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Latest post on 03 July 2011 - 11:53
That's another benefit of it all, nutty - good point. If DS wakes in the night crying now, I know there's a problem that needs solving. Maybe a nappy change, maybe some Calpol, maybe a bottle if he didn't eat properly before he went to bed, but something that needs seeing to. I'm far more confident now that I can meet his needs and get him to have a great sleep at the same time.
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Latest post on 03 July 2011 - 09:46
We went diving - I was just learning - and there was a nine-year-old in our group, I think. She was more confident than her mother! :D.
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Latest post on 03 July 2011 - 09:00
Good for you. It really was the most amazing place ever and I can't wait to go back there. I may wait until DS and his brother or sister are old enough to entertain themselves, though - I loved lying reading by the pool and floating up to the pool bar for sundowners and that won't work with toddlers in tow! Have a fantastic time.
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Latest post on 02 July 2011 - 22:26
I know shellly, who posts on here, said they're available in Australia and I think they're called MaybeBaby. A friend told me she swears by 50s-style upside-down cycling after getting jiggy :D, as does her SIL and SIL's sister and best friend. Now, I take no responsibility for any falls from the bed or hoots of laughter from amused husbands, but I did do this when we conceived DS so maybe, just maybe, it works.
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Latest post on 02 July 2011 - 21:37
Also don't search it on the internet. It usually paints a very bleak outcome even though everything may come out extremely positive. Ain't that just the truth. I have stopped googling it now. I like the idea of the notepad and pen - I will be going in with him whether he likes it or not but somehow I can't guarantee I won't just be a wobbling mess and no help at all! Thanks, m2g.
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Latest post on 02 July 2011 - 20:56
A couple more months of charting should show you for sure whether you're ovulating or not, but I know how frustrating that is. I remember the doctor at Medcare - the hospital that stuffed up my HSG test twice in the space of two months - told me to come back next month, and not to worry as it was only another month and I wanted to rip her head off and stuff it in the x-ray machine. If you're getting the thermal shift, I'd say that was a pretty positive sign that you're ovulating. If you're not, you'll be able to take that info back to your doctor and they can work with it. I know it is all so frustrating but I found two positives in charting. One, I knew for sure when we'd tried at the right time, and two, I knew exactly when my period was due so I never got my hopes up for no reason. Prior to charting I had a few months where my period was a week late - or so I thought - and I was even more gutted not to get a positive pregnancy test those months. Small comfort, I know, especially when you're getting cliches chucked at you left, right and centre, but it did help me. Good luck and keep us posted.
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Latest post on 02 July 2011 - 20:14
Is it a good few hundred dirhams? I'm pretty sure I've seen them in Boots - maybe MOE or Ibn - but then again OPKs cost a packet here so maybe I'm getting confused.
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Latest post on 02 July 2011 - 20:11
Have you been charting your temperatures to learn more about your cycle and pinpoint exactly when you should be trying? We stopped using contraception four years before we conceived DS and it wasn't until I did this that we finally hit jackpot. Of course, it may have just been luck and nothing to do with charting, but I honestly believe that's what finally cracked it for us. It'll also show up any problems that may be there, even if they've not been immediately obvious so far. The book Taking Charge of Your Fertility is a Godsend, as is the website www.fertilityfriend.com. Or post on here and I'll ramble on about it for hours :D.
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Latest post on 02 July 2011 - 20:04
The PrioriFix is a hefty old seat - something like 18kgs - and we were up to our luggage allowance without it! Our record is 92kgs without the stroller, though, so perhaps they thought we were travelling light and let us off? ;) <em>edited by DubaiCat on 02/07/2011</em>
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Latest post on 02 July 2011 - 19:57
Nope, child benefit too. My BIL wrote to his MP to ask who on Earth thought up such a stupid way of working it out and he got the most waffling pile of utter cr4p in response, it was barely worth the paper it was typed on. I get that there has to be a line drawn and if you earn enough, you shouldn't qualify for free cash when the economy is strained and there are others who need it more. But how does it make sense that a household earning GBP80k gets it and a household earning GBP50k doesn't, purely because one household has one earner paying higher-rate tax? Rant over and I shall go back to unpacking boxes and repacking suitcases.
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Latest post on 02 July 2011 - 19:49
Thanks to some complications I have been banned from exercise during this pregnancy. I am now feeling like a fat, unattractive heifer again and only the thought of losing shedloads of blubber post-birth is keeping me sane. I recently found some old photos of me when I first got here and the difference is staggering, and made me cry. I had one **** of a figure then - if I do say so myself :D - and now I look horrible. So, once I've popped the baby out, I'll need to lose whatever baby weight I packed on plus around 17kgs. How long should this take me? And can I please have some success stories to keep me going over the next four months? I'm hoping to start back on the Shred six weeks post-delivery and either keep going with low-GI or try Slimming World.
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Latest post on 02 July 2011 - 19:44
At London Fish and Chips, Ibn Battuta the other day. Me (quite clearly, reading from the menu and pointing at item): Hi, could I have the chicken nuggets with chips from the kids' menu, please? Assistant: Fish nuggets? Me: No, chicken nuggets, please. Assistant: Sorry, we don't have. Fish nuggets? OK, whatever.
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Latest post on 02 July 2011 - 19:26
We brought the Maxi Cosi PrioriFix over on Emirates in April and it was checked in for free no problem, in its box as it was brand new. I explained it was the car seat and it wasn't included in our free baggage allowance.
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Latest post on 02 July 2011 - 19:20
That's great news! Hope it carries on! It makes such a difference to your lives, it really does. When I think back to how awful things seemed when I'd be sitting in the lounge totally on edge waiting for DS to wake up, or pacing the room with him in my arms running out of breath shushing him, I can't believe how different my life is now. Heaven.
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Latest post on 02 July 2011 - 19:18
GreenQueen, if your LO isn't taking good feeds during the day maybe it might help to change the surroundings so she can relax and concentrate on her feed, and take more? My mum said DS needed to have lots of little feeds and top-ups in the run-up to bedtime and that was totally and utterly the wrong thing for him, but I didn't have the confidence to disagree with her. She brought up three babies and I'm on my first, so I thought she couldn't be wrong, but I wish I'd just had the balls to say 'no'! It definitely contributed to him needing lots of little nips throughout the night rather than one solid feed. When I started taking him away from stimulation and feeding him in a quiet location with nothing to distract him, he began taking more. kc, it sounds like you're on the right track. I'd love to visit your place and slap your MIL around a bit, though! It must be hard if you're facing hurdles with DH but if what you're doing is benefiting your DD, tough luck on him. Keep at it and I'm sure you'll be where you want to be in no time.
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Latest post on 02 July 2011 - 19:07
Thanks :).
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Latest post on 02 July 2011 - 16:08
Thank you. Flights are booked for Monday afternoon.
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Latest post on 02 July 2011 - 16:03
I'm glad they seem to be closing loopholes. My sister's family will lose child benefit from next year as her DH pays tax at a certain rate, even though she doesn't work as they have three small children. Their neighbours have both husband and wife working, but neither earns enough to pay tax at this rate, so they will still get it. So, in essence, my BIL will be earning GBP50k a year - as an example - but the neighbours will be earning GBP80k a year, and the neighbours will carry on getting child benefit while my sister and her family won't. If they won't be getting it, then I'm bl00dy glad expats sitting earning tax-free salaries abroad and not contributing to the country aren't getting it either. Does that sound bitter? Probably :D. <em>edited by DubaiCat on 02/07/2011</em>
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Latest post on 02 July 2011 - 15:45
I'd go home. You can get cheap flights to Bristol, free accommodation, great company... :D.
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Latest post on 02 July 2011 - 09:55
Thanks, Claire. I think his GP is very much on the ball - he arranged the initial blood tests and after saying Dad should go back in a week for the results, called him within a couple of hours, and then after the first scan didn't wait for the hospital to send the results and called them instead. He seems to be keeping the momentum going, for which we have to be thankful. Thanks for those suggestions. I'll bear them in mind in case we need them.
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Latest post on 02 July 2011 - 09:46
Oops, am I getting my footballers mixed up? Sorry!
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Latest post on 02 July 2011 - 09:42
Mum shopped at Asda last week and apparently they have this new thing whereby if your shopping would have been cheaper at another store they refund 10 per cent of your bill, and for that particular shop Waitrose would have been cheaper so they gave her a voucher for a couple of quid! :D
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Latest post on 02 July 2011 - 09:38
You are most definitely not alone, but also it is most definitely not something you 'just have to put up with'. DS was the same as yours at four months - one or two wake-ups at the most - but shortly after he turned four months he began waking anywhere up to every 45 minutes. That low feeling is the worst feeling ever and I know I almost lost it entirely (well, if you ask DH, I'm pretty sure he'll tell you I did lose it entirely on more than one occasion). But the thing is, he's learned he needs you and a boob to get himself back to sleep. He can unlearn it, especially at that age. We saw Cecile de Scally at seven months and within three days he was back to one wake-up. He stopped this a few days later, and was down to just his dream-feed. At ten months he gave this up by himself and since then has slept through the night. I can tell you step-by-step what you did but every baby is different so maybe what we did won't work for you; it would be better to work out a plan that suits you and your family. I know there have been a few threads on this recently and some controversy, but it's something I feel vey strongly about because I've been there at that lowest point and I wouldn't wish it on anyone. If you don't have to put up with something that can potentially make you very ill, DON'T. If Cecile isn't your cup of tea, seek out another sleep counsellor who can help. Because somebody can help and you don't have to suffer this.
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Latest post on 02 July 2011 - 00:04
Who is John Terry and why should we think of him? A British footballer who quite openly stayed in Dubai with his girlfriend (and family? Can't remember). Not wife!
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Latest post on 01 July 2011 - 23:59
Friends of ours have been a couple of times - not married and have two boys. They've been absolutely fine. Of course, it's illegal and I'm not condoning it. Just sayin'. :D. ETA: They've stayed in hotels when they've been here. <em>edited by DubaiCat on 02/07/2011</em>
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Latest post on 01 July 2011 - 23:57
Thanks, but I'll pass. Not that we spend enough time there to actually have time to do any of that, thankfully! ;)
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Latest post on 01 July 2011 - 23:47
If it's Glenrothes, don't bother :D.
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Latest post on 01 July 2011 - 23:45
Thank you both. My father refused to have anyone attend with him and nobody would stand up to him, hence me going home. He won't ask the right questions and will likely downplay the situation. I appreciate you taking the time to respond :).
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Latest post on 01 July 2011 - 23:34
Or do you think the available options for a parent are the same whether you are in, eg, Cambridge or Glenrothes? edited by sandfly on 01/07/2011 Er, Glenrothes? Same opportunities as Cambridge? Not likely! PS Do you have personal experience of the dump? Sorry, the place? That's where the dreaded in-laws live :\:.
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Latest post on 01 July 2011 - 23:30
My Dad has just been told he has some cirrhosis of the liver and lesions on his liver and lungs, and he has to have further investigations next week. From the first blood test to this stage has only been ten days, with the hospital or doctor calling him within hours of each test to let him know what's happening next and when, and it all seems rather fast for the NHS (not that I'm slating it - just from experience of other medical situations there). Does anyone have any experiences to share? Of course I'm thinking it's this speedy because it's serious, and I'll be going home early next week to find out more, but in the meantime I'd be grateful to hear anyone's opinion.
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Latest post on 01 July 2011 - 13:42
That makes sense, as DS's paed told us to give him natural yoghurt with the good bacteria after he had rotavirus.
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Latest post on 01 July 2011 - 13:40
We started at 7 months but like I said on another thread, I'm not sure if it would have been better for us if we'd started around four months as maybe then he would have started dropping night feeds after this by himself. We didn't wake him to feed him, just popped the bottle in his mouth (I'd tried BF him before when he was smaller and that just didn't work at all). He sometimes woke up, sometimes didn't, but usually took most - if not all - of it. We didn't burp him afterwards but then again, he was a bit bigger than your LO is so maybe a more effective burper by himself!
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Latest post on 01 July 2011 - 13:20
They'll be having yoghurt and white bread for dinner, as they didn't have dinner last night or breakfast this morning and hopefully this will be easy for them to digest. Will report back on the barf situation post-dinner!
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Latest post on 01 July 2011 - 13:16
There are three mosques in the Springs/Meadows development and I think two of the three do the sermon in English. I've heard it in English at the big Spinneys one - the one next to Dubai British School - and the one at small Spinneys, next to EIS, definitely does it in English. Both are usually packed to the rafters on a Friday so get there early to get a parking space!
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Latest post on 01 July 2011 - 10:23
Have you tried listing it on Dubizzle so you can just rent it out yourself? We planned to do this with our place but when I called an agent to ask about market value she already had a tenant looking for one like ours, so we went with her (although it turned out to be one big mess, thankfully now resolved). In future I'd definitely just rent it out myself and I think I might have some tenancy agreements somewhere if you do this and need one. We just moved, though, so I'd need to empty a few boxes to try and find them!
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Latest post on 01 July 2011 - 10:08
No barfs or runs on the floor this morning, so I think we are on the mend - thanks, Green-ish! To be honest, someone throwing something in the garden did cross my mind :(. We just moved in so I have no idea if the neighbours like dogs or not, but there are plenty of dogs up here so I hope this hasn't happened. I couldn't find anything online that says desert scrub is poisonous, but DH will be having the plants removed ASAP just in case. The younger of our two boys is unbelievably sensitive (to the point of being a complete wimp) so perhaps all the stress of the move just upset his delicate little tummy? He is as thick as mince to boot, so maybe it's all been a bit much for him.
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Latest post on 01 July 2011 - 10:03
Did you call Al Ameen? If not it might be a good idea, or even the police. I'm pretty sure CID would hang around there to see if they could catch him at it again. Isn't impersonating a government official an offence?
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Latest post on 01 July 2011 - 09:31
KB, I wanted to post this separately so I didn't get myself confused (easily done these days!). I see what you mean re emotional comfort; no parent wants to think they're not responding to their child's needs. But I think here, as parents, we need to decide what 'need' is a priority. For us, DS not sleeping at night was making him cranky and miserable during the day. He found it next to impossible to nap for longer than half an hour, he couldn't concentrate on anything, he was tetchy and intolerant and rarely enjoyed anything much, he was so ridiculously overtired. By waking in the night and not being able to get himself back to sleep, he was ruining his days as well (obviously not intentionally). While he may have thought he needed to be picked up in the night - and clearly, in his mind because of what I'd taught him with feeding him to sleep, he did - what he actually needed was to be able to get himself back to sleep when he woke up one of the many times babies do wake up throughout the night (as do we as adults). By previously picking him up and nursing him, I'd taught him he could get himself into a fully-awake state and he could rely on me to get him back to sleep, if you like, and instead of him being in just a light sleep at the end of a sleep cycle and drifting back off, he was getting into a fully-awake state and that was it. No boob = no sleep. Constantly picking him up and nursing him would have just reinforced, for him, that he needed me and a boob to get back to sleep and that was ruining his sleep for him. That it only took a couple of days for him to learn how to get to sleep by himself gave us confidence that we'd done the best thing possible for him. I know it's a hard decision to make and for many lucky parents, not one they ever need to consider. I often wonder what would have happened had we stayed in the UK after that summer, or had our a/c not been broken when we got back. I'm pretty sure if he'd stayed with the routine we had for those weeks he'd have gradually dropped feeding at night altogether by himself and would have been a great sleeper, and we never would have had to consider sleep training (however mild). But we did, and we had to find a solution to the problem we created. One of the midwives said to me as we were leaving the hospital, "Make sure he's awake when you put him in the cot so he learns to put himself to sleep. That's the most important thing." Oh, how I wish I'd listened!
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Latest post on 01 July 2011 - 09:11
DubaiCat and the rest of you who managed successfully to implement the sleep training, were your babies already not feeding at night when you started the training, or did you just find that the sleep training helped them to sleep longer, thereby naturally eliminating those extra feeds at night? At four months, DS was feeding right before he went to bed (around 8ish as we were in the UK and it was summer, so very light outside) and then having one feed in the night, anywhere from 1am to 4am, before waking up around 7ish. I have a feeling that if we'd been doing a dream-feed then, he may well have stopped waking in the night (after the dream-feed) of his own accord but that's just speculation now :D. This all went pear-shaped when we got back to Dubai at the beginning of September and our a/c was broken upstairs. We all had to sleep on a mattress down in the lounge and he ended up all over the place. We tried to be as quiet as we could but obviously we were disturbing him, as he started waking several times after he'd gone down. And here, perhaps, I made a rod for my own back. I began feeding him to get him to go back to sleep (what baby is going to say no to a nice, warm boob?!) and soon he was waking anywhere up to every 45 minutes. He'd only ever have the tiniest suckle, though, and drop back off to sleep - he never had a proper full feed at these wakings unless it was a time he'd normally have a feed, and then only one suckle of the many would be a proper feed. This was compounded when we went back to the UK a month or so later, and he was still waking God knows how many times throughout the night. I didn't want him to wake Mum up - she teaches, even though she should be retired :D - so again, I was feeding him to get him to go back to sleep. Again, just little nips for comfort. Once we saw Cecile, we initially got him back to a feed at bedtime, a dream-feed at 10.30/11ish, then one feed around 4ish, then within a couple of days he dropped the 4am feed and was down to just the dream-feed. At ten months he stopped that of his own accord.
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Latest post on 30 June 2011 - 23:55
How much is she sleeping during the day - do you think it's enough? And is she going down for a nap when she's still happy but ready to sleep, or cranky and overtired? If I miss that golden time when DS is ready for a nap but not overtired, still happy but yawning, then it's much harder for him to get to sleep. We started working on his night-time sleep first as he was a complete nightmare, then we moved onto daytimes and it only took one small struggle and he was sorted. We sat with him and patted him, same as we did for night-time naps, and reassured him until he fell asleep. I don't know what method that is but as long as we didn't pick him up we could do anything else to help him get to sleep. I think we did most of the hard work when we addressed night-times as it only took that one day of grizzles for about 5-10 minutes and that was that. From then on he went down no problem. This was at 7 or 8 months, so similar to your DD :). He was having three naps a day at this age - an hour and a half in the morning (no more than an hour and a half after he got up), an hour and a half at lunchtime and 45 minutes to an hour in the late afternoon.
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Latest post on 30 June 2011 - 18:38
Thanks, Green-ish. The plants are more of the scruffy type of weedy-looking thing you see on the side of the road where it's not paved - dry and sparse-looking, if that makes sense? One of them has just chucked up water and some snaffled-up scrambled egg from the wee man's dinner all over the lounge floor :o(. But I've just seen the other one do a number two in the sand and it was solid, so here's hoping it was just a tummy bug. I'll have a quick google in a bit and see if I can find a picture of the offending bushes!
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Latest post on 30 June 2011 - 17:37
I'm not sure I fully understand your question so let me know if this doesn't answer it :). I successfully breastfed him until 8 months, when we gradually switched over to formula one feed at a time. When he was EBF he was fed every three hours or so during the day - on demand, but he usually wanted feeding around every three hours - and then night-times varied. Some nights he would go seven or eight hours without waking, other nights he woke every 45 minutes before we saw Cecile. His position on the weight charts never wavered throughout this time. He's always been around the 75th and maintained this when he dropped to just a dreamfeed and then stopped feeding at night altogether at ten months. It was my choice entirely to stop BF at eight months.
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Latest post on 30 June 2011 - 16:06
I absolutely agree with H.A.K - don't get yourself so worked up about a birth plan that anything less than exactly what's on the paper is a huge disappointment. I read Ina May and convinced myself my son's birth was going to be 100 per cent Ina May style. It couldn't have been further from Ina May style if I'd tried (well, maybe if I'd gone for an elective C) and I felt let down, disappointed in myself and maybe even traumatised. Be open to whatever needs to happen on the day and as H.A.K says, remember the goal. Getting your baby out safely, end of.
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Latest post on 30 June 2011 - 16:00
Wow, many congratulations to her and well done! Fingers crossed the wee man is back with his family soon x
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Latest post on 30 June 2011 - 15:54
It took us three nights, using the same don't-pick-up approach. We sat with him, patted him, sang to him etc. The first night it took us an hour and 20 minutes to get him to sleep, during which time he would cry for a minute (just angry crying, no tears), calm down, then start up again, then calm down, and so on. The second night it took 20 minutes, and the third barely a minute. From then on he went to sleep by himself, daytime and night-time, no problem. Cecile did say it was OK to abandon it after 45 minutes if it wasn't working (only if we wanted to) but I felt that because there were no tears and he kept calming himself down, for longer periods each time, it was better to just carry on. He was only 7 or 8 months at the time, so I should imagine it's a lot easier at that age than 16 months. Hopefully someone else will have experience with a baby your DD's age but in the meantime, I just wanted to let you know that in our experience, it's so, so worth it even if it's hard and frustrating at the time. Like you, I didn't find the yelling as bad as I thought I would, because after so many nights of such awful sleep deprivation I felt like we actually had a plan and could sort it out. ashc is absolutely right in everything she says - my sister said the same to me. And you're right beside her, so she's not abandoned either. Keep at it and I hope it works for you soon :).
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Latest post on 29 June 2011 - 22:44
Every time this topic comes up, I sit on my hands. I agree with carseats, just find the judgemental attitude on this thread unbelievable. If you know all about carseats and their importance, go out and educate. Don't jump on people who are new to the idea and concept and who worry about costs. And for the sake of clarification, I'm talking about the commentors on the Gulf News article. Come with me and I will introduce you to people who don't know what a carseat is, why their child should not be in a car unrestrained and for whom Dh 400 is a big deal. For whom a small car is a big deal.If you look around and pay attention, you will see that 50% of the population is like that. Are they berks/wastes of space/numpties, etc because they have not been educated about them. Because they have/ don't know anybody who has them, don't know/haven't heard of children dying as a result of being unrestrained? So they should have not had children because they could not afford carseats?! So instead of suggesting ideas for families with small cars and 3 kids, judge them, tell them that if they don't want to spend, they should not have kids and then come rant on here about them!! Incredible. If you know all about carseats and child safety, then thank your lifetime of education and your circumstances for that knowledge and conviction. If you do not come from such a background, child safety in a car is an alien concept. And before I get jumped on, I have no kids, but when I do, I will get them. But for my part, I will not judge. Why? I grew up without them. Everybody I know, grew up without them, unharmed. Entire generations travelled about and still do without car seats. Does that make them !diots/St00pid? No, just unaware. I educate those closest to me, hopefully their actions will educate others. I went and got pamphlets from Lesley's campaign and put them on all the cars in my neighborhood , of the people I know have small kids and who didn't have a carseat. Will I be angry if I see them out and about without carseats? No, just try harder next time. I will also not slag people off, who struggle to make ends meet and count every dirham. But will suggest alternatives to them. The law may force people to do stuff out of fear but without proper education, it completely misses the point . It will end up affecting the lower income population in this country, just like every other traffic rule and regulation. I see where you're coming from. If someone's never experienced a culture of road safety - including car seats - then sure, it'll be a new concept. And I totally, absolutely agree that education is key. There's no point fining people will nilly if they still have no clue why they're breaking the law and what they should be doing instead. There's no point at all in financially disadvantaging someone if they're only going to be poorer as a result, and not have learned anything from the situation. But come on. The guy commenting in GN can speak, read and write English and has access to a computer and the internet. If he has this at home, he can clearly afford it. If he has it at work, he gets paid. If he still values 400dhs above his child's life - and I just found car seats on Dubizzle for 70 and 80dhs, so 400dhs is way off - is it not reasonable to call him a berk? Does he look at car seats in other cars and wonder what they're doing there, taking up space?! I don't mean to be mean or cruel calling him a berk. But seriously, it's 2011. It's 2011 everywhere. Blockbuster movies show children in car seats. Car ads show children in car seats. Every baby shop here stocks car seats. If he wears his own seatbelt, would it not even enter his head that his child might need to be restrained? Why else does he think he's wearing his own belt? You may well have never been harmed through not being restrained in a car seat (although I'd call that luck, more than anything else). Fatality rates in developed countries have declined since it became a legal requirement to have children restrained, so clearly it works and authorities were right to make it law. But of course, if it's never happened to you and you've never known anyone it's happened to, it's remote and you don't feel it's relevant to you. I understand that. DH used to spend his days scraping the remains of unrestrained (or more likely, as it was in the UK, improperly restrained) babies and children off the roads. I know he'll never forget it. Accidents involving unrestrained or improperly restrained passengers, and especially babies and children, are horrendous for all involved - it's not just the car's occupants who suffer as a consequence of the driver's negligence. Is it fair to expect emergency services personnel to deal with this when you could have gone some way to avoiding it with car seats? This is the lives of babies and children we're talking about. If you can't afford a car seat, either make some adjustments so you can afford even the most basic of car seats or second-hand, or don't drive with your babies and children in the car. End of.
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British Tandoor delivered to us in Al Waha/Layan last week - might be worth a go? 04 3211778 and menu's online.
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And one post says an elder should be allowed to have the toddler on their lap for safety. Can I volunteer this person to be a crash test dummy, please?
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I'd like to go and shake the berk, or slap him. How comfortable would his child be flung through the windscreen and mashed across the freeway? And he'd rather save 400dhs than his child's life? Pathetic.
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I'm not sure if the tyres will be the same size but I have a Ford Explorer and DH just got the tyres changed yesterday at the place next to Grand Lube by what used to be Defence Roundabout. They're Bridgestone tyres and were 2,600dhs for four. There are quite a few places down Umm Suqeim street (MOE side) so that might be worth a go too, or Satwa?
 
 
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