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Latest post on 20 July 2012 - 13:55
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Latest post on 20 July 2012 - 13:26
Here's a twist on how people change here. I am not a glamorous person but do like to primp a bit before I walk out the door, as I enjoy being female and see nothing wrong with taking a bit of pride in looking after ourselves. I made friends here who would make snide remarks such as "And where are you off to? The Oscars?" And shall never forget this one "isnt that color a bit bright for a woman?" Emphasis on 'woman', as if to point out I was no longer a girl. Well, believe me, I think any lady who's past 35 needs not be reminded she's no longer a girl, we see the changes in the mirror daily. If anyone showed up for a breakfast meet and didnt look like they had just rolled out of bed, lord forgive them! What I started doing was dressing down, flat shoes all the time, less make-up, no more dresses, etc. It was the man in my life who pointed out I no longer wore dresses and why not? I realized it was true, I felt critiqued more and more around certain people. When I visited friends (out of UAE), I looked forward to being made up and wearing (god forgive me!) a pair of heels, I realized that I missed the perfume and dresses etc., though I didnt do it every day, the occasional lift I felt when looking feminine or wearing a special dress was gone. Life is full of many downers, and I'll take a lift in mood anytime. Well, I decided it was silly of me to let snide remarks change the way I felt about myself, and started just being me. The hilarious part is I was then accused of 'changing' and becoming Dubai-ized!!! lol!!!!!
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Latest post on 29 May 2012 - 16:35
Saw several accomodation topics on the internet in the past, including videos. Was not aware it was was a forbidden topic? Forgive the question in that case.
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Latest post on 29 May 2012 - 13:46
Correct, yes
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Latest post on 29 May 2012 - 13:41
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Latest post on 16 May 2012 - 15:01
Thank you ladies. Am new to the whole thing and would like an understanding instructor.
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Latest post on 14 May 2012 - 17:42
Apologies if this sounds daft, but, they vary by the country? (Really have never purchased any such cut in the past) Or is it just american short ribs?
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Latest post on 14 May 2012 - 16:41
Thank you.
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Latest post on 29 April 2012 - 07:58
That is so interesting! Thanks for reply.
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Latest post on 28 April 2012 - 13:07
Any update from the ladies using the egg treatment?
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Latest post on 02 April 2012 - 15:35
Oh my, are we still at it with this topic? I have to say there are a great many posters here who are either very defensive or extremely easily offended. I didn't know. There is one point I'd like to make as to "why do people with children have your sympathy ??i'm sorry to have to tell you that it is misplaced....." Often in this forum ladies come here for practical advice, sometimes advice of the heart. In fact, I believe there is a current poster who spoke regarding a horrible holiday experience and how challenging her marriage is at the time? What is she getting here? An ear, support. Encouragement and some good advice as well. I really believe that if a lady posted something along the lines of " I'm so overwhelmed with my children, I don't have any time for myself, I'm exhausted because I don't get enough sleep, etc.", I would almost bet MANY ladies would respond with "hang in there, it's just one of those days" "i'd like to offer you cyberhugs" "I know what it's like" "wishing you good thoughts and hope you get some rest soon......" What do you call this? I call it support, encouragement, and yes, s y m p a t h y. So when *I'M* talking to a parent who is having a time like this, MY sympathy is no good? MY heart can't go out to this person because I don't know their pain or challenges personally? It's in fact during these times that yes, i do feel lucky to be free of such major obligations, but am still realistic to know no one's life is perfect. I feel awkward at those times because there's little I can do to help except listen and gift the occasional trip to the spa, offer a girl's night in (after babies are asleep) or anything that will put a smile on this lady's face. SHE certainly doesn't mind that it comes from a person who uses a term others don't. If I seem to feel strongly about parenthood and those who engage in it, it's because I know how serious it is, how it changes your life and one must be prepared for it. All this based on what I've seen.
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Latest post on 01 April 2012 - 16:07
@ NIP, well, i'm sure now that I'm the devil and the worse person to walk the earth, and that many here would disagree with you ;-) My mother's a blessed lady who's very happy to see me fulfilled and enjoying life. A generous soul who wanted children more than anything, I have to say I feel like calling her now for some reassurance that *I'M* not weird! and completely evil!!!!!
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Latest post on 01 April 2012 - 16:00
No, I dont consider stating some of my personal reasons for enjoying my life gloating when discussed in a thread titled "single and 40", started by a person who seemed t need reassurance she wasn't weird. I agree, many times breeders is used negatively, but its also used casually about people who have children. Is calling a woman a cow negative? Sometimes yes, otherwise "you silly cow!" is just playful. And triple agree that many people aren't meant to have children. Some of us realize this beforehand, others unfortunately when it's too late. <em>edited by lamali on 01/04/2012</em>
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Latest post on 01 April 2012 - 15:02
And btw, while I wish I could take credit for coining 'breeders', it's actually been out there for a while. From Urban Dictionary: Breeder 1: slang term used by some childfree people for one who has a child and/or has many after that, refuses to discipline the child/ren, thinks the sun rises and sets for their child/ren, look down upon people who do not have children, and are in general very selfish and greedy when it comes to their whims and those of their child/ren, especially if they can use their parenthood status or their children as an excuse to get their way. A female breeder is commonly called a moo, and a male breeder a duh. 2: slang term used by people of h********* persuasion to refer to hetero couples, who have a significantly higher risk of contributing to the population increase than the h********** do. "Can you believe the nerve of those breeders? They come in to a nice restaurant and proceed to sit by and watch while their progeny shriek and run all over the place, and then let the children make a huge mess and do not even tip the waitstaff. Disgusting..." It's a slang term that's been out for a while, am surprised no one here's heard before. Especially considering how many parents there are here. No harm intended by the masses.
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Latest post on 01 April 2012 - 14:37
Oh dear. Never in my wildlest, childless dreams did I imagine the honor of being the toast of an EW b**** party. Lucky me. Seems to me some people who are offended by my post are reading selectively. Probably with good reason. Once again: I.Am.Very.Happy.For.Those Who.Love.Being.Parents. Am also happy for those who choose otherwise.
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Latest post on 01 April 2012 - 13:53
Funny, there is no respect in what you have written, when you call mothers 'breeders' and 'servants to other people' who you often have 'sympathy' for. Your reply simply means they, meaning the breeders, are below you and you detest them. How hypocrytical to state your opinion with " My deepest respect..."" There is no respect in sympathising with a person who (wishes they could but) never gets to sleep in? Who is not able to take the holidays they truly want? Who has to constantly choose between their own needs and someone else's? Who is treated ungratefully by those they love and value so much? Yes, I stand that I offer my sympathies to these people. And as often as I can, an offer to babysit along with a gift certificate to a well deserved day at the spa ;) Of course I see many happy parents as well, but the ones I know on a personal level show a flipside to the coin, and as with all things in life, there is bad with the good. Would you believe that there have been parents who've told me they regret their decision to have children? It's one of those things they say they could never tell another parent because they "feel awful". THESE are the people I sympathise with. Not the parents who think the bad side of parenting is worth every moment of the good. The only thing I "detest" is how b****y we women can be to each other. Why would I detest anything about another person's life which doesn't affect mine? How does a person being a parent affect MY life? Detest is a pretty harsh word isn't it? As far as me using "breeders", I apologize if I offended. It's a term my single/childless circle use loosely and I forgot, I'm not amongst friends. @spongemonkey, yes I catch your drift. your post gave me a good chuckle (thank you) because I have indeed heard that before. Usually an unsolicted statement from parents that comes after I tell them I have no children. I know that I would be a bad parent if I had children. To fully consider that, and still bring another unwanted person into this world is IMO far more harsh. To the OP, it's all about YOU. Whatever makes YOU happy. Enjoy, this is one of the AWESOME and wonderful things about being single and 40. Once children come, this way of life is over. Worth it to most, but gone forever. That's something I've heard from parents themselves.
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Latest post on 31 March 2012 - 11:44
That's what this thread is all about is it not? How people's perception of happiness is so varying? My perception of raising children is one thing, another person's completely different. I am very happy as I am, childless. Am very happy for the parents who find fulfillment in raising a family. Feel very bad for the ones who thought it would be great, but hate their life. It's beautiful to observe a happy family at play, warms the heart. I just know it isn't something I'd like in my life.
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Latest post on 30 March 2012 - 16:52
My deepest respect (and often sympathies) to those who have children. I'm sure there is a lot of positive that goes with it that "I'll never understand", as I've been told, but I also know that I have things in my life that "they can only remember" or imagine. ('they' being the breeders). Such as, all my money is -mine-. Holidays and living anywhere I want with no consideration to child-friendliness, schools, etc. Not EVER having to be responsible for anyone but myself. I sincerely can not imagine voluntarily giving up this freedom to be a servant to another human being. Am very grateful to my parents for birthing me, as I know I'm not willing to make the sacrifices they did. On another note, I've known many childless people who like to gloat about this freedom. They enjoy saying they slept until 11:00, knowing the responsible mother who hasn't slept in in years, was up at 06:00 tending to her duties. Not a very nice thing to do either. <em>edited by lamali on 30/03/2012</em>
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Latest post on 06 March 2012 - 18:52
I dont know whether asking hurts or helps, but two men physically touched this girl, she screamed, and no one did anything? Did they take off running? So many questions, one would think they could have been caught in this instance?
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Latest post on 05 March 2012 - 09:40
Thank you
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Latest post on 04 March 2012 - 22:01
Need it to replace the fat in recipes that usually call for pork fat. (such as certain soups, veggies) <em>edited by lamali on 04/03/2012</em>
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Latest post on 04 March 2012 - 18:17
@mum2k, how many times would i do that if i need about quarter kilo of chicken fat?
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Latest post on 24 February 2012 - 16:33
No, not on twitter, thank you though. Only looking to learn that specific type of food.
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Latest post on 24 February 2012 - 14:48
Thank you. So far I've not met anyone who can tell me they've taken that type of class, just thought I'd try it here. Never heard of fooderati until now.
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Latest post on 24 February 2012 - 14:21
So did 'just falafel' open today?
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Latest post on 13 February 2012 - 18:31
Thank you Sugarbeach. I suppose I would also add the cream to the reheated dish so as to not freeze the cream. But this is for something I'd like to have tomorrow, to store overnight in the refridgerator. Anyone do this? <em>edited by lamali on 13/02/2012</em>
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Latest post on 01 February 2012 - 20:15
Anyone been to this thing? I receive an sms every weekend and am beginning to feel the temptation to attend. Apparently its a sort of jazz thing?
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Latest post on 21 January 2012 - 09:32
I recall the area was an endless construction nightmare ghost town. Now it's an endless construction nightmare (not so) ghost town with competing food markets and even a pharmacy that delivers! Ah, the beauty of it all . . . . . . .
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Latest post on 21 January 2012 - 09:24
They deliver too?? Bless them. Thank you all very much
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Latest post on 21 January 2012 - 09:11
If there is a pharmacy in the Executive Towers, can someone please tell me where? Or the name of the pharmacy so I may try to ring them? Thank you.
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Latest post on 07 December 2011 - 14:22
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Latest post on 23 November 2011 - 17:43
Thanks for any ideas, your fool proof recipe wouldn't hurt either ;)
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Latest post on 24 October 2011 - 15:01
Scratch, is there a weekend section of The National where the arts & life section is included only Thursday editions?
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Latest post on 24 October 2011 - 12:46
I find Time-Out magazine has different things listed in print and their website, yes Time-Out seems a good one. Any other websites or newsletters out there?
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Latest post on 16 October 2011 - 22:35
Any recent reviews of the one and only royal mirage tea? Which area of the three to have it?
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Latest post on 16 October 2011 - 12:33
bump. saw it recently and would like one also.
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Latest post on 16 October 2011 - 12:30
Can you tell me what the cost was and what it included? Thanks for responding.
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Latest post on 16 October 2011 - 10:58
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Latest post on 16 October 2011 - 10:57
I started another thread but not really receiving a response. What I wanted to do was a very private desert safari for girlfriends. I've done a desert safari before and didn't like sharing the car, people were rude, others downright obnoxious. Same when we had dinner, rude, and once the alcohol started flowing it became worse. I know its silly to complain because I was aware it was a shared transport and dinner when I booked it, but can't imagine planning one of those safaris again. If anyone can recommend a company that provides private transport and tent, please advise. Good luck with the 40th party!
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Latest post on 14 October 2011 - 17:48
sorry, div, just realized i misread your post. anyone else?
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Latest post on 13 October 2011 - 19:24
Div, was there a private tent/area arranged for you and your guests? Or did you have to share with everyone else? I've reviewed AA's website and seems the cars are private but the animal activities and dinner shared with "other guests"? I'd like it to be very secluded (just like in the film as I'd really like to impress my friends and be just us).
 
 
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