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Latest post on 24 January 2011 - 10:45
No, I'm not joking...but I'm not unhappy. We are both in love and plan on staying together forever. It's just neither of us wanted to be married (we were already living together with children and dogs!). It's more of the we don't need a piece of paper or a jewelery on our hands to maintain committed to each other. I think a big part of it is that we aren't religious. The tradition of marriage to us doesn't mean as much as to other people. And since we can't live here w/out being married (though we were married before we even knew we were coming here)...we can't get divorced until we leave! I hope we are here for a while...if that means I still have to be married, then I'll deal. ;) But don't get me wrong...when I see couples together for 50 years, I just melt (I'm a sucker for love!). I like your sentiments Gleeky. I think it's sad when people are forced to have a bit of paper to confirm their commitment to one another. I think marriage as an institution is on it's way out for many people. yeah, i kinda feel the same way. our wedding was just a celebration of what we'd already discovered years before.
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Latest post on 24 January 2011 - 10:40
re allergies. Does your LO have an epipen? If so, bring a few more over with you as the ones here are sometimes either out of date or close to expiry. Bring an epipen trainer over with you too and test the staff. Watch the temperature as they can only usually tolerate temp variations of around 10 degrees so in summer, if not stored correctly, it may deactivate. As for the nanny. Could either of the companies hire yours as 'admin staff'? I know somebody who brought their nanny over this way and it was fantastic. Search other ew threads on 'nannies' and you'll see that it is hard (I think impossible?) to get a qualified nanny here and you can only hire a small range of nationalities. So if your nanny is British, she or he won't be able to come over as a nanny.. clear as mud? Other than that, you are going to love the weather, safe travels. ;) Yes, DS does have an epipen. I have an ample store. I think it's a good idea to watch the staff use the trainer and see how they fare. As far as the nanny goes, we've already let her go. She was a very well trained and well loved, but sadly we didn't need her services anymore. I was thinking that if I put DS in nursery and I don't work, then maybe I wouldn't need a nanny? Should I look into one anyway, just to show me the ropes maybe? (I'm trying really hard to get back into the groove with DS, hoping I can help him out with his delay--I don't have the mommy instinct).
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Latest post on 24 January 2011 - 10:30
Potty training The last thing you want is to be travelling and starting in a new country with a toddler who is wetting himself and more. Keep the nappies up for now, just for your own sanity and when you get here let him try again. The floors here and generally not carpetted so potty training is easy! Completely agree. I waited for my son to potty train until we got here and we did it within a week. The marble floors were a blessing for sure!!! The important thing to remember is that it is the kids that tell you when they are ready, not the parents. I would sit my son on the potty and he would have a wee or a poo after a few minutes but he wasn't ready in that he didn't know himself when he wanted to go. I was sure I would potty train him that day after his second birthday like his sister but soon learned just to chill and go with the flow (excuse the pun!). Sorry if I am stating the obvious but I see so many parents claiming that their child is potty training when they are so young for it and clearly not ready. No, really. He's obsessed with the idea of poo, 10 of his 40 words are potty related. I'm quite happy to keep him in diapers till he's three. I feel like when his communication is better. We're big followers of the potty training checklist/Gina Ford. I think I'm going to see if I can give him a new obsession, just not sure how detrimental/confusing it'll be.
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Latest post on 24 January 2011 - 10:20
You need to find your son a good school. There are kids with various food related issues and the schools are vigilant about them on special request. There are also kids with speech disabilities who go to regular school. As long as your child is bold and friendly he wont get lost in the crowd. Even if he isnt, a good teacher should help him come out of his shell. You will also find some good speech therapists in NOOR school where you can take him for a few sessions. Do your research on the schools well as it can be quite overwhelming if you do have many concerns. Driving to AD everyday is not a better option than living close to work! Though my personal choice of city to live in would be Dubai, i know close friends who travel to AD for work everyday and they dont have much time or energy left at the end of the day. The routine gets too monotonous and when you have a little boy who needs more attention you will want more time with your husband than just an hour or two every evening before DS goes to sleep. Having said that, ( correct me if im wrong) rents are cheaper in Dubai at the moment so its really a choice you have to make yourself. your "real-estate" relatives should respect your choice! About the potty training....i dont think the change will affect him.You musn't give him the option! I think we're hoping more for Dubai than AD because we like it better. We still haven't found appropriate housing.
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Latest post on 24 January 2011 - 09:54
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Latest post on 24 January 2011 - 09:52
I'm actually not encouraging his potty training right now. He's quite obsessed with the idea himself after he was given the book 'everybody poos'. I'll just try to ease it out of his mind for now. Secretly though, I am pleased that he's showing initiative, just wish he'd do it when we weren't about to shift our whole lives over to Dubai.
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Latest post on 24 January 2011 - 09:42
Khatoon, you start a lot of threads about not being in love, or bad encounters. Maybe it's on your mind too much? You guessed it right .It has been on my mind too much lately . I think its time to stop worrying and just enjoy my life .... wana know how i met my husband? (okay, we did meet when we were 18) he spilled coffee on me. He practically burned my beauties. When i felt the hot liquid burn through my shirt, I wanted to go nuclear on my offender...but when our eyes met, I never wanted to be parted from him. So, don't look for love. Okay, (and I'll share something super cheesy-- it was included in our wedding invitations--vomit inducing, I know) 'The minute I heard my first love story, I started looking for you, not knowing how blind that was. Lovers don't finally meet somewhere, they're in each other all along.' Rumi it's been my motto since I was 12.
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Latest post on 24 January 2011 - 09:30
So it's no surprise, I'm moving to Dubai soonish. (We're still sorting out dates with HR) Part One. (it's a three part question) In London my son has always had a Nanny. When we finally move over, I feel like maybe I'll try to find him a place in a nursery. Like most mothers, I have my concerns. The first being, he's got a milk intolerance (but he can have some cheeses) + he's allergic to red fruits and severely allergic to eggs. Will the nursery staff be vigilant to his needs or do I risk a significant chance that my son may eat something he shouldn't? Surely, there are kids in Nursery school that are allergic to nuts? My second concern is that my son also has a moderate speech delay, one we're seeing a therapist for here in London. He does know and use sign language and has about 40 words (he is 27 months old) will he receive enough attention and encouragement, or might he get lost in the crowd? Lastly (for this section) DS has decided that he wants to be potty trained this week. He takes off his own diaper and has managed to poo in his potty. Although he can drop the deuces in the pot, he is still having difficulty with number 1. Do you think that if we move in the next few weeks (I think they want us there by 2nd week of Feb) that the move will have a detrimental affect on his potty training? (He's really been up to it all on his own, I wanted to train him when he was a little closer to 3). Part Duex We're having trouble with our relocation agent, and so have requested DHs HR people to let us use someone else. DH has submitted the request, and hopefully it will be approved, but we've only *Just* learned that we have an extended family member in Dubai who owns a real estate agency--with the market right now-- do you think our relative would be offended that we didn't use his services? Part Three DH has decided to not take an offer from Dubai, but one in Abu Dhabi. His boss and all of DHs peers live in Dubai and suggest living here and commuting to work everyday. I'm assuming this is a common situation, but how annoying is it? My DH (who doesn't drive, but I do) wants to hire a car service/car pool or driver to take him and bring him everyday--what would you suggest? His boss feels that DH should get a reliable car and hire a driver, but what will the driver do while DH is working? Thank you ladies! <em>edited by GoldinGlitterPunk on 24/01/2011</em>
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Latest post on 24 January 2011 - 09:00
this thread is pretty great.
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Latest post on 23 January 2011 - 22:45
yep!! my parents always said "if they're talking about you, then they're leaving someone else alone" haha! no, my parents always told me to stand up for myself and to never be seen as weak. (I was always picked on as a kid).
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Latest post on 23 January 2011 - 21:52
it's the only way I know how to deal with gossip. does everyone just ignore it?
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Latest post on 23 January 2011 - 21:50
well, I watched Horizon (a UK scientific programme) the other day and there's a theory that reality as we know it is just a hologram. It has something to do with how photons don't behave the way they should. Go figure... back to your holographic nails, ladies... you think maybe all this fatness is in my head?! (i love the sound of this)
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Latest post on 23 January 2011 - 21:42
Hi! If you let us know, I can give you a few pointers. People are ALWAYS talking about me. GGP, why are people always talking about you?? And how do you know that they are??? I know people talk about me because: I've overheard whispers a few times. All my friends get invited to parties and I'm the only left out...when I meet people in large groups, some seem to know a little more about me than I've let on. Not to sure why it happens to me, but I don't generally talk about people. I don't care enough and when I am the subject of nastiness, I generally confront the group head on in a very direct but diplomatic way. If I don't stand up for myself the gossip continues, and when I do stand up for myself, most of the lies come to light a lot sooner and the person who is usually spreading the rumors is ashamed and I end up with more friends...and this whole scenario doesn't repeat itself again until I'm the new girl on the block again (somewhere else)... Can you tell, I move a lot? <em>edited by GoldinGlitterPunk on 23/01/2011</em>
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Latest post on 23 January 2011 - 21:35
i dunno, i wear strip lashes a lot. i'm terrified of these lash extensions -- but they look divine and every time i see someone with them, I really really think they look stunning!
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Latest post on 23 January 2011 - 21:28
I guess everyone has other priorities and wishes. When they want to spend their money for designer things or others - it is okay. What I don't understand is, why buying fakes so not the real thing when they can't afford it. You always should buy what you like and can afford. Everyone should create the own style. Now it seems everyone has to have some kind of fake. Fake nails, botox, fake boobs.. the list goes on and on....why not try to accept the own look and be happy... i dunno, i've never bought a fake designer good. i have bought something that looks comparable to a designer product, but it was just a good quality product that rivaled a designer good.
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Latest post on 23 January 2011 - 21:20
Just my thoughts too. In this forum most have problems with a maid, or they want one or whatever....maids maids.... I am wondering why they have kids? Did they have maids in their homecountry too? What should these kids learn from a maid, which often hardly speaks english or hasn't any education at all???? Then fakes - you are so right. It seems it is one the most important things... to have designer bag, expensive cars, designer clothes, every few days beauty salon treatment...and so on... We haven't changed at all. True is we have more money then we had back home, where we also had a good income. We now can save more then ever before, we can also buy good quality clothing. Sometimes great holiday for relaxation, because my DH is working too much. No debts at all... so we can sleep smoothly, we enjoy our time in Dubai, the great weather - especially in winter and maybe we can retire earlier than other because of our savings.... and hopefully we stay healthy. We don't need Designer clothes or whatever to be happy... no one needs much to be truly happy, but whats wrong with buying something pretty if you want it, and it doesn't hurt anyone? whats wrong with having a maid if it makes your life easier and again--isn't harming anyone? there is nothing wrong with not adding to your existing lifestyle with additional costs/luxuries if you feel you don't need them. there is also NOTHING wrong with adding a few little luxuries to your life if it doesn't cost much, and contributes significantly to your quality of life. ...i wont judge you for your un-manicured nails, but you have to be fair and not judge me for my manicured ones!
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Latest post on 23 January 2011 - 20:39
I think I actually need to be fake as I NEED a boob job, bum lift, tummy tuck, lipo suction, face lift, personal trainer, nails, hair, etc and to be able to tell the difference between what a designer item is in comparison to good old Primark. Is there classes I can attend? ..i love primark! i think i'll go tomorrow. shall i pick you up anything?
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Latest post on 23 January 2011 - 20:17
dunno, but I'm a september mommy too!
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Latest post on 23 January 2011 - 20:15
I have not moved to Dubai yet. to be fair though, it's really not about the shoes or branded items. (I have a huge passion/need for really pretty things) Admittedly I do buy a lot of designer stuff, but it's only because I love it soo very much...although I don't know how anyone would ever guess it was designer unless they obsess through the look books like I do, and even if they do it doesn't often come up in conversation. Now that I do have a little boy, it's harder to wear my designer clothes and I am more often than not wearing H&M --which besides the wearable quality looks similar to my more expensive tucked away treasures. Everything looks the same if your toddler likes to throw food at you all day long. I do often encounter the 'I'm better than you attitude' here in London and I don't understand it, I was hoping that the people in Dubai were a little nicer? edited by GoldinGlitterPunk on 23/01/2011 now if they only brought over a target, my designer shopping days would be over!
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Latest post on 23 January 2011 - 20:03
...darnit! I was hoping to move to Dubai to fall into the category of absolute feminine perfection. (And i'd saved up all my money to pay for the transformation too!)
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Latest post on 23 January 2011 - 19:54
Hi! If you let us know, I can give you a few pointers. People are ALWAYS talking about me.
 
 
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