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Latest post on 19 May 2014 - 20:08
I'm finding the thumb distribution on this thread a bit of a puzzle... seems to be a lot of people in favour of slapping kids - my anti slapping post actually got 6 thumbs down !! Who are all these people who approve of it ? Very sad ... or maybe just an indication of the changing demographic on EW...
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Latest post on 19 May 2014 - 16:02
If a neighbour / friend / family member slapped your child (gentle not as in belt) for a genuine reason (ie tormenting the dog after being told numerous times not to), would you be upset? Absolutely !! No such thing as a "genuine reason" for slapping someone else's child (or your own, come to that..).
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Latest post on 18 May 2014 - 21:38
Sorry, way too hot for children and you can't estimate how hot it will be by what it's like now - another 3 weeks will make quite a difference..
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Latest post on 18 May 2014 - 21:35
oh, was a different publication I read it in ....
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Latest post on 18 May 2014 - 21:34
I found the comments very telling...
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Latest post on 18 May 2014 - 21:33
Hi Anybody could give me advice on where to go to have my son's eyes tested ? I have been to the mall, where I usually go for mine but they said it cannot be done there before the age of 12 (government rule apparently). So where should I take him ? any recommendations ? thank you We have ours done at school once a year - could you ask yours if they do the same ?
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Latest post on 18 May 2014 - 19:07
I don't get why people would send money to a private individual in America who says she's going to forward it to the Red Cross ... why not just send it to the Red Cross direct ?? how will the chick in America get rich if we send money direct to red crescent? ohhhhhh yes... silly me !! lol
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Latest post on 18 May 2014 - 19:04
I don't get why people would send money to a private individual in America who says she's going to forward it to the Red Cross ... why not just send it to the Red Cross direct ??
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Latest post on 16 May 2014 - 20:20
If I owned property here i'd be wanting to get the most rent for it that I could....who wouldn't ?
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Latest post on 16 May 2014 - 20:17
Over 85% of people say their salary does not cover their cost of living. A lot higher than I imagined, so less than 20% of people are making ends meet, makes me wonder why would so many people put themselves in a place where they are just treading water financially. http://arabia.msn.com/news/news-poll/84/expats-salary/ edited by Di@DXB on 16/05/2014 [i'>Only just over 3,000 people have taken part so far so hardly a huge sample...[/i'> We don't save much but we don't owe anything either (we don't even have a credit card here) so we're happy to stay - we love the place !! But we are fortunate to still have rent, medical and school fees paid for us. Yes its only a sample poll, but even for a small count the figure are quite stunning and looking at the overall comments on here the consensus would seem to indicate that increasingly more people are living month to month and not saving as they had hoped. Many other reports have been published that would support that too. Do you think a bigger poll would show completely the opposite? Actually, 3000 people is a huge sample. Surveying just 1000 people will give you a margin of error of less than 2 percent out of a million people. @Di, no idea, am not an expert but tbh I don't really rate MSN as a source - personally a bit tabloidy for me...but Guin..er...Mary Todd has answered it anyway... Apparently it's a significant amount...and she should know, it being her field n all ...
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Latest post on 16 May 2014 - 15:49
Over 85% of people say their salary does not cover their cost of living. A lot higher than I imagined, so less than 20% of people are making ends meet, makes me wonder why would so many people put themselves in a place where they are just treading water financially. http://arabia.msn.com/news/news-poll/84/expats-salary/ edited by Di@DXB on 16/05/2014 Only just over 3,000 people have taken part so far so hardly a huge sample... We don't save much but we don't owe anything either (we don't even have a credit card here) so we're happy to stay - we love the place !! But we are fortunate to still have rent, medical and school fees paid for us.
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Latest post on 15 May 2014 - 10:34
That Hessa Street camera has to be the most lucrative one in Dubai !!
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Latest post on 14 May 2014 - 23:51
What makes me laugh is that the vast majority of those 312,000 new jobs will be low-paid and taken by Filipinos, Pakistanis and Indians who will live in dormitories in company-supplied accommodation in cheaper emirates... and yet the LLs here seem to think that 312,000 highly-paid Western expats with huge accommodation allowances are on their way... aaaaand there it is !! Another mention for the housing allowance.... or maybe we could just wait and see - a few years away yet :D
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Latest post on 14 May 2014 - 10:23
Bed usually 11.30 latest, alarm 5.30, get up before 6. Mostly feel awake and ready for the day.Don't make to-do lists. Muddle along between school runs, shopping, housework and social things. Cook evening meal, get youngest to bed, couple of hours relax then bed.
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Latest post on 13 May 2014 - 17:40
counting down to the "which night is dry" ? posts :D I have just said the same to my friend hahaha FYI it will be Sat to Sun LOL none of them will be dry in this house so it doesn't matter !! lol
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Latest post on 13 May 2014 - 17:11
counting down to the "which night is dry" ? posts :D
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Latest post on 13 May 2014 - 11:06
The Ivy do a cheese and wine tasting evening on Wednesdays - we went to their first one a couple of months ago and it was a fabulous night out.. They present you with a platter of 7 cheeses and then throughout the evening introduce a different wine to go with each one.. The staff were lovely and really enjoyed talking to us about the different wines etc...
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Latest post on 13 May 2014 - 11:03
Have you seen the plans for the new safari park near Dragonmart ? So the old zoo is finally being replaced... the plan looks amazing !! :D http://whatson.ae/dubai/knowledge/12320/dubai-safari-park-on-schedule-for-2015-completion/#.U3G-fT3800Y.facebook
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Latest post on 12 May 2014 - 21:24
maybe time to remember the old saying "never lend what you are not prepared to give" Is that like "never gamble more than you can afford to lose " ? lol
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Latest post on 12 May 2014 - 21:23
Vox cinema website isn't updated but they had Sunday morning baby shows at 9.30 at Mercato ... There's a big event on Saturday, special showing of Frozen but last I heard they were down to their last 3 tickets - being run by Mamavents (check their Facebook page)
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Latest post on 12 May 2014 - 18:25
not sure this is the type of car i would be looking at to be driving in Dubai, I did think the same thing! Why? I know plenty of people who drive soft tops and have never had issues German cars are usually solid ( Body that is) cos its little and most cars in Dubai would drive over it! Minis are smaller and I see loads of them on the road here...
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Latest post on 11 May 2014 - 15:24
Awkward situation, I think she was a bit premature in booking tickets and hotels without receiving a formal invite. I would never make travel plans until I had the invitation card in hand. Perhaps you could make a general announcement on your wedding page saying that all formal invitations have now been sent out in the form of note cards which should now have been received by the following named guests, and list the invitee names omitting her name from the list. Add a note that due to space and other constraints it is not possible to accommodate additional guests. Perhaps she will understand then that your verbal OK was just a polite response to her interest. It's next week !!
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Latest post on 11 May 2014 - 15:22
I had a similar situation when I found myself inviting an acquaintance to come visit..we were on the phone and she was going through a horrible time and you know how you say...sure, anytime you need a break you're always welcome... thinking she never would...and then she did...rang up to say you know how you said I could come visit ? my flight gets in on Friday... I felt it was my fault for not being sincere when I invited her but once she was here it was fine and we all had a nice time... You know that you shouldn't have invited her if you didn't really want her to come so there's no need for us to point that out !! But it's been done now and sadly I don't think it can be undone without causing her a lot of hurt and wasted expense. Can you not give her something to do on the day ? Put her in charge of the bridesmaids or something.. will keep her out of your way a bit and she will still feel welcomed...
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Latest post on 11 May 2014 - 08:18
Sons over the age of 18 cannot be sponsored by their parents as far as I know. They can if they are still in full-time education. Once they leave school they need an employer to sponsor them. From the age of 18 the educational institution has to sponsor them don't they? No.We got a notice of "continued education" stamped by the school and his visa has continued uninterrupted.
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Latest post on 11 May 2014 - 08:00
Sons over the age of 18 cannot be sponsored by their parents as far as I know. They can if they are still in full-time education. Once they leave school they need an employer to sponsor them.
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Latest post on 10 May 2014 - 14:21
If EK is that awful, why are they doing so well then? EK is significantly cheaper if you're *not* starting the journey in Dubai. When our friends and family come over, they often use EK because its price is competitive with all the alternatives, but for us flying from Dubai back to the UK, EK is always the most expensive, by a significant margin. For example, this summer EK was over 1000 AED per person more expensive back to the UK than any of the other airlines offering a non-stop flight. EK's service really isn't good enough to be worth paying almost an extra thousand quid for over the likes of Royal Brunei. It's interesting that several major companies DH knows in Dubai no longer allow staff to use EK for business flights because it's too expensive. But we've still never seen any spare seats on an Emirates flight ....
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Latest post on 10 May 2014 - 13:15
I agree Sanddy _dog and so I'll share my experience.... I just called emirates and told them my cousin should have been on this flight, shes not called us...we're worried etc etc.. He was adamant that he could't divulge passengers details etc..as I'd expected....unless I had the ticket number so obviously no luck. Anyway, i dont give up easily and I tried again a few minutes later and spoke to another person... Before even asking my name he searched the flight looking for this passenger. He told me her name wasn't showing on this flight and went on to send an email to Dubai airport and the other cities airport to verify is she has departed or arrived! At this point i panicked as I already had the details I needed and told him it was fine and not to bother. It shows you how two different people can treat you in a different way as to how much details they'll give you or trust you with. Sadly my mind still wonders though....she could have flown separately, at a different time, on a different airline etc etc.. So even though I feel a bit better I'm still not fully satisfied. Thank you all for your advice, I know I have a problem with trusting and I don't know how to deal with it...it's slowly destroying me, my marriage and I'm sure will impact my kids. While I'm on if anyone can advice any good therapist for my issues I'd be most grateful. Basically been cheated in many times and extreme issues with trusting my DH and in fact most people around me, feeling suspicious all the time and very moody at times. Thanks again, off out now for a much needed swim and relax with my little ones x omg..i'm with Sandy Dogg - I too would be furious that an airline would give out my details. And in any case, if she's having an affair with a married man in this part of the world she will know how dangerous it is and may well be using a different name... I would !! Sounds to me like you need to be doing what LolaCat advises... This will only eat you up - you need to focus on taking positive steps toward getting your life back.. I don't know if it's the one LC was thinking of but there is a website/forum called survivinginfidelity.com. Good luck.
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Latest post on 10 May 2014 - 13:03
For me flying directly to Amsterdam, all flight prices are the same, KLM, EK or Etihad. If EK is that awful, why are they doing so well then? I have looked at flights to London several times and BA is in no way cheaper either. We're flying to London with BA this summer for the first time in years - and on 3 fares are saving £700..we really couldn't justify the extra Emirates would cost us. We're not happy as we have no complaints about Emirates at all and the luggage allowance alone is way better than anyone else's...but the fares were just too much higher this time. But as someone else said we have never seen a flight that wasn't completely full. To the lady complaining about not taking their baby into Business - I didn't think young children were allowed in business - isn't that why some people pay to travel that way, to avoid sharing with young kids ? lol I think the OP should have addressed her post to the airline direct, bit of an odd thing to post on a forum imo.
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Latest post on 10 May 2014 - 11:05
I can see why it's so important for you to know, but honestly, as Marroosh says, if you are prepared to go to such lengths to find out then I think that answers the bigger question. And if you manage to somehow find out that she was not on the same flight or in the same hotel would you believe it and let it rest ? I doubt it, you will always be wondering...if not this trip then the next and the next... If your husband is so keen to save your marriage then he should have done enough to ensure you don't feel like this every time he goes away. That means that since it happened he should have been completely open with you - given you access to all his phones, computers etc and full details of his whereabouts when he's away..if he wants you to stay together he should have been working hard to rebuild your trust..It doesn't sound like that has been happening..The trust will take a long time to come back and maybe for some it never does but do you really want to live like this in the meantime ? Especially now it's affecting your children....
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Latest post on 09 May 2014 - 14:18
d) none of the above But you will have to eat all the freezer content within a day though...I wouldn't refreeze.... Oh, and defo bin IF you have home made chicken nuggets :D edited by Sugarbeach on 09/05/2014 And if they're not, i'm sure plenty here will gladly give you a recipe !! :D
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Latest post on 09 May 2014 - 12:54
I once had a Better Homes agent photograph my lounge while I was upstairs with the clients - she said she was going to get her phone out of her car and when my son came in he caught her taking photos of our downstairs and yes, they ended up on the website...
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Latest post on 06 May 2014 - 13:54
Hi everyone, we are missing out dog in Jumeirah Village Circle - the side closest to Al Khail Road and close to the Atlantis Accommodation. He is black with brown and medium size. His name is Bonsai and he is very friendly. He has only been with us a short time and does not know the area. If you see him, find him please call me on 050 5021103 Have you posted on the facebook community groups ?
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Latest post on 06 May 2014 - 11:49
Hi jenny916..so sorry it has taken a while to reply...I was without a computer for several days. Would love to meet for coffee. Could you send me an email: jaybridge2005 at yahoo dot com...let me know when I can remove the address. :) Looking forward to hearing from you! Also, Puck and Weebles...I love walking and wandering...tis a bit hot now although I managed (jjust) a couple of circuits of Safa Park at 5.30 this morning. Would love to hear from anyone who wants to hang out and beat the summer blues! Sorry, did you just say 5.30 in the morning??? LOL Is there one ?
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Latest post on 06 May 2014 - 08:21
We get ours collected every Tuesday - glass, plastic, tins, cardboard and paper for free in the Ranches.
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Latest post on 06 May 2014 - 08:13
Tattie, why can you never accept that Dubai isn't for everyone...Every time it comes up you're like a salesman trying to flog all the things you think are great here.. I'm happy for you that you love it here so much, I do too, but I also respect other people's opinions and if their Dubai experience isn't working for them then sobeit..I'm sure Ruth knows where she can go ski or buy organic produce...it won't change her mind..but as CW says, having a baby's eyes to see the place through might :) ,
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Latest post on 06 May 2014 - 08:00
We earn Skywards miles thru credit card and convert them to business class upgrades ;) LOL !! You want to try slumming it then..seems like the cattle class kids' food is n icer..and who wants a bread basket ?? Lol
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Latest post on 05 May 2014 - 23:44
Eh, I didn't like the EK kids meal on SFO-DXB recently. My DSs were given as starter: 1 1/2 cups of cheap brown canned tuna mixed with mayo, molded into half sphere and decorated with cherry tomato n cucumber slices (it looked so 1950s and sooo antithetical to Northern CA food culture of organic, local, fresh), salad bowl filled with potato salad bound with mayo. Main dish was 5 chicken nuggets on a bed of boiled mixed frozen veg. Kids ate the hummus and pita bread from DH's mezze plate instead. In their snack box, the Hula Hoops were replaced by salted Lay's chips/ crisps. My kids don't touch the EK kids meal, apart from the packet of Hula Hoops, which is a rare treat. They've never been offered pasta, neither the US routes nor the UK route we've traveled. They choose from the bread basket, nibble at cheese sandwiches, eat butter chicken with rice (hot snack on long-haul direct), and can be coaxed to eat half my chicken biryani. You get a bread basket ???? And mezze ??? lol How come we get such different food ?
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Latest post on 05 May 2014 - 23:42
it isn't junk - actually it's not bad..kitkat, hula hoops, fruit flakes etc Errr, yes, junk lol potato chips and juice plus a kitkat. You can order it at any age. You misquoted me, I said the snack box could be healthier !! But the main meal isn't junk lol
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Latest post on 05 May 2014 - 21:43
Kids' fare applies up to age 12 so presumably so does the kids' meal, and it isn't junk - actually it's not bad..We've never had nuggets or burgers - usually pasta or spag bol, the dessert is the same as we get and a snack box which admittedly could be healthier - kitkat, hula hoops, fruit flakes etc
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Latest post on 05 May 2014 - 21:34
Dubai does it for some people, but not for others. Even with good friends, Couldn't agree more. Although we have made it our 'home', it will never be our 'home'. If that makes any sense. I get that, I totally get it. But to be here with another 5 years in front of you - you would have to make some adjustments to bits of your life so it doesn't feel like a prison sentence that you are counting down! It will always be just a place to 'be' for most people but at least while they are here they should find things/people/stuff that makes life easier and happier. Easier said than done for many... sorry, the quotes are incorrect... <em>edited by Doubting Thomas on 05/05/2014</em>
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Latest post on 05 May 2014 - 17:27
wouldnt have said anything, would say its none of my business. i'm not saying i agree with it but i dont think its anyones place to say. I agree, I would not have said anything - it is not my business. It does not mean I agree with slapping a toddler however, we must remember we are living in a country with over 100 different nationalities, cultures, traditions, etc and it is wrong to interfere. Also, there is a BIG difference between a slap and abuse. I can imagine the the toddler was tired, bored and frustrated and the mother was tired and frustrated too. Shopping is not an activity that a toddler enjoys or can manage for any extended period, but [b'>sometimes a mother has no other choice[/b'>. This is awful....there is ALWAYS a choice. Being tired and frustrated does not excuse slapping your child.
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Latest post on 05 May 2014 - 17:21
No idea, but not for a while yet I hope...
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Latest post on 05 May 2014 - 17:16
What fun that flight must have been for everyone else - 60 children with vomiting and diarrhoea !! lol
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Latest post on 05 May 2014 - 14:08
On an adultery issue you said you would not meddle in someone else's affairs - tough when it's a child but I think this is the same so no, I would have minded my own business.. eta - maybe she was thinking it would have the same effect as slapping an hysterical adult across the face... <em>edited by Doubting Thomas on 05/05/2014</em>
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Latest post on 05 May 2014 - 13:16
Can't believe anyone is taking these thumbs seriously! Hilarious !! you've posted the same comment twice and they've got a different number of thumbs lol so the people who thumbed one down had changed their mind by the time they saw the same comment posted again ??
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Latest post on 05 May 2014 - 12:59
I always thought that marriage meant giving up your own dreams and making new dreams together ..... (or did I get that off a fridge magnet.... lol) That's most certainly not my definition. I make my own future and my husband is a critical part of it, yes. We share dreams and visions of the future. But give up my own dreams for his ambition? Maybe momentarily if it was the best thing for my family, but forever? No way! Even if you have no ambitions of your own, I wish more women understood the practical impact of their choice to be supported financially by a man. Your pension will come to almost nothing. I am going through the motions at the moment of my MIL who just lost her husband, and has had her incomer slashed down by more than 70%. Why? She stayed at home with the kids of course... that kind of sacrifice pays nothing towards your future as an OAP. Although her mortgage has been paid off for several years, she now faces a future without her husband where she can basically only just afford her monthly bills. She has savings, yes, but that just means her income is reduced. Ladies, think before you act. Don't give your own lives up for a man's sake, unless he does the same for you! By the time we retire I doubt there'll even be a State Pension any more !! Thanks for the concern but we've made proper provision for both of our retirements - and women can still continue to pay their "stamp" even when not earning... I think you are misunderstanding the meaning of ambition ...my "job" has been to raise my family and I've been quite happy doing so - to accuse women like us of having no "ambition" is a tad insulting I think ....
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Latest post on 05 May 2014 - 12:18
Apart from the kids not seeing their Dad regularly, you will only be seeing him once a month???. I would be afraid that you are leaving him in a place that there will be a lot of temptation for some other person to fill your space (a definite con if you know what I mean ;) ) So OP should stay in Dubai, give up her own dreams and be miserable to avoid her husband going astray? Her husband choses to not live with his kids, which means SHE should sacrifice her whole life to make sure they do? If he really wanted to live with them, he would accept that his wife had upheld her part of the bargain (staying in Dubai for five years) and move back with them! Also, if my husband couldn't control himself without me being present to police him, I would quite honestly rather live without him anyway. Why is it always the woman's job to make sure men keep it in their pants? Is it not reasonable to expect adult men to be able to exercise some self-control? Apologies for my bluntness but this drives me nuts! edited by Miss Issippi on 05/05/2014 I always thought that marriage meant giving up your own dreams and making new dreams together ..... (or did I get that off a fridge magnet.... lol)
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Latest post on 05 May 2014 - 11:48
I think people who say stay have no idea how nice it is living in New York. No,you're right, I don't - all I know is how miserable it was living without my husband for 12 months..but that was me, the OP, her husband and kids may feel completely differently about it, but I can only answer for myself.
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Latest post on 05 May 2014 - 11:00
I understand now why facebook only has the "like" button despite years of requests for a "dislike". I think a thumbs up feature is quite good, a thumbs down feature (especially anonymous) is too negative, and seems to have invited a level of bitchy/retributional thumbs downing for innocuous comments based on poster, akin to cyber-bulling really (maybe EW should be renamed expatgirl as it seems to bring out the "tween" in some?) [b'>I would support removal of the thumbs down[/b'>. I think most of us would , to be honest.. Facebook thumbs will always be different because it isn't anonymous.. I think thumbs down should be removed as well, serves no purpose really. DT I think you could have the record for the most thumbs down on a post ever, your post at the beginning of this thread ha! ha! yaaaaay !!! Go Me !!! lol yet I was just saying what most people are thinking..lol
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Latest post on 05 May 2014 - 10:52
Admin will delete a thread if asked to do so - regardless. So maybe someone asked them to delete it...Says in the rules that they won't get into any discussion about it.. And they can't retrieve it once it's gone (or so they say!!). Sorry.