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Latest post on 11 October 2013 - 22:57

A doctor that is highly recommended on this board but who no longer works in OT, recommended Dr. Jessica Lee at Infinity Clinic Al-Wasl, she seems to be booked a month in advance though.

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Latest post on 28 September 2013 - 08:55

Bless you Arohadxb, can't thank you enough for your reply!

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Latest post on 26 September 2013 - 12:28

I would like a good quality multi vitamin, for daily intake to fill up any gaps caused by diet. I already give her the Eye Q tabs. She has a very good diet already, loves fruit and home cooked meals but does get treats every now and then as I dont believe in banning something altogether.(unless necessary). I find the gummy bear ones too full of sugar is there a better alternative. Is there any brand that will help with focus and concentration? She is struggling with behavioural issues in school and I have an appointment with a well recommended doctor however since thats a long way off I thought just to rule out any underlying issues I would take her to an eye doctor and a nutritionist (for food intolerances), to see if everything checks out ok. I would really appreciate recommendations for both, as I have no idea where to begin. Is there a place I can get her IQ tested? Is there anything else that I may have overlooked, for her age? She is 6 years old. Could there be any other non-psychological issues that may cause her to have these behaviour issues at school? I am wracking my brains trying to think of everything and I would love some answers from mums who can relate, thanks heaps!

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Latest post on 25 September 2013 - 22:34

Hi TDB I'm not much of an expert on any of these issues but I thought after reading one of the posts from Kiwispiers that I would chime in about the dummy runs. We did the same for DD at 7-8 months and became so fed up that we did the byebye binky method. Your DD is a great age for this. If she is waking for the dummy and isn't hungry at night then you could get some longer stretches of sleep out of her by breaking the sleep association w the dummy. Words of caution though- don't replace the association with another and don't go back once you have started. Just as the site mentions it is tempting but if you stick with it slowly it really does work! My DD has never been a great sleeper but ditching the dummy meant we have been able to go from 45-90 minute stretches to 4-6 hours. She is 18 months and breastfeeds and cosleeps so still not sleeping through, we never go out either :-/ would love to think about having another baby soon but we have a little more time to 'wait it out' Hope your morning sickness recedes soon, that's another reason for me waiting to have another as mine was horrid the first time around! I agree about breaking the dummy habit asap. We had to do it when my child's stuffy nose meant she couldnt keep a dummy and breathe and it was horrible everytime she caught a cold. I timed it with a ten day break, and even on day 8-9 it was absolutely horrendous but, by day 10 we broke the habit and never looked back, really helped with aiding unbroken sleeps. Bliss thereafter!

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Latest post on 25 September 2013 - 20:37

First the (belated) uproar over Robin Thicke and now this. Will EW next demand civilized road manners on SZR at rush hour?

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Latest post on 25 September 2013 - 12:45

Your DH sounds like a wonderful father, your baby is very lucky. Thank goodness you decided CIO is not for you, just reading your account of it had me in a twist (although I agree, I too love those cute snorts that only follow a huge crying fit). I cannot help with your issue as I am no expert but I love what kiwispiers wrote. It sounds like you really need a break, why dont you take advantage of the great father daughter bond they share and book yourself a nice massage or spa day, or really whatever you feel will relax you.

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Latest post on 25 September 2013 - 12:32

Jules - has your daughter been diagnosed ? Are the listening exercises you do showing results and to your satisfaction? She did ballet last two terms and everything was fine, in terms of following instructions and in the last class when parents were invited to watch she remembered her steps no better or worse than any of the others. She will begin gym this term so I will see how that progresses, I think it will be better in terms of burning off the excess energy she has. She is always on the go. DesertRose you have voiced my concern, which is that if anything should be done its now. I am not sure if anything is amiss. I always felt she was a little off center, somehow, but I was just comparing her to friends children and my brothers's much older son. I always put it down to her just being active and rationalized that its normal for very young children to be the way she is, and that I was just not as patient and calm as I could be. I always tell myself she has taught me more about myself and how I can change than I could teach her, or another calm, placid baby could have, she has pushed when I felt there was no more left, and when I went there I just found more love and more patience. It has been eye opening being a mom! I cant seem to find any doctors available,Dr Bakti is out of town, KidsFirst and another place havent got back to me, it makes me wonder how many of these cases are there? In the meantime I am practising good behaviour exercises at home with her, observing any changes, role playing, reward charts, and whittling her down to a standard, factory size. I am wondering if the current curriculum is suited to her inner method of learning. She keep saying she finds it very boring, I want to check if others whose children have gone into Key Stage 1 had the same transitional issues, and when did they settle down? Do they find it easy to follow everything their teacher is talking to them about for or do they get distracted? If she really does have something, can she control herself like how she has been doing? I wonder if this is just a disciplinary issue. She can wash and dress herself in the mornings without losing too much time, loves to help around the house, finish tasks, and yet, there is that problem of her finding it so hard to remember something she has been told a million times, age-inappropriate behaviour, getting overly excited and talking too much, too loudly, being zoned out and not connected with her reality or surroundings. Sometimes I am sure she is normal, so sweet and happy and obedient and easy yet she will have a phase where I feel the old familiar stress knots rising in the pit of my stomach, where I could do everything and more and its still not enough. I just want her to be calm, centered and self-aware, is this a reasonable expectation for her age?? I am so worried and confused and I wish I could see a doctor asap, but for an assessment I am not sure I should wait and see and possibly risk delay in getting her the help she needs or spend the kind of money that I cannot easily afford.

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Latest post on 23 September 2013 - 16:24

Thank you everybody for your replies, I am reading and taking in everything, its all new to me, and this has been very helpful indeed. AmyAus saw your post as I was dashing out, you had me in floods of tears - not a good look at pick up time! You are right, she is not stupid, she is so clever, if only the fog would lift then everyone could see. She cannot tell me right now what it feels like to be her, and I must use her cues and help her. Where did you go for help? Did it make a difference? As everyone says, its a new school year and everyone needs time to adjust to one another, and I hope in time she will settle in, but she will react badly to someone thats not flexible and willing to work with her. I dont blame the teacher as they have lots of other students to look after. I just want to solve this before the school decides she is a problem child. Aadams there is nothing out of the ordinary in her world at present. Loving, stable family, good food/sleep/routine. As arohadxb rightly said I am only now reluctantly looking into this aspect as a last resort and after ruling other factors out. I am looking into diet control as omitting food colouring and processed food etc, as someone suggested, nothing drastic, just more healthful choices and certainly not considering meds even if the doctor suggests it. Thank you for your concern. Thanks for the recommendation of Dr. Bakti and the link provided.

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Latest post on 23 September 2013 - 11:22

Thank you so much ladies. Reading these responses helps me loads, and I want to get to the bottom of this. I am afraid I will lose her altogether if I dont change something soon. I hope to report with positive feedback. If anyone else has any tips, mental strategies, (I read about the Omega fish oils) or the recommendation of a great therapist, please do post your reply.

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Latest post on 23 September 2013 - 10:46

Sophia thank you for the recommendation, I will give them a call. Iveranodxb - Thanks, will call Lifeworks too, it was recommended on this board before. I dont know how to ask about her learning style without making it seem as if the teachers skills are lacking? I do know she adored her previous teacher who was quite a laidback person and it seems to have suited my child better. The teacher keeps repeating that its all teachers and not just her thats having trouble with my child disrupting the class. She also says sometimes the other children complain about her. Its not aggressiveness, more being goofy, silly and disruptive, talking and making other kids lose their focus. Its not fair to the teacher, other kids or mine. Her face is getting smaller each day at pick up, as the teacher gives me the dreaded talk, and very soon I know if this continues she will hate to go. Arohadxb - She has moved up from FS where everything was more relaxed perhaps and now its probably more structured. This was a child that used to skip to school in the mornings all of last year apart from three occaisons that quickly self corrected. But maybe as she gets older the issues are rearing up more visibly. I do notice she needs more instruction and cant seem to remember what she's been told to do. She sometimes zones out even when you tell her something, especially if you talk for a longer while. She is very very distracted by external stimuli, just even sunlight coming in through a window, things like that. While the teacher is talking she is noticing her hair, clothes, mannersims, the other children! The thing that had me realise I need a professional opinion is because until now I thought her behaviour was in her control, lately with everything I am hearing and after talking to her about why she wont listen in class (I am bored, I cant remember) I realised she is not doing things purposefully. This doesnt seem to have afffected her learning ability. Her work is very good, meticulous, can slave over writing and numbers till she gets it right, reading above her level. There is something not quite right about the way she seems lost in her own little world though, her nursery teacher said she was 'away with the fairies' and thats the first inclination I had that what I suspected was true. <em>edited by SevenSeconds on 23/09/2013</em>

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Latest post on 23 September 2013 - 10:27

Who suspects ADD/ADHD? You and the teacher, just you orjust the teacher? Just me, elmsnere.

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Latest post on 22 September 2013 - 22:15

I know for many its just a song on the radio, but I wish more people would take pop culture at more than face value, considering its huge impact on youth and even ourselves on a subconscious basis, and dig deeper. Nobody is questioning the standard and all the while the standard is slipping. For women, for our daughters, for our collective sense of self respect, for whatever we have achieved so far, in some ways we as women in this day and age have never been more demeaned and are being objectified like never before on a global level of mass stereotyping. http://thesocietypages.org/socimages/2013/09/17/from-the-mouths-of-rapists-the-lyrics-of-robin-thickes-blurred-lines-and-real-life-rape/ http://unseenflirtspoetry.wordpress.com/2013/08/01/rap-genius-is-blurred-lines-the-most-frighteningly-sexist-song-of-2013/ http://thebottomline.as.ucsb.edu/2013/09/blurred-lines-defined-lines-and-double-standards-how-our-mainstream-media-remains-the-biggest-enforcer-of-gender-stereotypes

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Latest post on 22 September 2013 - 20:07

It was intended to shock and sell, and it has, so its been quite widely reported in the media that this song alludes to rape. With half dressed women (while the men are fully dressed) just takes it down to the lowest basic level there is. How dumbed down have we become that something as derogatory as this is acceptable and viewed normally? The title itself is a clue, when a no could mean a yes. As an aside, his name is just, I have to stop myself giving an eye-roll, everytime I hear it.

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Latest post on 22 September 2013 - 19:26

I read that ordinary Nivea works just as well as Creme de la Mer.

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Latest post on 22 September 2013 - 19:20

Found it hilarious? Wow, must be very young or thinking exactly as they want you to. Mind control completed!

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Latest post on 22 September 2013 - 16:36

I upgraded on the iphone with a minor glitch in one of the apps that was fixed when I deleted and re-installed it. I read afterwards that several bugs are expected and hope I wont have any problems.

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Latest post on 22 September 2013 - 13:09

Thats steange - you edited any of your settings?

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Latest post on 22 September 2013 - 13:01

I just looked it up and its not restricted. I wish it were banned.

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Latest post on 22 September 2013 - 12:51

It isnt just the lyrics. The video features half nak*d models prancing around with such nonchalence so as to seem cool, on trend and normal, when she has been completely utterly objectified. Vile. Millions of young men and women are watching this and the subconscious message is loud and clear. The music industry has a lot to answer for and its high time censorship and guidelines are introduced to protect young children that must be watching, as self censorship and responsibility is all but dead nowadays. I dont think music labels do it for the money anymore, but to promote a culture thats at war with respecting women, and projecting them with dignity. I wish the world would wake up.

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Latest post on 20 September 2013 - 09:33

You are treating the symptoms which is a good thing, but not the cause of the problem. Are you stressed out, overly anxious and had a big interview/conference/etc any personal or professional change lately that has triggered the first and second onset? If you find it extremely hard to feel at ease in social situations, or suffer internally from something similar, that stress has to find a way out and this could be a physical response. Go for frequent, quick cleansing washes with a wet wipe and carry 2-3 changes of shirts, to combat the sweating along with everything else everyone has suggested. But for a long term solution I strongly suggest you find the root cause of whats making your body react this way, and work on solving THAT. Try yoga, or find ways to calm way down your responses to everyday situations.

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