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Latest post on 01 May 2017 - 20:24
I have reflux, but not the silent kind, and have some of these symptoms. My doctor referred me to Dr Denesh Gopalan at Al Zahra hospital for an endoscopy, which was helpful in identifying where the reflux is occurring and what damage has been done. If you don't get an ENT recommendation, it might be worthwhile finding out whether he can also identify silent reflux or can recommend a colleague who does. Good luck.
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Latest post on 19 January 2017 - 13:04
Lots of good advice from the ladies on here about seeing a doc and psychologist as soon as possible. Also, if you haven't already done so, please go and talk to her school and see whether there are any issues there which she hasn't told you about, such as bullying, or whether they have noticed any unusual behaviours relating to food and toilet visits. I hope you get the help your daughter needs soon.
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Latest post on 22 November 2016 - 13:35
I went with Christa because quite a few people had recommended her on here but it was only when a good friend told me about the testing process her boys went through with Christa that I decided to pursue it. The Learning Support team at my son's school also recommended her. My son's other learning support issues had been diagnosed previously by occupational therapists but ADHD had not been identified by them at that stage. We did not consider a psychiatrist because there was no anxiety or other issues which we felt needed the help of a psychiatrist. There had been no major changes in our family, circumstances, school or location and no obvious change in his behaviour; it was just that some of the improvements which we had hoped therapy for dyspraxia etc. would bring didn't happen and the occupational therapists said there were no further benefits that their therapy could give (although the therapy had made huge improvements). There are a number of ADHD traits which are common in other learning disabilities, so it can be quite hard to identify exactly which learning disability someone has, as traits can present differently in each person, and there may be more than one at a time. It's possible that your teacher has experience of a child with ADHD and assumed it's what your daughter has, but in fact she might have something else with some of the same traits as ADHD or just be exhibiting the behaviours of ADHD for other reasons, which is where a psychiatrist might be helpful. If your school has a Learning Support team, it would be interesting to know whether the teacher has discussed your daughter with them, as if so, they really should be getting in touch with you to register their concerns and offer their support and recommendations for psychiatrists and assessors used by other parents. If not, why hasn't the teacher raised it with them?
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Latest post on 21 November 2016 - 16:31
We used Christa Strauss on a friend's recommendation and she was great with our children - her website is http://christastrauss.com. We had to wait for about 6 months to get an appointment but her testing is very thorough. We did it all privately with no referral from school, although the teacher had to fill in a questionnaire. It depends on your insurance whether testing is covered: ours didn't cover it and doesn't cover the costs of medication either (and it's far from cheap). In my son's case he has ADHD because he was born with it, as well as dyspraxia and various sensory issues. We didn't get the diagnosis for ADHD until age 10 because it was masked by his other conditions. It would be wonderful if he didn't have to take medication but after years of therapy (which we paid for) and being in a supportive school with a very helpful learning support team we made the decision to take medication; in his case it is the only way for him to cope effectively in school. We haven't had any side-effects from the medication, but I make sure he gets a full annual physical with his doctor to identify any changes that could be cause for concern. Not all types of ADHD involve hyperactivity, so you need an assessor who recognises the other forms that ADHD can take. Wishing you and your daughter good luck.
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Latest post on 25 October 2016 - 15:50
I have no experience of DESC but I believe both are good schools. I have 2 bright children needing constant prodding at JESS, who are very happy there and seem to be getting on fine. 6th Form is the big difference and that depends on whether your bright child is an all-rounder or is particularly bright in one area and not so great in others. In my opinion bright all-rounders would do well with IB and keep a lot of career/degree options open to them but anyone wanting to study several sciences or languages in the 6th Form would not have that option available to them under the JESS IB system.
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Latest post on 21 October 2016 - 20:15
I know what you mean about antibiotics being ineffective against a virus and wondered about that myself. For me the antibiotics aren't for flu, but for the chronic sinusitis, ear infections, allergic rhinitis and respiratory tract infections which will not clear up using other medications. So if the flu jab reduces the number of times I have congestion, which leads to those complications and require antibiotics, then for me personally it's worthwhile.
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Latest post on 20 October 2016 - 11:53
Just got mine done this morning at a cost of 43dhs (not covered by insurance), so hardly a money-maker for my doctor. I had the flu shot last year for the first time on my doctor's recommendation; I've suffered with sinusitis (which continues despite surgery), allergies and respiratory infections for many years here. We looked back over my medical record first- in the year since I had the flu injection I needed antibiotics once; the year before, without the flu injection I needed antibiotics 4 times. For me personally it makes a difference but I don't see the need to give it to my children as a preventative measure because their colds and "flu" do not affect them in the same way and don't usually last too long.
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Latest post on 28 September 2016 - 11:47
I feel your pain! Shopping for football boots for my boys is an utter nightmare, as they all have wide feet. My son takes size 11 shoes but because his feet are wide and football boots are made so very narrow he has to take a size 13 in football boots only. We probably got the last pair of size 13 boots to be found anywhere in Dubai last month - sorry! After much looking we found them in Festival City in a sports shop next to Toys R Us - it might be Sun & Sand or another but it's a big shop and youths either next door or right next door on the ground floor. The helpful assistant didn't think they had any size 13s, because normally the ranges stop at size 12, but he hunted high and low in the stock room and eventually found the only pair. It is a Nike Mercurial, so if you can't find it here to try you might have to order online, but if your son is a size 13 in length and has wide feet you may need to try a larger size because it is ridiculously narrow. It is a studded boot. Previously we have failed to find any in Dubai and he has had to use basketball shoes instead because they make them wider, although they are not studded, which is far from ideal for rugby. Good luck in your search - if you find any other shops that sell size 13 please let me know, as I'll undoubtedly have to buy another pair next year!
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Latest post on 31 August 2016 - 20:47
If she can't find paid work, then I suggest she looks at voluntary work and/or unpaid work experience in whatever field she is looking to get into. It will all be good for her CV and she'll be adding work experience and gaining skills which might help her find paid work. Good luck!
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Latest post on 23 August 2016 - 20:41
See whether your insurance company offers this service. Ours does it for free but it took several years before we found out about it because it wasn't publicised.
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Latest post on 23 June 2016 - 10:44
Suggest you contact the agency in question, tell them what has happened and ask whether it is their company policy. It's possible it is just that one agent trying to scam the company and if you let the company know then it will hopefully prevent other people being ripped off in future.
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Latest post on 31 May 2016 - 11:13
It depends how stubborn she is. One of my boys would try new foods rather than starve but the others would refuse a meal and not eat at all if they don't like it - they were like that in nursery and are still the same as teenagers. One of them has sensory issues, so textures of food are a big thing for him and the way they taste to him is probably different from how they would taste to me - and may well be very unpleasant. If your daughter is the type who doesn't eat and then gets whiny and lethargic, you can expect to have a few conversations with the nursery staff about it. However, it might be worth asking the nursery if you can trial the meal plan for a week or two and see how it goes rather than commit to a full term? If it gets her eating widely or even a few more foods then it's worth a try but not eating lunch for a full term would be painful for all concerned.
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Latest post on 09 May 2016 - 13:04
Thanks for your help, ladies. I was just thinking ahead about possibly getting him some work experience in the UK next summer, which he'd need an NI number for.
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Latest post on 27 April 2016 - 12:04
My 16 year old is going to the US on his own for a month and will need to purchase textbooks, academic supplies etc. as well as having incidental expenses. I would also like him to have some money provision in case of travel emergencies and needing to purchase another ticket if he misses his flight! I don't want him to be responsible for huge amounts of cash in shared college accommodation with no safe facilities though. Any suggestions what the best way of sorting out money for him would be? He 's going to be restricted to the campus so it might be difficult for him to get travellers' cheques cashed at a bank and our bank won't offer him a credit card because of his age. Thanks for any advice or suggestions.
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Latest post on 23 April 2016 - 11:17
Thanks for the advice. I just drove right up there past Bur Juman without any problem (I left lots of time just in case) and parked behind the consulate in paid parking with no problem at all!
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Latest post on 23 April 2016 - 11:14
Assuming your daughter is not sitting her GCSE or equivalent qualification early, it seems quite a bit of homework for a Y9 student - possibly the teacher is panicking about exams? Teachers do leave students to mark their own work or each others' without scrutiny on the basis that in Y9 in a subject with a clear answer it's pretty straightforward to mark, although presumably there is no credit for using the right method if the answer is wrong. Hopefully the teacher is going through any mistakes with the class so they understand how to do it correctly - I would check with your daughter for this, as if not, the teacher is not doing his/her job properly.
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Latest post on 23 April 2016 - 11:06
My kids are very happy in JESS Ranches, so I can't comment on JESS Jumeirah. However, it is worth noting that pupils of JESS Jumeirah are guaranteed places at JESS Secondary Arabian Ranches, which is very well regarded, and means you are free of the panic of trying to get secondary places if you are at a school which doesn't have them.
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Latest post on 04 April 2016 - 11:42
Suggest you ask your regular hairdresser whether he/she has noticed any difference.
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Latest post on 04 April 2016 - 11:40
I've recently had allergy and intolerance testing done through my doctor here and have been cutting out various foods for 2 months but have not noticed any improvement in my allergy symptoms. She has told me it is cumulative and I need to stick with it for 6 months to really see whether it will work, so the jury is still out. However, many years ago a friend in the UK had allergy testing done for her childhood rheumatoid arthritis, cut out various foods (including citrus fruits and tomatoes, I think) and it worked for her. My father suffers from osteoarthritis and found his symptoms eased after cutting out meat and dairy products. He also found homeopathy really worked for him, so you might want to think about that if you haven't already tried it.
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Latest post on 03 April 2016 - 11:23
A few years ago Emaar sent something out to all Ranches residents saying party rentals were not allowed and I haven't seen anything since saying that they had changed their minds. You would need to check with Emaar first. Security guards do regular patrols too, so they'd be likely to notice if yesterday's unoccupied house was suddenly full of partygoers...
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Latest post on 30 March 2016 - 11:51
Hi Oshuma We used Christa Strauss - her website is http://christastrauss.com. We had to wait for about 6 months to get an appointment but her testing is very thorough. She is not able to diagnose dyspraxia though, because that assesses more of the physical movement and coordination issues but if your DS is presenting with ADHD symptoms then her testing covers that. There are other posts on this forum which recommend specialists for dyspraxia assessment. Good luck with getting your DS the help he needs.
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Latest post on 24 March 2016 - 18:12
Have you sorted out your school places yet? That's usually harder than finding somewhere to live here. Once you know where the children are going to school you need to look at travel times (not distances) and pick somewhere which is reasonable commuting time to schools and job(s). I used to live in Jumeirah 1 and the traffic in and out of there at school run times can be horrible.
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Latest post on 21 March 2016 - 11:21
At that price I suggest you look elsewhere - it's more than the Y12 fees in many other schools! If you have younger children or plan to have more while you are here, you'll be paying more than one set of fees. 84K for KG1 in a brand new school with shiny facilities but no track record (and presumably with the teething troubles which all new schools have) is probably not the best value for money. Be aware that school fees here always go up, never down.
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Latest post on 21 March 2016 - 11:03
Has anyone found borax (the sort you put in laundry) here recently? I'm trying to remove red mould from coloured fabric and read online that borax might work but I've never used it before. I've tried soaking in white vinegar but that didn't work and I don't want to use anything that will bleach the fabric. If you've had this problem and managed to get rid of the mould any other way, please let me know the secret! Thanks.
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Latest post on 08 March 2016 - 12:26
Does anyone know whether you can cut through Global Village and get there that way? Thanks
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Latest post on 23 February 2016 - 14:58
I have to get a tuxedo organised for my son's Y11 prom; he does fit into regular men's sizes but I don't know whether it's better to rent or buy a tux for him. Does anyone know how much it costs to rent a tux and where best to go for one? I've looked at a few bridal shop websites but didn't find any prices. I did read that there are very few places to rent them in Dubai, so most people buy them instead but as my son may well keep growing, I don't really want to pay a huge amount for a suit he will probably only wear for one evening. On the other hand, I don't know what the quality of rental tuxedos is like here and neither of us will be happy if he has to wear something which looks "wellworn" and shiny. Any advice would be appreciated. Thanks.
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Latest post on 23 February 2016 - 14:37
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Latest post on 21 January 2016 - 11:08
The Miele showroom has an online order and delivery service but I bought my Miele vacuums from Sharaf DG in Dubai Mall and they are great. It is worthwhile looking online for the different models before you go: when we wanted a Miele washing machine it was not on display in Sharif DG but when we asked, they did actually have it in their warehouse and in fact it was cheaper than ordering online from Miele.
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Latest post on 04 January 2016 - 12:53
Hi Sofabed It is worthwhile discussing these concerns with your son's Occupational Therapist, if you haven't already. My son also has dyspraxia, with sensory issues and low muscle tone, for all of which he has had therapy. He is a fussy eater, always has been, and is smaller than his brothers as a result of this and also has little interest in sporting activities which would develop his muscles. Both texture and taste of food are an issue for him and once he has taken a dislike to a food it's extremely difficult to get him to even try a mouthful a year later. He is also 12 and shows no sign of becoming a more adventurous eater. We were told by his Occupational Therapist that we had tried everything we could over the years (including allergy testing) and that there is nothing else we could do to make him eat more widely, so we just focus on giving him food that he likes so that he will eat more of it, rather than insisting that he eats more widely and having him refuse to eat at all. If your son is or has been on certain medications some of those may suppress appetite too. Last year our GP ran various tests on my son to determine mineral and vitamin levels, which is also advisable if you feel either your son is not taking in adequate for his growth needs or that his body is not absorbing them properly. Good luck in getting the help you need for your son.
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Latest post on 21 December 2015 - 12:56
This is unacceptable and should be reported to the taxi company, dry cleaners and whoever manages the security of your building as soon as possible. Does it happen in broad daylight or just at night? Young children seeing this could be quite upset by it. It is not clear why the dry cleaner would go into your building and walk out of it holding hands with your security guard but it's unlikely to be related to the security of your building and as such the guard is neglecting his responsibilities. If he's the only guard on the desk, does that make it easier for someone to gain unauthorised access to the apartments? I do have sympathy with the taxi and delivery drivers but I suspect very few of us would be happy for the outside of our houses used as their toilet facilities...
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Latest post on 26 November 2015 - 12:53
My only suggestion is to see whether there is someone in the Filipino embassy/consulate who might be able to offer some advice. Good luck.
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Latest post on 23 November 2015 - 10:11
We've not had leaks in the roof but we've certainly had leaks running down the outside walls on the top floor which Tool Time fixed for us.
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Latest post on 08 November 2015 - 12:08
Gosh, Jawkse86, your husband has a company doing all of that as well as all the maths and science tutoring you keep offering him for? He must be incredibly busy! Tessa21, there are quite a few companies who offer visa and relocation services to choose from at a price, if you want to go down that route. I suggest you see what kind of support your husband's company will give you and then see whether you want to tackle the rest yourself or pay an agency to help. If you do go down the agency route, research your agency thoroughly and get recommendations from others who have relocated with your company before agreeing to part with any money. There are all sorts of people here, including the 50+ not particularly glamorous bracket and tons to do in Dubai We had friends out here who came out for 3 years in their mid-50s once their children had grown up and had a great time; the wife did not work and took the opportunity to go on every business trip with her husband and made up for all the travelling she didn't have time to do when her children were young. If you want an adventure to look back on, Dubai is a good choice.
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Latest post on 04 November 2015 - 10:39
I have lots of plug-in mosquito repellent plugs where you have to change the liquid refills but I haven't been able to find the refills in Spinneys or Choithrams any more. Has anyone seen them in the shops recently? Thanks
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Latest post on 04 November 2015 - 10:35
Anyone know where you can get floats and blow up chairs to use inside the pool? We used to be able to pick them up in most sports shops but now they don't seem to stock them anymore, only chairs to be attached to motorboats. I need something robust to cope with 4 kids trying to climb on it at the same time! Thanks
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Latest post on 04 November 2015 - 10:31
Quite a few have opened in the new cinema area. MORE is fine but the pizza place next to the cinema was a bit stressful as you have to queue up at the counter to order everything, then collect it at the end when it's cooked and take it to your table, which is a bit of a pain if you have children and shopping with you...
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Latest post on 04 November 2015 - 10:25
If you bought them here then ask the shop who they recommend. We have had all our carpets washed and any repairs done by Attif Hellal, who owns Tabriz Carpets in the Blue Souk in Sharjah and they have always come back in good condition. His numbers are 050 6261720 and 06 5723672. No doubt you could get it done cheaper but it's about finding someone you trust with your carpets.
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Latest post on 02 November 2015 - 11:03
I've always used the American Hospital and found them to be very good. I appreciate Daza's view on keeping A&E visits for emergencies but when my children have had broken bones I have gone to A&E where there are experienced orthopaedic specialists on site for consultation if necessary. Several years ago we were told that Rashid was the only hospital in Dubai with anti-venom, so that's where I would go for snake bites.
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Latest post on 01 November 2015 - 19:47
The first few groups of younger children being "supervised" by their maids were grabbing handfuls of chocolate, despite my saying "one each" and the maids were then digging in themselves!. First time I've had that experience. Kids with their parents and groups of older children were very polite and it was a pleasure to see how much effort they'd all made with their costumes.
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Latest post on 29 October 2015 - 10:38
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Latest post on 29 October 2015 - 10:35
Laura Ashley in Mercato and Dubai Mall have a good range of more traditional designs too.
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Latest post on 17 October 2015 - 20:05
Built one earlier this year but were only allowed to have the exact dimensions Emaar specified on our original plan in exactly the same location - no flexibility at all.
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Latest post on 13 October 2015 - 14:13
Mine have never asked to use the bathroom, so I guess they use the pool/park facilities instead but occasionally maintenance men etc. need to use the bathroom, before they go onto another call, so they do. Sometimes I have found people's phones on charge there too, which is a bit cheeky. When we had the pool put in, the company erected a temporary toilet in the garden for my workers and I had several arguments with people working on other houses coming into my garden to use it because they were not provided with toilet facilities and felt that they should therefore be able to use ours. I suggest you have a word with the companies your pool guy and gardener work for to agree the days and times they attend your house and also discuss the bathroom arrangements and the problems you have had. Then monitor whether they stick to the dates and times agreed. They must have some means of getting to and from your house; unless they are using public transport presumably they could stop at the community centre toilets before and after they come to your house if they are only there for an hour or two . However, we've all had days when we've needed to use the bathroom unexpectedly, so you have to make allowances for the occasional toilet visit.
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Latest post on 12 October 2015 - 17:13
Yes, you do need a car for Ranches 1. Even if you live close to the shopping centre (which has a limited range) you will not want to doing all your shopping on foot dragging a one year old to and from the shops in 40C weather for half the year. You will also find yourself restricted in your choice of everything if you are solely dependent on the local amenities; not only food and household items but also medical and social. If you are staying long enough to get your child into nursery you will need transport to and from there twice a day. Yes, you can use taxis but you are dependent on the skill and care of the driver every time and their ability and experience varies significantly. Once your child is old enough to be invited for playdates they will not necessarily be within comfortable walking distance of your house. The bus service is not that frequent and only goes to and from Mall of The Emirates; it always goes in the same direction around the Ranches, so it's not practical for 2 way journeys around the Ranches, as you have to go via MOE to get all the way round.
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Latest post on 10 October 2015 - 19:52
A doctor here recommended a friend use Neo Healar cream & suppositories as a last resort to avoid surgery for piles and it worked for him. They are available over the counter from some pharmacies and they are a natural herbal remedy. Definitely worth you trying them before opting for surgery. The doctor also said to avoid sitting on the toilet for long periods, as that makes piles worse - although that's easier said than done if you've got constipation.
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Latest post on 27 September 2015 - 13:50
Hi Innon Please don't feel too intimidated to post on here again! I've been here for well over a decade and I've known loads of people conceiving naturally here, myself included. I know a few people who have had to use IVF while they were here but not many. The climate here gets blamed for lots of things but this is honestly the first time I've heard of it being responsible for infertility! Arabic families native to the region tend to have significantly more children than western families, which would not be the case if infertility was due to the weather. If you look at the huge demand for maternity services and nurseries here, you can see there are lots of babies being conceived and born here. Quite a few mums conceive here but go back to their home country to deliver too. It sounds as though your landlady's doctor (in her home country, not here) was looking for an easy answer rather than going to the bother of running tests on her to find out what the problem really is...
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Latest post on 23 September 2015 - 11:59
Most school holidays in Europe cost 10 - 12 K so USA flights with all those theme parks would push it up a bit, so it's not unreasonable pricing, I would say. My son's school is doing 7 days in New York Economics trip for about 12 K later in the year but it does have an educational component to it. I've been amused by the articles in the UK press where parents complain about expensive and exotic school trips. The answer is simple - if you don't think it's worth it and/or can't afford it, just say no. It's an essential skill for good parenting! Children have to learn that their parents will not pay for them to do or have everything they want when they want it. One day they will be young adults who have to budget and pay for things themselves and evaluate the benefits of what they spend their money on, so it doesn't hurt for their parents to say no to requests for expensive trips if they're not convinced of the benefits. If the school wants to organise trips like this, fine - if they don't get enough people signed up, it will be cancelled, and they'll learn from it. If they do, other kids will get to have a fun time in Florida and yours won't - but most of the other kids in the year won't be going on it, just a few. If all the trips they organise are "fun" with no educational component, then perhaps have a word with the school about the kind of trips you would like to see - but then be prepared to support them. Living in Dubai, there's always someone who's been on a more exotic and exciting summer/winter/Eid break than you have, so you're probably used to "why can't we go to Australia/Alaska/Disneyland/round the world on a super yacht like (insert friend's name) did with his/her family?" Just deal with any teenage whining in the same way and it won't last too long.
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Latest post on 16 September 2015 - 09:58
I'm so glad you had a good experience with him. It took me ages to find someone who would do a good job but we will definitely use him again.
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Latest post on 08 September 2015 - 10:59
We used Kumar from Al Wahli Furniture, 050 4287963, and were very pleased with the results. He came to quote then sent his guys who did the job within the week.
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Latest post on 06 September 2015 - 14:49
Good advice from Annorman! Dubai employers also like to see relevant work experience in the region if possible. I would suggest your son does some voluntary work for a charity in PR, marketing or similar where he can use his skills and show that he's making the best use of his time to any future employer. Charities with an international dimension such as Gulf For Good would be particularly relevant to him and of course be of great benefit to the charity concerned. It's also a chance to network locally and help those less fortunate. Good luck to your son!.