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Latest post on 04 October 2013 - 00:54
what an annoying thread !! lol
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Latest post on 03 October 2013 - 13:25
Here's a brilliant job for someone looking for an admin-type position ... http://reliefweb.int/job/605946/senior-customer-service-assistant Thanx a ton. Iv forwarded her the link. REALLY appreciate it. Thank you to all the ladies of EW. Always helpful. I keep bumping up the thread to get it noticed and I wish all those job-searching, the best. why does she not come onto the forum herself ? EW always happy to welcome more members !!
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Latest post on 03 October 2013 - 12:09
When I come home from a night out I go up to their apartment at 1am or 2am and I stand there ringing the door bell for ages, just so it wakes their whole family up. . if you did that to me, i would call the police and tell them a drunk woman was banging on my door. i can't believe that you think that this is acceptable behaviour. Who are you to assume I am drunk? I wouldn't expect a sober person to ring my doorbell like that at that time in the morning !! lol
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Latest post on 03 October 2013 - 11:43
I have been having the exact same issue with my upstairs neighbours for 2 years now. I refuse to move out my property because I am on a good deal. Constant chair dragging and the kids screaming as well as bang bang bang all afternoon until they go to bed. It sounds like they are jumping on the bed and sofas etc. They also have this plastic bike thing they race around the apartment on so you can hear it so loud underneath. I tried being polite to her so many times but she just shouts and swears at me. (she is English) I called the police twice as it starts at 6.30am on the weekends. The police were great, but then after a few weeks, back to the same again. She thinks because she has children it is her right to do exactly what she pleases in her apartment, regardless of the misery they are causing others. When I come home from a night out I go up to their apartment at 1am or 2am and I stand there ringing the door bell for ages, just so it wakes their whole family up. I also get a hammer and bang on my metal window frames as well as on the ceiling late at night when I know her kids are trying to sleep If she wont let me sleep in the mornings, I will wake her kids up. Its actually worked and the horrid woman now has more respect. I have found Dubai to house some of the most selfish people in the world and no matter how nice you are to them, they will still behave like animals with no respect for anyone else. Do whatever you need to do to get it sorted. Put yourself first because they certainly are not. Can't wait until you have kids! Doesnt matter if i have kids or not, you dont behave so selfishly when you live in an apartment. Whenever is it ok for kids to jump on the sofas and ride bikes inside the house, let alone when it knowingly causes distress to the neighbours below. You think i like to hear all this when I am working from home and trying to concentrate on work or when I am trying to watch the TV or when I am trying to sleep at 6:30am at the weekend? If you have feral kids who cant behave, move to a villa where you dont disturb other considerate people. sorry but jumping on furniture and riding a trike hardly qualifies as feral, in my book...this is what kids do and it's your choice to want to work at home during the day just like it's her choice not to..And 6.30 am isn't that early here...especially for children !! lol
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Latest post on 03 October 2013 - 11:05
Well I went up there to see her and there was no answer. Not surprised really as she never went quiet until gone 3am, probably still sleeping it off. Anyway I left a note, a little similar to what EmmaRitz wrote. It was very very polite, god knows why, but I hope she gets the idea. So we shall see, I mean it is the weekend coming up so she is bound to be back in her party mood. Hopefully she'll kick off her heels as soon as she gets in, instead of prancing about and preparing the bedroom for her next conquest!! Ooooooh, that does sound a wee bit bitchy don't it but I'm knackered & have to work all day too as usual. would LOL if she recognises the note from reading this thread... :D I hope she does, she starts with her 'im much better than you' posh voice but by the end of it she is efffing like a trooper with last nights mascara half way down her face. If she is so posh and well to do then I wouldnt expect her son and daughter to be sharing a bedroom in their aparmtent. One would most certainly be living in a palace I was talking to the OP
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Latest post on 03 October 2013 - 11:04
I remembered one other thing, Panadol. Here it is AED 14 or so for 96 tablets in the UK it is about AED 6 for 12 tablets. My parents always ask for and take back Panadol Joint as you cannot get it in the UK. oh, well if we're talking stuff that's cheaper here - panadol, immodium, tictacs (I dhs here, 5 dhs there) and other sweets and light bulbs !!
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Latest post on 03 October 2013 - 10:54
Well I went up there to see her and there was no answer. Not surprised really as she never went quiet until gone 3am, probably still sleeping it off. Anyway I left a note, a little similar to what EmmaRitz wrote. It was very very polite, god knows why, but I hope she gets the idea. So we shall see, I mean it is the weekend coming up so she is bound to be back in her party mood. Hopefully she'll kick off her heels as soon as she gets in, instead of prancing about and preparing the bedroom for her next conquest!! Ooooooh, that does sound a wee bit bitchy don't it but I'm knackered & have to work all day too as usual. would LOL if she recognises the note from reading this thread... :D
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Latest post on 03 October 2013 - 10:51
I feel sorry for the father but he should have known better. Surrogacy is not allowed in Islam because of things like this and he very well knew that. Also, as I understood it, a NZ consular officer signed the surrogacy agreement. She should not have done that knowing it was illegal here.. she did it without his knowledge or consent so how should he "have known better" ? The article says that the couple agreed to try surrogacy. So he was a willing partner. He was cheated by her because she used the maid as a surrogate without telling him. and ?
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Latest post on 03 October 2013 - 10:31
I don't understand why won't she have the baby after all the trouble she went through? And all the money!!! GOSH!! So where's the baby now? The baby is with an unrelated family in Egypt. It seems that the father is paying them to raise her. how is the baby able to get a birth certificate let alone a passport? and what happened to the maid? that report is so badly written.. or maybe not allowed to write about it eh? The maid went back to the Philippines. The baby got a birth certificate because the father took a DNA test to prove his paternity..
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Latest post on 03 October 2013 - 10:28
I feel sorry for the father but he should have known better. Surrogacy is not allowed in Islam because of things like this and he very well knew that. Also, as I understood it, a NZ consular officer signed the surrogacy agreement. She should not have done that knowing it was illegal here.. she did it without his knowledge or consent so how should he "have known better" ?
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Latest post on 02 October 2013 - 21:52
Hi we might need an accounts person soon. Can you pls let me know her e m ail id pls? Thx Thanx Benoir. Its: g e m s o f h e a v e n A T h o t m a i l sorry, but is your friend ok with having her email address posted on a public forum ? Pretty sure that's Naiyyar's email, probably will pass along to her friend. but Benoir specifically asked for the friends address and Naiyyar didn't say it wasn't hers..
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Latest post on 02 October 2013 - 21:17
Hi we might need an accounts person soon. Can you pls let me know her e m ail id pls? Thx Thanx Benoir. Its: g e m s o f h e a v e n A T h o t m a i l sorry, but is your friend ok with having her email address posted on a public forum ?
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Latest post on 02 October 2013 - 17:23
Fab new massive Daiso now open opposite Waitrose in Dubai Mall...
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Latest post on 02 October 2013 - 17:20
well, I think it's exciting !!
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Latest post on 02 October 2013 - 16:03
OP has deleted the name of it. .. Admin at work there. oh oops !
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Latest post on 02 October 2013 - 15:58
What about creating a cycle lane for those who use the bicycles? This is a very important thing, better than building more malls that last time seen the sun when they built the roof. There are already cycle tracks here and a huge one was recently completed around Al Quadra by the Ranches... http://www.dubairoadsters.com/events_safeplacetoride.html You are talking about who cycle as a sport, I am talking about who use the bicycle as a transport, you can not ignore the fact the anyone cycling from work to home or vice versa is going to be hit some day due the lack of lanes for them.... I didn't think cycles were allowed on roads with a speed limit higher than 60 sorry, I misunderstood you - I thought you meant places where people can cycle for leisure, not necessarily sport !! Errrr? I believe there is a rule for cyclers - not for sports only - have to were high visibility vests and crash helmets.... everyday Dubai Dry Docks workers/ technicians do go to work using bicycles.....I believe they are humans and do have the right to be able to use the roads like car drivers and motorcycles. they have chosen bicycles as a cheap way for their daily commute, I am one of people have a bicycle and wish to be able to drive it on the roads not for leisure or sports for going everywhere as I used to do in other countries, and it's not think that cyclers are safe, specially with drivers do not respect them, if there is a restriction for certain jobs not to be able obtaining driving licenses, and salaries can not support buying a car, buying a bicycle is the best choice they have, so yes they do need cycle lanes in the streets. sorry GB, we appear to be at crossed purposes !!
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Latest post on 02 October 2013 - 15:56
LMAO !! ok, I edited my quote :D
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Latest post on 02 October 2013 - 15:15
and where is THERE ? :-) Somewhere inside the Safa Park Co-Op but the OP has deleted the name of it. I think she meant the little kiosk upstairs selling all kinds of electrical/phone bits and bobs...
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Latest post on 02 October 2013 - 15:12
Me too - watched on Friday afternoon..... was dissapointed.... Of course they brought beep back from the dead......... Why would you write that? Talk about spoil it for others I believe it was aired last night, I did record the series link, and watched it after the school run, it was 2 episodes so no spoilers here, even the re-run is aired on 11 am this morning. couldn't understand what is the reference of bringing beep back from the dead tho? I havent watched it yet and she said: Of course they brought beep back from the dead......... I didnt wish to know the have brought someone back from the dead so YES she has ruined it She doesn't give a hoot that she did :D Ok, I admit I do not understand the terminology of xxxxxxxxxxxx what is it used for? This is a serious question. ffs GB - Izzy posted a spoiler and you keep repeating it !! lol <em>edited by Doubting Thomas on 02/10/2013</em>
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Latest post on 02 October 2013 - 15:10
What about creating a cycle lane for those who use the bicycles? This is a very important thing, better than building more malls that last time seen the sun when they built the roof. There are already cycle tracks here and a huge one was recently completed around Al Quadra by the Ranches... http://www.dubairoadsters.com/events_safeplacetoride.html You are talking about who cycle as a sport, I am talking about who use the bicycle as a transport, you can not ignore the fact the anyone cycling from work to home or vice versa is going to be hit some day due the lack of lanes for them.... I didn't think cycles were allowed on roads with a speed limit higher than 60 sorry, I misunderstood you - I thought you meant places where people can cycle for leisure, not necessarily sport !!
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Latest post on 02 October 2013 - 13:37
What about creating a cycle lane for those who use the bicycles? This is a very important thing, better than building more malls that last time seen the sun when they built the roof. There are already cycle tracks here and a huge one was recently completed around Al Quadra by the Ranches... http://www.dubairoadsters.com/events_safeplacetoride.html
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Latest post on 02 October 2013 - 11:14
Sorry janatks, I've just realised you are saying she is in school abroad, and coming here and you are worried she is not up to speed? Is that correct? No, she is here in an European curriculum school and she is not up to speed with the rest of the UAE. I dont mind her having a great play time but I can see her frustration when she is with her siblings and other kids who are in the UK system. It breaks my heart. She keeps insisting she wants to learn how to write and read. I would not worry if I did not feel she was ready for this. She wants/needs more than this school is willing to give her because of 15 days. sorry, i'm confused, Why is she in a different curriculum to her siblings and how can you know she's behind the "whole" UAE ?
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Latest post on 02 October 2013 - 11:03
I have friends in the UK who have eight children and are on low income benefits, the oldest and second oldest sons are taken out with dad on a Saturday whilst the rest of the kids stay at home, this is not a major issue as he is at home much of the week. But the family is split over so many activities due to the age gap and the need for a bus to get them anywhere. I would want my family to do more things together, with my husband working such long hours family time will be limited to say the least. [b'>As for education most of them are behind on school as who has time to help eight children with homework?[/b'> I'm from a big family too and we all grew up happy and healthy. We did loads of things together as a family and separate too. You call it "split over so many activities due to the age gap" but we called it "hockey or cinema or knitting" or whatever the activity was. The age gaps were never an issue, they simply were "my baby sister" etc. My oldest brother was married when I was born and he has always been my brother. The relationship I have with him is different from the relationship I have with my twin brother but it's not something we compare and label. It's a relationship and it's beautiful. As for homework, the older kids help the younger kids. There is no better way to learn than by teaching others. I am sure I tried the patience of my older brothers and sisters but they learnt a lot from me too. Definitely money was tight but we all got a good education because it wasn't about the cost of the school, it was always about how hard we studied and the effort we put in. We are family and it shows in the bond we all have with other. I didn't say you wouldn't grow up happy and healthy. In fact I said I would want my family to be able to do things together as my husband has little if any free time outside of work and studies. I want my children to have a father and I don't want to have to pick and choose which children get time to spend with their father as his time is so limited. As for education the world has become a vastly more competitive place these days. I frequently see on these forums that parents don't have time to help their children with the amount of work they bring home. Furthermore older children will have homework of their own, probably even more which will give them little time to help siblings. It is unlikely a child doing a-level maths is going to get any benefit from helping a sibling learning fractions. In an ideal world a large family would be amazing and I would love a large family. In reality not many people nowadays can afford the time or money for such a luxury. so there !!
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Latest post on 02 October 2013 - 11:00
Sorry I don't understand this - what do you mean by "willing to have" ? Sorry I meant things that your family and friends ask you to bring over when visiting your home town. oh I see...well, i'm with Sarahlou - nothing !!
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Latest post on 02 October 2013 - 10:34
is this the kiosk thing crammed with electrical/phone bits upstairs ?
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Latest post on 02 October 2013 - 10:30
I have noticed that the majority of the news comes from DM here. Gulf News regularly posts articles from DM and[b'> if you look at Hello and OK! magazine [/b'>they report the same celeb stories and pictures word for word 24 hours after its in the DM. So Dubai! I try not to, thanks
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Latest post on 02 October 2013 - 09:47
animal fats are used in the manufacture of all sorts of unexpected things - maybe the factory can't guarantee which [i'>sort[/i'> of animal...
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Latest post on 02 October 2013 - 09:40
my understanding of the word poise in this context is simply "prepared", being on the brink of something...I am poised to jump into the pool - I am prepared, ready... Therefore, yes, it IS possible to be [i'>further[/i'> prepared, or in a state of readiness... HOw can you be further prepared to enhance your status? you can always prepare more....
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Latest post on 02 October 2013 - 09:21
would just like to say how nice it is to see the correct you're, for a change !! lol
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Latest post on 02 October 2013 - 09:18
The [b'>women who write these articles [/b'>can't be seriously serious can they!? And even if you did think all of those things, why on earth publicize it???? I think, following Ms. Brick, they're just out for their 15 minutes. Not to mention the ones who read them !! lol
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Latest post on 02 October 2013 - 09:16
Sorry I don't understand this - what do you mean by "willing to have" ?
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Latest post on 02 October 2013 - 09:13
my understanding of the word poise in this context is simply "prepared", being on the brink of something...I am poised to jump into the pool - I am prepared, ready... Therefore, yes, it IS possible to be [i'>further[/i'> prepared, or in a state of readiness...
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Latest post on 01 October 2013 - 21:58
Thanks Marroosh - I recommended that Vet FB page to her so probably..
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Latest post on 01 October 2013 - 18:53
Thanks but no, it isn't Fred :(
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Latest post on 01 October 2013 - 18:49
That one didn't work either !! lol - sometimes if the links are from closed groups or pages they can't be shared outside...and for future reference if you want to copy and paste a link it only works if you take the "s" off the end of the http at the beginning... off to have a look at the Veterinary hosp page..thanks ladies
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Latest post on 01 October 2013 - 18:03
Just found these guys - www.signaturestagers.com Through Palma Real Estate in my building (Silverene Dubai Marina) How lucky can one get? Anyone know any "Rustic" "Vintage" furniture stores around here?? R.W :-) crushed.... thought it was the missing cat......
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Latest post on 01 October 2013 - 17:29
got it to work - it's a page for an event - concert in the U.S. !! lol
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Latest post on 01 October 2013 - 17:27
The link doesn't work Marroosh..
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Latest post on 01 October 2013 - 17:23
Have you tried putting your ad in the Wanted section or on Dubizzle ? (if they have a wanted section)
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Latest post on 01 October 2013 - 16:55
another bump
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Latest post on 01 October 2013 - 16:29
All I have to say is that please respect others sensibilities especially in a shared community.I don't want to be going to police or authorities...I had mentioned at the outset that I dont want to create any trouble.my hesitation in talking to the neighbours stems from the vibes I receive ..not friendly at all..having two teenage girls at home the last thing I want is trouble from neighbours!!! so the children you referred to are actually teenagers ? I agree with the other posters that the decent thing would be to approach them directly. If you are not prepared to do that then just ignore it... live and let live n all that :D
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Latest post on 01 October 2013 - 16:05
Can't believe it's October already....... time flies when you're old :( lol - I once read a long winded scientific explanation...something along the lines of a year, as a percentage of the time you have had so far, is tiny compared to when you're a child say, so obviously feels shorter.... just saying :D
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Latest post on 01 October 2013 - 15:51
other than agencies, are there any websites i can have a look at? a so called friend screwed me over after offering me her maid since she is leaving the country and 3 days before she left the country she called making up lies that shes not good, then she said the maid ran away etc etc (obviously[b'> she gave her away to someone else[/b'>) and now my maid is leaving soon because we already gave her a notice and she is excited about finding work in a salon. i flew my mum all the way from NZ as our maid could leave any day now! i am so upset and i can't believe this has happened! I really have my heart set on an arabic speaking maid. thanks, FM is she a person or a stray cat ??
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Latest post on 30 September 2013 - 21:36
We employed a secret stasher of [b'>loo paper [/b'>. Never really got to the [b'>bottom[/b'> of it but a load stored in the infrequently used outdoor kitchen oven caught fire when we fired it up for a party. I am still a bit perplexed . LOL !!!
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Latest post on 30 September 2013 - 21:20
LOL !! yes I know someone who reports them as do the security guards - it can be quite lucrative I believe...never ceases to amaze me how many expats are quite open about flouting the law...it only needs one person to drop you in it and you're in sooooo much trouble....
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Latest post on 30 September 2013 - 21:16
why would you want to ?
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Latest post on 30 September 2013 - 21:14
The not increasing rent on the first year thing no longer applies...that's all I know.
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Latest post on 30 September 2013 - 17:38
I think that this is unacceptable unless you have told her that she can take whatever she wants from the house. [b'>I wouldn't consider this stealing, though[/b'>. I think it's more a case of her thinking she can get away with it. Why don't you just tell her openly that she is not allowed to take stuff from the house? Tell her that if she needs extra food or toiletries, she needs to ask you. And whose clothes is she taking? How is it not stealing ? and incidentally, I also regard nicking stationery from work that you don't need a form of theft I'm assuming that the maid has some access to toiletries and food from her sponsor so where do we draw the line? That is why I don't consider it stealing. I would say that the Dubai Police wouldn't consider it stealing either and would not consider a police report for such "theft". I don't know about the clothes, though. That is why I asked whose they were. The OP quite clearly said that the maid has taken items without her permission - what other definition of stealing is there ? Did she intend to bring them back ? The OP did not state that. She just said that she did not give her the items. Maybe the maid has the right to take some stuff and not others and she doesn't know or understand that. We can't accuse her of stealing without knowing the full story. [i'>Toiletries, food, clothes, etc from the house [b'>which I did not give her[/b'>. [/i'> LOL !! how is Which I did not give her different to taking without her permission ???? <em>edited by Doubting Thomas on 30/09/2013</em>
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Latest post on 30 September 2013 - 16:59
I think that this is unacceptable unless you have told her that she can take whatever she wants from the house. [b'>I wouldn't consider this stealing, though[/b'>. I think it's more a case of her thinking she can get away with it. Why don't you just tell her openly that she is not allowed to take stuff from the house? Tell her that if she needs extra food or toiletries, she needs to ask you. And whose clothes is she taking? How is it not stealing ? and incidentally, I also regard nicking stationery from work that you don't need a form of theft I'm assuming that the maid has some access to toiletries and food from her sponsor so where do we draw the line? That is why I don't consider it stealing. I would say that the Dubai Police wouldn't consider it stealing either and would not consider a police report for such "theft". I don't know about the clothes, though. That is why I asked whose they were. The OP quite clearly said that the maid has taken items without her permission - what other definition of stealing is there ? Did she intend to bring them back ?
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Latest post on 30 September 2013 - 16:47
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