Please help me I feel like I am going nuts
I am a western mum and I work full time and I have had a maid for the last 18 months and we have had a very good relationship. She currently works from 8:00am to 6:00pm and takes a two hour nap in the middle of the day. She has Fridays off and works for about two or 3 hours on Saturday. We have one son (6 years old) and he is usually at school from 6:45 to 2:45pm each day and is currently in summer camp. We live in a small 2 bedroom villa. I have assigned her cleaning duties during the day while my son is at school and ask her to take him to the park or pool for 90 minutes each afternoon. Recently she has stopped doing things that I would expect her to do and often require prompting to do things that are within her daily duties. I came home yesterday afternoon and she was sleeping at 3pm. When I woke her she angrily told me that she didn’t finish her work until 1pm. We pay her extra on top of her usually agency salary (hired through an agency) and we treat her very well. After sitting down with her last night, she indicated that the work is too much and we expect too much from her and that her hours are too long. She claims that she doesn’t have enough time to complete her cleaning each day. She has also said that we don’t see how hard she works (despite thanking her regularly and telling her how much we appreciate her). She said last night that she doesn’t know if she wants to continue working for us. This has all come out of the blue and I feel like I am going crazy. Is what I am asking her to do unreasonable? I can’t imagine her finding an easier maids job (small house/one child at school) unless it was for a working couple with no children. I would really appreciate some insight and advice. I don’t know how to rectify the situation and we really don’t want to lose her. She great with my son and she is a very good maid.
Mat29, does the agency you hired your live in maid starts with E ?
Yes Apr04 it does!
My husband works from home (he is not always there) so he sees her working during the day.
Maybe you should have a real talk with your hubby and try to understand what's going on. Your maid will continue disrespecting because your husband who's supposed to protect you but he's given her green light which is odd
Please help me I feel like I am going nuts
I am a western mum and I work full time and I have had a maid for the last 18 months and we have had a very good relationship. She currently works from 8:00am to 6:00pm and takes a two hour nap in the middle of the day. She has Fridays off and works for about two or 3 hours on Saturday. We have one son (6 years old) and he is usually at school from 6:45 to 2:45pm each day and is currently in summer camp. We live in a small 2 bedroom villa. I have assigned her cleaning duties during the day while my son is at school and ask her to take him to the park or pool for 90 minutes each afternoon. Recently she has stopped doing things that I would expect her to do and often require prompting to do things that are within her daily duties. I came home yesterday afternoon and she was sleeping at 3pm. When I woke her she angrily told me that she didn’t finish her work until 1pm. We pay her extra on top of her usually agency salary (hired through an agency) and we treat her very well. After sitting down with her last night, she indicated that the work is too much and we expect too much from her and that her hours are too long. She claims that she doesn’t have enough time to complete her cleaning each day. She has also said that we don’t see how hard she works (despite thanking her regularly and telling her how much we appreciate her). She said last night that she doesn’t know if she wants to continue working for us. This has all come out of the blue and I feel like I am going crazy. Is what I am asking her to do unreasonable? I can’t imagine her finding an easier maids job (small house/one child at school) unless it was for a working couple with no children. I would really appreciate some insight and advice. I don’t know how to rectify the situation and we really don’t want to lose her. She great with my son and she is a very good maid.
Mat29, does the agency you hired your live in maid starts with E ?
Yes Apr04 it does!
My husband works from home (he is not always there) so he sees her working during the day
Maybe you should have a real talk with your hubby and try to understand what's going on. Your maid will continue disrespecting because your husband who's supposed to protect you but he's given her green light which is odd
Can you please clarify, you've booked her into a resort for two weeks while you are travelling? What do you mean resort and why?
We are flying for two weeks and we cannot take her with us obviously? . When we hired her two months ago she said some of her family members live here in Dubai but when we asked her again she said that she has no relatives here. However it didn't bother us much , such a small detail ( some people don't tell the truth in the beginning) we booked a hotel near our home as I don't feel comfortable leaving her alone for 2 weeks . She seems to quickly forget/ neglect important details , like turn off oven , closing doors etc..
In the beginning she was giving her best and was showing some signs of improvement but now that she's been disrespectful on top of all these... I'm slowly reaching the limit.
I will definitely not renew her visa/contract next year and I also don't want to breach the contract so early, we will lose our money.
