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Latest post on 14 January 2013 - 21:49
I don't head straight for the doctor either Pipititimous. Obviously if the fever was very high and/or they were very distressed I'd take them in but otherwise not. I don't give paracetamol for a fever either unless they are miserable with it. [b'>The fever has a job to do so when possible I don't treat it.[/b'> Totally agree. I'd only treat it if it's going over 38... and thanks orangeblossom and long, I've also heard about Dr. Ahmed from a friend and will try him next time!
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Latest post on 14 January 2013 - 16:01
My youngest has never had antibiotics that I can recall and my elder one did, but becasue of very severe tonsillitis that culminated in her getting them removed. I'm with desert rose on this one! Motherhood is way too complicated now! I didn't even know anyone goes to a paediatrician for this kind of thing anyway...why not just use a GP? And only then if necessary; my DD hasn't been to the doctor for years though. I'm pretty sure every mum on this forum only takes her child to a doctor if it's necessary :) it's hardly a lot of fun :)
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Latest post on 14 January 2013 - 14:08
LC, thanks so much - what you wrote is very reassuring and much needed amidst all that stress around schools! Really appreciate your feedback. To lella76: we are already here but facing some challenges similar to yours. I can imagine how frustrating it can be and I feel for you! I just re-read your original post and noticed you mention your son doesn't speak English. If that is the case, you might have problems getting him into some of the schools, as many of them are explicitly stating a child must be speaking English at the level appropriate to his age. So you need to look for schools that can offer learning support for non-English speakers (or ask schools when you call them). And it could probably also be a good idea to start with English classes for him as soon as possible. You may have an alternative to a primary school. I heard that Children's Gardens nursery accepts children aged 4-5 yrs old, which means he could start with them next September and catch up on English before he goes to a big school. You could then consider to apply either for Year 1 or KG2 for 2014... They have two or three branches around Dubai - just google them. As far as schools are concerned, perhaps also try calling Safa school - it's a small school compared to many others and I think they might have learning support function there. You'd find many happy Safa parents on this forum. Hope that helps, good luck with everything!
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Latest post on 14 January 2013 - 00:24
Lack of transparency is a bit cr@p isn't it....when "waiting lists" are not actually waiting lists, as in names moving up chronologically as places are available, but are really "random pools" of names...which isn't a problem per se....just that wish the schools would tell you. That's pretty much how i'm feeling right now...
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Latest post on 14 January 2013 - 00:23
There are tons of schools that still have places. You just have to call around. The frustrating thing is that few schools will admit to having places - but they are there. Little crocodile, could you please elaborate? It sounds like we'll have to go down that path (calling schools around), why would only a few admit to having places? and how do we know which ones do and which ones don't?
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Latest post on 14 January 2013 - 00:16
Can recommend Body Shop anti-dandruff ginger shampoo. Did help me!
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Latest post on 14 January 2013 - 00:15
Lolacat, thanks for sharing your thoughts - it did help me understand a bit where the doctor was coming from. Just to clarify, I'm not advocating blood tests every time there's high fever. But if a doctor decides to prescribe antibiotics - I'd really like him to be sure! I guess a lot depends on where you come from, approach to medicine is so different in different parts of the world. In my country, doctors love prescribing medicine but are nonetheless very cautious about antibiotics. Where DH comes from, it can be summed up as "no medicine should be given that can be avoided". So I guess it is all indeed about finding a doctor who shares similar views :-) By the way, based on the blood sample we should stick to the original antibiotics. Really glad we didn't go ahead with the pediatrician's reco from yesterday to switch to a new one...
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Latest post on 13 January 2013 - 16:17
Thanks for feedback Sey83 - that's what I was afraid of (sigh)...
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Latest post on 13 January 2013 - 10:01
Thanks all for sharing! It's really interesting to get a bit of perspective from different point of views. As for us, we'll continue the search of The One - the perfect pediatrician, but if you don't mind me asking, why would one be hesitant to run a blood test under such circumstances? I honestly never saw it as a choice and am genuinely curious!
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Latest post on 12 January 2013 - 23:18
DD (2.5 yrs old) has been really sick for the past days, high fever, cough, lost appetite etc. Two days ago she was seen by a GP (emergency) and prescribed, among others, an antibiotic. She's got no better since and today I took her to a pediatrician. We had the following dialogue: Doctor: The antibiotic she's taking doesn't seem to work. I'll prescribe you another one and if there's no improvement tomorrow, switch to the new one. Me: OK thanks, but do you know what it is she has? Doctor: This is some kind of infection. But we don't know if it's a virus or bacteria, that's why your antibiotic may not be working. Sometimes [b'>you have to try a few before you get the right one...[/b'> Me (in bewilderment): Can we not run a blood test so that we know what kind of infection it is and which exactly medicine to give her?? D: Yes that is possible, but some children don't take it very well when we take their blood samples... [b'>they don't like it you know[/b'>.. but yes if you want we can have the test now. Me: Yes please I'd like that... So what about that new antibiotic, are you still prescribing it? D: As you wish, I can prescribe it now or tomorrow when we have the results of the blood test. Me: Would it be the same one regardless of the results? D: No, of course not, different things! Me thinking: OMG!! so why on earth were you going to give my DD yet another antibiotic before you even know what we're dealing with here? How is that possible? Is it normal practice here? I'm not against antibiotics as such but where we come from, they are only prescribed when absolutely necessary, and only if the doctor is 100% sure about what it is he is treating. I've never heard of switching from one antibiotic to another in an attempt to find the one that hopefully works. Were we just unlucky with the doctor? Am one concerned mum here. Is your pediatrician the same??
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Latest post on 04 December 2012 - 13:19
Hi ladies, I am looking for drama classes to enroll my 4 year old - any recommendations? Ductac seem to have some nice options, does anyone have a first-hand experience with them? Or any other place you (or rather, your LO!) are happy with? Any feedback most appreciated! TIA
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Latest post on 25 November 2012 - 14:26
No in fact he hasn't - thanks! He's looking into it now, but apparently he doesn't remember if he had that app activated in the first place... thanks again for the tip!
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Latest post on 19 November 2012 - 14:17
I buy curry paste... heat 2-3 TBSP of vegetable oil in a pan, add 50-70 gr of curry paste, add coconut cream (400ml), add 1 tbs of fish sauce and 1 tbs of sugar - then throw in chopped veggies and meat/fish. I usually make yellow curry though where I use onions, yellow capsicums, zuccini, shrimps and cherry tomatoes. Yummy and soooooo easy!
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Latest post on 08 November 2012 - 20:12
Hehe - no probably not bright pink GA, not sure what kind of statement that would be :) thanks a lot, definitely paying a visit to ACE one of these days!
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Latest post on 08 November 2012 - 18:46
Non stop one stop might have some, I've seen some at their parties. [b'>Second time I've recommended them tonight, I don't work for them I promise[/b'>! https://www.facebook.com/nonstoponestop I know the feeling ;) thanks, will check them out!
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Latest post on 06 November 2012 - 19:40
I heard the best way to fight cellulite is to stick to the front view whenever you look in the mirror. that's hilarious! sooo true! ;) so i keep focusing on training my will power instead of my body... ;-)
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Latest post on 06 November 2012 - 18:45
I heard the best way to fight cellulite is to stick to the front view whenever you look in the mirror. If you, like me, cannot commit to that, I can tell you I noticed a big improvement in the skin tone after taking 40-min walks every day for six weeks. Walking and swimming do help, cannot say same about massages - I tried both a course of manual massages and a course of LPG and didn't really see any difference.
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Latest post on 05 November 2012 - 18:33
Sounds like a good plan - all the best! :)
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Latest post on 05 November 2012 - 17:21
We have a second live-in maid from Howdra, not sure if same rules apply but this is how it worked: they come with a few ladies (three in our case), you interview them in front of the agency rep, if you like one, she'll start within the next couple of days. I am not sure our maid is entitled to a leave though, I think they said she has a 2-year contract and only goes back after it's completed. Regarding first aid training, I just double-checked with our maid and she told me it's a half day training and it sounded quite superficial to be honest. I also wouldn't say it seems like they've received an extensive training in housekeeping/cleaning, looks more like quite a basic one. When we got the first three maids to interview, two of them were not matching the profile I provided to Howdra, the third one seemed to meet most of the requirements so we went ahead with her. On her second day she asked if she could sleep out (she wanted to go to Abu Dhabi to see her cousin), I said I don't mind but she has to get agency's approval because according to the contract she is not allowed to sleep out. Then she broke up in tears saying she had no money and needed to go to her cousin to borrow some, that she was really unhappy with the agency, and that in general she wants to go back to the Philippines as soon as possible because she hates it here. Anyways, I managed to get the agency to agree for her to go to Abu Dhabi but it only helped her mood/state of mind for a short period of time and she was in general quite unhappy and not really motivated to stay or do her job. It took me three months to get a replacement because the agency kept saying they are not getting the right profile candidates from the Philippines. We have highs and lows with our second lady but in general I am quite happy with her. Sorry for the long post, I guess what I'm trying to say is - don't put your expectations too high just because they come from an agency and are supposed to be trained in this and that, be efficient and motivated employees like one might expect them to be. Interview your candidates very carefully and make sure you ask personal questions, too - just to get a feel of how happy/satisfied with her deal she is. If she is to spend most of her time with the baby, I assume it's pretty important for you that she stays positive and is able to keep her spirit up. It may not be that apparent during the interview especially because they are supervised by an agency rep, so don't be shy to ask as many questions as you deem necessary, and don't rush into anything - you'll have a lot more headache if you change your mind afterwards. HTH and good luck
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Latest post on 05 November 2012 - 16:49
My friend has her 2 yrs old in Inspire nursery and they are quite happy there. They have camps during school holidays and summer so you can keep your LO there more or less all year round.
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Latest post on 05 November 2012 - 16:44
Are you talking about a live-in maid or a part-time maid?
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Latest post on 05 November 2012 - 14:26
Hi again, I just mentioned Kids Cottage on your other thread, it's in Jumeirah 3 so not sure if still ok for you location-wise - but if it is, really worth considering. It's a great nursery imho and i can't recommend it enough. Small, cosy, with lovely facilities and very warm vibes. DS is in FS1 there and I think the class is around 12-15 kids.
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Latest post on 05 November 2012 - 14:16
Kids Cottage are quite flexible, FS1 children are requested to be there by 8.30 at latest but younger ones can be dropped off even later.
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Latest post on 03 November 2012 - 20:28
Check out www.beautypedia.com, they have hundreds of products listed in there and provide quite elaborate reviews on most of them. Go to "best products" and choose by category - you'll find plenty of options :) HTH
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Latest post on 03 November 2012 - 08:49
I would choose the first lady as I generally feel more comfortable leaving my children my someone older/more experienced. It also sounds like she knows exactly what she is looking for, which is not unimportant in my book... And it's nice she has her family here, I am sure it makes her happy to be able to be around them! Regarding energy levels, I think it depends on the personality as well as physical capabilities - the best nanny we ever had was a 55 years old lady and she was brilliant. She took care of a 10 months old and a 2.5 years old when we had to leave for a weekend and we came back to two happy children and a tidy house!
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Latest post on 01 November 2012 - 21:03
Hi, i have had 2 maid experiences in Dubai. One i have had for 4 years , she's very reliable honest, has made mistakes but i explain things and between us we have a relationship with boundaries so she knows not to overstep the mark and what we expect from her. From the same agency i.e.; Explorer during her absence for one month ( she went back to the philipines) i had a nightmare maid. I was working the whole day and she was dirty, let my 3 year old son walk out of house onto the road as she was distracted and on phone, stole from me , gave me a lot of attitude. The theft came later , after the first incident of her not taking care of my son i sat her down and explained that it was NEVER to happen again. Unfortanately i had a bad apple to start with and eventually she ended up being banned, deported and jailed for theft. All i can say is don't be too kind, be firm, sit her down and explain the rules and tell her if this is going to work she is not to talk rudely and her main priority when you ask her is to pay attention to your kids. Noone has the right to judge and all of us try to be the best mums we can.[b'>Accidents will happen but I'm sure that as long as you feel that she's paying attention and shows you respects and remembers her boundaries you will be satisfied.[/b'> When they are rude , they need to know who is the boss by being firm. Trust me its not easy, it only comes with time, Im not an expert but this is my experience. Good luck. Thanks, that's exactly the point! And thanks for the advice. Can't believe your experience with the other agency maid though - I thought they were checking the background of all ladies they bring in who are supposed to work in a family down here!
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Latest post on 01 November 2012 - 16:14
Thanks derien, I'll follow your suggestions :) And yes I agree DollyDuck and I should probably lower my expectations. I'm still struggling to justify her reaction though...
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Latest post on 01 November 2012 - 14:05
OK, I really didn't think I needed to provide THAT level of detail on how I look after my two children :) Maybe I phrased it wrong. Of course I can take care of my two kids on my own. This is what I've done for a long time before we got a full-time help and I continue doing it - I take them to parks, beach, play centers, mall etc etc on my own most of the times. I actually prefer that I as enjoy hanging out with them. So, what I meant to say is - yes I can watch them but I can't prevent accidents from happening because I cannot be in two places at the same time. So yes they occasionally do get hurt and they learn their lesson and all that. But that's really not the point here. The point is - I ask you to watch a child, just one child, so please make sure he stays safe. That's my requirement/expectation, other people may do it differently but that what I am asking you to do. Just in case, if the maid is with both children and one of them gets hurt, I never make a comment let alone a fuss out of it. But with one child it's different (for me), and I told you so. I expect you to stay focused on that child and not let him or her run under the swings. And then if it does happen, for sure I expect a different kind of response! ps: Thanks for sympathy mnmz & daza :)
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Latest post on 01 November 2012 - 12:14
She is a human being and cannot prevent accidents from happening, not like that anyway. So you were watching your daughter, but he was NEARBY? How can you not watch 2 kids at once? Is she a maid? Does she want to be a nanny? Does she get enough to eat? Do you think that education might play a role here? My maid is in year 8 with us, and is just about grasping it and realises what we want from her....she still makes us crazy, but now she can see my face turning and she does a sharp turn around.....it takes time, have patience......FFS I can't watch two small children at once, they are 2 and 4 years old and they tend to run in opposite directions. That's exactly why I am taking my maid to the playground - to help me keep them occupied, as their interests vary, and to help me watch them. I can, however, make sure no incidents happen to the one I am watching - I stay focused and I prevent them from falling off the swings, eating sand, running into other people etc. And she knows I expect same from her. She is a maid but she would like to be a nanny, like I said before, she used to be a teacher and she likes hanging out with kids. She gets enough to eat, yes. She also has a nice room with all amenities incl a fridge and a tv; she works 8 hours a day and she gets overtime paid if she babysits in the evenings.
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Latest post on 01 November 2012 - 09:28
DR, from your posts, sounds like you have an extensive experience dealing with "staff" so it's always nice to have you share it. I am clearly doing something wrong which is why I am asking for advice. Unfortunately, your input is too generic to help either me or the poor maid you are feeling sorry for. I am not sure what you are referring to and maybe you are good in reading between the lines but I am not - I am happy to receive constructive critics but what you wrote down here sounds just plain rude.
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Latest post on 31 October 2012 - 15:21
An update: she came out of her room while I was making food, asked if we can talk and said she was sorry about what happened yesterday. Sweet. To which I said I appreciated the apology, still I need to make sure these things don't happen again - which is why I'm introducing a performance based award for the month to come. I.e. she will get a reduced weekly allowance (which is still higher than the minimum she's supposed to be getting) to be paid in the beginning of each of the next three weeks, and if I am satisfied with her performance/attitude she'll get the full balance afterwards. And if I am not, she'll keep getting the reduced amounts... I also specifically stated I expect no change in the way she's dealing with the children, if I see any different, she can forget about any extras whatsoever.. she didn't argue and seemed to have accepted it... let's see
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Latest post on 31 October 2012 - 13:35
haha - we also had a "sorry" discussion (yes, another of those ones) and she told me that "Sorry" is a very big word in her culture and they don't use it "unless they'd made a big scene"... :\: Seemed odd to me but now I know she's not the only one! And I agree with you derien on the aspect of pride, in fact our maid is a very proud person, she also used to be a teacher before so it's a bit difficult for her to accept the fact that now she is just a maid in someone's house. This is part of the reason why I tend to discuss things with her, not just give instructions... doesn't work, apparently :( Natashak - I hear you, it sounds just like our first maid who I sent back to the agency as she was driving me crazy with her attitude. And when we interviewed our current maid I specifically said I do not tolerate that kind of talk/behavior, and I thought I made myself clear but apparently not as here it starts again! That's why I'm so frustrated, I can't believe I made all the same mistakes again as it would appear, feeling really stupid!
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Latest post on 31 October 2012 - 09:01
Thanks for the feedback ladies. Purple, you are very right. I think my problem is that I try to treat her exactly like I'd be treating an employee, hence the discussions instead of firm instructions... I did a lot of coaching/mentoring back when I was a boss and apply same style of communication now, but this clearly does not work. Good point about not leaving room for an answer! Mohandissa, she knows she can act decisively and I should probably re-itirate that, I see your point... But it's her tone of voice that I find absolutely unacceptable! I don't allow myself to speak to her in that way! She's been with us for a month by now so I hope it's not too late (*sigh*)... I definitely need to work on my way of communicating with her and also think I'll hold back on her allowance - give her the minimum specified in our agency contract as an advance and the rest in the end of the month if she continuously meets my expectations. Can't think of anything better to keep her motivated to do her job properly!
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Latest post on 24 October 2012 - 09:29
Thanks Vera, good to know and thanks Kathyt for bringing it up, I was going to check out the Al Barsha ones but will save myself some time now!
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Latest post on 23 October 2012 - 13:13
Great, thanks so much!
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Latest post on 23 October 2012 - 13:12
I was fuming after an argument with my boss, decided to share my feelings with a colleague and sent her a chat message saying "xxx is an a**hole!!!" - and just after pressing 'send' I realized it went straight to him... I could actually see his face from my desk as he got the message... I sat motionless for a few minutes then thought of nothing better than to come up to him to apologize saying "it's nothing personal" (!!!) - luckily it was friday afternoon so I just left the office straight after... on a positive side, he wasn't the most popular person in the office so I got a lot of credit from my colleagues as "the only one who had the guts to tell xxx he's an ***hole in his face" ;-)
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Latest post on 23 October 2012 - 12:55
OP, sorry if I'm hijacking your thread - I'm also planning a party for my DS and also looking at Cheeky Monkeys, ladies who've recommended CM (JShepherd, Daza, Floradubai, Vera) - are you all referring to the ones in Al Barsha Mall or the other company? Would be very grateful if you let me know!! TIA
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Latest post on 21 October 2012 - 19:10
A friend of mine lost a grey cat a couple of weeks ago, it this one grey by any chance?? They're in Umm Suquem though, a bit too far I know but maybe?..
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Latest post on 17 October 2012 - 23:34
No, she will not be allowed to travel. You have to have 6 months validity on the passport to travel. This happened to us over this summer. They allowed my DD to leave Dubai but Emirates Airline would not allow her to return without 6 months validity on her passport. Apparently the airline can get a big fine if they do allow it. We had to apply for a new passport in our home country and return with both old (containing valid visa) and new passports. 6 months - really?? We came back in end of august and they let her in without a fuss... well, minor detail - she actually holds two passports, but it is the one with the visa that expires, so figured the validity of the other one is irrelevant.. or am I wrong?
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Latest post on 17 October 2012 - 22:36
Evening ladies, Could someone please help me out here - If my DD's passport expires in end of November (and her UAE residency visa stamped in it expires in 2015), would she be allowed to travel out of UAE and get back in before the expiry date?
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Latest post on 17 October 2012 - 15:45
What kind of fair is it? (just curious, sorry can't help with your question...)
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Latest post on 17 October 2012 - 15:43
Thanks so much!! :)
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Latest post on 17 October 2012 - 15:18
Thanks ladies, really appreciate your feedback!
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Latest post on 16 October 2012 - 22:20
'Whistle Baby' v 'Supercalifragilisticexpialidocious' of my childhood. OMG, it is totally disturbing listening to my 4yo 'baby' sing the lyrics to WhistleBaby, I know she doesn't get the innuendo, but still, ahhhhh !! It is my 5 year old's favorite song along with Pound the Alarm. Luckily she actually thinks that song is about someone blowing an actual whistle :-) would be REALLY disturbing if a 5 year old thought smth different... ;-)
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Latest post on 15 October 2012 - 18:56
Thanks Desertmummy!
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Latest post on 15 October 2012 - 18:54
Thanks - how cool is that :) Just back from Safa park - apparently it's no BIG bikes only! Little one can use their freely, just in case someone is interested :)
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Latest post on 15 October 2012 - 16:42
bummer :-( what a shame. Two big parks just nereby and still no bike riding for my LOs! They are still very young (2 and 4), not sure if Meydan would work but will probably check out Mushriff park or Mamzar beach one of these days. Thanks ladies
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Latest post on 15 October 2012 - 15:27
no sharing? :(
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Latest post on 14 October 2012 - 14:12
Great inspiration and doesn't seem to take much to implement a few of her ideas.. thanks for sharing! :)
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Latest post on 13 October 2012 - 16:37
He-eeeey :))) yes she's the one, but she tells me the job is much harder for her (lots of housework as opposed to just taking care of babies) and she could eat all she wanted - I don't normally offer her food, she buys/cooks for herself, if she cooks for us we share ofcourse... I was just thinking it's fair to start with 400 and then increase it if she keeps doing a good job - not a concept she seems to concur with... it's not like it's a really big deal at the moment but to be honest I was taken by surprise when she told me 400 is not a lot after having worked here for three weeks. So now trying to collect opinions :) And you are right, nothing in the contract re toiletries, just that we provide those