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Latest post on 08 March 2014 - 10:54

I don't even buy leather goods! Thanks rebellodubai for the post!

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Latest post on 31 January 2014 - 16:41

The best place to obtain a dog from is a reputable breeder. Dogs have to born in the house, trained, and be socialized. Not to mention the health. You are getting a dog for 12-15 years. There are no reputable breeders in the UAE! I wonder if those who advice to buy a dog have ever been to a dog pound.....

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Latest post on 31 January 2014 - 16:36

Hi ladies, Sorry I know this topic has been done to death but I have a quickie I would appreciate advice on. My maid is asking instead of flight back home at the end of the year to be given $$$. No problems there from my side as that's the law if I understand but she is asking for it a year in advance as in now? Has anyone else had a similar situation to this? If I give it now what happens if se has a emergency and has to fly home. Do I end up paying twice. I want to tell her today, am I being unfair making her wait till the end of the year? Tia If she doesn't fly back home does that mean she will work for you or stay in Dubai on vacation? By law if she decides to stay and work, she will have to be paid double her salary, that's what I've been told. If it were me, I wouldn't give her the money beforehand.

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Latest post on 31 January 2014 - 16:30

CChicco77, what was her final answer ? She came back on Saturday and told me she will travel with us for as long as we want. Of course I answered that if she's going to be resentful or unhappy, I won't want her coming along. She smiled and said she does want to go, and again said it was her dad that was unsatisfied with her leaving. I made it clear one more time that this is a job, just like any other but fortunately she could choose on whether or not to continue with it. Her response "I want to stay with you, I'm happy here". DesertRose made a point, all this in the end is because I must have been doing something wrong. I have to continue treating her as well as always because she is a human being just like all of us, but never forget that she is my employee and she needs to be very aware of how far she can go.

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Latest post on 27 January 2014 - 09:17

I feel so sorry for the OP with this problem. Of course she can travel and deliver and look after her children with the help of her family, but when she is employing a Maid who clearly understood the importance of and agreed to travelling with her, she has every right to be very angry and dissatisfied with her. I think that most of us would feel the same as she does. I think that it shows disrespectful behaviour from the Maid, and I don't think that she should be recommended to another family, as she is likely to 'let them down', also. To be paid for her holiday, and then to be paid double for two months of less work, the OP is really going the extra mile here, and she is so unlucky to have such a disloyal Maid. Thank you Pink Lily. Of course I can take her of my son without help, this isn't the issue. This thread is about my maid not traveling with us when she was clearly informed before being hired that this was a must. That's all. :)

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Latest post on 25 January 2014 - 08:25

How does this make any of us look bad? As I said, read the threads about maids. Plenty food for thought there, if you are looking for "superior" attitudes towards those who did not win God's lottery at birth, Nonsense. Some people will feel superior to others in general, and some people are not like that. My maid is my equal, it is the UAE that makes her seem inferior to us.

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Latest post on 24 January 2014 - 21:58

I would not ban her either. I am not sure if you made it clear when you hired her that travelling for 2 months was a requirement of her contract, however she informed you that she did not want to go, so that is that. As you know (with your husband being away) that it is hard to be away from family. I travel for work constantly and I miss my family terribly whilst I am away, maybe she did not enjoy the last trip as much as you perhaps think she did. I would hate to go away for 2 months for work. It really is a long time. I realise you feel let down and shocked, however you have a husband, children and parents to visit. Millions of women cope around the world with no support system at all. Count your blessings and try to focus on all the wonderful things you have in your life and what an amazing opportunity you will have to bond with your children one on one if she does not come with you. I'm not going to ban her - I made it very clear before hiring her that traveling was a must and she had no objections. As I mentioned before, I really think what's keeping her from leaving to Europe is the fact that she has a boyfriend now. And yes, we've all had to do things for work that we didn't want to do - that's how life is, there are no exceptions.

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Latest post on 24 January 2014 - 14:23

You're right! She must not be worried about renewing her visa in the first place. Suppose she stops working for us in the next few days, do I send her back to Sri Lanka right away? And do I need to terminate her contract even though her visa expired? I believe you have two options - take her to the airport and cancel her visa all there (done in a few hours) or allow her to find another job here during the 30 day grace period. I am a little unclear - is her visa done already? If so, then I think you can do either. If it isn't complete then you have to cancel her visa first to start the 30 day grace period clock (if you allow her to stay). If you allow her to stay her and look for another job, that means you will probably have some transition time if you decide to hire another maid. Downside is that you have to wait for her to find the other job and get her new visa before you can get your deposit back. And you also have the other issue of where does she sleep in the meantime, especially if you find another maid quickly. I don't know what the right answer is for you but please, given your pregnancy, try to minimize stress. And if you have more difficult conversations - include your husband. They tend to accelerate the talks ;) edited by HotRice on 24/01/2014 Her visa expires beginning of February. My husband is away till Monday & was going to renew it next week. Her father lives here & she stays with him on her days off, she won't have a problem in that sense. Thankfully I have my friends & family supporting me 100% on this, and all of you wonderful ladies too!! I feel blessed.

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Latest post on 24 January 2014 - 12:46

Sorry but terminate her now and send her home ASAP. You are being played and the stress and aggravation she is causing you is not worth it. Once she is gone you will be able to focus better on your options. The way she is behaving does not deserve your kindness to let her find other work in UAE. It is very harsh advice I know but you need to concentrate on yourself and your family. Move on. If you need household help until you leave, get an agency maid. I'm already looking around just in case. Ideally I would hire a maid whose family is leaving the UAE and is highly recommended. You can never really trust these women; I for certain have been let down one too many times.

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Latest post on 24 January 2014 - 12:42

I sympathize with you. I understand how tiring pregnancy with a toddler can be and how irritating the hiring process of a maid can be and you always never know what to expect... That's why we tend to give in to the hope that by being too nice and friendly with our help, we can win them over. Reality bites: they don't necessary see it that way. Not everyone is grateful for the good treatment they get or the nice people they work for. When I read the 2-3 day period, I laughed: seriously??? This is a joke. She clearly is under the impression that you "can't live without her" and is using your kindness to her advantage. Perhaps if at first she would have wished to be exempted from traveling two months but instead one and waited for you 2-3 days to think about it and give her your decision, I would say, why not. But seeing how the events have unfolded, I can only but reiterate, enhance your plan B... This one has to go. Luckily you are at the end of her service. So better not renew. What worries me, is that she might for sure know that her contract/ visa is for renewal. Who on earth would jeopardize that unless a person who doesn't care to keep their job. Because anyone else, would be, "yes, sir, whatever it takes, just renew my contract/visa".... Please be strong and confident you get by without her. It's very tough once we are used to someone. But just recall all the beginnings are tough and you will manage like every time you did. Just, be firm and don't let her play you around like this. I say it again, whomever makes a pregnant woman worry or go thru hard time is plain lame and. Better to avoid/ get rid of that person. This is draining your e energy and nerves for no goods.... edited by gaijind on 24/01/2014 You're right! She must not be worried about renewing her visa in the first place. Suppose she stops working for us in the next few days, do I send her back to Sri Lanka right away? And do I need to terminate her contract even though her visa expired?

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Latest post on 24 January 2014 - 12:39

I agree with mc. The fact is, she might agree to go but once you renew her visa, might change her mind again. I've seen it happen - maids refusing to go just a few weeks before the trip. I'd terminate her and find someone new. Good maids aren't that hard to come by! I thought about this too. I guess life is always about taking risks. You never know what can happen.

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Latest post on 24 January 2014 - 12:38

Can you find a nice nursery for the summer where you are traveling? It might be more fulfilling for your older child to be out of the house and socialize a bit while you bond with your infant. This would buy you flexibility for whatever decision you make regarding your helper. My first two children were 16 months apart and I stayed home with them without any help. Its tough, but with family to help, its possible. Again, its so hard for us to understand a helper's "thought" process. To try to reason with them is to only frustrate yourself. And I mean this in the nicest way - we all come from different backgrounds and it affects how we handle decisions. edited by HotRice on 24/01/2014 That's actually a great idea. I'm going to look into it. Thanks!

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Latest post on 24 January 2014 - 12:37

Your husband should be the one dealing with all of this. You shouldn't stress yourself out over these small annoying issues. Millions of women cope each day with pregnancy,newborns and toddlers and do it just fine without a maid. You can do it too. My husband is a pilot and has been away this entire time. I wish he was here, it would make things a lot easier for me. I can handle my toddler on my own, there's no doubt to that but as I said, my husband is away a lot..... I'm on my own. I admire single mothers like no one else, it can be real tough, especially when you're expecting another baby.

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Latest post on 24 January 2014 - 09:10

It all sounds like a power struggle to me. She won't go. She'll have to look for another job. Ok, she will go, but for 1 month, not 2. She's not the one paying the salary here, there's no negotiation. She goes with you for the time you want her there, or she finds another job. Sorry she's being such a pain. It totally seems like it. If I didn't have a toddler & were pregnant, she would be out the door since day one! I'm fed up & tired of being too nice. I wish there was a family leaving Dubai that recommended their trustful and honest maid.... the idea of hiring just anyone out there freaks me out.

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Latest post on 24 January 2014 - 08:48

I brought up this ordeal again yesterday trying to understand what is going on in her head or with her dad or boyfriend & she insists it's her father who doesn't want her to go. What's new is that now she says it's OK to go to Europe for 1 month, not 2 & that her boyfriend does support her about going. The reason she needed 2-3 days was because she wanted to wait for her day off (today) to speak to her dad face to face rather than telling him over the phone. I told her I won't wait any longer & that by Saturday she has to make up her mind. To be honest, I'm getting tired of all this & who knows? it might be me who decides to get by without her.

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Latest post on 22 January 2014 - 21:28

Lots of great advice on this topic.... I can see arguments either way but after having a Sri Lankan maid and reading stories like the one below, I realize that I do not appreciate the culture of family that they have. http://gulfnews.com/news/gulf/uae/crime/maid-refused-holiday-suffocated-baby-as-she-slept-1.1280352 Just be careful if you do come to an agreement about traveling with her - you never know how resentment can come to the surface. This is horrible! What a monster! How could she kill that poor baby???? This makes me not want to have anyone living in my home but my family!

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Latest post on 22 January 2014 - 21:22

I must say, great advice in this thread - I usually don't write though a regular reader but am feeling prolific this year :-) I would just add as others have that giving her the 2-3 day again makes it look like she's the one doing the choosing. This is part of her job, and saying no is the equivalent of saying no to the job, period, end of story. At this point, you could either wait for the two days (no more than 2) or you could get up tomorrow and say ok, 2 days, but you are going to need to start looking in case she decides otherwise. It's both symbolic (you are taking control of the relationship as her boss) and necessary, since she may be looking as well. By the way, you should have no problems finding someone -- yours seems like a great situation, and while there are many horror stories on here, I know of many more wonderful stories than horrible ones - including mine. To me the key to a good relationship (after thorough vetting) has always been to be friendly, but firm and clear - as my boss is with me! That's exactly what I told her: saying no to those two months in Europe is saying no to working for us. So if she doesn't work for us over the summer, there's no point in having her with us at all. Her visa expires beginning of February and my husband was going to renew it next week so depending on how things go these next few days, we will then renew it or not). I had really bad experiences with previous maids and she is the only one that made us happy at least till now. I rather have her decide that she wants to leave than fire her but of course, if she doesn't work 11 months of this year with us whether it's in Dubai or not, she will force me to let her go.

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Latest post on 22 January 2014 - 21:16

Why negotiate with the maid or her father? why listen to her stories about her boyfriend or speculate what are the reasons of her refusing to travel with you? She is a maid, when you hired her I assume you told her that she is expected to take care of your LO while you are giving birth, so why listen to a maid story? If she refused in the first place, just cancel her visa, ask her dad to look for another job for her, while she will work until her 30 days, by the end of it send her home, then you can find another maid -make sure the old maid do not know the maid or how she look or what is her name.....- and just before you travel, send her on vacation to her home, after you arrive uae wait for the new maid to arrive and start working. you can do this trip with your LO and your parents should be able to look after your LO while having the baby, you are not the first or the last woman that will give birth of her second child while LO is been taken care of him/her with family, it will be only couple of days in the hospital then you will go to your parents house with second child. Don't let the maid take you for a ride, whatever are her reasons for refusing travelling with you, you don't need to know it, I suspect anyone refuse to do part of his/her job because they don't want it anymore, other posters gave you valuable advices and this is my add on them. If you have the sit down and confronted her of a) telling her dad about boyfriend Or b) trying to know the reasons why she doesn't travel. etc will only make her give in to travel with you, but she won't be happy, she will get back at you, she could just go to police station then claim she is trafficked to her, she could just runaway while in EU, she could do anything horrible with your LO - like these 2 horrific stories in 7 Days today....anything could happen, you don't want to be in the position of not trusting her and thinking of bad cases over this, this is supposed to be a happy time for your family, don't get the maid drama in your family life, so.....why cross that bridge - sit down with her - if you already have some doubts over her? IMO, cancel her, tell her dad about her notice - hence she is using him as an excuse - and get a new one, and travel with your LO to your family.....if you can afford giving the maid her double salary, then you will be fine finding a babysitter back home to babysit your LO over there.... this is my five cent. I don't know the reason why she refused to travel with us. I think her father probably has nothing to do with all of this, and if he found out he would be very upset, for sure, because he was very happy having his daughter work for us. The reason why I'm allowing her those 2-3 days to think about continuing working with us or not is because before all this took place, both my husband and I were extremely happy with her so I thought it would be reasonable to allow her that time to think about what she wants. I definitely don't want her to come with us to Europe if she's going to be resentful and have a negative attitude; it would be way worse than her not going at all. I haven't seen what's on 7 days today. Going to check it out now. Thank you for your help.

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Latest post on 22 January 2014 - 15:59

I told her everything we talked about here in the most gentle way possible. She seemed a bit affected by what I said and nodded the entire time. However, she's asked for 2-3 days to get back to me. I will keep you all posted.

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Latest post on 22 January 2014 - 11:07

Lots of good advice here. I'm of 2 minds, mainly because only you can decide if you want to keep her or not. This may be a ploy she is trying because she is "madly" (there is a reason for that word) in love with her BF. If you are afraid this behavior is a slippery slope of her trying to dictate how and what her job duties are, then I would start looking for a new maid so she'd be settled in by the time your LO arrives. However, if you feel like this is an anomaly in her behavior and she's just testing her boundaries, then I would do the following: Sit down with her and explain that you are worried her father does not realize that he could be costing her her job. Ask her to find a way to reason with him as *she* must know how important it is that she travel with you. Tell her to reason with him because you're sure that once he realizes her job is on the line, he will come around. This way, you'd give her the message without actually threatening to fire her as that, IMO, would be uncomfortable should she decide to stay. You get to still be the good guy, which to me would be quite important if I had a maid who I trusted with my children. Good Luck! I agree with Gentle. Moreover, this little incident is gonna create a divide between you guys. You may even feel you can't trust her anymore... or at least you are disappointed with her. I was very surprised to read that basically she is refusing to help you out (aka doing her job) after you deliver abroad. Whomever she puts first, it is not you or your child (children/family)...which means ... if it were me, this is the beginning of the end, as much good as she may be... I recommend, to play it diplomatically, that you sit her down as mentioned by Gentle. Explain to her that she need to convince her dad (she not you. you dont deal with her family, let her does it), to let her fly otherwise she will lose her job because of "him"... Meanwhile, I highly recommend you start looking for someone else without letting her know. Have a backup plan. Also forget the June break. She might get her break (if she stays with you) by September. Otherwise, you might just terminate her in a month or two and she can enjoy all the break she wants. But regardless, you only can tell about her true colors towards you and your family. But as mentioned by other posters, dont get trapped in believing she is indispensable and irreplaceable. Free yourself from her, if you start feeling, you can't function without her, seriously... Finally, you may want to reconsider you travel arrangements all together. Is it necessary you give birth back home? I mean, if you stay here then she is getting no break. If you need to travel, then you may also consider doing it on your own. I am sure you can do it. Don't depend on her. You will feel empowered :). Good Luck. I just dont like her, for simply giving you all this headache, knowing you are pregnant!!! who would give a pregnant woman things to worry about it, let alone, your boss?! Seriously... Thank you so much. I couldn't have asked for better advice. I'm already thinking about plan B in case this doesn't have a solution.

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Latest post on 22 January 2014 - 10:37

Lots of good advice here. I'm of 2 minds, mainly because only you can decide if you want to keep her or not. This may be a ploy she is trying because she is "madly" (there is a reason for that word) in love with her BF. If you are afraid this behavior is a slippery slope of her trying to dictate how and what her job duties are, then I would start looking for a new maid so she'd be settled in by the time your LO arrives. However, if you feel like this is an anomaly in her behavior and she's just testing her boundaries, then I would do the following: Sit down with her and explain that you are worried her father does not realize that he could be costing her her job. Ask her to find a way to reason with him as *she* must know how important it is that she travel with you. Tell her to reason with him because you're sure that once he realizes her job is on the line, he will come around. This way, you'd give her the message without actually threatening to fire her as that, IMO, would be uncomfortable should she decide to stay. You get to still be the good guy, which to me would be quite important if I had a maid who I trusted with my children. Good Luck! I'm going to sit down with her today and tell her just that. I want to be clear with her & let her decide her future with us.

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Latest post on 22 January 2014 - 10:33

I find this all very bizarre. You are having to beg and plead you maid's DAD and family so that she can do her job? If I told my boss that I couldn't travel for work or that I refused to do my job for 2 months and my boss would have to approach my family to request I do my work, I would be fired! Who does she think she is? Add to that, the fact you're having a baby... You sound like a great and kind employer but she is your staff NOT your friend. It's all well and good showing loyalty but don't forget employees can and will leave at a moments notice if they get a better offer or the situation no longer suits them. I'd get rid and find someone else. That's exactly what I thought the moment she told me she is not going. If I told my boss I would not do what he says, I would be out the door.

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Latest post on 22 January 2014 - 10:31

You are delivering your second baby in the summer and she is refusing to go with you !!!! ..... that is a whole different ballgame. I would absolutely tell her she is coming to Europe or her contract is terminated and she is going home. As others have said, if she is refusing to help you at such a delicate time , then she absolutely has no loyalty to you and your family whatsoever. Plus she has no appreciation or gratitude for all you do for her as a great employer. If it was me, I would absolutely dig my heels in and not allow her call the shots on this one. edited by mum2girls on 22/01/2014 This is exactly why I'm so disappointed. We've been nothing but good to her & when I need her most she goes and refuses to help me. I wouldn't see this woman in my way and the only thing I would be saying to her dad is - she has said its because she doesn't want to leave you but I suspect its really because she doesn't want to leave her boyfriend, but even so I am giving her notice and by the 1st of March she will no longer be employed by us and she will be going home. And In the mean time I'd be looking for another maid asap so she qualifies for Schengen/UK visas by next summer. As for this summer I believe you are well and truly snookered but even so the last thing I would be doing is negotiating with the maid or her dad. It just would not happen. Your baby is due in the summer and it will be hard but unless there is something you haven't mentioned about extenuating circumstances there really is no reason why you cant go on holiday with your children and without your husband and manage without help. People do it all the time, full time, and with more than two children. Please try to stop panicking and being scared because all its doing is building up a bigger belief in your mind, and probably the maids as well, that she is way more important in your life than she actually is. edited by DesertRose1958 on 22/01/2014 You're right, I am very fortunate and I will be OK without her help if she doesn't come with me to Europe. I am just a bit hurt I guess, didn't expect this. I need to speak to her today and find a solution.

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Latest post on 22 January 2014 - 09:58

is she live in or live out? Live in Then why are you letting her see a BF? is this only going to lead to problems? where is she from? She sees her bf on her day off. She is from Sri Lanka, 26 years old. We have always been very happy with her...

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Latest post on 22 January 2014 - 09:50

You are delivering your second baby in the summer and she is refusing to go with you !!!! ..... that is a whole different ballgame. I would absolutely tell her she is coming to Europe or her contract is terminated and she is going home. As others have said, if she is refusing to help you at such a delicate time , then she absolutely has no loyalty to you and your family whatsoever. Plus she has no appreciation or gratitude for all you do for her as a great employer. If it was me, I would absolutely dig my heels in and not allow her call the shots on this one. edited by mum2girls on 22/01/2014 This is exactly why I'm so disappointed. We've been nothing but good to her & when I need her most she goes and refuses to help me.

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Latest post on 22 January 2014 - 09:49

is she live in or live out? Live in

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Latest post on 22 January 2014 - 09:25

Good luck Chico. You seem like a good employer, don't let yourself be taken advantage of. Thank you. I appreciate your kind words and all the advice given by everyone.

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Latest post on 22 January 2014 - 09:19

Wether it's her boyfriend or her dad, I don't think she can refuse going to Europe with you. Especially since she will be taking her leave in June. She is obviously taking you for a ride. 3 months away from her family?! Too good to be true. So if she continues to refuse, I would end her contract now and hire a new maid, since she doesn't seem to care as much as you think. She must know how important it is for you to have her around when your baby us born. And sure, the new maid will not be able to travel with you, but neither is your current maid if she refuses. Alternatively, if you really want to keep her, you could cancel her June leave and change it to either July or August. I'm going to tell her that I want to speak with her dad and I will explain to him all we've discussed here. Wish me luck

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Latest post on 22 January 2014 - 09:10

Will you be near to your family or friends while you are away in Europe? Fortunately I'll be with my parents but my husband won't be around because he has to work :(

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Latest post on 22 January 2014 - 08:56

I think she just doesn't want to go. Misses her friends, her independence. My maid doesn't like to travel with us. But she does. Every time. I've been thinking about this issue pretty much the whole night. I'm beginning to think that she used her dad as an excuse and just doesn't want to to because she has a boyfriend here. She has leave all month of June and was supposed to come with me to Europe July & August. That would be 3 months apart and maybe this is why she refuses to travel. Other than this, I can't think of anything else because we treat her like family, pay her very well, she loves our son, her father likes us very much, etc... However I am concerned with this refusal, wasn't expecting it. I am giving birth to my second baby mid-July and desperately needed her to be there with us to help me out. Finding someone over there to work for me for two months being here in Dubai will be difficult, and I don't know that person enough to be able to leave my son alone. I'm disappointed and worried.

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Latest post on 21 January 2014 - 23:39

Just had another thought ... maybe - if you feel you can trust the father, that is - you could utilise him to 'help' you while you're on holidays? Say, he could pop around and do a check of your garden, make sure water isn't leaking out of pipes or ... whatever (!!) and maybe throw a few dhs his way as recompense for the 'help'? Again, I don't know your living arrangements or whether you have other staff, but it might be worth trying that ploy. As an aside: we don't go away for the whole summer but even when we've been gone for just a few weeks, I do try to get a friend to swing by and see that all is as it should be in our absence. ;) His son also lives here and I believe they live together. This whole situation is very uncomfortable to me. I put myself in that situation, in my previous job, and I could never tell my boss that I will not do something because my dad doesn't want me to.. it's strange, don't you think? We treat her like no one treats their maid... better than most people we know... maybe we're too nice & she thinks she can do what she wants? I definitely won't have her at my house for months doing nothing and pay her. Back in my home country if anyone, doesn't matter what position you have, is told to travel, you either do it or get fired. I don't want to fire her...... I need some good luck with this. Thank you very much for your help though!

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Latest post on 21 January 2014 - 23:03

This might be the wrong advice since I don't know the nationality/religion of your helper, but would it be worth you or your DH having a sit-down with her father and finding out what's causing the issue? With your maid's permission, of course. Maybe her father thinks the trip allowed her to indulge in permissive behaviour or something? Maybe he needs to be reassured of her safety? Maybe he thinks that she's had one O/S trip and doesn't 'need' another one? Maybe he wants her to stay so she can get work in the holidays on the side (and bring in extra money)? Sorry. Clutching for reasons here. Good luck. Don't be sorry, I appreciate you wanting to help me out. She is buddhist. I've met her father many times and I think he really likes us. In fact, he went with her to all her job interviews and he chose us because he thought we were a nice family. The excuse she gave me was that her mother is no longer in Dubai and he doesn't want to be left alone. That's all she said. If we really need her to come with us to Europe and she continues to refuse to do so, what would you do?

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Latest post on 29 October 2013 - 09:06

I wouldn't be able to sleep at night if I knew that because of me a cat & her kittens were killed. So wrong. I have fostered cats since day 1 in Dubai, I've payed for vet bills (I don't have a job!) & I adopted one that kept coming to my house. Calling the municipality is cruel. Sorry if this offends anyone, it's my opinion. Good day.

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Latest post on 12 October 2013 - 17:46

Thanks for the info, greatly appreciated.

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Latest post on 11 April 2013 - 13:24

Hi SQ, did you finally find a job?? I am desperate to start working! I don't understand why there are literally NO temp jobs in this city! Hope someone on this thread found something worthwhile.

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Latest post on 19 February 2013 - 15:38

Hi, I am considering building a concrete pool but I need to know how much it costs. Can you please tell me how much you spent in total? Thanks

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Latest post on 11 December 2012 - 16:13

First of all, let me tell you that you are not doing anything wrong! I also refused to go with Howdra or Explorer. The fact that the maid is getting only 1000 while I pay 2700 is not fair in my opinion. I rather sponser myself which cost me 7K Dirhams in total. I have learned a lot from the ladies on EW and friends. Finding someone reliable to live with you is not an easy task. You have to keep looking. Imagine a company that needs to fill a good position. They will probably hunt for the best person out there. And that might take a while. I was lucky to find a girl after a month. But let me tell you that I have interviewed some maids that completely shocked me. I was offering 2K (they have to provide personal stuff and foods themselves). Except of course the food they cook for us. They were welcome to eat that. I had some asking me for metro cards, tv channels in their language and Etisalat plans. It just takes time. You are offering a good salary. But you might not find a maid that is already here and working as a maid. But maybe one with a visit visa that you could transfer. I have noticed that many maids are looking for "rich" people. They usually want to make at least 2k these days. But there are many others that are looking for a nice family that provides the extras like you. Just keep looking and interviewing. You will get one. Many prefer western people for some reason. Cheers I guess I just have to be patient, you're right. Thanks a lot for the advice :)

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Latest post on 11 December 2012 - 15:22

I contacted two agencies: Explorer (they said they would get back to me, never did) and Howdra (they contacted me 2 weeks after I called them and they have 1 girl available but we're not interested). Price is also a factor, I find it expensive to get a maid through an agency (2,700 month salary, 3000 fee, 5000 deposit). Other maids I contacted was via Dubizzle. I don't know where else to look. I am offering 1,500, visa, accommodation, food, toiletries, a ticket to their home country once a year .... We are European. Maybe I'm doing something wrong??

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