by doing something to prevent attacks on maids. PS: What is the tile cleaner? edited by rebellodubai on 11/03/2014 Just because you have taken part in off topic conversations at a funeral doesn't make it right. The thread is not a funeral wake for the poor maid, however I believe the OP posted it to highlight her plight and bring awareness to the plague that lives within our communities. I wonder if the neighbours heard anything. I wonder if the neighbours consistently heard the abuse and turned a blind eye. I wonder how many years they will get. I wonder if her family was notified. Will she receive a pauper's funeral, never to return to her motherland, even in death.
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Latest post on 11 March 2014 - 14:16
http://www.expressen.se/nyheter/the-truth-about-the-luxury-of-qatar-airways/ How far true is this article? My little niece dreams of the skies and she plans to join either Emirates, Etihad or Qatar in that order. If the article is correct, how worse are the other airlines? after all negative replies. I hope she ruled out QA. I mean she wouldn't apply for Saudi Air, so why Qatar Airlines? Why not start with a European Airline? She might have a culture shock with Emirates and Etihad too. Sometimes young girls fall for the glamour image these airlines are having, but there is obviously more to it than that. Qatar was third on the list anyway. We are no longer considering it. Euro airline is not an option for us as we would like to be in the same city, the majority of our family lives here. No culture shock as she has spent a lot of time here. Perhaps culture shock will occur when she starts work coupled with first time job issues etc. I do believe there is some glamour to the desire for working as crew, but that's just who she is and she argues it very well. She is a hospitality management graduate looking to grow into training etc. When I say this has been a dream of hers for a very long time, I kid you not. Thanks to everyone who has participated on this thread.
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Latest post on 11 March 2014 - 13:09
Hi Ladies, I have followed closely what all of you have had to say, and however different our opinions are this sort of dialogue helps in many ways. AmyAus82, while I disagree with you in some issues, overall I understand where you are coming from and appreciate the historical example you brought into play. I fully support what TBD said word for word, I could not have said it better. And to Notnewintown - human rights includes anyone and everyone suffering, we cannot discuss Qatar and not mention other Middle East anomalies. You mentioned to "vote with your feet" if anyone is unhappy with the way things are run. If that is the case, the Middle East will remain a perpetually transient society where expats are constantly replaced and no ethos/culture/humanity is formed. Many of us signed on the dotted line, but are contracts that explicit? I doubt it very much. It starts with us. With your maid, employee/employer - we ignite change in the communities we live in.
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Latest post on 09 March 2014 - 13:35
Hi Ladies, Thank you for all your responses. I have spent the better part of my morning reading through various articles and comments on Qatar in general, and we have decided to cross it off our list of options for my niece. AmyAus82, thank you for the detailed post. I see where you are coming from however I would like to disagree with you to a certain extent. We all need our space and privacy. What Qatar could do is a strong campaign educating new recruits on the dangers of life in the Middle East or whatever country they visit. To constantly spy on employees and restrict movement is suffocating to say the least.
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Latest post on 09 March 2014 - 11:22
I must have sen a different world to you, as this reads quite standard to me. Not traumatizing. When you said traumatizing, I thought it was going to be a horror one about hostesses being used as call girls or something. The Qatar Air contract is one I would describe as very restrictive. And, I would tell your niece that she joins them as a part of their imaging, which they have invested a lot in. I do not believe this will change any time soon, so better to encourage her to Emirates or Etihad. Why not British Airways? Does she necessarily want to be in this region? I think most hostesses in this region will tell you how much of an emphasis is placed on appearance here, whereas in other countries. with other airlines, quality of service is the focus and what you look like is not AS important. Hi there, I agree that the article is poorly written. I was drawn to it after reading something similar off Gulf news. I am traumatized, maybe I don't have a thick skin. Most of our family is stationed in this region, hence she would like to work and live around the Middle East with Dubai being her first preference. Maybe I'm a drama queen, the part about the security guard with diabetes did not move you?
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Latest post on 09 March 2014 - 10:50
If you love your niece, please discourage her to join Qatar Airways. Full stop. Emirates is good, Etihad is not bad either. I have forwarded the article to her, however I don't think she is taking it seriously. I am so traumatised from reading it. I honestly had no idea that they could possibly treat people like that. She has an open day with Emirates in April, so fingers crossed she makes it.
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Latest post on 06 March 2014 - 08:39
A beautiful good morning to you ladies! Perfect weather for a Zombie apocalypse....? Blame it on the Zombie marathon movie session I had to endure last night. Thank you for all your feedback. It is definitely a serious sit down conversation that we need to have and Celticcavegirl highlighted that we did have this baby discussion prior to marriage and we settled for 2 max 3. I guess people change over the years. What I know for sure is that I love him very much, and I am trying to be supportive of how he feels, and hope we can change our minds sooner rather than later when I have done my breast lift. Wishing you all a beautiful day!
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Latest post on 05 March 2014 - 14:54
I have the one child and it was a decsion that we both made after the birth of my son 10 years ago. before pregancy, our desire was to always have 2 children or even 3. we both came from big families. however things changed when I had my son. It started with my husband and i eventually started thinking the same way. did his decison influence me ? possibly .. am I happy with this. Yes 100%. Its something that you have to think about long and hard and once you have made that decison, your parenting style will change as well. we are happy as a small family. My son has cousins and a good circle of friends, Incidently his best friend is also an only child so I think thats why they are so tight. The most difficult part of this decison is the reaction of the family and people you meet. they cant get their head around why you would like just the one child and having to constantly explain yourself is hard work. people simply dont understand that folk might like just one child. its incredibly personal and its a tough decsion so think about it. people keep saying .. well he is not going to have any neices and nephews and his children wont have first cousins. yes true and things like this do cross my mind. edited by mushypeas on 05/03/2014 Thank you to all the ladies who have dropped by with their comments. Mushypeas just highlighted something for me. Culturally speaking, it is unheard of for my husband and I to only have 1 child by choice. Within 1 year of marriage, most married couples are expected to be pregnant, if not the whispering begins. I think also my reasons for wanting another child may be some form of affirmation from society that I am fruitful? And a high 5 for Mara's last comment 'just block your ears and move on.' Feeling very enlightened!
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Latest post on 05 March 2014 - 13:07
If he says he can be swayed and it is what I wanted then I would go ahead and sway him :D It's really common when you have one child to not be able to imagine bring able to love another one as much and to worry about dividing your attention. Then you have another baby and your heart grows to encompass them both. I like how you think Daza, I could sway him al-right.....
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Latest post on 05 March 2014 - 13:06
Just to give you my story - I never EVER wanted children but DH did, so I said if we were going to take the plunge then I wanted 2 children as my best friend is my sister and I wanted the same relationship for my children. We had one perfect little girl, then moved countries twice so put things on hold for a couple of years. Then I got pregnant again but had a miscarriage and then couldn't get pregnant... She's now 5.5 and after much heartache when each month came round and I wasn't pregnant we sat down and talked and decided that actually, why were we trying? Our little "triangle" is perfect, our DD is happy, healthy and very independant and although she would love a baby, I think now, at her age, she would like it off and on but not when it interfered if you know what I mean and it would be a few years before they could play together properly and who knows if they will even get on!! My Mum doesn't even talk to her brother! I'm also going to turn 42 tomorrow and I just feel I don't want to go back to nappies, bottles and sleepless nights.... Every family is different and although everyone can give you their experiences, in the end only you, your DH and time will tell what's right for your family. Happy 42nd for tomorrow Cheeky Monkey! And its a Thursday, I will be indulging in a glass of red wine for my cyber friend :( Thank you for sharing your story with me. I like how you described your family as 'the perfect triangle' that could be us too. Ha ha diaper changes at 42 hmmmm. I don't know what brought on the broodiness though. Oh well!
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Latest post on 05 March 2014 - 12:49
I was an only child and at the time felt the odd one out as most of my friends had at least one sibling. I do feel though that because of this I have some very strong friendships, which have been of my choosing and I have never felt lonely. On the other hand DH has a younger sister and although they were never close, they now have not seen or spoken to each other for over 7 years. Oh my Geordie expat, 7 years is a long time. Thank you for your feedback, it's nice to know about some of the insecurities you faced growing up. Ultimately friendships matter too I guess, you don't have to be a sibling to be someone to count on.
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Latest post on 05 March 2014 - 12:42
Prettyperfect, I never felt very strongly about having another one, always thought 2 would be perfect - but not strongly enough. In the end it was 'our' decision and not only my DH's. You I feel have a strong desire to have another - so do discuss with your DH, maybe he also doesn't feel strongly enough about having just one and would come around if you tell him how you feel about it. edited by mumcurious on 05/03/2014 I do feel strongly about it, strong enough to leave? No. This has really helped me put things into perspective for me. We already have 1 child, our pride and joy. I hope we can work it out and make it "our" decision like you said.
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Latest post on 05 March 2014 - 12:38
If the only reason you want 2 kids is so that they can look after each other when you die, thats a pretty rubbish reason to have kids (IMO) If you died in 2 years (I hope you dont, Im just saying...) you will have 2 orphaned kids that someone has to look after. They could get split up or put into care because nobody can take them both on Hi mumofmoo, it's not the only reason, I mentioned that because that is simply how I feel. I have a sibling and my life would be incomplete without her. I am speaking from a support network perspective. I could go on and on about why I want another child, but as a mother, I am sure you know the reasons already. Im just playing devils advocate. I woudl not even entertain the idea of having only one child. Having said that, I dispise my sibling. Actually hate him, dont talk to him and couldnt care less what happens to him so having a sibling doesnt always work out how us mothers would like. You just have to talk to your DH and tell him how you feel and either convince him to have another or bow out and suck it up and possibly live with the regret. Its not like there is a comprimise anywhere I am sorry to hear that Mumofmoo. I am happy I enjoy a healthy relationship with her. We do have crazy times though. And I agree that having siblings won't necessarily pan out the way I envisioned. There is definitely no compromise, I love him so much, if he is serious about it, I may just have to support his decision.
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Latest post on 05 March 2014 - 12:23
If the only reason you want 2 kids is so that they can look after each other when you die, thats a pretty rubbish reason to have kids (IMO) If you died in 2 years (I hope you dont, Im just saying...) you will have 2 orphaned kids that someone has to look after. They could get split up or put into care because nobody can take them both on Hi mumofmoo, it's not the only reason, I mentioned that because that is simply how I feel. I have a sibling and my life would be incomplete without her. I am speaking from a support network perspective. I could go on and on about why I want another child, but as a mother, I am sure you know the reasons already.
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Latest post on 05 March 2014 - 12:19
I was where you are, a few years back - to the tee. I wanted another, mainly for the same reasons as you - DH didn't for exactly the same reasons as yours. Now my DS is almost 11 years and I think I am ok with just 1 child - though sometimes I do feel another one would have been good. But I also agree with my DH's view point in that we want the best for our child and currently we can afford that - with 2 I'm sure we would have to compromise here and there (not only monetarily). I know I'll get a lot of flak from a lot of ladies here for this - but its true. Also another turning point for me was that I work full time and I wasn't sure I could give enough quality time to two children along with my work - currently our center of attention is my DS and he's blossoming because of that - I am able to do so much with/for him which I wouldn't have with another one around - I know compromise is the name of the game - but I think thats what I was not ready for. And I'm happy with our decision. Also, from a very young age my DS was very insistent that he doesn't want another sibling - some kids are the opposite - they want company. He used to say I already have a brother (my nephew who is also here) and I dont want another. So basically it depends on your circumstances - if you feel quite strongly about having another one, are quite secure in your jobs, have a good incomes and the DH is not rigid on it - go for it but make it 'both of your' decision instead of he 'agreeing' to your decision. Good Luck! edited by mumcurious on 05/03/2014 Hi mumcurious, Thank you for taking the time out to respond. It means a lot to me to hear that you are very happy with 1 child. I agree with what you have said, especially the attention part for 2 kids and a job. But I still would like to have another one :( I have always pictured myself with 2 kids and a loving husband. I have friends who have a 12 year old and after years of being happy with 1 child, they just had another baby last year. I like to be very organised with my life, esp with babies. If I support him,then when I am almost 40 he decides he wants another child what then? But hmmm, he may be 50 so maybe he won't make such demands lol If you don't mind me asking, what made you support your husband's decision?
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Latest post on 05 March 2014 - 12:11
That's only a question you can answer.... Thanks for the response IzzyOnTheSeat, ultimately the decision lies with me. I just want to gain some perspective asto how other ladies would handle this sort of predicament.
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Latest post on 26 February 2014 - 21:39
Hi Ladies, My apologies for disappearing on you all. Thank you for all the feedback. Everything you have mentioned i have been questioning myself. By wanting a villa I am in no way saying that raising a child in an apartment is bad, just that for our family, we have reached the end of the road. I also think my husband is nesting.... If that's the right word. He longs for a backyard and a grill to barbaque. I'm a city girl, I thrive in this area. Sadly I will not win this one. In terms of groceries I am very organized, we rarely visit the local grocer. I buy most of our items at geant online and top up weekly at carrefour etc. I find Al Maya can be a rip off sometimes. What I did not factor in was a gardener, but I'm assuming it can't be that bad. We generally don't like moving so wherever we end up we plan to stay put and by the grace of God may be able to afford the annual increase etc. Greens! Love love love it. Friends of our lived there a few years back and we would consider it but like I said husband wants a grill, son wants space and Mom would like the nearest mall :( I must say I'm happy to see my husband think along these lines though. Thanks again. Husband has a cold so you can imagine what I'm going through, it's the end of life as we know it.
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Latest post on 26 February 2014 - 16:41
JVC has no communal pools, but if you have a stand alone villa the garden is big enough for one. Getting onto the road to AD might be a tad of a long run, as you would have to go down the Al Khail to the Hessa St flyover and do a U-turn via that to get bak up towards the old Emirates Road. Hi Geordie, unfortunately as we are renting, I don't see us sinking a pool in anytime soon lol. Thank you for the feedback, its very disheartening to hear that they do not have any communal pools. My next option would be to swim at the gym bleh. Maybe Springs is a better alternative then even with the AD distance me thinks?
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Latest post on 26 February 2014 - 16:33
Nice to meet a neighbour! We are in the same building:)) Why don't you consider JLT, it's still nearby (especially with a new tram line) there are few nurseries, a new park and lot quiter than Marina area and on the way to AD as well. If we have to leave JBR next year because of the rent increase it would be probably our first choice. We have a 2 y.o. too... why do you think JBR is not suitable for kids anymore? I actually find it better now with the new beach facilities. First of all, thank you Mcb for replying. I have no idea where Remraam is, I still want to feel like im in the city somehow :-) don't know if that makes sense. Alemania, hi neighbour! For the amount we will pay this year, we would much rather have a villa. More space. We are in a 2 bed and our son has run it to the ground. I always feel like he is frustrated inside. He forever points outside and insists on being out always. We love the new mall, beach etc - you make me want to cry when I think about it. However we do not go to the beach everyday. For everyday practical play our son is always on the front grass just outside Ramada which is mostly sand and a huge hole which the dogs have dug up and the kids play in. Its very harmonious to be downstairs around 5pm and all the kids, nannies and mommies are out, but we long for an option to just open the door and let our son run wild, with neighbourhood kids coming over to play while I lay on the couch keeping an eye for them. We are definitely torn. JLT - Husband would rather slit his wrists. I saw a lot of beautiful apartments but see reasons above. And also a while back we looked as some JLT apartments and they were just too tiny for us. Although I must say their park etc is amazing, saw it while visiting a friend.