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Latest post on 17 April 2014 - 12:40
I have a slightly different take on it. My DH works long hours and does a lot of travel. I don't. So my primary job is to look after my family. When we go away over summer, leaving DH here alone to look after himself I do a few things to hopefully make the stay easier on him. I would feel guilty if I get to travel to nicer places for a month or more and he gets to stay home and work over the horrible summer. I put lots of pre made meals in the freezer and ensure the cupboards are stocked with things he likes (including drinks). I get a maid service for once a week and make sure the person coming is aware that they need to do the ironing etc. Of course my DH can cope with a few weeks alone - but my hopefully doing all I can before I go will make it easier on him. <em>edited by australiajudy on 17/04/2014</em>
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Latest post on 12 April 2014 - 20:27
We travel with a bubble bum and a regular maxi cosi booster - for our 5 and 8 year olds. The bubble bum gets deflated and rolled for quick access for the 8 year old. The booster gets pulled in half (the seat part comes off) and we get it wrapped in that plastic wrap at the airport before checkin. we put the seat part flat against the back bit and it puzzles together really well and when wrapped it is nice and neat. We just then check it in as regular luggage and some airports make you take it to the oversize section. You cannot use a booster on board a plane but you can use a seat with inbuilt straps that has an approved for airplane use approval sticker on it. We have done it but found it not that great (pain in the butt). I would not use a bubble bum for a child of only 15 kg and 108 cm. I use it for a 25kg and 128 cm 8 year old. I would not allow my 5 year old who is about 18kg to use it except in an emergency.
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Latest post on 01 April 2014 - 20:43
There is differing research around the world and customs are different. I generally follow Australian recommendations (obviously what I am used to). The current research on allergies is that exclusive breastfeeding for between 4 and 6 months is the best start. As baby shows interest in food then it should be introduced - along side breastfeeding and not as a replacement. Food always after breastfeeding. Food is fun until 12 months but an important development support and can top up stores of nutrients such as iron. There is no evidence to suggest that delaying allergen type food reduced the risk of allergies - actually studies show the opposite. As such - all foods are encouraged early. In particular high iron foods early on. Egg, milk, nuts (not whole nuts as they are a choking risk), fish, shellfish etc should not be delayed but introduced earlier. I didn't give any of the baby cereals. they are nutritionally void and don't really add to the nutrient levels in the baby. they are also constipating. i just gave real foods and mostly encouraged baby to feed themselves.
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Latest post on 31 March 2014 - 08:49
At that age you need to keep him in a seat with an inbuilt harness. I wouldn't recommend going to a booster until about age 4.5 years old. I have an Australian standard seat that is for 8 - 26 kg if you would like it for a very reasonable price. It does have a top tether so you do need anchor points in the car to install it properly. It attached via seatbelt and tether (like all Australian seats).
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Latest post on 25 March 2014 - 19:49
Golfs with DSG have a known gearbox fault - it has been the reason for recalls all over the world. My Dh's new R had the fault - and it stopped twice on SZR when he was going over 100km an hour. Regardless to say we sold the thing really fast! But the 2007 models are pre the fault. We had a 2008 model and it is still going strong back in Australia. There is another VW service centre called Deutsche Technik who might be able to help. i would try them at least. We have a VW Tiguan here in Dubai and it is serviced under contract with Al Nabooda. They are hopeless and if they weren't free for me I would take it somewhere else.
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Latest post on 25 March 2014 - 11:00
A June baby will be 4 years old when they start FS1 (if you hold them back the year). They will turn 5 in the last month of the academic year. So they are likely to be the oldest in the class but not by a whole year older. Obviously there will be some kids who start at just 3 years old and turn 4 by the next year - but in Dubai there is often a few kids who are older anyway because of moving countries etc. My DS (who is August baby and held back) does not stand out in the class at all. He is academically ahead of most of his class in some areas (he would be ahead regardless of his year grouping) and more average in other areas. He isn't particularly tall or sporty either. I would enrol him for 2015 and see how he is closer to the time. september 2015 is a long way away at the moment...
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Latest post on 25 March 2014 - 09:50
On the KHDA law I understand it does not yet apply in Dubai - only in Abu Dhabi. I am another one who supports holding back August babies. The research on the really young group (the summer babies of June, July and August) is that they do statistically worse than the older groups. Obviously, some children are ready and some are not - but on average they do worse. This extends all the way through school. Having spent some time in classes up to year 3 - it is often obvious who is younger and who is older. I have held my August baby back. We are Australian so July and August babies automatically go to the year behind as our cut off it end June (but to start the January after - so minimum age 4.5 for FS2 equivalent). We also have British citizenship and were considering a move to the UK and all my reading of the rules there supports that parents of summer babies can choose without too much grief. My boy is very bright as well, toilet trained at just 2 years old, at 8 years old has a reading age of a 14 year old! But I am so glad he is only in year 3 and not the baby in year 4.
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Latest post on 25 March 2014 - 08:31
Regardless of the services at Rashid hospital.....you would be insane to move to Dubai without comprehensive health insurance as a part of your package of employment. It should be all encompassing and cover the entire family.
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Latest post on 24 March 2014 - 09:05
If you read my original post - I am not looking for dune bashing. I am looking for an alternative way to get a desert experience for a visitor with a baby. If we need to travel in a vehicle we will bring a baby carseat ourselves. I was thinking maybe that some of the desert hotels might do a dinner in the desert or similar....
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Latest post on 16 March 2014 - 19:44
I understand that if you are getting Australian documents done for UAE (and they are the originals) then it is a 2 step process. DFAT - Authentification that the document is stamped and signed as true and correct and that the signature is real. $20 (you can get it done in 1 day at the various state offices). They have a postal service. UAE Embassy in Canberra - put a stamp on it. Can't remember the cost but about $80 from memory. We attached a cover letter and a cheque and it was back really quickly. My understanding is that you only need a notary public if the document is a copy - and it is usually cheaper to get a duplicate original than pay a special lawyer the extra fee for their signature (which is about $200). I have 3 original duplicates of all our important stuff. If you have someone in Australia and can get them to do it - it would be cheaper.
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Latest post on 15 March 2014 - 10:23
Can anyone tell me if it's the same channel for Etisalat? Had very cranky DH this morning...he's gone away for work now but need to sort this out for the next race.
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Latest post on 13 March 2014 - 10:15
I would seek a second and third opinion from a doctor who is used to seeing intact little boys. Something rare here as many nationalities routinely circumcise - so many doctors will be not used to seeing and treating intact penises. They will be used to seeing circumcised boys and will be more inclined towards surgical procedures. I would possibly seek out a British or Australia or European general practitioner (from countries with low rates of circumcision) - rather than a surgeon (who is obviously going to recommend surgery as this is their specialty). Unless your son is experiencing pain or ongoing infection it is very very rare for 3 years to require circumcision for real medical reasons. It is very common for 3 years to be unable to retract their foreskin - this is perfectly normal and of no need for concern in itself. As long as retraction is possible at puberty this is fine. If you are using the steroid cream to achieve retraction because the doctor thinks retraction is necessary I wouldn't bother. Quite often when you stop it will tighten again naturally. Increasing testosterone as the boy ages is the trigger for retraction. http://www.doctorsopposingcircumcision.org/info/retraction.html
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Latest post on 08 March 2014 - 09:11
If you get a picture you like (from an online maternity store) you can get it made in Satwa.
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Latest post on 08 March 2014 - 07:54
Almost everything contains sugar. Milk contains sugar as does fruit. If yoghurt is made from milk then yes of course it has sugar in it! (lactose to be precise) Maybe you mean 'added sugar'? If this is your question then no - the basic natural yoghurts like al ain don't have sugar added to them. Other yoghurts like greek and fruit yoghurts generally have sucrose added (sugar from cane). But mungomango is correct - the carbohydrate in yoghurt is ALL sugar. Sugar is the most basic of the carbohydrates - and it is in almost everything we eat to some level. I would recommend that you make an appointment with a good dietician. Because 'avoiding all sugars' is near impossible unless you are going to live on water and diet coke.
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Latest post on 24 February 2014 - 16:38
I can't recommend Urban Energy highly enough - they are wonderful I have run with them for 2 seasons now - starting from being unable to run 300 metres to being able to do 10km without dying! There is also another girl I ran with who started unable to briskly walk 1km and did the 10k as well. She started with a personal training package and progressed to a running package a few months later. It's a lovely social company and their group classes are great fun with lovely women participating. They have both female and male personal trainers depending on what you want.
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Latest post on 22 February 2014 - 18:40
We don't have a car park for parents as such - we have two entrances with drop off zones. Yes the principal does stand there sometimes - as do other senior staff. both entrances are also covered by security guards. It doesn't help! the standard of driving by both parents and drivers is appalling. It does my head in. I am so appalled by the driving and rudeness and complete lack of any consideration for other people that I park away and walk.
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Latest post on 22 February 2014 - 07:48
When is your daughters birthday. My October 2008 son (so 5 years and 4 months old now) is only in Foundation Stage 2. If your daughters birthday is after September 2008 she will be in the same year as him - FS2 and not year 1. I know lots of people who are happy with Safa school.
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Latest post on 23 January 2014 - 12:07
It's still pretty much a sure thing for entry to JC. There was some talk when they were trying to move JC but at the moment almost every child from JPS who wants to go to JC gets in without issue.
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Latest post on 23 January 2014 - 10:35
Kings. JPS is crowded, the classes are too big. the playground for the older children is hideous with no shade at all. playtimes are chaotic. the teaching quality is variable. However...with one disclaimer. If you need a secondary spot it gives you pretty much a guaranteed spot at JC. Whereas Kings only has a new secondary school that is just a startup. If I had a FS1 kid - Kings. But if I was looking at year 5 - JPS for the spot at JC....
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Latest post on 22 January 2014 - 17:35
Australia doesn't have IBAN's. You need the bank name, branch (sometimes the address) plus the 6 digit BSB plus the Account number (which can be of variable length depending on the bank) So - Bank, Branch, BSB, Account # Good luck!
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Latest post on 20 January 2014 - 11:02
Neonatal ICU and delivery isn't necessary at 12 weeks pregnant unless they are here for over 3 months.
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Latest post on 20 January 2014 - 09:53
I don't usually (although I have a copy of my husbands passport and visa with me anyway). But I am white and have an australian passport in the same name as my kids. My sister - who is white with an australian passport and married to an indonesian muslim who is brown DOES. Her baby looks nothing like her and has a different last name. She does this wherever in the world she goes (if not with her husband).
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Latest post on 18 January 2014 - 15:07
You can get Unsweetened Cranberry Juice Concentrate at the pharmacy in Mercato. Not sure how you could use it though - even with water in it's almost undrinkable. You have to add sugar to make it palatable....
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Latest post on 13 January 2014 - 15:59
My children were born in Australia and blood grouping is not a standard test at all. I do not know the blood group of either of my children. I have O positive blood group (as do about 90% of the population) so there is no risk of rhesus incompatibility between me and them. In an emergency, a hospital will always give O negative blood (universal donor blood) and they will not rely on the patient or third party to know their blood group for them. they will test the patient and then if further blood is needed this would be given. I see no reason for knowing the blood group of your baby (except if you want to rule out paternity issues.....)
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Latest post on 13 January 2014 - 09:47
The urine tests are very accurate and can detect very early. i would just do that - it is just as reliable. most countries no long do the blood test because the pharmacy available sticks are so reliable.
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Latest post on 13 January 2014 - 08:09
You do not need to wash a child's hair every day. Actually you don't need to wash adult hair every day either! I have washed my kids hair every 7 days (usually Saturday night as a ritual) for years without issue. As kids we only had our hair washed weekly. And no their hair does not look dirty or unclean. Washing hair will not prevent nits. Nits don't care whether the hair is clean or dirty at all. To prevent nits you need to ensure that hair is checked regularly and tied up in a neat style (buns, plaits etc) every day for school/nursery. A spray of coconut oil with a small dash of tea tree oil over the top will deter the little critters but NOTHING will prevent them 100%.
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Latest post on 11 January 2014 - 11:14
A few of my nieces and one sister have very curly hair. This is what they do. Wash only once a week. While it is wet and has conditioner in, comb it through to detangle and then rinse. After washing just gently dry with a towel and leave it alone. My sister who's hair is long wraps it in a towel to dry. They do not brush their hair during the week when it is dry as this makes it frizzy. I know they put it in a pony tail for school/work but never brush it - only use hands to put into the shape and then use the tie/elastic. There is no need to wash every day - this is overkill for a child and just creating work for yourself. rejoice in the curls!
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Latest post on 11 January 2014 - 08:47
I hate the Bioderma spf 100 sunscreen. it feels horrible. For my face (very very white, very sensitive, acne prone) I use QV Face Cream with spf 15. Spf 15 is high enough for an every day sunscreen and this works as a moisturiser. If I am going to the beach or will be in the sun for an extended time I use an invisible zinc based sunscreen in spf 50. After spf 50 there is really no benefit whatsoever and gives you a false sense that you are more protected - when in reality you are not.
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Latest post on 04 January 2014 - 15:44
Apparently out of stock across Dubai at the moment...
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Latest post on 04 January 2014 - 15:34
I would rather not pay any penalty. I would like to be able to give 2 months notice - stay the 2 months and get the rest back as we leave. i see no reason why a landlord should get 2 months rent free out of me when I am not living there. its not like they will leave it empty for 2 months - so essentially they make 2 months for nothing... As I said, I am willing to negotiate a small annual increase in exchange for the clause...
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Latest post on 04 January 2014 - 15:18
Anyone else?
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Latest post on 02 January 2014 - 16:57
My DH uses them to look after his pride and joy....A Merc C63. The guy who runs it is British (or something) and apparently very good. <em>edited by australiajudy on 02/01/2014</em>
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Latest post on 02 January 2014 - 16:42
I can't give advice on ALL your questions (never had a baby in Dubai) but can help on some. antenatal classes - I found these to be very valuable. Mine were given by the midwives at the birthing centre where I was booked to have my first baby. I also attended a physiotherapist run class on 'natural delivery' methods that included massage, breathing and other natural techniques for pain relief. I found they were helpful for my DH who has no idea of the whole thing and little interest in doing his own research. I went onto have 2 natural deliveries with no pain relief at all. I think this was helped by the classes that I attended. I am the sort of person who likes knowledge and also likes to be control at all times so the classes for me were just a part of this learning process. Breast Pump - my first DS was born early (36 weeks) and very small (2.0kg). He didn't feed well for a while and so I pumped in addition to breastfeeding him every 3 hours and then gave it to him as a top up until he reached 2.5 kg. I used an electric pump for the first 2 weeks and then used a manual pump from then on. After the initial few weeks I only pumped if i needed to go out. With my second DS - who was on time and a normal size (2.8kg) I didn't pump at all in the beginning. We just established feeding naturally. It was so so much more relaxing. I didn't pump until he was a few weeks old and I wanted to go to an exercise class without him. I only ever used a manual pump with him. I would not bother getting an expensive electric pump unless the need arises, at which stage you should be able to get one quickly. The Medela ones are usually the most recommended.
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Latest post on 09 December 2013 - 20:46
My DS1 had night terrors - he would get them about 2 hours after going to sleep. after about 12 months we knew exactly what triggered them. If they are night terrors there is likely to be some triggers! Night terrors almost always happen not that long after they go to sleep and for us my son never remembered them. For us they were: - going to bed tired (if he had a big day he would always have one) and they were at the worst just after he dropped his day sleep. we found an earlier bed time over a prolonged period helped. and - getting overheated (we solved this with air-conditioning, cotton pjs and cotton sheeting only and removing his thick blanket that he loved to snuggle under). For us a very very strict bedtime routine helped. Ie. dinner at 5.30, quiet time until bath at 6.45. bed and books and 7.00. it took a while but as he became less tired, the night wakings ceased. seems illogical but as they say 'sleep begets sleep'.
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Latest post on 09 December 2013 - 20:30
At 31 weeks stop worrying. If you want to be proactive visit a site www.spinningbabies.com
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Latest post on 09 December 2013 - 20:28
rather than lumpy mash which I can imagine I would gag on - why not try normal food. eg. penne pasta, pieces of meat, sandwiches, meatballs, rice cakes etc. stuff they can pick up and eat themselves. moving to regular food is an important milestone and also assists in speech development as it works on the appropriate muscles. if you continue to have gag issues when eating lumpy food I would visit a child speech therapist who is trained in this type of issue. And on the issue of a straw. That is a good way to transition from a bottle which really should be ditched after 12 months. children should NEVER drink anything but milk or water from a bottle. this is a primary cause of tooth decay. I would be making a very rapid move away from formula. Formula at this age replaces nutrients from real food and makes a child less hungry for the real stuff.
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Latest post on 09 December 2013 - 20:23
I always reused our disposable swim nappies. I would wash and hang out on the line. As PP have said - they don't actually catch wee! After my first I bought a reusable swim nappy which was a layer of lycra and layer of plastic stuff. with nice tight elastic legs and waist. heaps nicer.
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Latest post on 09 December 2013 - 20:21
What time is he waking?
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Latest post on 06 December 2013 - 20:41
I would try the GEMS schools. Try the new Wellington Al Khail which will almost definitely have spots. They will probably require a full time aide but they do it all the time.
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Latest post on 06 December 2013 - 20:39
At the age of 1 most toddlers can eat whatever the family is eating (maybe modified if really spicy or salty). This is also the time to be looking at reducing milk as the main source of calories. Moving to a sippy cup for milk is a good idea around 12 months. You also do not need to give a healthy child formula at all from 12 months. just 3 serves of dairy is fine. at 1 year my kids ate all sorts of food from all cultures (as we are australian we don't really have a national cuisine as such). they ate japanese curry (we travelled to japan when my second child was 13 months), chicken katsu, noodles, pasta, roast meats, lasagne (was and still a favourite), mild indian curries, mild thai curries (cooked by their thai aunty), risotto, dim sum, deconstructed hamburgers. It would have been rare for me not to be able to find something on the menu at any restaurant. Other ideas are home made nuggets - get creative - made of minced or fresh chicken breast, a mix of lentils and vegetables, potato and salmon, risotto balls etc etc. by 12 months they are also mostly competent enough to feed themselves (although it is messy). I did pre make some kids meals for times when they ate much earlier than us. this for us was usually mild curries, stews or pasta sauces. then i would just cook the carbohydrate fresh (rice, pasta, potatoes etc).
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Latest post on 27 November 2013 - 21:56
At least I don't have to tell a little white lie to the school...was going to chuck a sickie and let the kids have a 6 day weekend for a sneaky trip to London. I'm saving my approved (up to 10 days) leave for another holiday later in the year. hehe
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Latest post on 25 November 2013 - 21:19
That seems a very big ask for a class rep! A class rep at our school would never be asked to do that sort of activity planning. to help: maybe trying some local food henna some games using maps maybe do you have any locals in your class - maybe a great opportunity for their parents involvement?
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Latest post on 25 November 2013 - 19:54
It is definitely sunday, monday and tuesday - it was in the newsletter last week.
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Latest post on 21 November 2013 - 21:21
Ours is a BC school....
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Latest post on 21 November 2013 - 21:03
I'm getting one for Christmas. My only recommendation (as passed to me from my mum and her sister who have them) is to get a separate frother to the coffee bit (technical term I know). The frother is apparently much more prone to breaking down and generally not last as long, so you want to be able to replace it separately should the need arise.
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Latest post on 21 November 2013 - 20:58
Not necessarily Irooni At our school they allow up to turning 3 in the middle of September to start in that September! There is a little girl in my son's class who turned 4 in the third week of FS2 (so yes she was still 2 years old when she started FS1). It's madness if you ask me. she is a baby and now at full time school being pushed to read.
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Latest post on 21 November 2013 - 15:16
http://www.telegraph.co.uk/education/9843971/Summer-born-children-at-bottom-of-the-class-warn-experts-and-parents.html This has some information and links that may be of interest.
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Latest post on 21 November 2013 - 15:13
I would definitely consider holding back a late August boy. Unless they are academically exceptional and emotionally advanced research shows that the younger kids do statistically worse (yes there will be stories of 'my kid coped' but overall the research does not support this). Not just in the early years but through the entire of their schooling. The British system here pushes too early and too hard. Learning to read if you are older is so much easier and will be less of a struggle. I watched my older child start reading at age 6.5 years and it was a breeze. He overtook the kids who'd been learning for 2 years already and just flew. To say FS2 is just play is not true at all. I have an FS2 boy (he is one of the oldest) and they have a play based system but they are well and truly doing academics.
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Latest post on 18 November 2013 - 20:35
No - he gets a great big gift....it's call his FEE!
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Latest post on 18 November 2013 - 20:29
We are there now.....so i tread carefully.... 80% of the experience you get at school is dependent on the teacher. Of the 5 teachers we have experienced at JPS. 2 have been outstanding and wonderful (I can't say enough good stuff about them!). 1 was okay but didn't suit my child (but I can't fault her as a teacher but her my my child just didn't really match), 1 was mediocre and 1 was/is absolutely a waste of teaching space and her head of year is no better. The class sizes are too big. This is my biggest concern especially given the very big diversity of backgrounds and the reality of Dubai that children come and go. the uniforms are stupid - white shirts and ties..... Lunchtimes are chaotic and there is no shade in the playground for the older children (my child hates break time - he is not sporty). The school has expanded beyond it's physical capacity. You definitely get the feel that it is a 'for profit' school. Yes, but you live with this as unless you get a JESS, DESS or JAPS spot. On the balance it's fine and the general academic standard is acceptable. I hate the very busy timetable that sees the kids marching around all day from room to room ( but when you have arabic, french, swimming, music and pe this is how it seems to be). I am glad that JPS won't be the only educational experience my children have. I won't be sad to say goodbye to it when we leave but that said it's not bad. Had I have had a spot at a non profit (which I didn't) it's probably the best of the second tier schools in Dubai.