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Latest post on 17 May 2014 - 23:18
Busybee - not sure why I would have done a search when I had done it last year with other DD's and it took two weeks to get back. I went online and the form said allow four weeks so didn't even think to search as had no idea potential problems.
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Latest post on 17 May 2014 - 23:16
Didn't want to do Feb when I realised as travelling early April. Hadn't realised I could do one day service in UK and as travelling around with no fixed abode I hadn't wanted to do it in UK. If only I had known I wouldn't have sent it off. Website said four weeks and DD last year was back in two weeks.
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Latest post on 17 May 2014 - 23:09
I am just very frustrated that there was no warning on the website. We were travelling at Easter and passport doesn't expire till Oct but she wouldn't get back into Dubai in Aug as not three months validity left on it. Nine weeks seemed like plenty of time and only in last week did I start to read of the problems. If only I had known....I could have renewed in one day in UK.
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Latest post on 11 May 2014 - 21:02
Anit..you are talking about hepatitis B but hepatitis A is prevalent in Qatar. It is transferred by contaminated food or water and can lead to irreversible liver damage. <em>edited by Buddha on 11/05/2014</em>
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Latest post on 11 May 2014 - 05:42
Some people still walk in summer and I know a fair few who still run. It may not be pleasant but it's not impossible.
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Latest post on 10 May 2014 - 14:33
Google LeavesDubai or join the Facebook group with same name. Set up by two women who recently split and very supportive. They've had a lot of positive press coverage recently. Monthly meetings and advice from lawyers etc.
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Latest post on 09 May 2014 - 08:36
PS I know you said you would never ask someone for a lift but seriously with the DESS mums particularly if you have children at DESS and DESC and kids who are in several sports team then you have to ask for lifts - life just wouldn't work if we didn't do that as impossible to be in two different places at one and often this is required. No one minds and people are generally open to giving lifts. I have posted on DESS Facebook on occasion re my DD requiring a lift...always had people offer and yes, it is sometimes people I don't know but it doesn't seem to matter. Likewise, I have given lifts to other children. Mums with kids at both schools tend to be able to reciprocate less than mums with kids only at DESS but it all works out and no one ( that I know of, lol) keeps a tally. Also, our class rep gave out ( with parent's permission) a list of who lived where so we could identify who lived near us.
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Latest post on 08 May 2014 - 22:35
I suspect there may have been a misinterpretation of the info re lower levels of sports. As far as I know it is only swimming where kids at DESS are put into ability sets. Being in a lower swimming set particularly at age 6 often only means that the child hasn't had as many swimming lessons as other kids in her class. Often little to do with ability but just whether or not children have had many lessons. I'm pretty sure other sports are not segregated out into levels so unsure how the teacher can make that sort of comment.
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Latest post on 08 May 2014 - 17:20
I would reiterate all that starsouthern said plus what some other posters said. Def join DESS mums Facebook as that will help put you in touch with mums. Speaking to the teacher re your concerns would be another way forward. My youngest moved from Uk to DESS two years ago - she was a very sporty girl in uk and very popular in class there. She did find it tough the first few months to settle in at DESS but once she did she never looked back. Again, it was networking with other mums and arranging play dates that helped a lot. I know you say you don't drive but perhaps arrange one afternoon a week to go pick her up yourself and taxi home which will help meet other parents. I also enlisted the help of the teacher. If she isn't particularly sporty there are many other non sporty after school clubs which she could join.
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Latest post on 27 April 2014 - 17:18
Depending where you live in AR it may be quicker to exit at Polo club entrance, straight down Umm Sequim and onto Al Khail Road then follow signs for Latifa hospital. Approx twenty mins from polo club.
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Latest post on 26 April 2014 - 16:25
My understanding and I am not saying this is def correct but chiropractors tend to focus on correcting the spine and joints ie they make the correct manoeuvre and then expect the tense muscles from things being out of place to release as a result of making the correction. Osteopaths tend to work other parts of the body as well as spine....they often do soft tissue work first to loosen the muscle BEFORE making the adjustment as they tend to believe that tight muscles may be contributing to pulling vertebrae or joints out of places. As others said, you will often find a cross over between how they treat and some osteopaths will treat more like chiropractors and vice versa. This is purely anecdotal but in my experience a chiropractor will make the adjustment in the area where the discomfort or pain is presenting, often this can be enough but an osteopath tends to look at the entire body. The osteopath I use in UK totally looks at every single part of my body no matter what problem I present with. He then makes adjustments as he works up the body. The most important thing is to find a good one. I personally would be looking for one who looks at the whole body and not just at where the problem is presenting. I also believe some soft tissue work is also important but these are purely my opinions.
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Latest post on 16 April 2014 - 09:41
From what I checked last week it is 6 month validity required unless you have residency visa when only 3 months. Fingers crossed as I only have 5.5 months validity and fly back on Fri.
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Latest post on 06 April 2014 - 11:29
I flew yesterday but online check in wouldn't work..hope it works in summer. It just kept telling me there was a problem with my booking but at the desk there was no problem. Will def attempt online check in summer.
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Latest post on 06 April 2014 - 11:16
Nt sure how would know as I bought ticket last summer and it says terminal 3.
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Latest post on 06 April 2014 - 10:51
That is a worry. Can I ask which airline it was.
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Latest post on 05 April 2014 - 09:22
Use it all the time as do several of my friends. No problem at all. Yep, there is a stretch maybe 10km which is single lane but there is a hard shoulder and trucks tend to use that. Loads of cars use it. I've never felt any more unsafe on it than anywhere else in Dubai and the 611 is fab.
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Latest post on 03 April 2014 - 18:28
Layan and Al Waha are great although prices have gone up a bit recently. Look under Dubai properties for Layan and Al Waha is individual landlords. Remraan is Dubai properties as well so I think facilities will go in eventually. Access from Layan and Al Waha to anywhere in Dubai is pretty quick and easy.
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Latest post on 03 April 2014 - 17:43
Absolutely nothing wrong with living in Dubailand. I do and it's great. A tad more commuting but love it. Some people want to be right in thick of things which probably explains previous comments. As said it depends on age of your children. I suggest you look at the info re cost of different schools which you will find under the education link on this forum. You can then approximate your school g costs. Bear in mind that many schools have no available places at minute and it is often the more expensive schools which still have places. If you are working in Sharjah you cpuld consider renting and schooling in RAK and commuting to Sharjah. Schools and housing are cheaper there. Re buying, lots of reasons why people don't buy but moan reason for me is that if something goes wrong and one defaults on mortgage then you go to jail. As kiten67 said you really need to come and visit and look at the different areas. Like Dubailand, not so sure I would like Sharjah but not really spent any time there so can't really comment.
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Latest post on 03 April 2014 - 11:39
Silvstet...LOL Yes, Veela was talking about moving here with three kids on AED50k which sounds like a lot but if kids all secondary age could actually end yo tough depending where they go to school. Not easy to get school places and I know a couple of people who can only get places at schools costing AED90k per child .
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Latest post on 03 April 2014 - 09:16
Silvstet sorry my comment was aimed at Veela who is talking about moving here with 3 children. I believe original OP decided against the job.
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Latest post on 03 April 2014 - 06:20
If you are paying school fees for your children and they are at secondary then I fear you may find this budget very tight as you could easily be paying out AED20k a month or more on school fees alone, then you have bus fares to school etc. I know several people who live in RAK as accommodation cheaper and nice and then they commute to Sharjah. People do buy, can be tedious to get a mortgage. Quality of buildings not always great and who knows what new rules re ownership may materialise but I do have friends who have bought. Other thing that puts us off is that if buy and lose job or similar misfortune then how to pay. Any debt here can land one in prison. <em>edited by Buddha on 03/04/2014</em>
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Latest post on 01 April 2014 - 20:01
http://www.jacionline.org/article/S0091-6749(12)01696-X/abstract Appears that advice re 6 month solid introduction may be slightly changing as several studies in last year have indicated.
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Latest post on 01 April 2014 - 13:19
There is a group of ladies who play netball in Studio city, near ranches. I think it is wed night at 7pm.
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Latest post on 01 April 2014 - 12:06
One of mine wolfed solids down from before 4 months on paediatrician advice. The other wouldn't touch solids till way past six months. Both have grown up very healthy and eat well with no allergies.
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Latest post on 30 March 2014 - 22:13
Cell phone is switched off as much as possible plus anywhere I have posted I have stated that what I will not do( or allow my kids to do is ) carry my phone touching my body or sleep with it under my pillow. I at no point mentioned sticking it in the garden although I do switch it off as often as possible and certainly would not leave it switched on in the bedroom at night. I also do not appreciate being alluded to as ignorant. You have your opinions, I have mine and this is fine. Different opinions make the world go around. I also stated that I think OP should do her own research and draw her own conclusion as she will get very different answers depending on whom she asks. I have simply stated what I believe and that I don't believe sufficient research has been carried to say for definite that it is safe. It may well be safe but even government agencies acknowledge that more research is required. ( opening a real can of worms here - if it was proven to be harmful, I wonder what would happen as technology has now gone so far down this route that it would be hard to backtrack if it were eventually found to be harmful.)
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Latest post on 30 March 2014 - 21:24
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Latest post on 30 March 2014 - 21:23
...and who says problems haven't manifested. Both my brother and dad had very aggressive forms of cancer - zero cancer in any of past generations ( that's a high percentage with no genetic history, neighbour's son also died young from bone cancer) - at bottom of our garden was an electrical sub station.Was my bother coincidence, did substation combined with carrying his phone in his pocket cause his cancer ? Who knows but I certainly won't be taking the risk and letting my kids carry phones in their pockets nor would I live near a sub station. I don't think any one can say that substations etc def don't cause problems as I don't think many places have attempted to make correlations between those and incidence of cancer. Do hospitals look at locations of cancer patients...nope. Might be interesting to carry out a large scale research project on whether or not certain cancers predominate in certain locations. Not everyone will become ill so to say no problem is like someone who has stayed healthy despite smoking saying that smoking must be harmless because it hasn't harmed them.
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Latest post on 30 March 2014 - 21:14
There is a training hospital in healthcare city who do braces. A lot of my friends use them. Prices are half that off regular orthodontists.
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Latest post on 30 March 2014 - 20:56
Yep, detached house is the way to go. Lolacat, def agree with you but everyone has to make their own decisions. I personally just wouldn't want to risk it until scientists can 100% agree that it is safe. I think kids more susceptible than adults and also believe that it may take a decade or two for any health problems to show up.
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Latest post on 30 March 2014 - 19:56
I'm not convinced. It will take years for long term effects ( if any) to show up. Interestingly , the doctors treating my brother said that until around ten years ago that particular type of sarcoma was almost always only seen on lower limbs but yet in recent years they had seen more and more on chest area exactly where a shirt pocket sits. My advice to OP who asked the original question would be to google and read and then make her own decision. I think people have to draw their own conclusions. For me, I would personally not live within a few metres of a power station . I do not allow my kids to keep their phones in their pockets and I use dial up not broadband. Maybe over the top but my decision and I think everyone has to make their own decision . There HAVE been studies showing how wifi etc affects DNA of living organism . I believe the study you refer to showed no short term problems but so far no long term studies have been done. I. Personally think that if it is a problem it will take a number of years for health problems to show. HPA ( health protection agency) advises that there is no clear scientific evidence of risk but the possibility remains and research is still ongoing with another report due soon. https://www.osha.gov/SLTC/radiation_nonionizing/ <em>edited by Buddha on 30/03/2014</em>
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Latest post on 30 March 2014 - 16:55
tattie Bogle - I had similar issue when they repeatedly asked whether I had a power supply. Couldn't understand why until they mentioned power drills but items I had ordered didn't require assembly.
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Latest post on 30 March 2014 - 13:35
My DH had moderate to severe dilatation of one kidney which was diagnosed after birth. She had no major problems and was checked yearly but around age 10 she was discharged. Her kidney does not operate at full function, but it has not deteriorated since birth. The other kidney functions perfectly and she has only lost around 20% of function in the damaged one. A couple of the doctors said that this is a very common and before ultrasound was rarely diagnosed. They said that there would be many individuals out age walking around with similar conditions but unaware. Obviously I am not a doctor so can't say whether this would pose a major problem but I always took reassurance from fact that it it is totally possible to live a normal life even with one kidney and that often the problem you describe causes no real issues. Out here, I think doctors are quick to push worst case scenarios and request tests. We were actually advised ( not in this country) to have our daughter's kidney removed but yet it has never subsequently caused any problems. It's not easy, but try not to worry. I know there is an EW mum to be who posted recently experiencing similar issues. It may be worth using the search function to find out what advice she was given. Research I did since her birth indicated that this problem often corrects itself during gestation. <em>edited by Buddha on 30/03/2014</em>
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Latest post on 29 March 2014 - 22:06
France has legislated against wifi in schools. Germany recommends cabled computers in schools rather than wifi. Several schools in Canada have removed wifi from schools. I don't personally think enough research has been done on this. For years people insisted smoking was harmless. I hope I'm wrong but I fear I'm not. <em>edited by Buddha on 29/03/2014</em>
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Latest post on 29 March 2014 - 20:53
Only one of many research papers http://www.internationalparentingassociation.org/BrainDevelopment/cellphones.html I know you can find evidence for and against everything but the attached makes for sobering reading.
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Latest post on 29 March 2014 - 20:45
Switch off as often as possible and never carry in my pocket. My brother had a very aggressive sarcoma exactly in position where he carried his phone. Several incidents recently of young women finding breast tumours exactly where they carried phones in shirt pockets. Ditto would never sleep with phone under a pillow.
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Latest post on 29 March 2014 - 20:24
I believe there have been studies showing clusters of illness in houses close to electric substations and pylons. I believe children are much more likely to be affected by this than adults but I personally wouldn't like to live that close. I am also someone who is strongly against the EMG 'smog' which is rapidly increasing in today's society. Wifi is similar as far as I am concerned. I have serious concerns re schools going wireless and the effect this may have on kids. Whole areas of cities going wireless I also feel are areas of concerns. Not enough real studies have been done on this but just try leaving cress seeds within a foot of a wifi router and see what happens. I think all you can do is google and make your own conclusions. We live closer her to electricity pylons than I would personally like but the only positive thing is that the dissipation is exponential so decreases very quickly within a short distance from the power lines. Years ago ,people believed smoking wasn't harmful.
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Latest post on 29 March 2014 - 15:11
A very basic hire car can be had for AED1600 a month which is a bit less than £300.
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Latest post on 29 March 2014 - 14:45
My kids got in Next before Xmas but not sure if still available. They also had adult sizes. <em>edited by Buddha on 29/03/2014</em>
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Latest post on 29 March 2014 - 14:44
I might be wrong but I think a friend said that Gems give discounted school places to TA's. Don't think many schools do though.
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Latest post on 27 March 2014 - 12:52
Sorry to hear things are rough. The first three to six months are always the toughest. In many ways, it's easier for the guys as they have a set routine. I have lived in many countries and always found around 4 to 6 weeks after arrival the toughest. The novelty has worn off but one tends not to have developed routine or made friends. Try and get yourself out to some of the coffee mornings run by EW or join Facebook groups for areas that you are considering. Arabian ranches has a couple of Facebook with different activities happening. You don't need to live in AR to join. Not sure re that age of child as mine older but I believe that most children that age will have started nursery out here by now. Getting him into a nursery would help give him something to do plus help you meet other mums etc. Re work , as long as you have a regular residency visa you can work as what's called local hire. Means you don't get any benefits like housing, schooling etc but it's what a lot of expats do. Re your DH and his work. What is it he doesn't like? Sometimes it can be very overwhelming working here at first and blokes often don't like to admit they finding it difficult so it can be easier to say they don't like it. Sounds as if you need to find out what your DH doesn't like about the job and then look at options for how he can improve things. It will get easier.
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Latest post on 25 March 2014 - 22:46
There is one at Geant in Arabian Ranches
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Latest post on 25 March 2014 - 21:13
What you will have to be careful with is ensuring that currently you have lee way in our budget. We knew it would be tight when came out here but did not count on rent increasing 10% this year and every year school fees have increased. I notice food is more expensive etc. Salaries do not go up a lot. You therefore need to know you have wriggle room in your budget. School fees would be your next issue. Even applying for a school place is generally AED500 per school applied to. Lots of places want rent in 1 or 2 checks which can be a problem. It is workable but you need to consider it very carefully and do all the number crunching.
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Latest post on 25 March 2014 - 17:05
Some companies provide schooling allowance. More and more do not. My DH company does not and this is proving increasingly problematic as school fees are rising all the time. Ensure you get decent medical cover..ours was sooo bad I keep look at taking out one of our own but as we a bit older it would cost AED3k a month upwards for both of us plus the kids. Majority of jobs you will be looking at obtaining will be local hire which means no benefits but I believe some of the GEMS schools may pay housing, schooling if your DH doesn't already get , even for local hire staff. I know staff who get this but whether or not it is still being offered I don't know. Bear in mind that if you start teaching ,the days are long and you will probably have issues around after school child care. In addition, issues if your child is sick. Remraan ( Dubai properties) is a bit out of Dubai but has more affordable accommodation and you get used to the driving partic as the old bypass road which services it rarely has traffic jams etc . You could pretty much get anywhere in Dubai in 30 mins from there. By time we pay school fees, housing, flights etc we have less to live on than you mention but it is tough and I also top up our income with part time work. The other issue with school fees is that they rise as your child gets older. Ie in many schools secondary education is almost double the cost of primary. <em>edited by Buddha on 25/03/2014</em>
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Latest post on 24 March 2014 - 21:54
Pretty sure yours doesn't get done till his is completed. Re how long, how long is a piece of string. Depends on how efficient PRO is and whether correct documents etc have been attested.
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Latest post on 23 March 2014 - 21:52
Whichever one has places as they may not have places at all mentioned schools.
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Latest post on 19 March 2014 - 22:32
Over 15 years since I lived there but I loved it. I was out there as a single woman. To go to beach in Jeddah we had to use and pay for private beaches - ended up being expensive as also had to pay for taxis but snorkelling and diving out of this world. During prayer time the shops would close and you would be locked inside for the duration of the prayers. One of the evening ones was a long one! If you were quick and heard the shutters start to go down you could sometimes duck underneath and exit. Restaurants have family sections where ladies must eat, they can eat with males - meant to be related but if discrete I did on occasion dine with guys. I never wore a head scarf but if I was out with a guy I carried one. Religious police could stop you to ask the guy why head not covered, they could then ask for marriage licence so it was better to carry a scarf to avoid this happening. If you covered immediately you would not get questioned. Not sure about the taxi situation, I used to hail them from the street or malls and did go in them on my own but may have changed. We used to go out into dessert to run in the hash and just wore shorts and shirts there. Banks have special women only rooms. It was only men serving in shops and difficult to try clothes on as few had changing rooms. I worked with Saudi women which was very unusual and found it an amazing experience. Yes, there are restrictions but I knew what I was letting myself in for and never particularly bothered me. Re grape etc, unless you get a close consular friend lol it's impossible to get the real stuff but most folks made their own . Always amused me to find one aisle in a supermarket devoted to everything you need to home brew from siphon tubing to sugar etc. Bacon impossible to get, tampons also were impossible to get. Newspapers and magazines had loads of photos blacked out. They never touched photos of Princess Diana but any flesh showing of other women was blacked out. I think it's what you make of it. I guess we were lucky as not in a compound so kind of carried on oblivious to some of the restrictions. Socially several options - natural history society do trips into desert etc, hash house harriers, rugby club has many social functions so worth joining even if not into rugby, generally a good dramatic society. We had cinema club one night a week projected into a white wall with a break for tea and coffee, very social. My daughters are now teenagers and I would not go there with them but if no kids or younger kids I would not hesitate to go back. Saying that, I was in Jeddah which I think is probably the easiest city to,live in. Hope this helps <em>edited by Buddha on 19/03/2014</em>
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Latest post on 19 March 2014 - 10:53
I am opposite to most. My hair is in way better condition here than in UK. I often wonder if it is because I spend a minimum of an hour a day outside, often more so I guess my Vit D levels etc are high.
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Latest post on 11 March 2014 - 22:54
There have been some interesting uses of homeopathy on animals and placebo effect can't work with them. Vibrational energy is something that very little is currently known about but I feel there is loads that we currently don't know or understand. A hundred years ago if someone had said we could talk into a small piece of plastic and speak to someone on the other side of the world we would have thought them bonkers.
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Latest post on 07 March 2014 - 15:48
List of pharmacies on the Dubai police page. Top left button to obtain in English then scroll down to get list of pharmacies. http://www.dubaipolice.gov.ae/smartphoneservices/en/index.html
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Latest post on 06 March 2014 - 22:22
There are tchibo shops at Outlet Mall, Ibbn Battuta and MCC. I saw them last summer in MCC branch but didn't notice them last time. May be worth calling to ask of any still in stock.