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Latest post on 18 December 2012 - 14:24
really--Kaye needs a break here! I understand the "stop lying" thread might have some people assuming she is trying to pawn off a bad maid, but if she said "Help, DH has been made redundant and we can't afford our maid" or if she had something else, everybody wouldn't jump like this. Should she have to go into detail about personal life not to get lashed? :( edited by Beebers on 18/12/2012 Yeh we really dont need to jump at peoples throats everytime they post an ad for their maid. I'm sure there are some genuine people out there...
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Latest post on 18 December 2012 - 14:23
Anybody?
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Latest post on 18 December 2012 - 14:22
Hi there, I'm sorry your feeling like this. I had to reply because 'empty' and 'depressed' is exactly how I felt when I was sacked from my first ever job. What a blow that was. It was the summer before I started college and I was working as admin staff in the local cineworld bowling place. It was a very hot summer that year and I remember after they fired me I went and sat at the BK bench outside and just smoked and sobbed! To this day it still stings that I was fired from my first ever job BUT that has not stopped me of course from dusting myself off, moving on and doing better for myself. Within a week I was working in Chiquitos just opposite the bowling place and I was earning alot more money and working with some really fun people! Sometimes things work out and sometimes they dont. As sad I was at the time I know there were things I did that got me fired and I think if you can also use this situation as a learning experience and move on I'm sure you will find another job that will be better suited to you. Best of luck to you and please dont feel empty and depressed over it.
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Latest post on 18 December 2012 - 14:16
Feel exactly the same way, DCC. Got into the baby thing when I was 'mature' but still feel I had not done everything plus the bed rest + SAHM is giving me really itchy feet! It depends on how adventurous you are but I would say what is on offer here is rather limited. For stuff that is available locally I still have on my list learning to kitesurf, do at least one skydive and sleep under the stars in the desert. Hubby keeps on telling I am too old for that now plus need to make sure I am around for the next 50 years because I have a little person that needs me now... If you like dancing, I took 6 months of salsa classes here, and I absolutely loved it! If you can afford to go global, I had a blast staying at one of the islands on the Great Barrier Reef - Hayman. The highlight was a day out on a seaplane, spent flying over the Reef, snorkelling until our lips were blue, boat trip with underwater windows and a picnic on White Haven Beach. I loved every single minute of it! Another fab experience some years ago was a helicopter ride over the Grand Canyon. Our pilot loved taking us down in the canyon at great speed - we were all younger and a bit more irresponsible then so we thought it was the coolest thing. edited by twin_butterfly on 17/12/2012 Hi twin_butterfly! Yes to the itchy feet! I'm only 25 and I love my new mummy role but I do miss simple things like going to the cinema or catching up with some friends. Its all impossible right now with a demanding little fella! I think I will likely learn how to swim because every time we go on holiday I can never go snorkeling. I run upto the water and DH tells me what he saw then he goes back in while I patiently wait to see him again! Somebody wrote a post saying something along the lines of 'Already wanting to leave your kids behind?!' and I just wanted to say to whoever that was that first of all I was just curious to find out what awesome things EW ladies have done and at the same time maybe I would find something that would interest and suit me. For example kitesurfing in Dubai not ape spotting in the Amazon.
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Latest post on 17 December 2012 - 16:27
Sorry I should have been clearer. I meant thing an adult fun thing not for the kids.
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Latest post on 17 December 2012 - 15:18
The shop with the moving polar bear! Yes thats near Crate and Barrel.
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Latest post on 17 December 2012 - 15:14
Congratulations! I hope you and baby are well and resting. Let us know how your doing when you get the time :) Also I can update you on the entire process with regards to our live in maid as you wanted to drop me your email address or I can post here.
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Latest post on 17 December 2012 - 14:30
We went in March and although it was nice to have some cold weather for a change what I didnt like was that in our time there it rained alot. I dont think March is particularly known as a rainy season in Paris (I think April is as it is in UK) so maybe it was just out bad luck. But yes Paris is always nice so I hope you have a lovely time!
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Latest post on 17 December 2012 - 12:54
Yes stay well away from it.
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Latest post on 17 December 2012 - 12:11
Thanks all, I am not an active user of Expat woman, normally a reader not a poster, I have been here 3 1/2 years, so my count log speaks and mainly of my post were in the early days.... I am 99% sure my husband will not be looking on here, he doesn't know how it all works etc.... I have spoken with DECAS and they have advised me not to go to the court and go back to the UK and deal with it from there. I am just checking to see if there is a block on our passports at the moment, but endless calls at the moment, I'm not getting anywhere!!! Thank you all for everything and all your kind support, it is helping me... Nippy xx Good luck Nippy. Let me know if there is anything I can help you with.
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Latest post on 17 December 2012 - 11:46
I'm thinking we need a special access-controlled board on here for women who need advice and support when their lives have been turned upside down. It's happened more than once and husbands do generally know the wife uses EW and can easily get the heads up on what she is being advised. I would like the board to be open to anyone to raise a new thread (so lurkers can post if they are in trouble) but only people who have been members for say 4 months with over 40 posts are allowed to read the threads and contribute. What a great idea.
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Latest post on 17 December 2012 - 09:23
Ewwww,I'm scared to go grocery shopping now in case someone has licked or bitten the goods Im buying. I guess these kids must see their parents do such things and think its acceptable behaviour. Make sure you wash your produce before eating it. Do not buy or eat packaged foods that appear to have already been opened. I think I will wash it much better now than before after reading this thread! Lol! I'm pretty sure there is a special product you can buy to sanitize produce. It sounds like a great idea considering how filthy they are at the supermarket. being a "bored housewife" I've run to my kitchen and found mine - it's called FoodSafe Salad Wash. HTH Well this is a bored housewife forum so I dont know why Dubai city chick is subscribed here. Lol! Oh calm down!
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Latest post on 16 December 2012 - 15:00
West 14 is nice. They have good food and drinks and awesome view. http://www.west14th.ae/home I second West 14.
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Latest post on 16 December 2012 - 14:58
Unless its a special offer and it will specify in your confirmation email all about refunds and cancellations otherwise just call them directly?
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Latest post on 16 December 2012 - 14:53
in Lu Lu's this weekend.. a woman bit the top off a cucumber and chucked the rest of it back in the pile.. and casually walked off towards the grapes :\: Haha! I love it.
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Latest post on 16 December 2012 - 14:46
I dont understand why so many expats here find it their civic duty to go upto strangers and lecture them. What is this bored housewive's neighbourhood watch? no - I did not go up to her - she sprayed it right by me in fact so I had to also breathe it in! I just get fed up with people effectively stealing - why is it OK to spray/test something in a shop that is NOT a tester, not buy it and leave it for some other person to then buy? Would they do this with a packet of food? Have you not seen in food stores packets of bakery items opened with a piece missing? Some people just like to try before they buy! ;)
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Latest post on 16 December 2012 - 14:44
I dont have any answers for you but I'm really so sorry your going through this. I hope you find the answers your looking for. Good luck xo
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Latest post on 16 December 2012 - 14:41
I dont understand why so many expats here find it their civic duty to go upto strangers and lecture them. What is this bored housewive's neighbourhood watch?
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Latest post on 16 December 2012 - 13:40
Nothing to shout about. I would highly recommend Dr Rania at Infinity Clinic.
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Latest post on 16 December 2012 - 13:32
Agree it is PEOPLE that kill, but guns make it too easy; 14 Dec - knife attack at school in Chenpeng, China: 22 kids WOUNDED. 14 Dec - (same day) gun attack at school Newtown, USA: 20 kids DEAD. The USA needs to sort this out! I agree its alot easier and less intimidating to tackle a mad person with a knife than a gun. They need to sort it out.
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Latest post on 16 December 2012 - 13:13
Is there anywhere we can order just part cooked turkey? Its just me, hubby and LO so we hardly need a whole turkey!
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Latest post on 16 December 2012 - 12:54
I would ask her nicely to pay for the last concert/event which you took her DD to! If she had no problem asking you for money, I don't think you should :) Probably best to not do that and just bury the situation considering your DD and hers are such good friends.
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Latest post on 16 December 2012 - 12:53
My whole life I have always got Body Shop sets for secret santa. I hate them! :\:
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Latest post on 16 December 2012 - 12:49
Thank you! We were under the impression legally it has to be paid into a bank account but all everyone we know also just pays cash and has the maid sign a receipt.
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Latest post on 15 December 2012 - 21:47
Do you set up a bank account for your maid or pay cash (with a signed receipt for reference) ? If so what bank do you use for this?
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Latest post on 15 December 2012 - 16:40
I hope so too. He did tell me he offered her a higher salary and doesnt understand why she wont stay with them! Thanks so much desertrose for all your advise. Would you believe these are all things were doing. For example 1pm he had a great 120ml feed, play time and he started to rub his eyes so we swaddled him, got the white noise and rocked him but he just got so aggy! Hes still up fighting the sleep! Maybe its just a 4 month thing. I hear it get better after 6 months.
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Latest post on 15 December 2012 - 16:16
Her employer said he was giving her 1 day off per week but he sometimes needed her to work 7 days a week and that she had one Wednesday off per month on top which was accounted as her annual leave. She did get ticket money which was 1200 dhs and he refused to actually give her the ticket. All confirmed by the lovely boss who believes he is only doing what is legally correct.
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Latest post on 15 December 2012 - 16:14
Thanks for the concern ladies. I spoke to her employer. He confirmed everything she told me. She hasnt said anything bad about her employer just told me the things I asked her. It was a 3 year contract because the husband got her put on his company visa which was for 3 years. I've been given the documentation to prove that. Its a well known construction company.
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Latest post on 15 December 2012 - 14:40
We finalised on a lovely maid today. She interviewed with us 3 times. Everytime she was on time, she was polite, bubbly and easy to talk to. She did a trial with us today and her cleaning was excellent and she can cook a mean curry! Weve decided she will do all the housework and the cooking and take time in between to get to know DS from afar. Hopefully in a few months time once he is also not so difficult to manage they can build a relationship in where he is comfortable in her care. I cant believe how badly her previous employer was treating her. Low salary and no annual leave or ticket home in her 3 year contract :\: I'm so glad the house will be in order. Now I just need to get my back in order :(
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Latest post on 13 December 2012 - 13:19
I advised some simple ways you could respond next time you feel things are getting heated up. If one of you behaves as a better person maybe the other will also feel embarrassed and do the same?
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Latest post on 13 December 2012 - 13:18
or she could hire an illegal maid on a temporary basis if she's willing to take the risk, cheaper for her and more money in the pocket of the maid. lots of people do it! Are you seriously advising this? NO OP please dont take this risk.
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Latest post on 13 December 2012 - 13:13
Then this girl may be her. I've just emailed her back so hopefully she'll get in touch. Do you have any idea if she has experience with babies/small children?
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Latest post on 13 December 2012 - 13:09
Sorry your feeling panties mate. Have you had any pre labour signs? I had some towards the end and they always gave me hope that my time was near! I had DS early and he was low birth weight and 4 months on were still struggling with his weight (doesnt even hit the percentile charts) and as much as you dont want to hear it I really wish I had been able to stay pregnant longer with a big chubby baby at the end! Fingers crossed it happens soon for you and YES the storing sleep thing always p***** me off too!
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Latest post on 13 December 2012 - 13:06
I got a blank email from a Juvy Lariosa so it wasnt in response to an ad. Maybe thats her? I've emailed her back to find out because I really want to do interviews this weekend. If in the meantime you find out her name please let me know! Or you can pass on my mobile number to her. If you drop me a mail I can mail you back with my no.
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Latest post on 13 December 2012 - 13:00
I have passed on your details to the girl I mentioned, has she been in touch with you? I dont think so Marroosh. What is her name so I can look out for her email. I'm getting tonnes everyday. Thanks =)
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Latest post on 13 December 2012 - 12:20
Theres many different ways you can address this. How about next time things escalate into an argument rather than shouting back you can take a deep breath, be the better person and try saying something like.. 'Can we sit and talk about this?' 'I dont want to fight. When your done I'll speak' 'Lets talk about it were not getting anywhere like this' When a person becomes agressive or shouts in my opinion they lose the arguement pretty quickly so not shouting back may be a good start if you want to play fair. Having said that why is he not letting you get a word in? Is he the kind of person who wants things his way or the highway? If so that is not someone you will be able to survive with. Me and DH had arguments 4 months into dating but we were friends were a long time before we started dating it was usually me who was the one arguing to be honest. I have no idea what your fights are over and how you feel about this guy but my personal opinion is that this early into a relationships it isn't healthy that your both 'screaming at the top of your voices'. Dont you think so? If your comfortable with it maybe you could share what exactly your both arguing over which may help with answering your question better.
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Latest post on 13 December 2012 - 11:52
I saw Lillibeth yesterday and just thought Id let you know how it went. She was a sweet woman but she's only really done company cleaning work. The only experience she has with kids are with her own so she wasnt right for us unfortunately. I've met so many people over the last few days and none who I think I even feel comfortable training to look after DS. Theres a girl I like but shes far too spoilt. Shes working 5 days a week just 7 hours a day and on 2k plus food credit tv channels 2 flights home a year etc etc This is difficult!
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Latest post on 13 December 2012 - 11:39
Thank you so much everyone for such supportive replies. I woke up today and started all over again. Its a brand new day with brand new energy! KW: The reason we feel his reflux is under control is because hes no longer vomiting, spitting up, crying from acid coming up to his throat or screaming at the bottle. He just starts rolling his tongue around the teat mid feed and laughing like hes being cheeky. I cant help but laugh too but he makes it impossible to just feed him. It seems like hes had enough. This morning he stopped at 60ml but I knew he was hungry for more so I cup fed him and he wiped off 120ml! I dont understand though why hes become to wierded out by his dr brown teat (same one weve been using since he was born). Akia: Thank you for your recommendation! Rehan's permanent paed is Dr Rania at Infinity and he also see's Helen. Both are such lovely people but even Helen was surprised when she saw how DS plays up during feeds! Daza: Thanks Daza. I think his paed is just so thrilled that we have his allergies and reflux under control that she doesnt realise how frustrating the other problems have become! I'll make an appointment and discuss them with her again but yes I agree with you that its a bit of a waiting game and I think DS will be much different by 7 months. Amy: The way you described it was with you DD is exactly how it is with me right now. I dont get the time do even just rest my back for a little while. His paed said a while ago that she thinks hes not going to be the type to nap during the day so i'll likely have a busy day with him. She wasnt wrong. I cant put him down for even a minute! He is tired at times but totally screams and fights it if I try to put him down for a nap. This is why I need some help around the house during the day. I'm speaking with maids/nanny's who have the experience with babies but are currently looking after massive villas and being paid 2k plus. Were only in a small apartment with one baby. I know if the person is right we need to pay what we need to pay but just seems unreasonable with how light the work load is here at our home. I was hoping to get somebody in for 1500 dhs but its not happening because these girls are young or too old with not enough baby experience so maybe I need to just stop being stubborn. Thanks again ladies =)
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Latest post on 12 December 2012 - 14:13
Just some advise I dont mean to be condescending or anything like that. Do try to find a maid sooner rather than later even though you have 3 months. It will take time for her to get adjusted and it would be good as much time as she can spend with you when baby is here so she see's how you want her to handle things before you go back to work. Good luck =)
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Latest post on 12 December 2012 - 13:41
Thanks DCC! Will give her a call. Glad to see you had a successful interview today with a maid - good luck and hope it works out for you! :) I may be in touch in case we go down the sponsorship route to see how much of a headache it is or if you find it relatively easy. Hope you found "the one" lol Shes good but her English is not great. She speaks fine but she doesn't understand very well. I think it could work but DH needs to meet her as well. I just saw another live out maid advert in classified give her a call too! Lillibeth is coming over later! xoxo
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Latest post on 12 December 2012 - 11:39
I think that is fair. 6 days is a normal working week for over half the population, so a 5 day week is a perk to many. Some maids really do enjoy their working family and don't have a nice life to go home to visit so being able to put that ticket money in a savings account is big. Consider being given the option of a month home, or the equivalent of your monthly salary, say 60K, in your savings account, for the past three years I've chosen the latter and I'm not sad that I haven't been home. A few posters' maids have requested the same, but the madam said no, that they must have the break, but if THEY don't want it, it can't be unethical for the sponsor to give them what they need to be happy. Amy she gets 1 extra day off per month not a 5 day week. So in a year she is only getting 12 extra days off not her legal 30 days.
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Latest post on 12 December 2012 - 11:24
yes i do take off the battery at least once a day to try to solve the problem.....actually we will ALL in the family move soon to iphone, what a pain!! DH has always been such an apple fanatic and I've never really cared for it till he got me a macbook and iphone. Honestly my life has changed lol
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Latest post on 12 December 2012 - 11:18
Roger that City Chick! BUT I have to say I'm rather grateful for my wonderful housekeeper's previous employer's ethics, attitude, and total disregard for another person...'tis one of the reasons she is working for me now! And I'm thankful every day!! :cool: Shes a lovely girl. She was on time, didnt call 100 times to figure out to get here even though JBR is such a nightmare right now. She was polite, kind, honest and not desperate. I'm having her visit again tomorrow when DH is home for a quick trial. I'm just so mad at how shes been treated by her old employer and she doesnt even realise it! When I told her she'd get 30 days off and a annual ticket her eyes nearly popped out.
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Latest post on 12 December 2012 - 11:12
Get an iphone. Problem solved.
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Latest post on 12 December 2012 - 11:10
I just met with a lovely maid who has been working 3 years with her employer. In this time she’s received just 1200 dhs annually in replacement of her airfare to Phillapines and rather than 30 days off shes been given one Tuesday off per month on top of her weekly Friday. I’ve actually had this confirmed by the employer who went on to tell me how great she is and they'd rather she stayed on with them. What is wrong with people?
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Latest post on 11 December 2012 - 16:30
I got my maid through an agency . Al Ahliya Labour Supply. Its expensive as you pay an admin fee and it varies depending on nationality. plus all the visa costs. My maid was new to dubai but worked in the GCC for 7 years. Im happy with her and I prefer getting a maid through a ' labour Supply firm'. I also had the same problem as you and couldnt find anyone. i was driving all around dubai in locations that im not familiar with and they wouldnt even turn up ! I gave up after a couple of months Do you also pay along the lines of 2700 per month?
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Latest post on 11 December 2012 - 14:46
LOL!! I'm 57 and have more energy than my 33 year old DD!! We were over visiting her and her DH last Sunday and she fell asleep on the couch. DH and I took her mutt out for a walk!!! When I was working and she was still at home, I'd come in from work, tidy up, hang up laundry etc etc and get ready to go out after dinner to Guides or some community meeting . DD would stagger in from uni, collapse on the couch and fall asleep until I woke her for dinner! :) My parents are exactly the same. Far more energy than me!
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Latest post on 11 December 2012 - 14:41
Ahhh love your name reminds me of one of my besties back home! Maybe you are her hmmm! You will find most school fee's are 35k and above and that wont include extras such as school uniform and books. There are schools on the cheaper scale such as Cambridge School who are also part of GEMS and their fee's are much lower for example 20k. Most school sites advertise their school fee's so have a look around. I know GEM schools also do a credit card which gives some discount towards fee's. Best of luck.
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Latest post on 11 December 2012 - 14:39
We did JAPS and Kings and left it at that. I'm not willing to pay any more registration costs with no idea of where we are on the waiting list. Each application is 500 dhs and we applied when DS was 3 weeks old. <em>edited by Dubai_City_Chick on 11/12/2012</em>
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Latest post on 11 December 2012 - 14:32
OP came on, showed a schedule. A standard, textbook, feeding schedule. Fair enough, these seldom work. In this schedule, the baby was put to sleep three times during the working day, the expected sleep time being for 1.5 hours. Each time, there was a 'light' task written for the help, never 'mopping', washing/ironing. Some readers assumed the undocumented time would be spent doing the job of a maid, although OP herself never said that, she just asked if the schedule was realistic which, for a nanny it is, and light, nannies are expected to run houses in the west, as a governess. She said she was unwell. I'm sure she doesn't think "great news, I'm sick, I get out of bath time!" She is paying for a hand around the house. There's nothing worse than being unwell and seeing your babies needs go unfulfilled because you literally cannot do it, so maybe OP doesn't give a rats if her floors don't shine, but she does want her baby to have what she is unable to give him. That's not cultural, that's being a mum. Actually a qualified nanny from or in the west would never ever be expected to do house hold chores, never! They are expected to look after baby, for that they are qualified and paid a vast amount of money. Even Au pairs are not expected to do much house work! Also please find me a nanny who works 6 days a week a minimum 12 hour day for the equivilant of 1200 dhs a month from the west! lol Actually I have 2 friends in UK, one a nanny who is currently in the process of opening her own nursery and another an au pair and they have both done house work when the kids are occupied or sleeping so yes they do household chores. One is in nursery/child care then and the other is an au pair - not technically a nanny in the true sense of the word. No. An experienced and qualified nanny MOVING into opening her own business.