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Latest post on 24 April 2014 - 10:18
I'm a moderate people hater lol How Much Do You Hate People? You checked off 16 out of 65 on this list! Shutterstock.com You only sort of hate people. Sometimes. When they’re being the worst. And that’s perfectly natural. You don’t put up with any nonsense but you’re probably not a d*ck. You checked off 23 out of 65 on this list! You only sort of hate people. Sometimes. When they’re being the worst. And that’s perfectly natural. You don’t put up with any nonsense but you’re probably not a ****. oooo we're the same then ... and neither of us are ducks...how gratifying :D Just goes to show that you could have done a little bit more hating with cocking it up. LOL !! yep... could have hated another 7 categories and still got the same result...
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Latest post on 24 April 2014 - 10:15
I'm a moderate people hater lol How Much Do You Hate People? You checked off 16 out of 65 on this list! Shutterstock.com You only sort of hate people. Sometimes. When they’re being the worst. And that’s perfectly natural. You don’t put up with any nonsense but you’re probably not a d*ck. You checked off 23 out of 65 on this list! You only sort of hate people. Sometimes. When they’re being the worst. And that’s perfectly natural. You don’t put up with any nonsense but you’re probably not a ****. oooo we're the same then ... and neither of us are ducks...how gratifying :D
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Latest post on 24 April 2014 - 09:50
I'm a moderate people hater lol How Much Do You Hate People? You checked off 16 out of 65 on this list! Shutterstock.com You only sort of hate people. Sometimes. When they’re being the worst. And that’s perfectly natural. You don’t put up with any nonsense but you’re probably not a d*ck.
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Latest post on 24 April 2014 - 09:40
I don't think he can be injured that badly - the OP let him go to the hospital by himself... But next time the OP might be driving her toddler to Medcare, and even a small bite on the face could be extremely serious. Personally I would not take the risk. What I meant was, the OP didn't even bother to go with him...
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Latest post on 24 April 2014 - 08:55
I don't think he can be injured that badly - the OP let him go to the hospital by himself...
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Latest post on 24 April 2014 - 08:44
So it seems the pretentious, pseudo-intellectual Stewart Lee clearly knows as much about dogs (which he hates) as he does about what makes people laugh !! lol <em>edited by Doubting Thomas on 24/04/2014</em>
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Latest post on 23 April 2014 - 17:07
The balcony faces the street. She was able to attract my maids attention and speak to her so nothing strange or sinister there, so not sure why that would not make sense! Realising why I haven't posted here for some time and needed to sign up again! Think I will be contacting the embassy as I really feel this is all wrong to treat a person in this way! so why didn't you in the first place ??
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Latest post on 23 April 2014 - 16:55
Why did the OP say the mistress ended the affair when the husband had already broken it off in the beginning of this thread ? Early on she posted that the messages she found on the secret phone were that he'd wanted to save his marriage and had ended the affair - hence the teacher spilling the beans ... Could he have gone back to her once the OP flew home ? confused.com lol Sorry to say that the Boss, who was having similar problems (?!), may not be the most reliable future for the OP and I hope she's not jumping from the frying pan to the fire.... Meanwhile, in all this there's a 4 year old who isn't going to get to see her daddy for at least a year :( so sorry if i'm not cheering... but I guess it's the best ending there could have been... Good luck for the rest of your journey Celesti and thanks for the update.
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Latest post on 23 April 2014 - 14:02
If she can get out of one of the sliding doors and go and talk to other maids then she is not really locked in is she? [b'>I can see how some people would lock internal doors whilst they are away - say to the bedrooms or a room with valuables as there have been a number of cases of houses being cleared whilst the owners are away on holiday[/b'>. Not doubting your word or the maid's word BUT there are 2 sides to this and you are only hearing second hand through your maid. I would act with extreme caution before you consider speaking to them. edited by Genie on 23/04/2014 Especially if they have to leave the maid at home and they don't trust her ....
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Latest post on 23 April 2014 - 12:08
Terrorism? the western media is generally just ridiculous when it comes to coverage of brutality/attacks against muslims It's across all the papers here too ...
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Latest post on 23 April 2014 - 08:52
You don't need to say anything, just be supportive and let her make up her own mind... chances are if you try to get involved it will come back to bite you anyway !!
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Latest post on 22 April 2014 - 15:14
i have never won anything :( That'll probably be me too :( And me ... But then, I've never bought a ticket ...
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Latest post on 21 April 2014 - 22:43
Last week's lottery numbers...
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Latest post on 21 April 2014 - 18:43
It's the cost of child-care that's the killer - especially for unexpected illnesses and holidays...
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Latest post on 21 April 2014 - 10:50
could be argued that at 65 posts the OP is still a "new user" herself... so maybe that's why she included it ...
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Latest post on 21 April 2014 - 09:45
That said, I did take away something very nice from this thread. Its never occurred to me to freeze ready meals for DH when I went away, and with little children this was just impossible but now that the kids aren't so much in my hair, I think its something lovely to do and which I *may* try. I know the feminists would not be happy with that confession. Just cook a little more than normal at each meal, and freeze the left overs in one meal portions for DH to nuke while you are away - you don't even have to go out of your way to do it :D Another brilliant idea - EW is the fountain of wisdom that keeps giving obv! Tbh I don't cook anything extra - he lives off all the scrappy bits of tupperwares full of just too much for one meal and not quite enough for two !! lol We all do it - any casserole etc left over we freeze but it's rarely enough to make more than one decent meal and because I cba to cook lots of different dishes at the same meal time they get left in the freezer... so in addition to an empty ironing basket I come home to an almost empty freezer too !! lol
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Latest post on 21 April 2014 - 09:26
I think there are plenty who would take issue with SAHM being a luxury !! Sorry TDB but have you ever heard the saying, when in a hole, stop digging ?? lol Having the choice not to work is a luxury. For you maybe, but many are able to make it happen.... Put the shovel down :D Sorry I'm very busy and important at work, shouldn't you be mopping the floors now Cinderella :D I'm sure you are, but not too important to sit around insulting strangers, I see :D Daily! I've barely been on for weeks actually and this is why! Since the stars and ratings, EW has descended into a b1tchy playground of Mean Girls anonymously down thumbing each other and starting pointless cliquey threads to gain stars. I don't sit around insulting strangers - I'm entitled to an opinion but since sometimes it conflicts with the vibe of this board then the easiest thing is to shoot someone down in flames and mass bully them into submission. And where did I ever say SAHMs don't work?? I've pointed out repeatedly that they work extremely hard - but just for mums on here to consider the shoe on the other foot and to count themselves lucky that they have the blessing of not HAVING to work and being able to watch their kids grow up. That is all. Now sharpen all your collective claws and have a go. and [i'> Sorry I'm very busy and important at work, shouldn't you be mopping the floors now Cinderella :D[/i'> is not insulting at all, is it ?
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Latest post on 21 April 2014 - 09:11
I think there are plenty who would take issue with SAHM being a luxury !! Sorry TDB but have you ever heard the saying, when in a hole, stop digging ?? lol Having the choice not to work is a luxury. For you maybe, but many are able to make it happen.... Put the shovel down :D Sorry I'm very busy and important at work, shouldn't you be mopping the floors now Cinderella :D I'm sure you are, but not too important to sit around insulting strangers, I see :D
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Latest post on 21 April 2014 - 09:04
I think there are plenty who would take issue with SAHM being a luxury !! Sorry TDB but have you ever heard the saying, when in a hole, stop digging ?? lol Having the choice not to work is a luxury. For you maybe, but many are able to make it happen.... Put the shovel down :D
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Latest post on 21 April 2014 - 09:02
The OP made a mistake - ok, so a silly one, but why is everyone "giggling" at her ?? How easy do you suppose it was for her to come on here and admit to it ? But she did so purely to help prevent anyone else falling into the same trap ... And at the same time, another poster (one of the "gigglers", no less) makes an equally brave admission that she is suffering a mental illness and receives nothing but support ... How fair is that ??
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Latest post on 21 April 2014 - 08:53
It should be the result of green thumbs minus red thumbs .... And they should have it listed somewhere so we know how the system works... But as Fairydust rightly says, it's all meaningless anyway as most people will be thumbing the poster rather than the post ... I prefer the way other forums do it. There's no option to 'unlike' something, only a 'like' button for the post and a 'thanks' button where people can leave feedback and that contributes to reputation. Thumbs Up and Down aren't particularly constructive IMHO Couldn't agree more... In fact, I knew a forum a while ago that started with this "kudos" option thing (similar to the thumbs) and once the novelty of downgrading people you didn't like wore off the members voted to scrap it !! lol
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Latest post on 21 April 2014 - 08:43
We love Emirates food and have never had anything inedible.. and the desserts especially are always yum.. maybe it depends on the route ?
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Latest post on 21 April 2014 - 08:40
It should be the result of green thumbs minus red thumbs .... And they should have it listed somewhere so we know how the system works... But as Fairydust rightly says, it's all meaningless anyway as most people will be thumbing the poster rather than the post ...
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Latest post on 21 April 2014 - 08:37
I think there are plenty who would take issue with SAHM being a luxury !! Sorry TDB but have you ever heard the saying, when in a hole, stop digging ?? lol
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Latest post on 20 April 2014 - 13:38
It's not a question of being subservient, it's usually a case of being practical...Leaving frozen leftovers and no piles of ironing is not mollycoddling, in my opinion, it's making his life easier while he's on his own... Appreciating what your husband does for you is just good manners - are you saying you don't appreciate yours ? Bit of a shame if you never do anything nice for him in case it compromises your "equal" status .... So who makes your life easier? Does your husband ever do your ironing? Do you return from holiday to find he has spring cleaned your home and left nice meals in the freezer, to save you cooking each and every day? I suspect not. I totally appreciate my husband - that's my point! Just because he stays at home with our child, I would never expect him to also provide a maid & cook service. We don't have a maid as we don't like the concept, so we share all the household work between us. After work and at weekends we will clean and wash everything that hasn't been done during the day. I respect that others choose to live differently, but like I've said in another post, I would find it difficult to respect a man who thought it acceptable that I did everything housework-related. Being a partnership we make each other's lives easier - that's what it's about... Yes, I just came back from 2 weeks at home and he spent most of the time clearing the mountain of ironing I left behind !! lol (and no, he didn't get maids in this time...;)). And the house was spotless as it always is when we come back.. Last year he completely redid the garden as a surprise... And we share the cooking all year round anyway...I don't think you can judge how others organise their households and to say you wouldn't respect a man who doesn't do housework ??? Really ? I don't do DIY, mow the lawn, lift heavy furniture or deal with spiders !! lol Would hate to think my husband doesn't respect me because of it...Your way works for you and everyone else's way works for them, doesn't make anybody wrong or right or mean that they should or shouldn't be respected...
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Latest post on 20 April 2014 - 12:48
They way most posters here refer to their husbands just says it all. You clearly don't see them as your equals! "Of course most men can fend for themselves, i think they enjoy the freedom of takeaways" "I also stock the cupboards with extra staples so that when he goes shopping it's just a quick stop" "He does do some of his own washing" Why are you all so grateful to your husbands for working and bringing in the money? Do you not feel that being at home looking after the kids, you contribute equally to the family? Why do you feel the need to provide a service to your husband when you're not even at home? Is that not an opportunity for you to relax (since you're on holiday) and your husband to have some peace and quiet and look after himself? Perhaps its my feminist roots but I get a real itchy, annoying feeling reading through your posts. Why are women still so subservient to men, in this day and age? Why do you feel the need to mollycoddle them and treat them like adult babies? It's not a question of being subservient, it's usually a case of being practical...Leaving frozen leftovers and no piles of ironing is not mollycoddling, in my opinion, it's making his life easier while he's on his own... Appreciating what your husband does for you is just good manners - are you saying you don't appreciate yours ? Bit of a shame if you never do anything nice for him in case it compromises your "equal" status ....
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Latest post on 20 April 2014 - 12:39
I was talking about this issue with the cleaner in our building who earns 400 dhs a month and hasn't seen his family in three years. He was just as shocked, and agreed that if he ever earned enough money to fly Emirates, he wouldn't, just to make a point. Is this a poor attempt at being humorous? Or are you trying to make one of your points? LOL !! Must be a joke - no mention of housing allowance or school fees ....
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Latest post on 20 April 2014 - 12:31
And nowadays you can complain on Twitter and have the airline reply on Twitter - which is so much fun when they make a mistake !!! (as in US Airways lol)
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Latest post on 19 April 2014 - 20:08
Just because you didn't know about it doesn't mean it shouldn't have happened! It has been a much appreciated extra making it worth being loyal to Emirates. And sorry - we can't afford to fly business. sorry, I didn't mean it like that !! lol - just that we never bothered to check..and I've never flown business either...
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Latest post on 19 April 2014 - 19:32
When my husband travels with his skydiving gear we include it in our normal allowance - it never occurred to us that it would be allowed free....All this time he didn't know Emirates allow sporting equipment to travel free !! lol Sorry but I don't really see why it should be... if you want the extra allowance you could always travel business - the baggage allowance is huge...
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Latest post on 19 April 2014 - 13:24
And it does annoy me when they constantly talk in their own language while doing my hands/feet. It's often 2 girls at the time so they chat away and laugh and I don't know what they're talking about. I often just have a chat with them for a bit, I mean they do need normal human interaction apart from no not this colour and file it round. I think it does happen automatically, when I am with my friends and one of them is from the same country as me, we tend to fall into our language. But we do make sure we keep that to a minimum or explain to anyone who overheard what we are talking about. Recently our villa was for sale and one of the agents was Turkish. One time she turned up to meet a client for a viewing and after a few minutes it came out that the client was also Turkish - the rest of the viewing was conducted by the two of them going through my home, opening cupboards etc jabbering away in Turkish (including giggling) with me following on behind feeling like a spare part ... Most unprofessional I thought since the lady's English had been perfect at the start... Was she your agent or the potential buyer's? That would make a difference to me. If yours, highly unprofessional indeed, if the buyer's, totally understandable. Better Homes, engaged by our Landlord.
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Latest post on 19 April 2014 - 12:09
And it does annoy me when they constantly talk in their own language while doing my hands/feet. It's often 2 girls at the time so they chat away and laugh and I don't know what they're talking about. I often just have a chat with them for a bit, I mean they do need normal human interaction apart from no not this colour and file it round. I think it does happen automatically, when I am with my friends and one of them is from the same country as me, we tend to fall into our language. But we do make sure we keep that to a minimum or explain to anyone who overheard what we are talking about. Recently our villa was for sale and one of the agents was Turkish. One time she turned up to meet a client for a viewing and after a few minutes it came out that the client was also Turkish - the rest of the viewing was conducted by the two of them going through my home, opening cupboards etc jabbering away in Turkish (including giggling) with me following on behind feeling like a spare part ... Most unprofessional I thought since the lady's English had been perfect at the start...
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Latest post on 19 April 2014 - 09:45
Start a useless chat yourself. Apparently you can do so these days without being banned. And maybe you can also get really vicious. Give it a go. well, I've obviously missed something ... but that's not my style anyway...
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Latest post on 19 April 2014 - 01:00
As a complete aside, years ago I had a similar experience on holiday in North Wales where the shop assistants would be happily chatting in English until you entered the shop and then they would switch to talking in Welsh ... so I guess it's not just a Dubai thing ... lol
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Latest post on 19 April 2014 - 00:58
Horrible additions to this story ... the Captain has now been arrested and the Vice Principal of the school has hung himself ... how much more tragedy can there be .... :(
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Latest post on 19 April 2014 - 00:23
On a serious note though....even if a side door was mistakenly left unlocked, the illegal entering suggests someone was 'watching' or going house to house checking to see if he could find unlocked doors. I don't really see how this can be addressed. Even with increased security in the form of residents' passes etc., non residents still need access for various reasons, be they gardening, maintenance, deliveries.....there is no way of guaranteeing that everyone who should not be in the community has left once their job is finished. I think vigilance is the only precaution we can take. I am looking into having motion detector lights and an alarm installed. Hoping that would be a major detractor. I have an Arabian Ranches sticker on my windscreen - they've been available for ages, you just fill a form in at Security. If you leave a door unlocked it's not a break-in, just bad luck !! Only a Brit would say that! Getting quite used to crime, are you? Sorry, don't get your point - if you forget to lock your door it's not a break in , is all .... Touch wood I have no first hand knowledge of any break-ins here .... yet .... lol
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Latest post on 18 April 2014 - 22:49
How can 10 year old kids be doing.. you know.. THAT? They were 12 and 13 and had been together for a year ... no idea how it was physically possible but obviously it was !!
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Latest post on 18 April 2014 - 22:45
On a serious note though....even if a side door was mistakenly left unlocked, the illegal entering suggests someone was 'watching' or going house to house checking to see if he could find unlocked doors. I don't really see how this can be addressed. Even with increased security in the form of residents' passes etc., non residents still need access for various reasons, be they gardening, maintenance, deliveries.....there is no way of guaranteeing that everyone who should not be in the community has left once their job is finished. I think vigilance is the only precaution we can take. I am looking into having motion detector lights and an alarm installed. Hoping that would be a major detractor. I have an Arabian Ranches sticker on my windscreen - they've been available for ages, you just fill a form in at Security. If you leave a door unlocked it's not a break-in, just bad luck !!
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Latest post on 18 April 2014 - 15:53
Why does it matter ? Have to say I'm tiring of the endlessly judgemental tone on here...So what if some women employ help - each to their own and all that ....
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Latest post on 18 April 2014 - 15:24
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Latest post on 18 April 2014 - 11:34
Ahhhh ok . That's really sad, how can you not like someone, when you don't even know them. What a strange and sad world we live in.:( I don't think it's the person being disliked, as such, more the way they post.. some people here have a way about them that others find irritating so I suppose they feel they DO know them.. and thumb accordingly !! lol
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Latest post on 18 April 2014 - 11:31
Blimey, I must be very lucky !! Mine can do everything as well or better than I can !! The only problem he has is lack of time, having to cook his meal when he gets home from work doesn't leave him much of an evening but he's more than capable of looking after himself. We Skype lots, and he likes to leave it on while we both get on with chores as he says it's company for him !! lol
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Latest post on 18 April 2014 - 11:23
I don't understand why anybody, anywhere, in any context should feel it's acceptable to ask a person's nationality... When you meet someone socially it's ok to say "where are you from" in a conversational way but that's all... in my opinion.
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Latest post on 18 April 2014 - 11:18
We don't pay school fees but I don't know about anybody else - it's not something you talk about ... I've never been to a salon but I have my hair done every couple of months.
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Latest post on 18 April 2014 - 11:15
Finally back on track... many of the replies on this thread are just plain embarrassing, sorry OP :(
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Latest post on 16 April 2014 - 23:54
At least it's quite affordable (FS1 is 33k) which is good news for some families. For *many* families. We don't know anyone who gets school fees paid. We don't pay our fees but I don't know about anyone else, it's none of my concern....
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Latest post on 16 April 2014 - 23:11
I think the stars and the thumbs are an EW ploy to get people posting again in the hope of getting thumbs and stars. I can't say I particularly like it but it's got this stagnant board moving again so I think it's done its job. I think people will be more put off by tumbleweeds than "nonsense" IMO of course :D I recently researched "how to revive a dying forum" (not for this one, I hasten to add !! lol) and one of the top 5 suggestions was "introduce a new feature". EW have clearly been doing the same research !! lol What were the other four then? LOL !! One was interesting - pay for posts !! :D http://www.vbulletin.org/forum/showthread.php?t=241673 <em>edited by Doubting Thomas on 16/04/2014</em>
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Latest post on 16 April 2014 - 22:55
I think the stars and the thumbs are an EW ploy to get people posting again in the hope of getting thumbs and stars. I can't say I particularly like it but it's got this stagnant board moving again so I think it's done its job. I think people will be more put off by tumbleweeds than "nonsense" IMO of course :D I recently researched "how to revive a dying forum" (not for this one, I hasten to add !! lol) and one of the top 5 suggestions was "introduce a new feature". EW have clearly been doing the same research !! lol
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Latest post on 16 April 2014 - 02:32
No offence, but this has to be one of the most infuriating OP's I've ever read !! lol
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Latest post on 15 April 2014 - 14:47
An upside down pineapple in your trolley either means you're a swinger laying an invite or an EW poster… Or both... Well I never knew that. I'll be more careful with my pineapples from now on. Any other grocery items that I need to be aware of? I thought it was Tide Washing powder outside the front door? Was that not an old Army thing and I thought it was Tide or Daz in the kitchen window :) OMO on the window sill (Old Man Out) lol