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Latest post on 28 June 2015 - 11:41
The plot thickens! OP did you speak to her former employer to get a reference? No we haven't. The reason why she wanted to resign was because her employer treated all the girls very badly, promosed a salary of 1590aed was only paid 700aed a month and would get further reductions if the girls asked any questions they didn't like. Her contract allowed her to look for a new job, she did everything legally but he hated that dhe found a way out and wanted to make it difficult for her to come back here and wanted us to pay the money to bring her back. We have recently confronted her about the boyfriend issue, we have told her that we know she is in a relationship and she knows it is illegal to do what she is doing. We also told her that if we bring her back we will be spending loads of money to do that so we need the respect from her when she comes back. My husband made it very clear that is we find out that she has done anything unacceptable he will not hesitate to send her back home. She went on saying that the relationship is not very serious and we are her priority. Only to then see fb messages of her pakistani boyfriend saying that one day they will live together. We are flying back home in a few weeks and we need someone as soon as we get back, its impossible to find someone new as i know it takes a long time. My husband thinks we should bring her over so i get the help or i will have to cope alone until we find someone suitable when we return, which can take a long time.
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Latest post on 23 June 2015 - 12:27
Thank you all for your replys and advice. A part of me too feels that we should let it go as we can do without the stress but at the same time we bith agreed that we will bring her back and she will come back. Everything about her is perfect except this boyfriend issue. I have to admit im a sucker for a sob story too, I can't help but feel bad for anyone that is going through something awful. Just yesterday my daughter came back with no shoes from nursery so i complained that it was now the 2nd pair of shoes ruined/lost in one month and they can expect the amount being deducted from their nursery fees. (Felt like i had to put my foot down as it was happening too often). They then called me back that afternoon informing me that the staff that was responsible for my daughter will have it deducted from her salary. When i went to collect my daughter i knew there was noway i would deduct it from her salary and when i told the staff member that its fine but just please be careful in the future she broke down in tears, grateful that i let it go. Am i just a push over? Really questioning myself now...i find it so hard to turn a blind eye even if i know im never going to see that person again.
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Latest post on 20 June 2015 - 22:08
If it was a new person that we didn't know i wouldn't consider it atall, but so much has happened regarding this already. Long story short she was being abused by her previous employer, we tried to help her out the legal way. But her old boss was so bitter that he kidnapped her, beat her and sent her back. We tried to help her until the last minute. The police wouldnt help us because the person being abused needed to call them, which was not an option for her as they took her phone. We were down stairs with the police and he told us, he can only go up stairs if labour and immigration were cancelled otherwise we would be fined 50k aed. We found out she was going to the airport and my husband went to help her again, knowing that the labour and immigration would be cancelled 100% we thought the police would help. But they did not. She ended up missing her flight. Her old boss didnt return any of her belongings and refused to pay for a flight back home so we helped her out and sent her home. We felt awful if we just left her there with no money, no clothes nothing. I wouldnt be able to sleep knowing we could have helped someon and did nothing. She said she wanted to come back because she needs the job we are offering so we booked a return flight (only a difference of 300aed) We have already spent 5k aed trying to save her from this and she has already agreed to pay us the money back when she starts working with us so that wasnt the issue. She was using my daughters phone for a while and her Facebook messenger was left on and we heard it bleebing and realised she didnt turn it off. Suddenly witnessing the two having a loving convo. I got rid of it but am now womdering if it will be a big issue when she returns. Feel like we've gone so far into it we can't back out now.
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Latest post on 05 December 2014 - 12:58
Done thank you x
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Latest post on 04 December 2014 - 21:12
Kjt, if sourskittleashut doesn't need all three, may I take one please, I lost mine on holiday and have been going mad looking for one. I can collect tomorrow. x
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Latest post on 03 September 2014 - 09:53
I've been searching for it, can't seem to find the Dubai one
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Latest post on 01 September 2014 - 15:56
After reading all the comments and having a long chat with my sister i thought why not go to these play dates. Even if the nap doesn't work out its not like i'll be going everyday. I thought i'd do it so my kids can interact more with other kids and I too can meet other mums. Anyhow i got up and ready and as i was driving i was feeling so anxious and nervous, i kept thinking what if i'm the only mew mum there, would they want, i sat in the car for ten mins with so many thought going over and over in my head. In the end i thought, i need to stop feeling like this and just go in. When i hot there i noticed that not one single mum was there, they had all sent there maids/nannies instead. I couldn't help but think i'm panicking for no reason, i was actually the only mum, all the maids knew each other and were talking amongst themselves and paying half their attention to the kids while i just sat there thinking this is just great. I was so disheartened because the invite was for mums in our area and not one mum showed up. I understand that mums may be busy and have this to do but come on, is it like this at every play date? No, it's not. What kind of play date was this?? It was an invite to her villa, she said sometimes the mums come but majority of the time its always the maids. I was thinking of posting a play date on the page myself but don't feel too comfortable if i have a loads of maids show up.
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Latest post on 01 September 2014 - 15:46
After reading all the comments and having a long chat with my sister i thought why not go to these play dates. Even if the nap doesn't work out its not like i'll be going everyday. I thought i'd do it so my kids can interact more with other kids and I too can meet other mums. Anyhow i got up and ready and as i was driving i was feeling so anxious and nervous, i kept thinking what if i'm the only mew mum there, would they want, i sat in the car for ten mins with so many thought going over and over in my head. In the end i thought, i need to stop feeling like this and just go in. When i hot there i noticed that not one single mum was there, they had all sent there maids/nannies instead. I couldn't help but think i'm panicking for no reason, i was actually the only mum, all the maids knew each other and were talking amongst themselves and paying half their attention to the kids while i just sat there thinking this is just great. I was so disheartened because the invite was for mums in our area and not one mum showed up. I understand that mums may be busy and have this to do but come on, is it like this at every play date?
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Latest post on 31 August 2014 - 11:49
She didn't turn up and hasn't contacted/respomded to me since. With my first i had a two other friends that had their babies 3 weeks before me, i was the last and we made an effort to do play dates and so on. I always reach out because i have always been use to being around people and we always work around each others routines, its never been a problem. After my first i was so overweight it was horrible but after some time i really put the edfort in and lost if. This time the weight has come of itself very quickly. I keep telling myself i ahould be happy as i know how depressed i was before but its so hard to pick myself up. Like you daza i do also do exercise at home when the little one naps. My older one loves it and joins in with me which is fgreat To be totally honest i think a part of me is scared too. Some of my friends invite me out with a bunch of new people that i don't now and the feeling of not being accepted terrifies me too. It never use to be a problem but now i feel like if i don't say, look or do things a certain way i'll be automatically left out. It sounds so ridiculous i know, but i have totally loat my confidence now and im struggling to find it again.
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Latest post on 31 August 2014 - 11:09
So a friend of mine did apologise for being terrible in contacting me and so on i told her its fine and that i'm glad she got in touch now she then went on saying that we will meet the following week. I told her exactly when i am free as i have to drop the older one the nursery too. So we argeed a time and day but it just never happened. I then contacted her to ask if everything is okay and its now been 2 months and shes yet to reply bk but i know shes fine as fb tells me shes out on brinches and so on. It seems like a choice and maybe your right daza when you say i may be looking at things differently because im down but its so hard for me to get out of this now. I've been trying so much it has effected my marraige but we fixed it with a few trips to couselling, we have no help, no us time, no social life. I told my husband over the weekend that i love them all so much but im starting to hate my life now. My youngest is a better sleeper and i wil try and get out more during her morning nap, will definitely take your comments on board. Tbh when i tried this before it felt like everyone had already made there group and was not willing for anyone else to join . But i'm happy to try new places again and hope my experience is different.
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Latest post on 31 August 2014 - 10:43
are you sure it's another people? re-read your post - it sounds like you are using nap time as excuses not to meet up with people.... People will stop asking if you keep saying "naptime" People are not asking directly, its a fb group. My youngest has just got in a routine where she has been sleeping much better. I'm hesitant to change it atm as shes doing well, ofcourse for me thats a priority. But i feel like i'm losing out because of it. I started going to loads before with my 2.5yr old but things changed when i fell pregnant again.
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Latest post on 31 August 2014 - 10:24
Thanks Chooksgirl, I totally understand what you are saying which is why i did totallg back off but its all a little disheartening like for example a friend on a group want to borrow something and i had it spare so i contacted her and told her she could take it free of charge and not to worry about giving it back. She was so happy, we met up and it was lovely. At that time i was pregnant and she would say how lovely it would be if i had another girl and so on. But its now been six months since i had my baby and not one of our friends have even bothered to come over to see us. We bump into them and they all make excuses. Then they invite us over for their kids birthdays but i don't feel like going because i feel the friendship isn't real. At the same time i think should i go to make an effort...but its upsetting because i feel like its always me making the effort. Its just a horrible feeling
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Latest post on 28 August 2014 - 13:16
Anyone had it done here? Any recommendations?
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Latest post on 18 August 2014 - 09:10
Theres a party shop with a huge selection of costumes on szr, not sure if they have exactly the ones you want but you can call them before you go. Its in media city, by british orchid nursery in the "twin tower" buildings
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Latest post on 18 August 2014 - 09:05
Can anyone please tell me what the difference is. I have heard loads of people say that moroccan hair oil is meant to be excellent for your hair but after doing research into it the secret ingredient is argon oil...so is not best just to use argon oil? Am i missing something?
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Latest post on 31 July 2014 - 13:27
Thanks ij20, My friends are only here for 5 days and have booked a hotel, i don't think they want to then book a resort as well. Do u know if they can go there just to see the sunset?
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Latest post on 30 July 2014 - 21:29
As your DH is away, do you have a trusted male friend who could call this idiot's number and warn him off, saying that if he calls again, his number will be given to the police? Why not just give it to the police straight away, i don't think you should risk it. If not for your self then for your baby and the next potential woman he delivers too (if it was the delivery guy)
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Latest post on 17 July 2014 - 16:18
Is it me or does this annoy anyone else? In the UK there is no tipping culture at all and since i have moved here i often tip anyone generously when i receive help. But when someone says please tip me, before they have even helped me for a 10 minute job I instantly half the tip. I don't mean to sound harsh but i thought a staff at a store as big as Ikea would often get asked for assistance to help take things to the car, especially if theres a woman pushing a stroller and has just bought a load of shelves. How do you handle this?
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Latest post on 13 July 2014 - 21:07
Maybe daiso
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Latest post on 30 June 2014 - 20:42
Thank you Daimond86. You are right, if he sacks me for asking then the company wasnt worth it especially as it hasnt been 3/6 months since i have been working. Just over a month so they cant expect me to know it all. If I speak to my boss, he probably will just get rid off me, but I want to stay in this company but move to another department. "Probably"...seems like your not sure if he will get rid of you if you ask, i don't think heres any harm in asking at all. To be honest, i doubt he would get rid of you for asking for assistance, i'm sure he would prefer that you ask and get it right rather than make a bigger mess of it? If he does get rid of you for asking then is it really worth being a part of a company that operates in that manner? Good luck with it, i know its easier said than done, let us know how it goes. All the best :)
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Latest post on 30 June 2014 - 20:37
Lol, i did write my email in hopes that you'll take it before it gets removed. Just knew coffee mornings wouldn't be ideal for you. Where area are you staying in? What about the people you work with, what are they like?
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Latest post on 30 June 2014 - 20:23
If I speak to my boss, he probably will just get rid off me, but I want to stay in this company but move to another department. "Probably"...seems like your not sure if he will get rid of you if you ask, i don't think heres any harm in asking at all. To be honest, i doubt he would get rid of you for asking for assistance, i'm sure he would prefer that you ask and get it right rather than make a bigger mess of it? If he does get rid of you for asking then is it really worth being a part of a company that operates in that manner?
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Latest post on 27 June 2014 - 13:41
I have heard about night terrors, my 2.5 yr old had one a month ago. I'm not expecting the kids to sleep through the night all the time but just desperate for some sort of routine now. We do not have a maid, we tried one out but we were not comfortable with one at all. Its just my husband and I. Both girls nap at different times during the morning and i can squeeze in a 45 mins in the avo. I always try and sleep when i can, last night was the worst for a while, had a wake up call at 3, didn't fall asleep till 4.30 then she woke up again at 5.30. Really feel like i'm losing the plot now.
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Latest post on 26 June 2014 - 22:15
I'm worried that maybe my LO would continue to wake up every hour throughout the night. I'm happy to feed her, love it, just so tired now as its been three months of four hour night sleeps. I'm new to gina ford too. LO doesn't always drink what the book requires so i feed her on demand but shes never full. She been stuck to me since 8.20pm drinking and drinking and has finally just gone to bed. I think i may have to do it when she is on solids as she'll be fuller.
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Latest post on 22 June 2014 - 10:34
Where did you buy it from? Been looking for some for a while. carrefour. this week an offer 1 pack is 2.25 AED but don't know how to use. Which aisle? Sorry, i've looked everywhere and haven't got a clue where to look inC4 and the staff are far from helpful. I am not sure how to use it myself so will experiment.
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Latest post on 22 June 2014 - 10:27
Where did you buy it from? Been looking for some for a while.
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Latest post on 22 June 2014 - 08:57
Maybe minutes at MOE, not 100% sure though
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Latest post on 22 June 2014 - 08:55
I think OP just wanted to let of steam as she had a rough day which was evident in her original post. I for one can relate to how tough it can be shopping with kids. She clearly acknowledged that she was in the wrong for calling the other one stupid a number of times, so i think some people need to let it go. She also did say she was not aware of what was happening in the queue before she got there. Although its not right to call someone stupid im sure many of you have said far worse to people...everyone one has bad days
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Latest post on 16 March 2014 - 09:38
Maybe the Hershey store in Dubai mall, they have a huge selection of chocolates. Not seen them anywhere myself.
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Latest post on 26 February 2014 - 10:33
There is a group hun but its not sociable atall. It only ever posts whats getting built around the palm. There are never no social events, mums meet up or anything of that sort. Best thing to do is to get yourself down the park, you'll meet loads of mums there. Where about on the palm are you moving too?
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Latest post on 03 February 2014 - 14:53
I'm sure i heard the news today and they had said he returned to rehab a week before his death. Ofcourse its sad because of the kids but he knew he had kids. My sympathy over celeb overdoses does not exsits. They obviousily have too much money for their own good, they run out of things to do so they turn to drugs. Pretty sure he could have donated the money he used to buy the drugs to a someone who really needed it. I find it sad that you think if someone is rich and/or famous then they are undeserving of compassion. Don't get me wrong, i have compasion for his family, its not their fault. Its really horrible for children to grow up without a parent and i dof eel for them alot. Its just no one was born with a drug addiction, its a choice thats made by rich and poor. Its a shame that some people just can't put family first. Then when a person does have an overdoes its everyone else that worries for the people they left behind when I don't think the person using even thought about at that point when they are to busy getting high.
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Latest post on 03 February 2014 - 14:01
I'm sure i heard the news today and they had said he returned to rehab a week before his death. Ofcourse its sad because of the kids but he knew he had kids. My sympathy over celeb overdoses does not exsits. They obviousily have too much money for their own good, they run out of things to do so they turn to drugs. Pretty sure he could have donated the money he used to buy the drugs to a someone who really needed it. He'd actually battled with this since he left college decades ago! And he was certainly NOT someone who led the 'celeb' lifestyle. You cant be certan of that. Everyone paints a pretty picture that they want the world to see. Being a celeb, he did a good job of it but the reality is the "celeb lifestyle" caught up with him
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Latest post on 03 February 2014 - 13:52
I'm sure i heard the news today and they had said he returned to rehab a week before his death. Ofcourse its sad because of the kids but he knew he had kids. My sympathy over celeb overdoses does not exsits. They obviousily have too much money for their own good, they run out of things to do so they turn to drugs. Pretty sure he could have donated the money he used to buy the drugs to a someone who really needed it.
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Latest post on 03 February 2014 - 13:28
not really, Another celeb, another overdose..kinda expected
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Latest post on 13 December 2013 - 00:51
Hiya hun, Know how u feel, its tough here to be honest. Most people will say try coffee mornings or baby groups and so on but tbh i have always found everyone has always got their own "crew" going on already and new commers armt always welcomed with open arms. I found going on walks to the park alot easier. People always approached me and were loads more positive. Its the perfect weather for it too. I use to go regular and bumped into the same ppl over n over and it was nice for me and my baby. Where are you staying? I haven't tries the coffee mornings yet , I live in discovery gardens , what about you? Im on the palm, happy to meet up with u for a coffee or something somewhere if u need a friend to talk to email me dubaidiamonds at hotmail.co.uk
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Latest post on 13 December 2013 - 00:27
Hiya hun, Know how u feel, its tough here to be honest. Most people will say try coffee mornings or baby groups and so on but tbh i have always found everyone has always got their own "crew" going on already and new commers armt always welcomed with open arms. I found going on walks to the park alot easier. People always approached me and were loads more positive. Its the perfect weather for it too. I use to go regular and bumped into the same ppl over n over and it was nice for me and my baby. Where are you staying?
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Latest post on 27 November 2013 - 21:11
We are officially doomed ladies... Now its time to sit back and watch the greedy LL's and owners increase their prices.
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Latest post on 27 November 2013 - 10:26
Agree with the majority.... It's all a money making scheme....our parents never used such books and seemed to know exactly what to do. Understandably, it will take time as its new to you and your baby but these books are what makes mums lazy in my opinion. You don't want to be dependant on a book atall. What will you do when your baby is a young adult and isn't doing what you want it too? There will be no books then.
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Latest post on 28 October 2013 - 10:59
Going back to your old post, i'd switch from Anne if you want to stay here. I never had any difficulties with anything delivering here. Obtaining the passport and birth certificate was simple. Follow your heart and do whats best for you
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Latest post on 22 October 2013 - 06:26
Hiya ladies, This is lovely, i joined a palm jumeriah mums group on fb a while ago and im sure it offers nothing. Ive been on the palm for a while now and its tough meeting ppl here as its so isolated. The running track is a great place to meet mums and totts, especially now as the weathers getting cooler. It has sandpits, climbing frames, a green area and water fountains. My 14 month old loves it although we havent been for a while. Its really nice tosee the kids get some fresh air now that the weather is good, a life of ac cant be good. Would love to meet u all fellow neighbours xx
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Latest post on 21 October 2013 - 20:31
Hi MrsDB So glad you bought this up. I've had a similar experience with Anne, shes always rushed and cuts me off every time i talk too. My first few visits were all about her family, I'm sure it was meant to be more about mine. I ended up switching, you need to feel comfortable with who you are seeing.
 
 
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