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Latest post on 19 May 2016 - 13:24
As this is the maid's forum I guess it is the month's leave that domestic workers are entitled to as domestic workers do not work office hours/days. I think - but am not 100% sure - that it means that you have to have worked a full year before being legally entitled to the leave. However, often it will be negotiated with the sponsor to be taken at a time when it is mutually convenient
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Latest post on 06 May 2016 - 11:30
Hi Guys I'm wondering if someone can offer advice please. I am a UK citizen but live in Spain at the moment. Fourteen months ago my daughter's father visited Spain to see my daughter but then refused to return her on the agreed day. I have since stopped unsupervised contact and am waiting to go to court to gain full custody. We separated (never married) whilst I was pregnant and it was only when he took her and didn't return her and the Guardia Civil (police) wouldn't help because we'd never been to court, that I realised I needed to do this. I have been offered a job in Dubai but I am worried I won't get her father's permission. He actually lives in the Middle East but I believe he won't agree simply to spite me. He never calls her, he doesn't pay any maintenance, despite him earning a high salary. Any advice on what to do? Hi Coletteh74 dubai is a great place to be and safe to grow children. Here for the past 13years and have a friend with son living here for more than 5years.she divorced from a Muslim father officially. she is from East of of Europe.If the biological father has no objection u can enjoy ur life here to the max: maid,cleaning services...it's affordable! Many companies have good management and they got kids too:-).It's respectful u ll have the daughter with u and for sure ur company know about it and u got the offer. See u in Dubai! I'm not sure that you have fully read OP's post as she makes it clear that she does not have her child's, father's permission/no objection and is in the middle of a complex custody battle that has not yet gone to court. Until these problems are sorted out it would be very difficult to move here. Also, you say that there have been problems in the past getting your ex to return your child following custody visits. Have you asked your lawyers to research what would happen in Dubai if this happened or if your ex turned up and demanded custody?
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Latest post on 06 May 2016 - 11:18
This is an old thread from last year that has been bumped
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Latest post on 04 May 2016 - 11:28
It depends on prices. People who buy are looking for bargains generally and will not pay top prices
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Latest post on 27 April 2016 - 12:09
If there is a weight limit of 2kg per person for fruit and veg then 8-10 may exceed this as I think they weigh around 400-500g each. Why doesn't she just buy them in the UK? - they have been available there for over 50 years
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Latest post on 15 April 2016 - 12:01
I think the rules are different for domestic workers that are not covered by the general labour laws. I believe that domestic staff (houskeepers/nannies etc) must be sponsored by their employers or an agency
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Latest post on 11 April 2016 - 13:31
It looks like this maid also has visa overstay fines that need to be paid
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Latest post on 07 April 2016 - 11:15
Is the landlord proposing to pay the bill or does he want you to pay the bill in his name? If it is the latter it could be an illegal sub-letting and there is a risk that you could find yourself losing the rent.
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Latest post on 28 February 2016 - 18:53
All of her symptoms could be neurological issues originating from a back/disc injury. This may or may not be expensive to treat depending on the issues involved - it could be a very simple treatment. But you won't know until she has seem a doctor I believe that you do have an obligation to take her to a doctor - especially as you want her to keep working for your own family's convenience. It seems unreasonable for you to make her to work and risk a potential permanent disability without getting her any proper medical care
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Latest post on 18 February 2016 - 15:34
It depends how much work you have for a maid - legally maids must be either sponsored by you or be agancy maids as most other types of maid "with own visa" are illgal and can get you big fines There are three main options: - agency maids - come for the hours you want (some agencies have a minimum number of hours) and you pay a flat fee per hour usually 35-50dhs per hour - live in maids that live in your home - here you have the monthly salary often in the range 2000-2500 per month depending on what you include + visa costs etc -liveout maid works only for you but lives somewhere else - usually 2500-3000 range to cover accomodation + visa costs
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Latest post on 07 February 2016 - 20:42
Sometimes it can be very difficult for dentists to predict how long repairs will last to teeth that have already been repaired or bonded - especially if it is not a regular dentist that knows your bite patterns or possible teeth grinding tendencies. I lost a veneer on holiday in Finland - I saw an emergency Dentist who charged 300AED just to stick it back - he said he couldn't guarentee how long the repair would last for the reasons above but hoped it would last 2 weeks so that I would be able to see my regular dentist. However I was lucky that 7 years later it is still in place.
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Latest post on 02 February 2016 - 19:57
What about matching husband and wife outfits Howard and Hilda stylee. Used to love those two. Sorry..... :biggrin: Arrrrggghh! Now I cannot get "Ever decreasing circles" and Howard and Hilda's 1980s matching clothes out of my head http://80sactual.blogspot.se/2014/07/howard-and-hilda-talk-80s.html
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Latest post on 02 February 2016 - 13:45
Pyjamas yes!! And only pyjamas. Who doesn't love all matching pyjamas on Christmas morning :) I am not a Mum but if I was I wouldn't be wearing matching with my kids pyjamas on Christmas Day. I don't think they do spiderman or frozen pj's for adults :biggrin: You'd be surprised - just google Frozen pajamas adult sizes ;)
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Latest post on 26 January 2016 - 14:01
That's the international standard. They're only doing what everyone else does. The international standard is not 20%! In most countries the buffer is 5-10%. Someone was telling me recently that in Sweden you only get 4km buffer in an 80km zone as they knew someone who had been fined/points on licence for doing 87km/h
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Latest post on 25 January 2016 - 14:33
My kids had this when we lived in Sweden and the standard medical advice there was not to treat it at all unless there are complications or they are in a dangerous position. The spots disappear by themselves in several week/months and they are not dangerous and if they break/are popped there is a greater risk of causing infection and scarring. Usually after the initial days the itching reduces. Expensive treatments are just a waste of money
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Latest post on 21 January 2016 - 14:24
Surely if she wants to leave after her contract is over, she does not have to 'give you a good reason'. She has worked for the duration she committed to you. And if, as you say, she was a good employee, dedicated to her work, then you have no reason not to allow her to find a new employer in Dubai. You say you work, how would you feel if you wanted to leave your employment and your boss gave you a hard time because your reason for leaving was not a good one, then prevented you from finding a new job in Dubai? I think the issue for me to be honest is the integrity. Why is she lying? and Why cant she just say I will not renew the contract? I dont have any issue in letting her go if this is what she wants its just that I am dreading going through the whole cycle of finding a new one.. At the end of the day people move jobs/want to try something new - all very normal when you are an employer. Perhaps she made up a story because she was afraid of your reaction or that you would get upset and thought it would be better this way.
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Latest post on 18 November 2015 - 12:48
I think a lot depends on the level of financial trust in the relationship. However, I don't think that I would be happy with an allowance system. When I was a SAHM I just had a debit card for our joint account and took out what I needed for groceries, bills and personal expenses when I needed it.
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Latest post on 09 November 2015 - 14:37
As previous posters have said - it will take a little time until you know what is going on. Small nerves will often re-grow but it is a process that can take several months - tingling/small shooting pains are a sign of the nerves regrowing. I would follow your doctor's advice and definitely make sure the infection is totally gone before you plan any other interventions as it could make matters worse
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Latest post on 22 October 2015 - 21:06
I think you are being a little unrealistic here. I would have thought it would be difficult with food preparation regulations for takeaways to accept containers brought in from home of unknown quality and cleanliness
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Latest post on 23 September 2015 - 10:20
Funny you should talk about this but there was an article in DM just a few days ago about the cost of school trips getting way out of hand and some British parents now refusing to pay - especially for trips that are more like holidays where parents are paying for staff (usually staff go free on school trips subsidised by parents) - and some schools view trips as profit-making. I realise these trips are often not a holiday for staff - but many parents would rather put the 000s towards a family trip. http://www.dailymail.co.uk/news/article-3242633/Parents-revolt-far-flung-trips-schools-state-private-institutions-attack-glorified-holidays-cost-thousands-pounds.html
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Latest post on 08 September 2015 - 12:07
People should be able to live wherever they want? Oh if only it were that easy! The EU laws governing refugees state, that a refugee must find refuge and apply for asylum in the first safe country they land in. Applications are then processed and refugees are then sent to countries that can offer help and this is based on land mass, population, economic viability etc. The EU has the numbers as to how many refugees each of its member states can take in and cope with. When you have people who do not do this, and press on into other countries, that is a different decision making process. You then have the issue of some countries having more people than they can cope with and others who can take on more, having less, simply because people would rather go to one country or another. Certain other countries are refusing to help and seem to do nothing, when in fact they are the ones who should be opening their borders and assisting, instead of making this a 'European refugee crisis' - which it's not at all. BBC News had an interesting article as to why Syrians are heading to Europe instead of 'certain' other countries. Also look up the world bank data on how many refugees each country in the world currently has - that is a complete eye opener, and 'some' countries should be ashamed. There was also an article with the father of the little boy that drowned this morning - heartbreaking and tragic to read. BUT the thing that stuck out? They were trying to get to CANADA!!! CANADA - how many safe countries inbetween? Why oh why risk yourselves unnecessarily. If things don't improve soon and others step up to help, you'll soon find European countries just closing their borders, revoking the Shengen visa program - which has already been discussed and just saying no more. They were trying to reach Canada because that is where their relatives were. Many people who have suffered the great trauma of having their house bombed, knowing that 20-30 relatives who returned to an area declared "safe" were murdered (literally losing their heads) - people want to get far away to an area they know is safe and with the comfort of relatives. I cannot judge them for that as it would be my instinct as well. Obviously only a small number are coming to Europe compared to the millions in saturated camps in Turkey, Jordan and Iraq then the international community has to step up and provide help: - the UN say that many of the camps are not safe - some have been shelled - so people are scared when the war approaches. - the camps are running out of food as the aid dwindles - people in the camps are VERY VERY fearful - they have witnessed atrocities and do not know who to trust I know about this fear from a woman I knew during the Bosnian crisis. She was a nurse in a small town when soldiers rolled in. The people were promised safe passage on UN busses. Under a "women and children" first policy the women and small children were bussed out without knowing where they would end up. The men and boys were never heard of again - all murdered by the soldiers. She had serious PTSD and didn't not know who to trust even when in a safe country - she relived losing her husband, brothers and father over and over again. Her big wish was to join her sister for security but their busses ended up in different countries and they were never reunited. It took almost 3 years for their residence to be approved in the country sh landed in The trauma experienced by her children lived on many years - her daughter won a major youth literary prize a decade later describing herexperiences as a 6 year old refugee.
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Latest post on 05 September 2015 - 15:48
One of the reasons for the current wave of refugees in Europe is the collapse of the aid infrastructure in the neighboring countries because the international community didn't want to pay. In April UNHCR only got a third of the aid pledges it needed to maintain its Syria relief an the region - - the camps are short of food - the areas where the camps are are not totally safe from attack - winter is coming
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Latest post on 05 September 2015 - 14:51
For those of you who think all refugees are heading to Europe - take a look at the situation in the neighbouring countries. Even the DM reported on the scale of the issues for countries such as Jordan where the refugee camp in the pictures houses 160,000 of the 1.5 million refugees in Jordan - the camp is Jordan's 5th largest city! http://www.dailymail.co.uk/news/article-2371311/Syrian-Zaatari-refugee-camp-home-160-000-Jordans-fifth-largest-city.html The neighboring countries have taken in many times the numbers who are coming to Europe - but what is the future for people in the camps? How long can they live in these tents and shacks?
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Latest post on 05 September 2015 - 12:33
So heartbreaking seeing the funerals of those tiny boys in Syria and hearing that they fled after 11 family members were killed.
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Latest post on 03 September 2015 - 12:55
So, so sad for the children loosing their lives. It is always the innocent who loose out in the end. The crisis in the European Countries is a difficult situation to solve. Sadly, I don't believe that all of those people are true refugees. I feel that some are opportunists using the situation to try to get a better life or better place to live, they are increasing the numbers and making it worse for the refugees to get the help they need. And whats wrong with people trying to get a better place to live or life? Isn't that what we are all trying to do really?:confused: If they are truly running from war, they should've settled in the Southern Europe no problem. However, that is not enough for the hordes or people fighting with the police. The videos are truly scary, most of the people are young feisty men, and because of them, true refugees are not getting the help they need. It is OK in theory but you must realise that the southern european countries are in the middle of their own economic crises? What money do countries like Greece and Turkey have to provide the infrastructure that refugees need in terms of food, medical help etc.
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Latest post on 19 August 2015 - 10:15
Every Friday seems very reasonable. There was a thread about this recently and most people give their maids/nannies 1 or 2 days off each week.
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Latest post on 18 June 2015 - 12:03
In a previous role I worked with a Syrian and he was more than happy to allow me to eat and drink in front of him. In fact he positively encouraged it as he said it made him feel better :) As far as my friend is concerned it seems to be HR making her feel bad as an email has gone round the office asking us to stop eating and drinking at our desks. Although on checking with her colleagues there is no one fasting on her floor. Has anyone spoken to her directly? - or is she interpreting the mass-email from HR sent to all staff as including her - which was possibly not intended?
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Latest post on 03 June 2015 - 21:30
I think there is a similar company called Garderobe that you could look at - but not used the personally http://www.garderobe.ae/
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Latest post on 02 June 2015 - 12:33
Autism has always been known to have a strong genetic component - I have relatives independently diagnosed in 5 different countries. Until the past 20 years the high functioning types such as Aspergers syndrome remained undiagnosed - but when people look back that "wierd" relative that lacked social skills were probably suffering as well (certainly true in my family). The original Wakefield MMR/autism research has been thoroughly discredited - the initial group was very small - only 12 children - you cannot draw conclusions from such as small studie - Wakefield claimed that all were previously "normal" yet 5 had documented development delays prior to MMR - the selection of the 12 children was biased - the children were recruited and funded by an anti-MMR group to sue the NHS and Wakefield was already recruited to represent this group in their lawsuit yet failed to declare this conflict of interest
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Latest post on 29 May 2015 - 12:03
You don't say what type of teaching qualification you have and what type of work you would be looking for? It might help for people to point you in the right direction Are you a fully qualified teacher with a teaching licence/degree/qualification from you own country such as PGCE and looking for International school work? If so you need to be aware that the international teacher recruitment "season" is just about over - good schools will already have made job offers to teachers for 2015-16. Or are you TEFL/CELTA qualified (or similar) and looking for work in a language school. July is not a great time to look for educational opportunities in Dubai - the school holidays mean that large numbers of school staff and expats will be leaving Dubai for holidays/end of contract. Additionally it is also Ramadan mid June to late July which is traditionally a time with low recruitment activity.
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Latest post on 20 May 2015 - 15:54
Nanniesdubai have a terrible reputation, you only have to google complaints/reviews about them. You are obviously working for them and spamming this forum. ????? Who are you talking to? I don't see any post about nanniesdubai... Last night there was a whole string of bumped older threads praising this company - I think admin have deleted the actual posts now
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Latest post on 19 May 2015 - 14:27
While I understand the plight of domestic workers trying to get better deals and using the ban to do so, it really bothers me that most of them have started to be down right arrogant and demanding. For the record and according to the UAE Labor Law, private businesses (yes that includes all domestic workers as well) are required to give ONLY one day off. Government businesses may give their employees 2 days off. No maid can legally demand 2 days off. Maybe this is ok in their country (although I have been infomred that this is not the case), but not here. If a doctor/lawyer/accountant/pilot negotiates a good deal for themselves or accepts a better offer if several employers compete to employ them - do you call them "arrogant and demanding"? Many people would call this clever negotiating! Personally I cannot blame the maids for trying to get what they can . wouldn't we all do the same if we possessed some unique characteristic that was in demand just now. The problem is basic economic principles of supply and demand - if the supply declines such as in this case with the restrictions on new employees and the the demand remains constant then the price is going to go up - or can obtain other benefits such as extra days-off /holidays/ allowances etc. No maid can "legally" demand extra days off but they can attempt to negotiate them. It is up to employers to decide whether they wish to employ a certain nationality or look to a source of employees where supply if higher right now
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Latest post on 04 May 2015 - 13:48
How old is your son?
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Latest post on 04 May 2015 - 11:31
Perhaps give the agents a fixed day/time each week
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Latest post on 23 April 2015 - 13:47
Actualyy many of you here are misunderstanding the article - he has not gone to trial yet and the article says that [u'>[b'> "If found guilty, the defendant could be jailed for up to six months and deported." [/b'>[/u'> not that he has/will be jailed - yet edited by Cold on 23/04/2015 <em>edited by Cold on 23/04/2015</em>
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Latest post on 23 April 2015 - 10:44
Whilst I agree the tourist went overboard, there are other factors - language barrier etc. He was charged with assault and molestation - er someone needs to look up the definition of those, because he did neither. A fine and warning would have done. 6 months in jail is overkill. Gives a really bad impression of the UAE. Wait till this gets picked up. He shoved the male police officer that came over to help his colleague and then resisted arrest - wouldn't this be classed as assaulting a police officer in most countries?
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Latest post on 21 April 2015 - 14:03
have you checked that her marriage is recognised/attested here? - otherwise the problem will be huge Some maids refer to their "husbands" when they mean boyfriends
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Latest post on 13 April 2015 - 11:39
To be honest I would not be taking advice on this from a message board but would be talking over my concerns with my doctor. I had something similar a couple of years ago (different position underneath the breast) and when I went fo my mammogram appointment they did a mammogram and a doctor was standing by if needed by to do an ultrasound scan - and as it happens a needle biopsi as well. It turned out they needed all three to make the proper diagnosis. In my case the small infected spot was concealing a rather large encapsulated, necrotic cyst deep in the tissue underneath - it is where you get a bump or bruise and a skin forms around it and it degrades - it can cause bad infections in some cases. The necrotic cyst had grown to 3½cm by 2 cm - the treatment was 3 weeks of antibiotics and they drained out 70ml of the fluid for testing - but came back clear. I think you should talk things over with your doctor
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Latest post on 11 April 2015 - 12:54
I very might doubt that the counsellor hold the relevant medical qualifications to make a medical diagnosis of an Autistic spectrum disorder - although many nurseries and schools seem to think that they can based on reading a few articles. Many of these amateur diagnoses are incorrect as well. Many children are not ready for formal educational settings at 2 but only an expert can diagnose a particular issue What she says is rubbish as well - there is no such thing as "5% autism" either you have the triad of impairments or you don't. If you think that this may be an issue I thing you should go to a reputable medical establishment to have the full range of diagnostic testing. My daughter (now grown up) has an autstic spectrum disorder - diagnosed in Sweden - and the diagnostic process was not a quick observation but 20-30 hours of play-based testing and nursery observations with a multi-disciplinary team that included a paediatrician, psychologist, educational development specialist, speech and lanaguage therapist, physiotherapist and occupational therapist. It was only then that they would diagnose. I was very lucky that my daughter attended nursery in Sweden which was very play-based and informal (lots of running, climbing, out in the forests etc). She also received specialist speech and language support from a specialist that came to the nursery (the game and puzzle lady according to my daughter). Many children are not ready for formal activities at that age - I remember being thrown out of my own nursery's "cutting out and sticking" activity in 1965 for not doing it right - yet it did not hold me back and I hold a PhD! I think if you are concerned you should take your child for a full assessment at a child development centre
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Latest post on 10 April 2015 - 11:38
Although your medical insurance will "include pregnancy" have you checked with them that this pregnancy is covered? Most policies have a waiting time so you cannot claim for any pregnancy within 9 months of being insured - but it is possible that your husband's new employers have upgraded to cover you. You need to find out what policy you are going to have and which hospitals or budget is covered by your plan. Usually employers policies are not activated until your residency visa is finally processed. So you need to check out your options as standard travel insurance (used by many her in the period between arrival and issuing of residency visa) usually excludes complications and issues relating to the third trimester of pregnancy. I would check into this VERY carefully as you do not want to find yourself here in late pregancy and potentially uninsured as if complications arise while uninsured you could be looking at a gigantic personal bill that runs into the tens of thousands
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Latest post on 31 March 2015 - 10:24
Even if you get the custody issue sorted out - you also need to check out whether your partner's salary and benefits package would be extended to step-sons regarding benefits such as housing, health insurance and schooling. These would be a substantial additional cost for a family
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Latest post on 15 March 2015 - 15:19
I had to get a short notice lion costume a few years ago I made a costume quickly using a plain beige/brown onesie and sewed some strange furry stuff that I found in a home furnishing store (I think it was meant as edging for curtains/cushions) around the hood and a length for a tail - with some facepaints
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Latest post on 23 February 2015 - 16:22
I did a home test last night and it was positive and said conception 1-2 weeks, so very very early. But you hear of false positives. Will try another one this evening. These days pregnancy home pregnancy tests are very accurate - in many countries doctors don't bother to do another test False positives are very very rare - the test analyzes hormones that are only present in pregnancy. False negatives occur sometimes if the hormone level is not high enough to register
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Latest post on 11 February 2015 - 00:41
Have you checked whether she will be able to get holiday insurance? It can get very difficult to get and expensive once a person has turned 80 and even more so if there are pre-existing conditions but it would be essential to have in case she needed medical or hospital care - or was taken ill on the flight. Would she be able to manage the bathroom visits on the flight if she needs help? <em>edited by Cold on 11/02/2015</em>
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Latest post on 11 February 2015 - 00:36
Knee replacement surgery is very major surgery and a bilateral knee replacement is tougher than most as there is no "good knee" to take the strain. The recovery is usually measured in months rather than days or weeks. For a total knee replacement the bones are sawed through and then the prothesis is attached. Most people take pain killers for 2-3 months (some longer) afterwards while they are mobilizing and developing walking skills. Usually there is a physiotherapy programme of strengthening exercises and progression from walkers to crutches/sticks. Most people feel better somewhere between 3 and 6 months after surgery - full recovery takes 9-12 months - but it is very individual - a lot depends on the level of fitness and disability prior to surgery and also the level of expectations <em>edited by Cold on 11/02/2015</em>
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Latest post on 03 February 2015 - 12:59
Personally if the maid were caring for my baby I would want her well rested to give the best possible care during the day - not tired from waiting table all night after a full day of normal working duties. I also agree with the previous poster that I would always tend to my baby myself when at home and all my friends would understand that - if they didn't then they would not be friends for very long
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Latest post on 03 February 2015 - 11:16
bump as OP missed it
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Latest post on 03 February 2015 - 11:15
It's lower down on this page called "problems with ex-partner" - OP has several replies
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Latest post on 12 January 2015 - 21:01
She remains on your visa and therefore your responsibility until she leaves the country or transfers to a new employer - so therefore for your own peace of mind you might want to send her home - if she leaves and starts working illegally it will be you that gets the big fine as the employer (50,000-100,000dhs)
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Latest post on 08 January 2015 - 17:23
I have had this problem several times - we must be accident prone DD 1 - hit her tooth on a wooden bed playing with friends when she was 3 making it very wobbly DD2 broke her front tooth fallng on the pavement when she was around 2½ Get it checked out be a dentist to make sure all is OK - they may want to take X-rays to check for breaks/no root damage In our cases DD1 - after a painful weekend with a bruised mouth and soft food was fine and her teeth stiffened back up and need no treatment and were lost in the normal way when she was older DD2 - had to have the broken tooth extracted under sedation and lived without the front tooth until the new one came when she was 7 - the new one was perfect and unaffected